Lee Dragon's Natural Game Spot

Understanding Attitude & Technique: Technique (1 of 2)

2012-01-01T03:21:00.001-08:00

Hey guys!

In the last post I unpacked the first part in the equation of attitude & technique where I talked about the right attitude to have with women: a screening attitude.

Both in the last post and in the post before it ("Finding the balance between Attitude & Technique") I emphasized that in order to get results with women simply having the right attitude ISN'T ENOUGH. You must also know the right techniques for how to approach, open a conversation, talk and move things with women.

That's what I'm going to talk about in this post.

Because of the length of this post I decided to split it to 2 parts. The first part will describe the opening part, the second will talk about what to do after the opening.

I explained in detail in the last 2 posts why just learning attitude, without learning the right techniques, is a sabotage to your game. I see so many guys who desperately look for "the short path to success" and fall a victim to "gurus" who sell them materials that talk about "Attitude", and then these guys go out to the field without any knowledge on how to socialize, talk and open conversations with people properly and then they go out with their kick-ass "Attitude" and just scare people off because they try to talk to them in a NON-SOCIAL, non-calibrated, sometimes even terrifying way. These people usually sooner or later abandon the game because they see no results, and that's quite reasonable. YOU CAN'T GET RESULTS WITH JUST "ATTITUDE"! YOU MUST LEARN HOW TO BEHAVE AND CALIBRATE TO OTHER PEOPLE CORRECTLY!

That just makes sense, doesn't it?

So let's start with the Techniques. As I said before, Attitude & Technique realy go hand in hand together, therefore I figure that in order to fully understand these techniques, one must also understand the driving principles and thinking behind them so they will make full sense to him.

So, there are 3 KEYS that drive EVERYTHING I'm going to talk about in this post, and they are:

1. Emotions - As I talked about before in great detail, human beings are driven by how they FEEL. If they feel good, safe, and fun about an activity, they'll KEEP doing it and they'll move TOWARDS it. If they feel bad, threatened or discomfort about it, they'll RUN AWAY from it. This just makes sense. Plus: always remember that emotions drive actions and by triggering the right emotions you can trigger the right actions you want from women. More on this later.

2. Dynamics - In the last post I mentioned that the dynamics between you and a woman are crucial for your success with her. The WORST dynamics (and some women will constantly try to put you in it..) is one where you are chasing after her. This is realy all about investment. The ideal dynamic to create is one where SHE is investing more than you in the conversation, because the more she is "investing" the more she actually wants it. A dynamic where BOTH OF YOU invest the same amount back at each other is ok too, but NEVER one where YOU make all the moves. So in every move you make, be alert and aware to the Dynamics that such move creates. Sometimes you may have to deliberately take a step back from the interaction to see if she is taking a step forward and invests in it. This is also related to the next point..

3. Screening - I'll talk in depth about this one. OK Listen: Although naturally you'll want to make your moves focus around creating the right emotional states, they also have to screen the woman in someway. This is realy crucial. There are many reasons for this: Main one being the dynamics that are created as I explained in the last point. You always want to make sure the woman is investing in the interaction at least as much as you do, and ideally MORE than you, and in order to condition this you have to sometimes make moves that are deliberately designed to not only "screen" the woman but to also create an investment (or compliancy) on her part. The whole "chasing her" dynamics, as being presented in the movies, in reality not only that it doesn't "seduce" or "excite" women in anyway, it also gives them a golden opportunity to categorize you as a "chaser/orbiter", which makes you LESS interesting in her eyes. This is also related to the emotions it creates. When something is too obvious and taken for granted to a woman, it just feels boring and expected, and that's when they use it to take over the dynamics and make you chase them, because they realy don't "feel" any desire towards you. "Boring" doesn't motivate or seduce her in anyway, "Challenging" or "Interesting" does. Another reason why you want to screen women is to check for personality traits in her you are looking for and of course to avoid wasting your time on women who do not fit game wise. Example: Goldiggers. Even more than this, when women feel they are being screened, it creates a challenge for her to "prove" you that she's not like that. "Challenge" is a good motivator as it creates a desire in a woman to prove you otherwise AND it also creates investment and compliancy. I'll talk more about this later in this post.

So behind every move you make with a woman, whether its Approaching, Opening, Talking or Closing, you want to ideally think in terms of both Emotions (what emotions is this designed to arise in her), Screening (what can I screen for with this move..), and Dynamics (how do I create an investment from her? what dynamics does this move create?).

I'll get back to these 3 letters, E.S.D - Emotions, Screening, Dynamics, throughout the rest of this post. If you can remember and master these 3 letters in your head, you WILL be alot better than almost ANY GUY out there who fucks it up in one or more of those.

So after I laid out the basic understandings, let's get the basic techniques now..

Approaching:

By "Approaching" I mean the non-verbal act of physically walking up and/or positioning yourself near a woman you want BEFORE you open your mouth.

The psychology that you have to understand here is that most people (if not all) are usually going to feel scared of a stranger that suddenly walks up to them and starts talking to them. If you don't believe it, imagine yourself for a moment walking down the street when you suddenly see some guy passing the street and walks up directly at you. You don't know this guy.. what's your FIRST reaction going to be? How will you FEEL in that moment? Exactly! So it goes the same for WOMEN as well.

The right way to do this step is to structure your approach to appear as if "it just happend" accidently or naturally that you stood near her and started talking, which is also perceived as a safe and non-threatening encounter. As I just demonstrated to you with the example above, this section of the game is perceived and played non-verbally, therefore one must understand the basic rules of non-verbal communications done here.

Remember the basic attitude for the Approach!

Yes, we go back to the attitude that drives it all. This is what "drives" you internally in your actions, remember, as always: You are there to screen for women who are friendly, open, and fun. If you still apply all of the following principles and run into women who respond negatively to them, just LET THEM GO! They are not useful targets.

So let's unpack approaching a little further..

Eye Contact:

Eye Contact plays a big role here. Ideally, you want to NEVER be seen to be looking at her when she FIRST see's you - this automatically removes the "This guy wants to talk to me" perception of you, and it just feels way more safe to her, which is what you aim at.

There is one exception to this though: What happends if she DID see you looking at her? Well, if she did "catch" you looking at her, the question is how far you are from each other at that moment. If you are both very close to each other then the ideal move here would be to immediately throw a preopener at her. A preopener is just a neutral question of sorts: Asking for directions, asking for the time etc. If you do this, you again create a good perception about you of "OK, this guy is safe he just wanted to ask me something.." and appear to be a guy who was just looking for some help, and you can also transition very easily to a conversation from it. (I'll get to it later in the section about preopeners.. for now this is all related to Eye Contact).

If you are far from each other, though, and she did catch you looking at her, it's again no big deal either. Just break eye contact and continue as usual. You may occasionally check her out briefly, or even decide to walk up and use a preopener. The important thing to remember here is to NEVER stare at her - staring at people just scares them off and appears to be threatening = VERY bad!

So as long as you don't stare in her, then the Eye Contact game can actually be a good screening tool: If you catched her looking at you more than once, or if you both looked at each other and she didn't get scared from it, that means good things about her = it can mean she likes you, it can mean she is a friendly person who doesn't run off from interactions. It's great.

Positioning:

OK, now after we talked about Eye Contact, let's move to talk about positioning yourself near her to talk. Key rule here is to NEVER walk directly at her - again, this is threatening and may scare her off, which you never want!

If she's in a static position (aka: not moving), think of a good "excuse" in your head to walk near her, almost as if you direct a scene from a movie that makes it appear accidental. Yeah this requires some gaming skills. Now I know some guys will scream: "Never excuse, bla bla bla".. No, this is BULLSHIT guys! The whole "Never excuse yourself" attitude just turns people into arrogant and tactless guys who scare women off. If you really wanna be a master at approaching, forget that crap and Listen to what I say here: Think of some "excuse", just for yourself, why you walked near her, and then walk over there slowly and elegantly in a way that "fits" your scene and appears as if "it just happend". For example: She is in the bar, and you wanted to get a drink OR put your jacket in her chair. This makes the approach seem "accidental" in her eyes, which is what you want. When you do it, combine it with the Eye Contact thing and DO NOT LOOK AT HER until you catch her looking at you first, and only THEN you can open and it's going to open her up. If it's in a store, and she stands near an aisle, you can just walk up to that aisle to check for some product and then "accidentally" bump into her, without looking at her at first, again..

If she's on the move, again think "accidental" and spontaneous: you just walk at each other, without looking at her of course (as this will CREEP her out..) and in the "last moment" you stop her with a preopener of sorts because she was the closest person who accidentaly passed near you and you wanted to ask her something.

I will sometimes even "direct" a scene where I'm talking on the phone with someone as she passes near me, which makes this seem totally spontaneous to her. Yeah I know it sounds like a play from a movie, but this is exactly why they call us "Players", and why seduction is an art.. don't you think? :-)

Another great tactic I started to use recently is that I will see a woman standing near a seller, and I will actually deliberately walk up to the seller and ignore the woman I want completely and talk to the seller. This is perceived, again, by the woman, as being random and safe, and also it gives her a "glimpse" of the way an interaction with me would go.. and because the sellers are usually friendly and nice with me, that's an even better setup for the approach because it creates some level of jealousy in the woman.. and alot of times, believe it or not, it makes the woman open me herself first.. by listening to what I talk about with the seller and then "sharing" her opinion.. and even if she didn't open me, well at least she now saw me and perceives me as a friendly, non-threatening and safe person.. so from here I can just move on to "bump into her" accidentally again, and start as normal.

Inducing an "Approach Invite":

This is an advanced concept I have learned from Gunwitch, but it is genius and works like magic based on psychology alone. You can use this principle on stationary women and EVEN on women who are on the move and it works the same in both cases when applied right.

Basically before you start talking to her, you can make her feel as if she is the one who actually invited you to talk herself. I won't go into the psychology behind it here, if you want you can get Gunwitch's "Way Of Gun" course to learn it. But basically this is done by appearing to be looking at something in her general direction (but NOT on her!). This way you can see her in your peripheral vision and notice when she is looking at you. When she see's you she of course notices that you are not looking at her.. which by itself already makes it feel alot more safe to her. But there's something else that is realy clever here - When you wait for HER to "notice" you first.. and SHE WILL of course at some point.. and only THEN you initiate a talk with her.. it feels to HER, at core levels, not only more safe and "accepted" but also it feels to her like something she has invited you to.

To her, at internal level, it feels as if SHE gave you "The Vibe" to start talking to her, so therefore it can NEVER resisted by her and just goes to work like clockwork. This is extremely powerful.

Now, the best thing about it is that you can even apply it when a chick is walking near you or at your direction - You basically look at something in her general area (but NOT her, of course).. then again at some point she WILL look at you, of course, and then when you spot this "artificial vibe" you induced, only then you talk to her.

Try it in the real world. You won't believe how effective this approach is.

Screening:

At the approach phase, you can also screen the woman very quickly: If you position yourself near her in a way that is safe and accidental, and she still keeps moving away from you more than once, that basically SCREENS HER OUT immediately, so it saves you time already right there.

Also at the preopener phase, you can see how well she responds to it - if she seems friendly and open and ideally if she STAYS there and gives you a long and invested response, that's a realy good indicator. On the other hand, if she doesn't stop and throws a one word answer just to run away from the interaction, she is immediately SCREENED OUT.

Guys - DO NOT be afraid to SCREEN WOMEN OUT! Actually, if you can let women go at the same ease as you can let them in (or: Approach them and give them an opportunity), then your life with women will be VERY easy and enjoyable. I know that alot of guys just can't let women go easily and that's the reason for ALL their problems with women. Consider this deeply..

So to sum Approaching up: The Approach is realy all about creating an "accidental", safe, non-threatening and/or even spontaneous encounter that feels relaxed, pleasant and comfortable for the woman (and you too, of course). The Approach is also designed to screen out women who are non-friendly or non-receptive right off before even opening them.

Mastering the art of Approaching is all about mastering how you manage your Eye Contact, your Positioning, and your creativity in creating random and/or "accidental" or spontaneous encounters with or without preopeners.

So now, once I shared with you how to approach women properly, let's move to how to open them properly..

Opening:

As I explained in the last section in detail, the "approach" is realy the setup for the opening. If your setup for the opening is safe, spontaneous and accidental, then opening is alot easier and will be received WAY better. Also, it will be easier to transition to a conversation from it.

Sometimes though, there are situations where it's difficult to create a good approach and you just have to open her. This is where the preopener gets into play..

Preopener:

A preopener is generally something that I always use, even with a good approach, and EVEN if the woman has gave me indicators of interest first, as a setup for the opening itself.

A preopener is just a neutral comment or question in nature that is designed to "break the ice" with a stranger and create responsiveness in her. it can be anything from "What time is it?", to "Can you take a picture of us?" (in a club) all the way to "Excuse me, are you the sister of X by chance?" (X = Some name..) or even "That's a nice purse". It's not designed to create a full-on conversation yet, but it's a really useful setup for it.. for several reasons:

1. It breaks the ice and creates some rapport - Because you are no longer "a stranger" in their eyes after the preopener. Now, you are someone they "know" at some level, and because the preopener is perceived as something neutral, you are also a safe and non-threatening person now, which gives you a great start.

2. It creates a response - People are naturally conditioned to response to preopeners anytime, anywhere. If you don't believe me, walk up to 100 georgous women and ask them what time is it. You'll get an almost 100% response rate, I guarantee you.

3. It creates responsiveness - Or "response potential". Once they responsed the first time, it's going to be extremely difficult for them to not response to another question you ask because you just conditioned them to response and rapport with you.

4. Can be used anytime, anywhere - And you don't always have to create an approach setup for it.

5. Helps you screen them out VERY quickly - Basically how they answer to your preopener can show you ALOT about their openess and friendliness right off the bat, so you can already here make a decision whether you want to talk to them more, or not.

6. Sometimes, a preopener is all that is required to open them - Yes, believe it or not, some women respond SO good to a preopener that you can instantly transition them to a conversation from it alone.

So basically a preopener is realy just another approaching tool, that's why it's called a preopener, not an opener, but it helps you setup a realy good opening.

Here's a useful tip: When you deliver your preopener, be aware to the state she is in and match it accordingly. You don't have to do it precisely, just be aware to it and adapt your preopener. This can realy make a difference, as people are naturally more open and receptive to others who are "like them" or "at their level" in an unconscious level.

Opening Sequence:

Now let's talk about structuring a good and effective sequence to open a conversation with any woman, and this sequence can also be used to strike up a conversation with virtually anyone.

Once the approach, once the preopener, it's time to actually strike a conversation with the other person. A key thinking to remember is this: Women are emotional creatures. My strategy is that I want to create good and/or intriguing emotions in them first - that way, the interaction is going to become something pleasurable that she enjoys or something intriguing that she's drawn to and will naturally want more of, thus making me more interesting, intriguing, and enjoying in their eyes, so her enjoyment and intrigue will make her open up and start to invest in the interaction, which is exactly what I want!

How is this done?

Well post approaching, post the preopener, I usually prefer to start with a basic and simple Comment/Question/Observation sequence that is designed to create responsiveness from the woman. I learned this from Ross Jeffries, so full credits to him. This sequence is VERY useful because it creates responsiveness (aka: "response potential") and an ongoing communication with the woman in a way that is NEVER detected and is also perceived as something that "just happends" between you naturally and effortlessly.

The cleverness of the C/Q/O sequence is that each piece in it sets up the piece that follows: Your comment ("Nice shoes..") gets a response from her and sets her up to your question that follows ("Where did you buy them?") that once again gets a response from her and sets her up to your observation ("I have a friend who has exactly the same kind.. this is such a coincidence..") and because all of the parts are supporting and connected to each other, it realy goes like clockwork and feels, to her, like something that "just happends" in a natural and flowing way.

When you combine this sequence with a preopener and a good approach, this all merges smoothly to an ongoing/flowing conversation that you can then take to any direction you want - you can start talking about the weather, or the place you're both at, or bring any topic you'd like easily. This structure creates rapport and opens a flowing communication between you that you can then use to start evoking positive emotional states in her such as intrigue, fun, laughter and enjoyment BEFORE you move on to actually meeting her (By asking her "Are you from the area?" or "Where are you from?" and going on from there..), and by doing all of this together, you set up the framework for a very pleasant conversation that you can then start seducing her in!

I'm telling you: If you will use and apply the structure as I showed it in here, you WILL increase your response rate from women BIG TIME!

As you can see, this is all based on influence and psychology, nothing random or accidental. Yes, it IS structured in a way that is perceived to other people "as if" it just happend accidentally and feels pleasant and effortless to them (which is GREAT) but it is actually a system that you can remember easily and is flexible enough to adopt to any situation.

Then once I get a nice opening I will usually, within the first minute of the interaction, try to create some intrigue, enjoyment and/or curiousity and interest in the woman. This is what can realy make all the difference. Why do I do this? Again because women are emotional creatures. So if she enjoys or gets a thrill from the interaction with me.. she'll naturally WANT to stay there and get more.. and she will view me through a way different light as someone more interesting! (Think about it..)

How do I do this? Sometimes it can be throwing a small joke to make them laugh (which is ideally the first emotion I want, because of the enjoyment it creates..), sometimes it can be throwing something that gets them curious (like: how do we know each other already? :)) in rare cases I may throw a small challenge. Nonetheless, evoking these small "emotions" right at the start make the interaction with you into something pleasurable, interesting and intriguing - which makes them naturally want to stay and enjoy more of it, which is what you want!

What to do after this will be covered in the next part.

So that was it for part 1 guys, feel free to post your feedback, questions, etc.

-- leedrag0n

Understanding Attitude & Technique: Attitude

2011-12-25T23:46:00.001-08:00

Hey guys!

This is a post where I'll unpack what I talked about in the previous post about finding the balance between attitude & technique. Today I want to go deep and talk in a bit more depth about having the right attitude with women.

This post assumes that you know the right techniques and have basic knowledge on approaching & talking to women. If you don't have it yet, don't worry I'll unpack it in the NEXT post, where I'll talk more about the right techniques to approach & game women. Nonetheless, I still recommend that you read THIS post and understand it deeply, as this can realy have enormous impacts on your game. I mean it! This is not something to be ignored. Then, after you understand it, go over and read the techniques post, as those are important too, and it will all make sense to you.

So let's talk about Attitude, guys.

If you come to game a woman from a worrying/doubt frame of "What should I do to get her?" which is the frame for almost 99% of the guys out there, you're going to fuck yourself up.

This will bring hesitation, pressure, and stress to your game that won't help you at all and infact shouldn't even be there. Why do guys approach women from this perspective? Because they don't want to be "rejected". They view "rejection" as being a negative thing about them, where IN REALITY a rejection is actually a good thing (Because it helps you screen out negative or difficult targets..) and also tells you negative things ABOUT THE WOMAN. Her rejecting you is just an indication about HER lack of spontaneity, HER lack of genuine interest in men, HER lack of self esteem, and maybe even lack of HER ability to be friendly towards people or even open-minded towards new experiences.

As long as your approach is OK, safe and spontanious, as it should be.. and yet she still ignored it.. guess what? She just screened herself OUT of your gaming options. Let her go! You MUST think in terms of HAPPY SEX LIFE.. and if at any point the dynamics between you and woman turn into a struggle, NEXT HER! I mean it. An interaction between a man & a woman SHOULD be a pleasant and enjoyable thing for both sides (as long as it is done RIGHT, of course..), not some kind of a negotiation or struggle. Believe it or not some women are VERY friendly, fun, open minded, even happy human beings who are capable of giving love, sex, and pleasure to and with the people around them. Other women, on the other hand, are close minded, unhappy, pissed off human beings who WILL NOT give ANYTHING unless some very wierd and unpleasant conditions on YOUR PART are met.. and even then.. they will give VERY LITTLE if almost NOTHING at ALL! These women are just energy, money, and mood drainers and should be avoided at ALL costs.. and it doesn't matter how hard you'll game them, you won't get NOTHING from them! NOTHING!

So screening women is a MUST.

Not just game wise, but also for your life.

If you still find yourself feeling bad about a woman who did not "flow" with you... realy ask yourself.. what is SO special about HER? I mean realy.... think about it... What did SHE do FOR YOU that EARNED her this place? Exactly. NOTHING! She may have turned you on sexually (which might be the case) but if you can't do anything with her - she is USELESS for you! She's just a woman who has demonstrated to you that even a simple, safe, and friendly approach couldn't get her interested in talking to you to even give an opportunity for both of you... so really.. just LET HER GO! She's not going to be a useful target anyway...

Why is this attitude so important and so crucial with women?

First of all, this is based on real world facts. If you are a guy who HAVE HAD success with women in the past, MOST women who you've had success with, assuming you approached them right.. are women who were OPEN to your approach right from the start. They didn't avoid it, they didn't run away from it, they gave a good vibe and in most cases they actually helped you keeping the interaction going. So this, by itself is ALREADY an indication you can look for to maximize your efforts, and I'll explain how to do this in the next post about technique, and the things to look for on women to just save your time on the right targets.

Second of all, some women are "conditioned" that guys must chase them. I don't know why. This could be either based on what she is used to from an early age, fears, bad experiences or some wierd belief set or "education" she has got that "the right guy" should be one who chases her and "earns" her approval. Well first of all, if she realy has fears from men or had bad experiences in the past, you realy don't need her.. and if you have the choice to choose women (and you DO, as YOU approach them!), you don't need a nutcase or a psychology test subject for your love life. Trust me on this. It's going to be alot of headache, dramas, terrible sex, and the list goes on and on.. and it's just not worth it where there are PLENTY of healthy, fun, and cool women out there. Second, in reality, I have found that this dynamic of "chasing" a woman NEVER WORKS! (and guys: I'm NOT talking about being persistent in the bedroom while you are both alone. That's not chasing over there, that's being AGGRESSIVE. And being aggressive, in that part of the game, is actually ok ;)... Even worse: once you enter the place where the dynamic between you and a woman turns into you chasing her (and some women WILL keep trying to put you into this dynamic, because that's what they are USED to), you basically gave her ALL THE POWER to control you, and most women (if not all) are really TURNED OFF from this. This is not masculine behaviour! Most women in their core nature are NOT attracted to submissive men who give them the power to control them. I talked to ALOT of girls in my life about this and most of them have approved this, I have tried it myself and it failed. This is an unbelievably crucial and important point. Because this is how she feels about you once you start chasing her or showing her that she's so important to you.

In the next post about technique, I'll get into how to avoid getting into this dynamic and what's a proper way to "handle" women.

And the third reason why this attitude is important is that when you game from this perspective.. when you no longer have to "worry" about what to say or do.. and you can instead just see a woman and go "Let's see if she's a spontaneous person.." or "Let's see if she's the kind of woman I'm looking for.." .. when you get into this place mentally, ALL the pressure is taken off from you, and this gets projected in your vibe and allows you to be genuine, friendly and even attractive to women. I mean think about it - what kind of a person is more attractive? A person who is tense and gives off bad vibes? Or a person who is loose, happy, and open? We all know the answer to this question.

I know that I have spilled alot on you here, but this is realy deep shit stuff you must know and internalize. Especially the part on women selection and understanding why the "chasing her" dynamic never works. I want to give you some tip here: Some women will "reject" you on purpose, even when they are infact interested in you, but they use it as a strategy to get you chasing & investing in them. Its just what they are used to do. NEVER ACCEPT THIS DYNAMIC! You'll never get anything from her once you entered that place. I'll show you, in the next post, ways to deal with women who "reject" you, without appearing to be chasing them.

I'm not saying this based on some ego thing or because I hate women or something. I just say this because "chasing a woman" and giving her all the power to choose you just DOESN'T WORK in the real world with women. Maybe in the movies it does. And I know that if some real and honest women are reading this they WILL agree with me on this.

OK, that was it for now.

I suggest you go over and read this post again and again until you understand it. This information can be life changing for your game and it has taken me quite some time to figure it out in the real world through trial & error with women that everything of what I say here is true with women.

In the next post I'll discuss the techniques and strategies to use on women.. that post should be coming soon.. stay tuned!

-- leedrag0n

Finding the balance between Attitude & Technique

2011-12-24T12:28:00.001-08:00

Hey everyone!

It's been more than a month since my last post here. I hope you'll forgive me for this delay between my posts, I know alot of guys realy learn alot from my blog and from all my posts in here, and whenever I'll have available time (as I do have right now..) I'll keep sharing my newest and latest thoughts and breakthroughs here for you to enjoy!

In today's post I want to talk about two things that I believe are very important to be successful in this game: Attitude & Technique.

In recent years there have been alot of "Attitude" based materials spread across the internet. All of these materials are focused around fixing your "inner attitude" with women, and that as a result of fixing it, your entire game with women will "naturally" improve to its best.

This is not true at all. I agree that having the right attitude is important, no doubt about that. What is that "right attitude"? Well, just like Ross Jeffries said, the right attitude is: Let's have some fun and SEE what she's like. In other words, its having a SCREENING attitude. That you are out there to screen women. You must have this attitude with women.

However, will a "screening attitude" be enough for your game? Of course not! And I've seen this happening time and time again, and it also happend to me: When you are too much into the "screening" attitude, you may come across arrogant, break rapport with women.. yet you "believe" that you are "screening" women.. when in fact: you are just scaring them off!

YOU CAN'T JUST HAVE AN ATTITUDE WITHOUT KNOWING HOW TO APPROACH WOMEN, HOW (AND WHAT) TO TALK TO WOMEN, AND HOW TO FLIRT WITH THEM!

That's just a common mistake for people who are looking for "fast" solutions. Most of the materials that are focused around "attitude" offer a quick fix for your game. But guess what? there is no quick fix! You must learn BOTH attitude & technique!

Attitude is important for your inner state of mind. When you walk around with a "wrong" attitude of "What can I do to win this girl over.." you are just putting alot of STRESS on yourself, and this stress scares women off. So fixing your attitude fixes ALOT of your state related problems.

On the other hand, many times this "good state" can lead you to do mistakes, gamewise, by miscalibrating to the women or approaching in a scaring or arrogant way. So you must learn BOTH!

And finding the right balance between Attitude & Technique is just this: Having the "right" attitude, while at the same time applying skillfully tested techniques to create instant rapport & connection with women, excite and intrigue them emotionally, and be able to calibrate to their state properly and know when is the right time to close!

On the other hand, I actually find that knowing the right technique is even more useful than attitude sometimes: If you know how to approach & open women systematically and consistently, this in itself gives you a confidence in your skills that usually makes your gaming much more easier.

Alot of people are very good at technique, but lack the right attitude to play from. On the other hand, some people have an amazing attitude, but lack at knowing the right techniques to apply (I have friends on BOTH sides).

So remember: It's not just Attitude, and not just Technique.

It's finding the balance between and having them BOTH!

-- leedrag0n

Flexibility and Outward Focus

2011-11-08T08:13:00.001-08:00

Hi again, everyone!

It's been almost 2 months since my last post that was about Switching Vibes with women, as I have been a bit busy with work (I needed some money) and have also gamed less during this time, but it was worth it and now I'm getting back out there, and sharing with you my insights and thoughts in here as always.

Today's post is going to related to the last post where I talked about Vibes. Basically today's post will share a very important understanding that will help you know WHY you need it, and it is mainly about the ability to be flexible and to be outward focused with women.

So let's begin with some facts for a moment ..

The reality is that EVERY WOMAN is different. Alot of PU materials are trying to "generalize" ideas and concepts that will be true for "all" women. If you have tried studying and applying those materials, you have surely found out that they are not so accurate. Some PU materials advocate "be dominant and aggressive" with women, where in reality you'll run into women who find your dominance to be a turn off for them. Some PU materials advocate "ignore your target, talk to her friends", where in reality you'll run into women that find this to mean that you want their friends, so they leave your set. Some PU materials advocate that you will be direct and sincere with women, where in reality you'll run into women that your sincerity and honesty don't move a thing inside them.. etc..

So the truth is that there is NO SINGLE METHOD that can work on every woman. Every woman is a different person, has a different personality, gets turned on by different things, and is interested in different things.

So what do we do?

There are 2 things you must remember.

#1: We are NOT mind readers. You can't just "read" minds and immediately be able to tell what she likes / responds to. You must test it and find it yourself by TRYING different things. So the first thing to remember is that you'll MUST, at some point, to "take a risk" and try things on her to see what works.

#2: You must remember that every woman responds differently to different things, and the only way to find this out is by paying attention & observing her carefully and looking for the things that she responds most strongly to. This is also known as "outward focus".

Here's an example: Let's say you talk to this georgous chick in a store. And at some point, you notice, that because of some "story" you said, she began to open up and she tries to "lecture" you. this may point to the fact that she is a girl that LOOKS for someone to listen to her. The first thing is your ability to notice this. And after you noticed it, you can then decide to try and ask her questions to see if your observation was correct. If you find that by asking her questions she opens up even more to you and starts investing in the conversation, then BINGO: You've just found one doorway into her mind.

Why is it so important to pay attention to the way SHE responds?

Because her responses are controlled by the way she FEELS about certain things you do. And whenever you get a good response, that means that you've found a "doorway", or some emotional need in her, that evokes those responses. It generally gives you information on how to further keep going. A good response can be her opening up and investing in the conversation (i.e: She starts talking and sharing her own personal thoughts with you..), or showing any other positive response (like giggling, laughing, playing in her hair). This can also be related to the themes of conversation (if she's all locked on you and listening, it means you've found a theme that interests her).

How can this be done?

In order to be mindful of this, you have to change the filter through which you view your interactions with women. Whenever you're in an interaction with a chick ALWAYS keep the following filter/attitude with you: "Let's see what she respond MOST STRONGLY to..".

It just basically means to change your filter to be outwardly focused on HER and on how SHE responds, and whenever you find something that evokes a useful response from her, KEEP GOING ON THAT TRACK!

Remember: success with women is first and foremost about how she feels, and if she feels good in the interaction with you, if your interaction fulfills emotional needs she is craving for, and you can notice those.. you've got a realy good track going with her.

Feel free to leave your comments..

-- leedrag0n

Switching Vibes with women..

2011-09-19T09:28:00.000-07:00

Hey all!

Today I'm going to be sharing with you yet another powerful skill that has been field tested and efficiently approved for connecting with women. It is something that has taken my game, personally, to the next level as far as being able to connect with realy hot chicks, and that is the skill of switching the vibe you present to women.

This is something that I have learned from Ross Jeffries, so I give full credit to him.

I have also seen some of the best guys in the game use this, and I think that it is realy essential with women!

So.. what is it?

A little bit about Vibes with women:

Basically, a "vibe" is one style or flavor of communication you present when you interact with a woman. Every person has his own unique natural style of communicating: Some people are "funny" in their nature and make jokes and everyone laugh around them all the time.. other people are "powerful/dominant" type of people who are good at setting a direction .. some other people are "vulnerable" or "sharing" their thoughts in their nature.. and some people just like to ask questions and show real curiousity and interest and just listen to what people have to say!

So basically there are 4 "main" vibes:

1. Funny & Playful

2. Dominant/Commanding

3. Sincere/Vulnerable

4. Listener/Showing Deep curiousity

And if you wanna be super precise you can add in a couple of additional vibes:

5. Sexual

6. Cocky&Funny

That may play a role with women.

So, every person has his own "natural" style of communicating, or "vibe".

Now.. I talked before about being flexible in your game. Your ability to switch and play back and forth with your vibes plays major role in this.

Because you see, you may be a "Funny" guy in your nature, but the woman you're trying to talk to is a person who has a lot of things she's just looking to share with someone and she desperately looks for someone who can just listen to her! Or, you may be the "vulnerable" and sharing your thoughts kind of guy, but the girl realy doesn't know what she wants and desperately needs someone who is dominant and aggressive and can lead her to do things (I talked about it in the last post!!). Or.. you could be the dominant and aggressive kind of guy but she realy desperately needs some entertainment and fun in her life and she's looking for someone who is funny and exciting to entertain her.. You get my drift..

Switching Vibes:

Basically you want to essentialy first practice the vibes at home. If for example you've never been dominant and commanding with people, start practicing talking like this at home first. You have all the time in the world to perfect and master each of the 4 main "vibes" to be available to you at will in the real world so you can start switching back and forth between them..

Switching vibes in real world interactions with women is very powerful for several reasons:

1. When you use it in your interactions with women, and pay close attention to how the girls are responding, you will rapidly be able to "pinpoint" on exactly the vibe that she responds most strongly to and that opens her up to the most. Sometimes there's more than one vibe, so the more - the better!

2. It gives you tremendous flexibility with women! You will be amazed when you discover that you can suddenly connect with women that up until now you couldn't. I actually had some very powerful responses with a few realy hot women immediately when I switched to "dominant/commanding" vibe, that the 3 other vibes just didn't get such a strong response and openess from. With some women, who in the past I only was vulnerable and sincere, I can now strike up a conversation by being funny and playful and they love it! Seriously, using this skill alone will triple if not quadraple your success rates at connecting with women MORE THAN ANYTHING I EVER LEARNED!

3. And this is what Ross Jeffries said, and its amazingly true: When you switch vibes all the time, the woman will be very intrigued by you because she can't pinpoint down on exactly who you are, and that is very attractive. Because most guys don't have this type of flexibility in their game. They are either funny, boring.. sincere... aggressive.. etc. Not a mix of all of them. You see? :)

So, this is a realy powerful communicational skill if applied properly. I actually think its at least as powerful if not even more than rapport. I didn't have this flexibility in my game in the past, and recently since I've developed it, and I got the strong responses from the real world interactions that justified and strenghtened using this (and nailed them as "ok, this is useful. Use it more!") I was simply amazed. Some women, just wanted me to listen to their story. So I just asked them questions and showed deep curiousity about them. (and btw - you can STILL emotionally lead her this way!). Other women, only started to respond strongly once I showed dominance and commanding. Other women realy enjoyed my playfulness (while others didn't respond to it at all!) .. and other women only started to open up to me when I began revealing and sharing my thoughts with them! (Vulnerable).

And now, after I've mastered this skill, my game has improved by ten folds from what it was!

So use this, its realy useful and needed too.

And stop being bound to just "one method" that says this or that. Always remember: What works is what gets the results you want.

-- leedrag0n

Taking over the frame & Leading

2011-09-18T06:10:00.000-07:00

Hi guys,

Throughout this blog we talked alot about all sorts of useful stuff with women: from designing your own state, all the way to how to evoke emotional states in women that will drive them to do things, all the way to using your words to create and suggest a reality, and more..

All of these subjects are needed with women. Yes, you have to approach them. Yes, they want you to approach them and they even want sex and love just as much as you do. Yes, using emotional states takes over their actions. Yes, using embedded commands & suggestions alters their reality and installs ideas in their minds.

But today I'm going to share another very important tool that you must use with women. And that is: to take over their frame AND LEAD THEM!

Now I know this sounds like imposing yourself on them, or making them do something against their will.

But there's a reason why you have to do this.. and in this post, rather than telling you "Be dominant, and lead" I want to take a while to actually explain to you WHY you must do it with women..

#1 - Taking over their frame

Look, women WANT us just as much as we do.

And yes - THEY want sex too! They actually NEED it just as much as we do.

But other than that, they have no idea how to actually make it happend. Are you familiar with the term: "Women don't know what they want"? Well it's realy true. Women will always say one thing, and do another.

What dictates their actions more than anything else?

Well.. women are submissive by their nature. They have no will of their own (other than attracting guys!). Women WILL be receptive to your game, they will be receptive when you evoke emotional states in them, they WILL be horny if you excite them, and they WILL bend their will and giggle if you try to powerfully take over their frame. THEY LOVE IT WHEN YOU DO!

Yes - Women LOVE to be submissive! It's actually their nature to be so. They don't have the capability of making decisions or taking the lead, and they HAVE to be LED!

That means that they will not initiate the approach, they will not initiate the game, they will not initiate an isolation and they will not initiate ANYTHING. It's just NOT in their nature. They don't know how to do it! Just like you remember the tango dance.. it is the man who comes, takes the woman's hand, and leads her to the dance floor... NOT VICEVERSA!

A woman can be completely into you, she can be turned on, she can be horny and all - and still she will NOT know what to do. In fact, when you take over her frame and decide things for her she will admire you and get even MORE turned on to you! THEY LOVE IT!

Woman LOVE IT when you take over their frame. Especially the hot ones, who lack the ability to make decisions for themselves - they LOVE IT when you take over and decide for them!

If you don't believe me, look at all the "rape fantasies" stories women tell when they fantasize about a guy taking over their frame and will and does what he wants with them and they obey. They CRAVE this dominance over their frame at deep levels!

THIS IS THE REALITY OF HOW THINGS REALY WORK WITH WOMEN!

It's far from the bullshit fantasy and deception they've been trying to sell us all our lives.. that we should show "empathy" and respect women's will. WOMEN HAVE NO WILLS OF THEIR OWN!

And in fact, taking over a woman's frame is a very EASY thing to do, if you choose to do it.. because we, as men, are more powerful and we can stick to a decision and a will. Women are not like this in their nature and they will always crack and give up to the person with the stronger will and intent.

This is all realy just basic core psychology about men & women here. I only bring it here so you understand it deeply. This understanding is realy needed.

#2 - LEADING them

Ok, let's talk logistics a little bit here.

Right off - taking phone numbers & facebooks just SUCK!

They sucks simply because it's just not smart logistically wise, not because you can't pull out sex from it.

Most people, in today's society, live in a realy high speed and pressured lifestyle - They wake up, they go to work, they go to school, they have commitments.. and they come back at the end of the day TIRED and EXHAUSTED. Even if they wanted to have sex, they can't pull it off.

It's not that they don't want it. They just don't have enough willpower left to make it happend or they have no idea how to make it happend! Most people are just living in a herd based mentality and they are doing what is TOLD them to be done. ESPECIALLY WOMEN!

This is why you MUST create a lead in your interaction with a woman. You are doing this because: A. She doesn't realy know what she wants and needs a strong lead and decision made for her. B. She likes to obey orders and commands at internal levels. It's her nature. When you create a lead, she'll love it. C. You MUST create the lead in order to be able to isolate her, and isolation is NEEDED for a sexual connection! D. The stronger lead you create, the easier leading her to isolation and arousing her will be for you!

When you meet a woman, and there's a "click" between you two, NEVER end it with just a phone number or a facebook. Understand the logistics I explained and CREATE a lead - a lead that will allow you to TAKE HER to be isolated with you.. even take her with you to another location.. to a coffee.. and do your BEST to create a sexual connection - this, by itself, is what's REALY needed to create a strong desire on her part to meet you again. If you have this sexual connection going, THEN.. and ONLY THEN you can take a number and leave.. not BEFORE! And if things are getting realy hot.. do your best, if you can, to end it with sex TONIGHT! This is the best choice for BOTH of you! Remember the logistics!!!

In fact, I believe most PUs fail when you don't have this lead. Even if you've created strong emotional states in her, and even if she enjoys the interaction completely.. if you haven't created a lead or taken over her frame.. she doesn't feel like she's "owned" and has to follow orders.. so its realy easy for her to find an excuse to eject from the interaction when she gets bored, or find excuses to flake on you on the phone.

Now I know.. this goes against everything that you ever learned about "respecting women" and shit. But believe me, taking over them and dominating their frame is REQUIRED for BOTH OF YOU! A. Because women have the conditioning to eject from meeting a guy, as I explained in my last post. So you HAVE to TAKE OVER this conditioning if you want to have any chance. B. Because she has no idea what she wants anyways and its her nature to be led, so appeal to her TRUE nature!

#3 - How to take over their frame and lead them?

Taking over their frame:

The most important aspect of taking over a woman's frame is eye contact, and locking eye contact until she breaks it first. This is absolute core key! This is perceived at deep internal level as something dominant in their eyes. I learned this from Gunwitch, so all credits for him. The second key to take over a woman's frame is to simply have a stronger will than hers, and this is REALY easy if you realize that women are naturally the weaker gender and they WILL go along and give up to a stronger will. Now, this is easily achieved when you're horny and haven't masturbated and your testosterone levels are high. BUT.. it is also achievable without it. Having a strong will is all about having a strong intent, strong decision. I talked about this in my 2nd post when I opened this blog.. remember? (Setting up a "goal" with women?). Now, these two keys will do enough.. but there's another key to taking over their frame and that is - not allowing them to take over the lead and/or shittest you! If a woman tries to lead you, or to "shitests" you, and you've taken the "bait".. she will feel like she is the one who is in the lead now. NOT GOOD!

Again, I'm not advocating power-plays or something with women. But the truth is that women WANT us and we want them and this is something that is required for the benefit of BOTH OF US: both men & women! Women are simply TURNED OFF when they feel they can manipulate a guy, and women CAN'T take the lead because they have no idea how to make sex happend because they have all these conditionings fucking their mind up! So.. NEVER let a woman who likes to masturbate with her right hand at nights (and if she's always trying to control guys, chances are she is LONELY and miserable..) to dictate your sex life. If she's so in demand to feel like she's in control, i give you full permission to NEXT HER. Realy! Because she will be a waste of your time otherwise..

Creating a Lead:

OK, creating a lead is REALY easy.

Basically understand that your goal is to condition the woman that you're setting up the lead, and she obeys and follows you. Remember how I talked in my recent post about "Willpower & discipline" on how to slowly develope willpower by doing small tasks at first? Well you will use the same principle here with women. It works wonders:

1. Start by creating "small leads" - This can be something as minor as asking her for the time, or asking her to turn around for a second because you want to check her shirt, or if she's in your car asking her to help you setting up the right direction for the mirrors so you can see (Yes, I've done it in the past).

2. After creating a few "small leads" increase the size of request to be a larger one. I usually like to use palm reading and telling them to "Show me your hand.." and then directing her how to put her hand. They love it, and this has almost NEVER failed me. They realy obey strongly to this one.

3. Now, after creating the "small leads" and the slightly bigger one, it already becomes naturally for her that you lead her and she follows, so now if you'll move to an even bigger request she will obey because it just starts to feel naturally for her that you give commands, and she follows. At this point, you can move her a little bit - If she's sitting in the bar, maybe you turn to her other side and make her turn around so she can't see her friends.. if it's in a store you can move her to another aisle or shelf to show her something.. if its in a club you can tell her you wanna tell her a secret and take her to the side just a little.. you get my point..

4. Ok, once you've done all of these chances are that she will now go along with even bigger requests like going outside together to breath some air (if in a club), or move to another store (if in mall) etc. This is actually already your direction to isolate her. At this point, she is already properly conditioned to be led, and when she's in this state you can almost isolate her entirely from the place. This is realy good!

See how easy it is?

It realy is easy to create a lead, and even though some frustrated control-freak type of girls who read this may be pissed off, i actually found out, in my recent field experieneces, that women LOVE IT when you TAKE OVER THEIR FRAME and when you LEAD THEM and TELL THEM WHAT TO DO! I saw the responses I got from women, and also remembered how my past successful lays happend (and in ALL of them these 2 principles of taking over their frame + leading her WERE in place!), that it all just clicked now to make sense.

And this is why I brought this post now.

It was also to remind me of those, and also to share them with you!

-- leedrag0n

Gaming insights 10.09.2011

2011-09-09T18:10:00.001-07:00

Hey guys!

Today I'm sharing here a few insights based on my recent outings and field experiences that I just felt like putting them here for everyone to read and learn from.

Insight #1 - Every situation has DIFFERENT game

OK. One of the mistakes alot of guys do is they try to generalize a single "method" that will work on ALL situations. It doesn't work that way!

Every situation is different. In a club or bar, for instance, you can just walk up to women, be friendly fun and cool and you can already strike conversations on almost any topic you like - because the dynamic in that place is one of a social place where people hang out to have fun, enjoy, and MEET people. On street game or coffee shop the whole process of introducing the themes WILL be different.

Insight #2 - Playing on emotional states still OWNS the game BIG TIME!

Look: the reality of women.. whether you want to accept it or not is this - they WANT us just as much as we want them. But: #1 they don't know how to make it happend and #2 they are conditioned (aka: have deeply ingrained habits of behaviour..) against making the move, or even to "escape" from the interaction. Some call it "playing hard to get" .. or "wanting you to chase them" etc. In reality its all just their conditioning against being "easy" or "sluts". I'm talking about women that are receptive to your approach.. but then all of the sudden they have to "get back to shopping.." or "get back to her friend.." etc. This is true because once she "escapes" from you, if you'll try to re-initiate the conversation with her, 90% of the time she WILL go along and continue where you both left.

The only times where she DOESN'T "escape" the interaction is when you evoke strong emotional states in her that makes her want to stay! I'm talking about when you generate strong curiousity in her, or you challenge her for being a coward, or you talk about something that is extremely interesting to them.. etc.

The only times that she DOES what you want her to do, is when an emotional drive is pushing her to do it. If its for isolating her, then it could be wanting to tell her something personal.. but then excuse it like "But not here.." , and its the curiousity that actually makes her WANT to get isolated with you. You can even challenge her maturity for achieving isolationg by saying that she's not a person that you can tell secrets to, and that she's just a party animal that always wants her friends around her. She'll want to prove you that you're wrong by actually going alone with you (= isolation) to prove you that she's not like that.

So, those elements STILL own the game big time!

Insight #3 - Themes ..

Introducing the right themes with women. OK, here we are back to what I said in the last insight - women WANT us, but they don't know how to make it happend. When you both get into a conversation, she has no idea what to talk about.. so she gets back to the BORING questions of work, school, etc. She doesn't realize that those topics are boring for her!

On the other hand.. try to talk gossip with women. They LOVE this shit. Gossip is like crack for them!

Or, try to talk with them about Indulgences.. places where you can get the best massage in the world, or restaurants with the best foods .. they fucking LOVE this. Or just talk with them about emotions, what drives them, what they enjoy doing (aka: Connections), they LOVE it.

See what I mean?

It's just good and mindful to be aware of all this when you're gaming them. Boring themes evoke BORING emotions, and BORING emotions are NOT good!

Insight #4 - Embedded commands, Embedded questions, and Embedded suggestions

Ok, I may create a seperate post on this subject on its own (because I never did one, so it may be time to do it..) but lets talk about this for a moment.

The word "embedded" means "hidden". It's a way of sneaking in commands, questions and suggestions in a way that is almost never detected by the listener because it doesn't SEEM like you are commanding, suggesting or asking a question directly.

EXAMPLE:

"Feel angry" = a direct command. If you told this to someone, it'd almost never work!

"Don't feel angry" = a direct command, brought in a negation way. This might work, but it still feels like a command.

BUT ->

"I hope you won't get angry.. but I wanted to tell you" = This sentence doesn't sound like a command to the listener. In fact, it sounds like a statement. You are stating or sharing your own thoughts: "I hope that..", but then you sneak in "you won't get angry" .. so even though it sounds to the listener like you're just stating something, it PREPARES his subconscious mind to the possibility of getting angry. It suggests him that he SHOULD get angry from what you're about to say, but in an indirect way. You don't tell him directly that he should get angry. He concludes it from the way the sentence is built!

See what I mean?

Another example: Embedded Question!

"Have you ever felt a strong attraction to someone?" = A direct question. She may choose not to answer it.

BUT ->

"I don't know if you ever felt a strong attraction to someone.. because some women never experienced this and its a real shame.."

= Again, this sentence is a statement. You are stating that you don't know something.. and then you sneak in "if you ever felt a strong attraction to someone..". You are not directly asking her if she has experienced this. But the way your sentence is built suggests that an answer to this question is required in order to understand what you're about to say. Again, you are not telling her to directly answer this question, but she concludes that the answer to this question will help her understand the rest of your sentence.. so she answers the question unconsciously and keeps the answer and then listens to the rest of your sentence to see how the answer she has is related to the story. But still though, if she answered the question and its a positive answer (Yes, I did feel a strong attraction to someone) then its very likely that she already remembered the person that she felt this way towards, AND that the state is brought back up again!

... I don't want to overload you with information here but I think you can understand what I mean...

What is this good for?

Well, duh - loads of things! From eliciting states, to get her to visualize things about you... "I don't know if you ever passionately kissed someone .. but it can be like..". Here we're doing an Embedded question that brings up imagery of kissing someone.. while YOU are sitting right in front of her! Even if she wanted to, she couldn't help but visualize herself kissing you!

And it's also realy good for giving her suggestions about her experience with YOU: "I remember listening to the radio one day.. and there was this show late at night.. where people call and try to locate people from their past.. and there was this 50 something years old lady.. that said she's trying to locate someone she met 30 years (!!!) ago.. and then she told the story of how she met him while going with the bus to Beer Sheba, and the whole area was a desert.. and at some abandoned bus stop there was this soldier that came up on the bus.. and sat next to her.. and it was a really rainy day and the bus was almost empty.. there were only the two of them and a few others.. and at some point they started talking.. and it was such a pleasant, exciting and memorable conversation that made all the hours of driving pass without even noticing ... and now, 30 years later.. she said that she still can't forget about this guy.. and that she said to herself that she must try and locate him to see if he's still alive.. and she wants to talk to him.. and that if she will not do it, she will regret it.. not mentioning that she kept regreting not staying in touch with him ever since then .. and when I told this to a friend of mine he said: 'Isn't it amazing? All our lives we chase our tails and always trying to stay in control.. but when we'll be old.. we won't remember all the chasing to feeding our egos.. we won't remember how much our bank account increased or decreased.. we won't remember work and all the duties we did.. and we won't remember all the times we felt "in control" of the situations. what we'll remember will be moments.. that took our breath away.. moments of intense fullfilment that we are delighted we did them .. and also the moments that we wanted to do something, but hesitated.. and then, when we're old, we'll regret we didn't do them when we could..' .."

Wasn't that an interesting pattern?

What did you feel when you read it?

What thoughts arose when you read it?

Did you notice the suggestions hidden inside of it?

I'll make a post on this subject later on and may analyze this pattern in depth, its a tricky one but its good to know how this stuff is done.

OK, that's all for now guys, feel free to post your comments.

-- leedrag0n

How to develope Discipline & Willpower (Breakthroughs #1)

2011-08-22T15:11:00.001-07:00

Hi everyone!

This is the first post out of a series of brand new posts that will talk about basic practical exercises that will help you all to breakthrough your game.

This is no theory here guys. I'm going to bring you in this series of posts real world, tested & proven exercises and methods that WILL work for you if you do them to help you build each of the skills they are intended to build.

I'm not going to discuss these techniques here, and I share them here only out of truely wanting to help guys out there who have been stuck in this game. The exercises are easy, and I will explain in detail why they are used and how they work.

PLEASE READ THIS POST ENTIRELY IF YOU WANT TO TRUELY & DEEPLY UNDERSTAND AND BUILD THESE SKILLS. DO NOT SKIM THIS! SKIMMING IS A FORM OF PROCRASTINATING, AND PROCRASTINATING IS YOUR WORST ENEMY AND YOUR BIGGEST STUMBLING BLOCK AGAINST DEVELOPING DISCIPLINE AND WILLPOWER. IF YOU TRUELY WANT DISCIPLINE & WILLPOWER, DO THIS FIRST STEP RIGHT HERE AND KEEP READING THIS POST ALL THE WAY TO THE END!

If you are someone who has a tendency to argue everything that is being presented to him and/or believes that these will not work for you BEFORE you even tried them, then I'm sorry but I can't help you - you are lacking the basic desire of even wanting to learn and use this stuff, and you get more satisfaction from arguing and debating things rather than actually TRYING them and enjoying the results you get from them.

For all the rest of you guys who are normal, and who WANT to breakthrough their game and remove all their stuck points, lets start with basic lesson number one.. the very FIRST basic skill you need in order to progress in this game..

Why Discipline & Willpower are needed?

Getting REAL results with women are not based on luck or fate. Women will not knock on your door and offer you themselves, and they will barely approach you. Results are based on skills and abilities.

In order to develope those skills & abilities with women you need Discipline - an ability to keep practicing and making progress on a consistent basis, and you also need a strong Willpower - an ability to push your boundaries and try things that are OUTSIDE your normal habitual ways. Habits will not change if you don't form new habits. And in order to form new habits, you need willpower. The stronger your willpower and discipline are - the EASIER it is for you to be able to truely change yourself.

In fact, in order to become more attractive and more skillful gamewise you MUST change your habits. Your old habits of behaving and interacting with women simply DID NOT WORK for you to bring you the results you wanted. Changing habits can be either realy easy and enjoyable (when you have strong discipline and willpower) or on the other hand it can be very painful and difficult (when you are lacking discipline and willpower).

Actually, I'm willing to bet that as you read this post and you see the words "Discipline" and "Willpower" you start feeling a bit at unease and uncomfortable. This is probably because you have some imaginary illusion about what Discipline and Willpower are and you probably visualize them as being something that will take years of practice and alot of effort to build. well, YOU ARE WRONG!

In fact, I'm going to show you a VERY EASY way to build kick ass strong Discipline & Willpower. YES, You won't believe that it is actually THIS EASY to build them. This is because you've been told lies my friend. You've been living in the matrix. And now I'm going to show you how to break free out of it!

So, HOW do we develope discipline and willpower?

Basically, discipline and willpower are the same thing - your ability to PUSH yourself to do something. When you say "I'm going to do this" then you do it without hesitation. A strong willpower makes it easy as hell for you to stay disciplined and keep doing things.

In order to understand how to start building your kick ass willpower, you must first understand the metaphor. Willpower is realy like a muscle - You can't expect to become a world class body builder within a day. THIS WILL NEVER WORK! The human mind likes consistency and likes repititions. When you consistently repeat something, it adapts easily and smoothly into your habits. If you try to FORCE something big too quick and too strongly over yourself, Your mind will REJECT it. So understand this and use this principle when you build your willpower and you WILL see how sooner than you think you'll be able to do amazing things effortlessly!

Developing Willpower:

Lets go back to the "muscle" metaphor.

How do you build a muscle? By creating RESISTANCE to it, and then pushing against that resistance. Usually this resistance will be in the form of a weight or something to lift.. and as we all know - we CAN'T push weight that is WAYYYYYY beyond the ability of our muscles to carry.. so we need to start by pushing "small" weights first - this will "train" our muscles to get comfortable with this weight.. so then as it becomes easy we will NATURALLY increase the resistance ..

In analogy, the "resistance" to your willpower is your procrastination = your tendency to deny and avoid tasks that you know you should do. Every time you say "Ahh .. I'll do it some other time.." or "Ahh .. I don't wanna do it now.." then you procrastinate.

So, in order to start building your willpower you need to start pushing AGAINST this procrastination. At first you will do it slowly, of course, and on small tasks. This can be something minor as cleaning your room for instance.. or organizing your desktop on your computer.. or maybe even cleaning and organizing your closet... or bookshelf.. or cooking something for yourself.. or maybe even meeting a friend you haven't seen for a long time..

Whatever that'll be, start slow, but start doing things that you feel you don't want to do. This is also known as "pushing your comfort zone". I learned this principle myself from Gunwitch, and believe me that up till this day, it has been one of the most effective and easiest ways I ever learned that actually worked wonders in building a very strong willpower and discipline from easily and smoothly. So start pushing your comfort zone, and do it on a DAILY basis.

I can't give you an exact written step-by-step training program because I don't know what you consider to be easy or hard tasks for you. Only you know it, so follow my instructions and pick the tasks that you know you usually don't want to do and make them small ones at first.

What will this do for you? By pushing against your procrastination, it will start losing its effect on you .. until the point that it will no longer be stopping you, and you'll be able to just decide you do something and you'll do it. And that, my friend, is a wonderful feeling. This is your way to TRUE freedom!

AND ALSO .. YOU WILL NOTICE.. as you progress and keep doing these exercises, that day after day your willpower naturally becomes stronger and stronger almost effortlessly, and it will get you start feeling that your boundaries begin to melt and you suddenly find yourself doing BIGGER and LARGER tasks than you used to do, taking yourself out to the world and doing all the things you want to do and doing them easily and effortlessly.

Remember: the key principle here is to keep pushing against your procrastination. This is a PROVEN way to strengthen your willpower and discipline.

Then, after even a week of doing this, you will notice a HUGE shift in your level of discipline and willpower, and you will be able to do things that up until then used to seem difficult and challenging, and you'll do them quite easily.

Enjoy, more to come in the next posts.

-- leedrag0n

Accepting your mistakes

2011-08-12T18:14:00.000-07:00

Sometimes we make this idealization in our mind that our approach is going so smooth, and that the girl is so into us that she's probably going to go for it with us, and then we try some move.. and suddenly she starts drawing back from the interaction until it fails completely and we are left with nothing.

This can happend. It happends to the best of the best. So it happend.. just relax around it and accept it!

You must accept the fact that YOU WILL MAKE MISTAKES! It's part of life, you can't escape it!

You will make mistakes because no one has ever taught you how to pick up women. You didn't learn it from your parents, from your teachers in high school, you never had any expert to teach you this, and you probably weren't born with these skills. You had to learn it all by yourself. And when you do learn how to become a master in any field, you WILL makes mistakes, so accept it!

Look at the good things you did, give yourself a huge applaud for doing it and you deserve it!

And as for the mistakes.. it's part of life. Everyone makes mistakes.

And I'm 100% sure, that you HAVE LEARNED THE LESSON from it..

-- leedrag0n

Is the world realy such a bitter place?

2011-07-12T08:31:00.000-07:00

Hey guys!

I'm currently out of the game due to problems with my voice so I have to give it some rest and work it out. So no game for me at the moment, but I can at least write and share you with my thoughts here :-)

I heard so many people say that the world was unfair, that beautiful women can get anything they want, that money rules the world and that chicks are after the money, etc. Do you think that way too?

If you do, then please stop. Crying and whining about the world and that you're unworthy is a self defeating, loserish mindset. People who have this attitude are usually people who give up without ever trying, and they are usually people who are bound by the limiting ways of thinking that society has induced on them. They were programmed to think that way. And here comes my philosophy and by belief about the world as I think it realy is.

OK, so we were all little kids once. Yes, even that wealthy millionaire and yes EVEN that georgeous goldiggerish chick. We were ALL little kids once. Do you agree?

When we were kids, believe it or not, but we didn't give a fuck about all these social statuses and money shit. Did we realy care if someone was rich or poor while he was introduced to us? NO! All we cared about was if we liked him or not. And believe me when I say, that when we were kids we were DAMN STRAIGHT HONEST with everyone. So if we didn't like someone, we told him that straight in the face in the most honest way possible.

Something got fucked up in the way though. When people grow up, they start to be conditioned with all sorts of social bullshit about the world. About how they should treat, think, and behave around certain "types" of people. About what is accepted & possible and what is not. You first must realize, that we are NOT born with this shit.

Whenever you think about money owning the world, you must remember something: Money & Status are just tools in the social impression mechanisms. What I mean is that whenever you are introduced to a powerful, wealthy man you may be impressed. So do women. But, should he treat you like shit, bore you to tears .. your thoughts about him will change. Same goes for women!

The bottom line is that after all the social impressions and after all the other bullshit you might THINK that you don't have, EVERY HUMAN BEING IS STILL A CHILD AT HIS INNER, MOST DEEPEST LEVEL. Even grown up adult still behave like a little child when it comes to his bottom level of desires. Do you know what I'm talking about?

That's right, I'm talking about the fact that after all people are STILL driven by how they FEEL!

Some of you guys may think .. "I'm not rich, I can never get georgous women". This type of thinking is what is being taught by society. If you have never learned anything else, then you might be doomed for life with the inability to get beautiful women unless you have a $1M bank profit.

But always remember .. "counter intuitive thinking - leads to COUNTER INTUITIVE RESULTS!"

Sometimes you have to think outside the box of convention if you want to achieve something. Now I want to demonstrate what I'm saying to you with an unusual counter intuitive situation:

You're inside a club.

You see this unbelievably beautiful woman. She's georgous!

You may think that she's not going to shit at your direction because you're not rich.

OK .. let's say so ..

So you approach and try to talk to her and she completely IGNORES YOU!

.. then you say to yourself: "Aha! See? I told you it's not gonna work!" ..

.. but wait ..

Have you ever tried this >>

You take a little bit of your beer and you "accidently" spill it all over this girl ..

Now she's damn wet and she's also DAMN angry..

How many of you guys believe me when I tell you, that after doing something like this, you will have all her attention on YOU? Not only that, chances are she is going to be so angry that she's going to come directly to you and start a fight with you!

Now I know this example is VERY unusual and very outside the box of what you ever thought of trying.

Spilling a beer on a girl? That's so RUDE! You may think ..

But you see guys .. this is exactly THE KIND OF THINKING that keeps you STUCK!

Now back to my example .. so now she's angry at you. You may think that's extremely counter productive, but you have no idea how you're wrong. First of all, by doing this you went from "being completely ignored" and in fact being completely insignifanct in this girl's eyes, all the way to being someone that has triggered something inside her. When she looks at you now, you are someone with significance in her world, because you moved something inside of her, emotionally. And this realy DOES get her attention. After doing something like this, she won't be able to keep her eye off you all evening.

The interesting thing is that you can use this as a leverage to later apologize, show some respect, and actually suggest a compensation. This will gain ALOT of positive points in your favor and may actually work hugely to your advantage. With some girls, this unexceptional strategy of "pissing them off, before pleasing them on" is the ONLY thing that will actually WORK on them! If you try to be nice and polite, it's just NEVER gonna work for you!

I know that this example was pretty unusual, but I brought it here on purpose to shake the ground of everything you ever believed is possible. You have to think outside the box of convention sometimes.

Let me bring here another example, actually something that happend not long ago to me and my friend:

We were out, and then we see these 2 girls so we went and started chatting with them. One of them was very receptive and open, while the other seemed stressed and kept pushing her girlfriend to finish the talk with us so they can leave.

I was looking at my friends and I noticed that he has completely ignored this, and it was a mistake, because I knew that if I will not do something to put her friend in her place, this set will be OVER. In a matter of a seconds I came up with this strategy of playing with her ego to keep her staying there. So I talked to the open and receptive friend of hers and told her: "You know, it's such a shame that your friend here is A COWARD". This realy pissed off her friend, that went from "I want to leave mode" all the way to "Who the hell does he think he's calling a coward?" all the way to wanting to prove us that she's not a coward by staying there. So this was a brilliant move - first it took over her frame and dominated her, and second it triggered an emotion inside of her. She was pissed from this remark, and then wanted to prove us wrong and STAYED there.

I know many guys who read this may go "Wow damnit! He actually insulted her!" .. exactly my point!

Because the fact that you are so not used to doing something like this, only shows how much your thinking is limited and bound when it comes to women.

Start to think outside the box, and you won't believe how far you can reach.

-- leedrag0n

Use a camera to improve your bodylanguage!

2011-06-13T06:02:00.000-07:00

Hey guys!

Here's yet another body language improvement tips video with a powerful and VERY effective technique that will help you improve your non-verbal communications better than anything else.

This technique have proven itself and i've been using it myself alot, so give this a try and you'll be dazzled by the results.

P.S: Many "communication tip" websites suggest using a mirror for improving your bodylanguage. This is a recipe for scoring an own goal - because when you practice with a mirror you're all the time AWARE to how you look. When you use a camera (without seeing yourself as you're filming!) gives you a way more accurate reference to how you REALY look when you communicate with others, and if you practice it alot it becomes your second nature of communicating so it will come out of you automatically and effortless in the field!

As always, feel free to post your comments.

-- leedrag0n

The right body language (video)

2011-06-08T04:20:00.000-07:00

Hey guys,

This video was taken some time ago when I was in a mall.

You can see me in this video as I approach and game a hot girl in the enterance to a clothing store.

This is the first part of the movie, I'll see if I can upload the other one.

This movie is for demonstration purposes ONLY.

-- leedrag0n

Improving your communications

2011-06-06T05:52:00.000-07:00

Here it is, enjoy!

-- leedrag0n

Communication skills!

2011-06-05T18:42:00.000-07:00

The video is coming later today .. this is just a teaser :P

-- leedrag0n

There's no such thing rejection!

2011-05-28T08:09:00.001-07:00

Hey guys!

It's me again, writing to you on a sunny saturday afternoon here in Israel. The weather is great, and I'm at the moment writing to you from the beach with my laptop as I got an inspiration to share with you this powerful concept that will change your attitude towards gaming forever.

This week I saw a great speech by the Israeli prime minister Benyamin Netanyahu in the american congress.. and while he was comparing the conflict between Israel and Palestine to those in Berlin and Prague in the late 90s, suddenly a protester .. who probably got disturbed by his words.. interrupted his speech and started screaming at him for talking nonsense.

Netanyahu's reply to this was nothing but pure genius: he took her objection, and TURNED IT AROUND TO HIS FAVOUR, by framing it to the audience in a new way that made him look great: He said "I'm honoured by these protesters, because you can't see them in governments like in Teheran or Tripoli. THIS IS REAL DEMOCRACY!", and as soon as he finished this sentence ... the entire audience stood up to gave him one of the strongest and raving applaudes the entire evening!

Now .. I realy want you to think about the implication of this!

I'm willing to bet that you are many times just WITHDRAWING your approaches because you simply haven't learned how to RESPOND to people and put them in place properly!

In fact, you've probably been trained to think like a loser = that if some woman throws objections at you, or "rejects" you .. that means the sarge is over, done, and you should walk away from there with your tail between your legs..

BULLSHIT!

Realize this: ANY response a woman gives you can be LEVERAGED and USED to YOUR FAVOUR!

This is one of the BIGGEST SKILLS in communication in general, and PU by itself.

In fact, there's always a chance that a hot woman WILL THROW SHIT LIKE THIS IN YOUR FACE at some point in the sarge, whether at the start or in the middle. An amateur or inexperienced PUA or AFC will perceive it as a "rejection" and will walk away.

However, A true master communicator will capitalize her response, not be phased by it, and then he will use it to HIS leverage to turn the whole thing around.

Let me give you an EXAMPLE to illustrate this:

Yesterday I was at Rothschild street in Tel Aviv .. and I noticed a nice 5-set so I started walking up to their direction ... Now apparently they have been hit before me by some amateur PUA .. but I didn't know it ... so anyways I come up to them and I start with a simple preopener: "Hey girls .. do you know of any good places around here?" ... Now, I didn't even get a chance to finish my sentence where suddenly one of the girls go: "WHAT? YOU ALSO WANT TO KNOW WHO LIES MORE? MEN OR WOMEN?" .. (LOL I can't believe people still use this opener!) .. I tried to turn this around to my favour by answering them: "Oh no ... they asked this you also ??" , and then one of the girls go : "YES. Now FUCK OFF!" in an angry voice ..

Now .. I'm willing to bet that most of you who are reading this are already perceiving this as a rejection LOL .. do you know why? its because you FEEL REJECTED .. and remember what I told you? That emotions blind logic? If you feel rejected that's YOUR PROBLEM. Work on it! See how I responded and you'll realize exactly what I'm saying..

Anyways I wasn't phased by it, so I can think about it logically. Now think about it on a logical level: It's 5 girls. Not one. So yeah, ONE girl shouts at you. But it doesn't mean that all of them agree with her! For all you know .. one of those girls may actually LIKE YOU!

So having this in mind, I replied to her like this:

Me: Oh no, they asked this you also?
Her: YES. Now FUCK OFF!
Me: Hey .. relax.. It's ok .. you're not the ONLY GIRL that haven't had sex for a while! In fact .. there are girls who didn't get it for longer than you! It's ok .. we hear you!

And as soon as I finish saying this, ALL OF HER GIRLS JUST BURST OUT LAUGHING LOUD, and she didn't know where to hide herself out of shame!!

Now what I did here was several things:

1. I didn't get emotionally affected by her response.
2. I used her response against her, to frame the whole situation in a different, more funny way. Framing her response as a result of sexual frustration.
3. It got all the girls laughing. And women are driven by emotions, not logic. If you get them to FEEL something, they flow with it!
4. Her friends LIKED ME for doing it. So now I'm 100% IN the set, because of the power of social proof.
5. The girl got submissive and quiet after this, probably because she was scared to get hit and humiliated by me once again like this in front of her friends LOL!

So you see guys .. this example just proves once again that THERE ARE NO LIMITATIONS to what you can possible achieve in this game. All the wrong perceptions and translations of reality are all in your head.

NOW will be the best time to just LET THEM GO!

Realy think about it for a while.

-- leedrag0n

Your State Issues Clarified!

2011-05-26T14:59:00.000-07:00

Hey guys!

It has been a month since I wrote here, but I'm here again :-)

First I want to update you guys that I will be recording some more video tutorial modules soon, so if you liked the last ones I did (and I have got very good reviews on my rapport & chemistry video, Thanks guys!) then you can expect those coming soon.

But today I'm here with yet another very interesting state related post.
Actually, what I'm about to share with you today is going to blow your mind away. Literally!

Because after you'll finish reading this post, you will be dazzled and blown away about just how much you have been brainwashed about "confidence" your whole life. In fact, you may (hopefully) forget anything you ever thought you know about "confidence"!

Because you see.. everything you ever learned about "lack of confidence" or "low self esteem" was WRONG. There are no such concepts. We have been told LIES!

And now.. I'm going to reveal those lies to you, in this post, so you will begin to see the matrix for yourself.. and realize just how deep the rabbit hole really goes....

Part 1: Once upon a time there was a boy ...

.. and ever since he was a little kid he had things and activies that he LIKED and ENJOYED doing and things that he DISLIKED or HATED doing. Over the years the kid became really good at doing the things that he LIKED to do ... and he also became really good at avoiding doing the things that he DIDN'T LIKE to do ... so whenever he was supposed to do that activity or something that he didn't like to do ... he would learn to make a list of excuses to avoid doing it ... but that list was a result of the way he FELT about doing that activity! So... over the years he became VERY GOOD at making those excuses ... but did he know what creates it?

OK.. back here with me folks, I guess you can all relate to that story, right? :-)
I can already hear some of you reading this saying : "Oh yeah here's that preach again about me making excuses... I HEARD THAT ALREADY ... So what's the point?" ...

I'll tell you: MOST of your state issues that are related to women are subject of procrastination, or: trying to avoid something that you simply don't want to do!

YEP, that's what is REALLY is!

There is NO SUCH THING as "Fear of approach".
There is NO SUCH THING as "Low Self Esteem".
There is NO SUCH THING as "Lack of confidence".
And hell there is NO SUCH THING as "Loss of hope".

All of those things are just our own, WRONG TRANSLATIONS, to a generally simple neurological state of mind: a state of mind where TWO OPPOSITE DESIRES CONFLICT =

1. Your logical desire - what you KNOW on a logical level that you want, for example: "I want to approach this woman", or "I want to go out to sarge" or "I want to rehearse my tonality" or hell even "I want to clean my room!" ...

-- CONFLICTING WITH: --

2. The emotional state that is associated with doing this activity - what your SUBCONSCIOUS mind is telling you that it thinks about doing this, which is often the opposite of your logical desire, for example: "I don't want to approach this woman", or "I don't want to go out to sarge" or "I don't want to rehease my tonality" or "I don't want to clean my room".

How does this translates to the states of mind that you THINK you're experiencing? Well .. lets go deeper down the rabbit hole so you'll find out ...

Part 2: The psychologist say that I have a "Low self esteem"...

BULLSHIT!

LISTEN: Procrastination is a genuine human emotion. You've learned to do it ever since you were a little kid. It's part of the survival mechanism every human being inherited - it's the emotional "alarm" system that pushes you towards things that feel good, and pushes you away from things that may have unpleasant feelings associated with them.

Even if you logically KNOW that you have to go out to meet women, if your mind thinks different you're in a problem. And then what happends .. is that you PUSH yourself to go out ... but the feeling of "not wanting to do it" is still there. And then you carry that feeling with you to the field!

What does this result in? What everyone calls "bad state". You can't figure it out, and people start labelling it under many different names .. "Fear of approaching women", "Low self esteem", "Lack of confidence".. etc..

It's all just BULLSHIT, BULLSHIT and BULLSHIT!

It's all just YET another one of those human attempts to try and make sense of an emotional state of mind (or rationalize) of conflict between your emotional drive ("I don't want to be here") to your logical desire ("I want and I need to do this!")

Now.. here's my OWN story of how I concluded this...

Part 3: Once upon a time there was ME..

.. and I have always been quite a procrastinator on things that I didn't like to do, whether it's cleaning my house.. or taking the car to fix it.. and sometimes even to go and buy food in the supermarket!

And for the last 6 months or so I have been puzzled by a riddle that I couldn't yet find an answer to regarding my self: Why is my state of mind so unstable around women when I'm out there alone by myself ... -vs- ... my state being VERY stable when I'm out there with someone??

At first I thought it was something about my "Low self esteem", so I took a paper, wrote a bunch of positive beliefs about myself.. reaffirmed them for a while... FELT GREAT.. and then I went out to the field with it... it worked quite ok for a while but after a while I was back to my instability...

OK, next shot: I learned a bunch of NLP techniques for state design. I gave it a try as well! It also worked quite well for a while.. but after a while the instability came back..

OK, next thing I learned was stuff taken from vipassana meditation (equanimity, grounding etc). Worked well for a while but required alot of work.. and .. in the end you know what happend...

So .. I was really puzzled by this for quite a while. But then one day I really wondered... "Why isn't this happening to me when I'm with my friends?????".

I began studying, and exploring, and trying to understand the differences between how I behave when I'm with my friends -vs- how I behave when I'm without them. And I realized this:

1. If I can easily approach women when I'm around with my friends, it means that I DO NOT have any "Fear of approach"!
2. If I feel very good about myself when I'm around with friends, it means that I have NO PROBLEMS with my "Self Esteem"!
3. If I feel quite confident in myself when I'm around with friends, it means that I have confidence in myself!

So if I have all of those when I'm out there with SOMEONE... Then how come they all disappear when they are not around me??

AHA!!!!!

And that led me to the inevitable conclusion: being with friends is just MORE COMFORTABLE!

Part 4: Realizing it's realy about procrastination, NOT about confidence!

I can clearly tell the difference about going out to sarge with my friends -vs- me sarging solo by one small difference: If a friend calls me out, I'm almost always saying "YES" and I feel that I want to do it!

But if I had to take myself out by myself, ALL sorts of excuses will come out!

So there you have it - it's simply PROCRASTINATION!
Not fears, not lack of confidence, nothing.

And ... once I managed to neutralize the procrastination feeling and be able to go out to the field without it sitting in my veins .. then what do you know ... I'm unstoppable with women again!!!

Grasp it, eat it, and sleep on it.
If this relates to you - GREAT, If not, feel free to ask me anything.
Until my next post..

P.S: If you'll want to know how I got over the procrastination, shoot me a comment here and I will explain. You can feel free to comment and leave your feedback on this post anyways. I love hearing your feedback!

-- leedrag0n

PU for the dummies!

2011-04-22T15:53:00.000-07:00

Hi everyone!

I want to talk a little bit about PU in general, lay out a few basic rules, attitudes and principles that I use and apply myself when I'm out to PU women, and discuss a few mindsets and beliefs that are important & useful.

Some of these guidelines are important so give those a good read.

Here we go:

Basic attitude for PU women - It is a game!

Do you remember how in computer games, or any game - whenever you play it, you're focused 100% on the game and your mind never wanders to other places? You want to have the same attitude with women!

The whole process of approaching a woman, engaging her in a conversation, connecting with her, and then seducing her to either fall in love with you or have sex with you is an art. Not a fixed thing, and it can change with every woman. It's more like .. playing music! And because of this nature, it must be played from an outcome disoriented and fun place.

You only get good and better in this game by gaining experience, and any time you game a woman you learn something.

Basic understanding for human interactions - It's possible to connect with EVERY person!

Every woman is first of all a person.

And every person is a unique individual.

As such, that means that she is conditioned to respond to specific types of communications presented to her, has specific motives that drive her, and has certain behaviours or topics of conversation that she likes. If you can find those, you're very likely to succeed in creating a strong connection with her.

In order to find those, you need to carefully listen, observe, and study her reactions. This means that you need to collect this information about her. The only way to do it, is by being outwardly focused on her and paying attention to how she responses and what drives her.

And in order to do that, you must operate by the next "set in stone" rule for interacting with women:

Set in stone RULE for interacting with women - If you CAN'T pay attention on HER and how she responds - DON'T GAME HER!

This is a highly crucial "set in stone" rule for interacting with women.

Consider the following metaphor: a boxer entering the ring with his eyes folded so he can't see anything. He can't study his opponent, and he can't know when he hits or not. If he throws a few punches, yeah he might "hit" some once in a while, but he will most probably miss most .. and he won't know whether he's doing progress in the match or not ..

In analogy, when you approach a woman and your attention is not on her, you're going to miss interest signs she gives you, you're going to miss what's her favorite communicating style, you're going to miss the things that drive her or the things she responds most strongly to, you're going to miss the communication she presents to you that can allow you to "mirror" her and increase the rapport .... when you operate this way you're most likely to just "get lucky" with her, if she's realy interested in you and she's doing half the work for you!

Basic mindset for gaming women - There is no such thing "rejection", only feedback about what DOESN'T work on her!

As I stated above, it's possible to connect with every girl, and every girl is conditioned to respond positively to SOMETHING .. but no one guarantees you that you'll succeed in finding that "something" right on your first attempt of interacting with her!

If you didn't succeed on your first attempt though, it doesn't mean anything. All that it means is that what you tried, with this girl, at this time, just didn't work .. and you might try a different strategy next time and it might work.

Changing tactics, strategies and methods are a good thing to have at your disposal.

Because EVERY girl will respond to SOMETHING .. and the only way to find out what will work is to try something and pay attention to how she responds to it. If you get a positive response (she opens up, smiles, starts connecting with you, fucks you etc), then you know you're on the right track .. if not, then you know you're off the track and you may change the strategy and try again this time, or next time.

Another thing you can play with is your non-verbal communication.

So here's another important thing to know about human interactions..

Another basic understanding for human interactions - Non verbal communications play a role!

And when I say "non verbal", I mean more to as "the character" you enter into, and i'll explain.

You may have been used to communicate in a special and unique way all your life. That is "yourself".

As I said, every girl is conditioned to respond to a specific type of communication presented her, and that mostly means: "the character" that you enter into. If you are the quiet guy type, this may fail to work on some women who are more into the "happy party guy" type ... on the other hand if you're the "happy party guy" type, this may fail on some women who are more into the "masculine relaxed guy" type.

So your ability to play with these characters, or to be flexible enough in your communication, is what will open for you the possibility to connect with every girl. Once you've created the connection with the other person, you can slowly slide back to be "yourself" although you're mindful as to what she responds best to.

Again, the only way to find out is by trying many different angles and pay attention and notice to what she responds best!

"Open your mind, and your ass will follow .."

I hope this information have been helpful to you.

-- leedrag0n

Always remember this!

2011-04-07T07:18:00.001-07:00

Whenever you're confused, in doubt, or in lack of motivation to go out and meet women, always remember this:

THERE ARE women out there who are HOT, FUN, COOL, FRIENDLY and who WANT TO MEET YOU and ENJOY WITH YOU. You just have to FIND THEM!

There are also women out there who are cold, turned off, unfriendly, not nice, unreal, frigid, frustrated, or even boring people that you DON'T want to meet!

In what percentages you will find each of those? No one knows.

But you should just always remember that the kind of women you're looking for DO EXIST.

Now go find & them!

-- leedrag0n

How to improve your tonality

2011-02-26T04:51:00.000-08:00

Hey guys.

If you remember, a few posts ago I talked about "Attraction" that's built up of looks, vibe and behaviour, and I promised there that I will make a post about tips to improve your tonality, so here's the post as I promised!

In this post I'll give you tips and drills (vocal exercises) that will help you improve your tonality which, as a side bonuis, will improve the vibe you create in your communication (because Tonality is a major aspect of vibe!).

So let's start!

How I got to improve my own voice

I used to have a very weak voice normally. Maybe due to my work as a programmer (where I was barely speaking) or maybe due to just bad habits of operating my voice, but I had a voice that could barely be heard and was airy and breathy. At some point I realized that my voice could be impacting the way I am perceived by others (And these things do affect other people unconsciously. We could go all philosophical and say that a great "seducer" can get women even with bad looks, vibe, and behaviour. I could agree to it on some level, but the reality is that MOST people, and women, are VERY SHALLOW as far as the first impression goes, and I'm only talking about the FIRST IMPRESSION. A good first impression gets them hooked up, a bad first impression will get most to want to leave. this is reality!) so I decided to start working on it.

The first thing I noticed about my voice, was that everytime I went out to a club .. maybe due to the loud music and my need to make my voice sound louder inside those places .. when I came out of the club my voice would suddenly open-up and be realy loud, clean, and resonant! This would usually last for a couple of days, before it got back to the normal weak, breathy voice.

I posted a question about this in a medical forum that has to deal with voice problems, and one of the doctors there suggested me that the change in my voice happens due to changes in my habits of controlling my voice, that gets changed when I'm in a club environment to fit-in. When I leave the club, because I've unconsciously trained my voice for about an hour or so inside the club, I get out and it stays the same for a couple of days before it gets back to it's normal patterns.

This meant to me that I have to find ways to practice and train my voice so it'll be resonant, clean and loud even on a daily basis. Now i'll share with you the insights I have come with, and the vocal exercises I've managed to practice to maintain my voice as it is ..

Vocal drill #1 : Create Resistance

If your voice is weak, it may be because youre "voice muscles" are weak and not used. Same as it was with me. When I went to a club, because of the loud volume, I had to push my voice stronger to get it to be heard. As a return, this strengthened my loudness. You can achieve the same affect without going to a club, but by creating resistance to your voice - so you'll have to push it stronger to be heard. Makes sense, no?

You do it by taking a straw ("קשית") and putting it in your mouth, and then start "uuhhhh"ing vocal tones through it (like a musical octave up and down). The straw creates resistance because the voice has to be tunneled through a small tiny air space, and in return it presses the vocal cords so when you release it, your voice becomes stronger.

Here's a clip that illustrates it:

Extra tip: You can put your finger on the far side of the straw, to cover the open spot in order to add even more resistance to your voice.

Vocal drill #2: Make your vocal cords vibrate (Warm-up / "Lip Bubble")

Another aspect of creating your voice is whether or not the vocal cords actually vibrate when you create a sound. In order to get them to vibrate, you use a simple exercise called "Lip Bubble".

Here's a video that illustrates this:

Vocal drill #3: Open your throat up

Another aspect of a good, clean and resonant voice is whether your throat & neck muslces are relaxed and releived. A tensed throat or neck causes the voice box (aka "Larynx") to move away and the air will get cut off, which will make it more difficult to get a voice out and you'll have to invest more energy to it. You want the entire area of your throat & neck to be relaxed and that way the voice will come up easier, the voice box will stay in it's place and therefore the voice will come out nice, clean and resonant.

Here's a video to illustrate it:

Another great video with explanation:

Check out this guy's videos, his name is Roger Burnley and he has very good videos and explains the whole voice creation process in a very interesting way and has great exercises.

You can check his channel on youtube at this link.

Here's a nice video with his explanation of how the voice creation process works:

Final note:

That's it for this post!

Start practicing your tonality improving, and feel free to reply and share your experiences.

-- leedrag0n

Values, Values system & Self-Definition

2011-02-04T05:24:00.001-08:00

Hey all.

I want to share here an inner insight that I have recently discovered about myself after some deep soul searching. It has to do about a discovery of how I was unconsciously used to define my own value as a person based on an attractive woman's responses towards me.

If you find that you relate to this subject, feel free to read on and share your thoughts at the end of this post.

I know that it sounds completely illogical. It was for me too.

I'm quite sure that every one of us have some areas in his life that are governed by illogical and irrational ways of thinking and perceiving things that may prevent him from being able to feel good or at ease around them, and as a result - toughens his ability to succeed and/or enjoy them. It's only when you become aware of these irrational thought patterns where they can be intervented, changed, and maybe fixed for good.

I guess that real world examples would help understanding better exactly what I'm talking about.

So let's start with a subject I like: sports, for instance. I like to play soccer.

I noticed that in the neighbourhood where we play soccer, there are some people who will take losses very very personally and seriously. So much, infact, that they won't even be able to stay there any more and they'll just have to go home to relax. Does it make sense??? I mean, we are there to play and enjoy and have fun playing football, and a person's entire mood can immediately change 180 degrees from complete joy to horrible disaster only because his team lost. It doesn't make sense. When I lose a game, I don't take it this personally. I mean, it's just a game. No big deal. But for those people, it's everything. It's not logical right?

Another example is how some folks can perceive wealthy people with lots of money.

I personally came from a family where my father and mother used to hang out with so called "high society" people. People with lots of money, industry leaders etc. I learned that these people are no different than me and you, and nobody of them is better than you or me only because he has money. Some of them are complete idiots who just seem to have a "good mouth" and know how to be diplomats and talk. Whenever you face them with a question that requires depth and a real brain, many of them get lost. I know it. So I can walk up and meet up with people who are millionaires or famous celebs and to just be myself as I am naturally and not even count their presence. I have a friend who couldn't do it, up until recently. He told me that whenever he was about to meet a realy wealthy person, he'd start to shake and get nervous. I thought about it and said .. but how could it be? IT DOESN'T MAKE ANY SENSE!! It was in his world though. Because in his own value system, a person with a lot of money is considered a god.

And that brings me back to my own example, and how I got this insight.

Recently, I have been working my ass on a big project. It's my own creation.

This project brings alot of joy and happiness to my life, I enjoy every minute of working on it, and even though it caused me to be in the field less - it made me feel proud as a person on something I create, and it made me feel great about myself as well. Then one day, I was walking out of my house to do my regular walk around the city, feeling great and delightful about myself. It all went so fine ... until one moment when I saw this attractive girl coming in front of me. She was talking on her cellphone. As she passed near me, I started looking at her.. hoping that she looks back at me... but she didn't. And at that moment, my entire mood changed 180 degrees. From complete joy, proud of myself, good about myself - to feeling horrible, disasterous, frustrated and what not!

This was a breakthrough moment for me, because .. perhaps for the first time in my life .. I became fully aware to just how powerfully women's responses affected me. And I didn't even approached her! I just looked at her, and she didn't reciprocated back... and that by itself hurted me in a very deep and emotional level... and just as I told you here, I realized at that moment - THAT IT DOESN'T MAKE ANY SENSE!!

IT DOESN'T MAKE ANY SENSE AT ALL !!!

How can I walk out my door ... feeling so great about myself, about what I've created, what I worked my ass on with complete joy of ... and BECAUSE OF A WOMAN'S LOOK ... a woman who just talked on her phone ... who I don't even know .... to come back home so devastated ???

This didn't make sense to me at all!!

And exactly because of that - I knew that I MUST find a way to answer this question.

So I started digging down the surface of my mind. I had to find the root for this cause.

No more NLP tricks of altering my emotions, No more reframes, No more affirmations .. I knew that this is something deep .. and I was determined to find it out....

Before I tell you how I found the big answer .. (and btw: all the answers to all the questions are already inside of you) .. let me tell you something funny about us, humans.

We all think that we are SO smart, right?

I believe that when we are kids, we make alot of illogical conclusions that are based on our irrational understanding of the world back then, that later these conclusions just sink down the surface and into our subconscious and become thought patterns that we live with. These thought patterns are what guides us through life, what creates our most powerful emotions, and you are almost never aware of them until one day you realize, just as I did, that something is completely wrong and illogical about your feelings and you must figure out what it is.

So I asked the question.

Thankfully, I have great buddies who I can share my thoughts with, and one by one they started providing me directions & clues as to what it could be, that eventually led me to the answer.

The first buddy who I talked with, is a friend of mine from the football. He is also the guy that I told you who used to be nervous around wealthy people. I talked with him about this subject, and this is how he shared with me his past fear of wealthy people. In the end of my conversation with him, we came to the conclusion that I attached very high value and importance to a woman only because she's attractive to me. So he asked me: "Why do you give so much value to an attractive girl?". Answering this question by itself was impossible... because I told him: it doesn't make any sense to attach so much value to a girl only because she's attractive!

This dropped the first coin to my head. And now here's the next one.

I had a conversation later with my mother. I thought that listening to a female's perspective may enlighten me. She was completely shocked by everything I was saying ... "You should NEVER feel less than a woman just because she's pretty!" ... and then she started telling me of this TV show that she watches called "Let's marry". Moms just love these shows. In every show they bring a guy and a girl that are supposed meet in the end of the show if everything goes well and they like each other. The show is hosted by a female host, a female astrologist and a female psychologist that navigate, analyze and suggest ideas to both the guy and the girl. There was one show where they brought a female girl who looks like a porn star but she was obvisouly not a real person. Her entire personality was an act. She would raise her nose, talk with an exaggerated way of speech, and brushed her hair. And both the host, the astrologist, the psychologist AND my mother (And i'm sure that lots of other females who watched the show) - they could all see how unauthentic she is. How she is just an act. But the guy COULDN'T SEE IT! And even though both the host, both the astrologist, and the psychologist - all told him that she's not for him, that she is a dominative person, that she's into sadistic stuff - he chose her! And this dropped a second coin in my mind ... could it be that what we observe externally is a deception???

The third coin came from a best friend of mine. He's a natural.

I shared my thoughts as well with him, and then he told me how it reminded me of something that happend to him. One day, he met this buddy of his who also brought a girl that he knows. She's a model. Between friends he tried chatting with her up, and she completely ignored him (Mind you: this is NOT a cold approach. She ignored him within a social circle setting!) and talked to his buddy, and asked the buddy question about my friend as if he's not there (Standoffish). Then, she told them both how she never goes out with a guy unless he spends 3000 shekels on her in an evening (Whore). And finally, he told me how one day he was working and he saw her walking down the street, so he pointed at her for his work colleague so he can see who is that girl, when she saw him she gave him the "fuck off" finger. After this story, I couldn't feel anything but disgust towards her. Then my friend asked me if i want to see her picture, so I said sure. He sent me her picture. And even though she is a model, and she will be very attractive to many men - AFTER I KNEW HOW HER SHITTY PERSONALITY REAL IS, I COULDN'T FIND ANYTHING ATTRACTIVE IN HER! SHE DISGUSTED ME FROM HEAD TO BONES!!!

This was interesting .... I knew her personality is shitty before I saw her, so then when I saw her I couldn't find anything attractive in her cause I knew she's disgusting as a person... but in the real world situations I only see their beauty first .... could I be up to something soon??

And then, the final coin that hit the nail came from a buddy who I haven't talked with for a while.

I shared my story with him as well, and he told me how he learned this technique that is taken from cognitive psychology, that he learned in his book by a doctor, about how to "dig into deep emotions". He started investigating me for a while, I cooperated. At some point we came to a conclusion that I feel inadequate for realy attractive women. So he asked me: "Why do you feel inadequate?", and he told me to sit down and realy think deep on this question. And any answer that comes up in the sort of "I feel X" - I should dig even further below until I find the answer.

Surprisingly enough, this has led me to a bottom root question: "Why do I give such importance to attractive women's reactions towards me?". And then, having remembered all the above, I came to a surprise answer. A very logical answer, that I couldn't think of because my thinking was illogical:

If I approach a beautiful woman and she responds rudely towards me ... well.. THAT is NOT a reaction of a person who is realy beautiful. One that has inner beauty as well. A beautiful person will NEVER respond rudely and harshly to you, no matter if you're attractive to him or not. I know that I, personally, even if a fat and disgusting chick approached me, I'd be nice towards her.

So these girls who respond rudely are NOT good people. You saw it with my natural friend's example.

They are NOT beautiful people from the inside. So now the question I had to ask myself was:

HOW CAN I GIVE SUCH UNHAPPY, UNREAL, AND UNPRETTY PEOPLE DECIDE WHO I AM AND WHAT I'M WORTH???????????

WHO THE FUCK ARE THEY TO DECIDE IT????????????

WHY SHOULD I BE ASHAME OF WHO I AM, BECAUSE OF SUCH PEOPLE ???????

ME, SUCH A REAL, AUTHENTIC GUY, SMART, ATTRACTIVE ... AND LET ALL THIS GO DOWN THE DRAIN BECAUSE OF SUCH LOSERS??????

THEM???????????? PFFFFFFF......

And yes, you can't imagine how angry I was that I've let all these attractive women, all these years, women who may have only had OUTER attractiveness but definitely didn't have any INNER attractiveness ... how could I have let THEM tell me who I am???????

I was realy pissed off when I found this out, and I still am up until this moment.

I don't think that ANYONE has ANY RIGHT to define who you are as a person. No matter how rich, famous, attractive or social he is.

FUCK THEM, WHO THE FUCK ARE THEY?

-- leedrag0n

So .. What REALY creates ATTRACTION?

2011-01-29T06:39:00.001-08:00

I promised you in the last post, so here goes.

We all know that one of the major factors in our ability to succeed with a woman is whether or not she's actually attracted to us.

What is attraction?

What creates this attraction?

I'll answer these in this post ..

What is attraction?

Attraction is a vague word that describes an overall state of fascination , a desire of a woman to meet you , an interest of knowing more about you , a feeling of joy in your presence , etc. All these things that makes a woman go "Wow this guy is realy attractive, I want to meet him!". It's what pulls the woman into you very strongly, almost irresistible to escape, almost like a magnet.

It also goes the other way around - when a woman is NOT attracted to you, she will feel repulsed, disgusted, she won't feel any desire to talk to you, and may even feel a desire to escape your presence.

What creates the attraction?

I'm sure you've all read of all the many openers, routines, patterns, "negs" etc. that are said to create attraction, but in fact they do not. The only they create are different emotional states that work on women to get them hooked up into the conversation: emotions like curiousity, challenge, disapproval ("negs"..), etc.

Now, these are not bad things at all - when women feel those emotional states they feel an urge to act on them, so they respond and they do hook up to the conversation for a while. This works for getting their attention to you (remember the "Pickup Stages" post?) so you can then try and move on from there.

But the attraction that I talk about is something else, and in many cases the women will not even want to listen to you if you're not attractive to them. More times than not, this has to do with initial first impression level, which is a very important factor for the rest of the interaction. Things that women notice on you minutes before you even approach them.

So what do I talk about?

I'm talking about this basic formula:

ATTRACTION = LOOKS + VIBE + BEHAVIOUR

Now, let me briefly dive in and explain each of these, and why they are such a strong determinent on the overall level of "attraction" a woman feels towards you:

Element #1 of attraction = Looks

Let's put the theories aside, we all know that this is true as a matter of fact a strong determinent and first impression that will make a woman decide "Oh, this guy is attractive" or not. I'm not saying that you have to be a model or have a 6-packs ab to be attractive. this is huge misconception because looks are not as important as vibe and behaviour (and i'll get into it shortly) , but suffice to say you have to look at least decent, hygienic, clean and overall not repulsive. When you look lazy, and messed up, or repulsive you negatively impact the first impression people get when they first look at you. And in case you haven't yet realized: THE FIRST IMPRESSION THAT PEOPLE GET OF YOU, WILL DETERMINE HUGELY ON THE REST OF THEIR INTERACTION WITH YOU!!!!!!

This is because that on an unconscious level, people will look at you and make immediate first impression conclusions about you , and this will setup a "filter" through which they will look at you for the rest of the interaction. The people who do not realize how important that is, are also the people who never get results but they still live in an illusion called "Pickup Artist". Get out of that illusion and get back to reality! :-)

So we concluded that looks plays a role in generating the attraction, what exactly in looks?

A. Hygiene - Shave, have a decent haircut, and smell ok.

B. Clothes - Put on decent clothes, not geek style, but rather normal, fashionable stuff, that makes you look

as a decent human being.

Element #2 of attraction = Vibe

Vibe and Behaviour (the next section) are the two most dominant aspects of your attractiveness, and in fact while your looks may be limited to some degree on how much you can improve them, you CAN improve your vibe and behaviour all the time to show up much more attractive to women.

Vibe is the more dominant of the two, I suppose.

Now what is exactly Vibe? Vibe is the overall feeling that women get in the communication with you.

This is something that is perceived at an unconscious level by people. Just as an example - Imagine the difference between a guy who walks over slouched, with his hands closed, with a sad look on his face, mumble words and tries talking to you, compared to a guy who walks in with a straight posture, arms wide, smiles to you and talks clearly with you? Even you, as a guy, could feel a huge difference between how you feel and perceive these two guys differently. With women, this plays an even stronger role, since women are very strongly led by how they feel, so the vibe you create plays a very very important role here!

What elements play a role in Vibe exactly?

I'll lay out the elements here, and how I believe they are perceived not only by women but others in general.

Feel free to tell me whether I'm right or wrong:

A. Posture - Very important, how you hold yourself. Do you hold yourself straight (confident) or slouched (fearful/shy)?

B. Speed of movements - Do you move your body fast (nervous), or slow (relaxed)?

C. Pace of speech - Do you talk fast (nervous/pressured), or slow (relaxed, at ease)?

D. Facial expressions - Do you smile too much (feminine, seeking approval), or you have a sealed expression (masculine, don't care about approval)? And do you know how to balance those two?

E. Tonality - Very important! Do you have a strong and clean voice (confident, secured) or a weak, unheard voice (shy/fearful)?

F. Eye contact - Very important! Do you break eye contact while talking (insecured, shy) or do you maintain eye contact (confident, attractive)?

G. Body movements - Do you move your hands and your overall body too much (wierd, hard to follow) or do you maintain a fixed position while talking (understood, pleasant to follow)?

As you can see, I've only made a list of few of the most important aspects of vibe here. How much do you think these things can affect your attractiveness? How much do you think they can be improved?

Now let me talk here about a huge misconception that is being taught to guys, and fucks them up big time.

The misconception i'm talking about is the one that says: "fix your internal state, and all of these outer elements will be fixed as well". This is just not true, it's only HALF TRUE, And i'll explain:

Yes, it is going to be true if your state is very strong, so strong in fact to the point that it takes over your entire physiology. We know that state affects physiology since the mind and body are interconnected. But for the most part: A. We are not in very high states in our normal day to day lives. and B. Most of the "inner game" stuff is about releasing yourself so you can allow your "true self" to come out more naturally. But what exactly is this "true self"? Is it a "self" that is attractive to women? Are your normal habitual ways of communicating, that an inner peace lets out easily, are attractive?

You can't know if you don't see it for yourself!

When we are in a neutral and relaxed state, what comes out in our communication are our habitual ways of communicating with people. And those are all the things that are written above.

How can you fix those? The answer: by rehearsing!

USE A CAMERA AND A RECORDER, AND REHEARSE, REHEARSE & REHEARSE!

That's right!

Anything you rehearse you eventually become a habit that you do automatically without thought.

Consider the following metaphor - Imagine you're going into a battle zone, and someone hands you a gun. Won't you want to first check it to see that it actually works? To see that it has ammo? To see that it has the ability to work? Well, in a sense - so many guys are just going out to the field without checking how they look, what they project, and how they communicate with others! These guys will then tell you things like "I've tried so many things, and NOTHING WORKED! This entire community sucks! None of the techniques work!" , well DUH .. on the other side of the scale, you've probably met guys that didn't use any techniques, any routines, and girls just seemed to be flowing all over them. You will then call these guys "naturals" or "they have natural charm", etc ... THIS IS ALL BULLSHIT, AND ALL BASED ON FALSE MISCONCEPTIONS!

It all comes down to your habitual ways of communicating. And you can definitely improve those!

Realy ponder this for a while..

Element #3 of attraction = Behaviour

Well, so far we talked about Looks & Vibe. Vibe is a huge aspect of attractiveness, perhaps the most dominant one, and when you'll fix it, you'll begin to notice women everywhere looking at you, giving IOIs, even to the point where women will start approaching you! (this may sound unreal, but i'm not kidding at all! and you've surely heard of guys like that ...).

These are all things that are perceived at an unconscious, non verbal level, even before you open your mouth and start talking to them. This is the first impression stuff. It's realy powerful.

The last element of attractiveness, is behaviour. Behaviour can definitely affect the attraction level others have towards us. Think about some woman who is trying to push your forcefully into a relationship that you are not interested in, or who keeps accusing you of stuff all the time. How will you feel towards her? Not so great, right?

This is exactly where the way we bahave affects the way others perceive and feel towards us.

Behaviour is something that is being reflected by our actions and most importantly - our attitude.

Attractive behaviour comes from an attitude of independence, acceptance, and releasing expectations from others. Unattractive (or repulsive) behaviour is one of dependency (neediness), trying to push your opinion on others, and looking to get guarantees from others. Attractive behaviour makes people more attracted to you, Unattractive behaviour pushes people away from you.

What elements play a role in Behaviour?

A. Dependent (Unattractive) -vs- Independent (Attractive)

B. Inflicting yourself on others (Unattractive) -vs- Giving others their freedom (Attractive)

C. Seeking Approval (Unattractive) -vs- Don't need approval from others (Attractive)

D. Criticising others (Unattractive) -vs- Accepting others as they are (Attractive)

E. Unauthentic, or not real, liar (Unattractive) -vs- Authentic, or real, true (Attractive)

Those are the big 5 elements of behaviour that can affect how attractive you are.

How to fix these?

Well, now we go back to what all the "Inner game" stuff talks about - your internal state of mind.

Behaviour is mostly affected by how you feel inside, your internal state. This is what mostly affect the way you behave with people. This is what will determine whether you'll be dependent & pushy, or accepting and at ease, whether you'll be authentic, or unauthentic, whether you'll seek approval or walk through the world loyal to yourself.

FIXING YOUR STATE OF MIND - WILL FIX YOUR BEHAVIOUR TO WOMEN!

This has alot to do with your beliefs & attitudes, your world views and how you perceive women. I'm not going to discuss this any further in here.

Conslusion:

So, we conclude this post by saying that Attraction = Looks + Vibe + Behaviour.

Vibe is about your habitual ways of communicating with others, and Behaviour is about how you feel inside yourself about the idea of interacting and meeting women, and how you feel towards yourself.

In the next post, I'll bring some good tips on how to improve your tonality, which is a very important aspect of the Vibe. Feel free to leave your comments on this post!

Until next time, peace..

-- leedrag0n

Are you "excusing" yourself?

2011-01-14T00:04:00.000-08:00

What's up guys?

Starting this month, I'm going to start to break misleading myths there are about women.

And in this post, we're going to once and for ever break the huge misconception of what it is to "excuse" yourself when you approach a woman, vs being polite.

So.. are you *realy* excusing yourself when you approach a woman?

One of the biggest themes of arguments among guys in the community is whether or not you are "excusing yourself" when you approach a woman. The problem is, that almost like 99.9% of the materials in the community, this subject has neven been thoroughly discussed in details using real world evidence or by realy serious guys who have studied communications and/or had enough experience to be able to pinpoint down as to exactly what it is to be "excusing" yourself when approaching and what is not.

What this leads to?

Guys approaching women in a complete inpolite way, breaking into their personal space without any second thought, acting like complete assholes and then wondering why they never score. Well, at least they believe in the illusion that they "not excusing" themselves and thus are "more attractive", where in fact they are just being inpolite assholes.

So .. let's talk about FACTS first!

OK guys, basic first fact about communication is that the words what you say impact only 7% of the message received by the other person. The rest 93% of your message comes from your body language, your eye contact, your tonality, facial expression and the way you hold and move yourself. Don't argue with me on this guys, because this has been proven by people who have studied this subject way more than either of us did.

What does this imply then?

Well, it implies that your words mean nothing. It's how you say them that makes the whole difference.

But it's not even how you say them - It's the intention that stands behind them, that is conveyed through your behaviour. This is what truely makes the difference between "excusing yourself" and not.

How so ?

Well like I said, people can understand your intention from your non-verbal communications - the way you behave, the way you move, the way you hold yourself up and talk.

Now listen to this, because this is CRUCIAL and if you'll get this, SO MUCH will clear up for you:

If you are approaching a woman and you are standing near her, waiting for the perfect moment to talk, hesitating about your approach - This is called "excusing" yourself. You are waiting for an excuse to start talking to her. People get this message unconsciously much more powerfully even before you open your mouth. This is the conveyed message: You see the woman, she saw that you saw her, and you are hesitating. It DOESN'T MATTER WHAT YOU SAY AFTERWARDS, you already conveyed the message. She already received it. You didn't even get to say one word. THIS IS HOW COMMUNICATION BETWEEN PEOPLE REALY HAPPEND IN THE REAL WORLD!

Your communication with another person starts before you even open your mouth !!

EXAMPLES OF "EXCUSING" YOURSELF AND BEING POLITE:

Case A: Guy see's a girl, she saw that he saw her, guy approaches girl directly and starts the conversation in a polite way. "Hi, Forgive me for interrupt you guys, but I just had to say I saw you and I thought you're realy cute and I had to come and say Hi." and waits for girl to reciprocate and then continues.

Case B: Guy see's a girl, she saw that he saw her, guy waits and continues to talk with his friends to act "disinterested" so she doesn't get "bitchy". After a couple minutes he walks over to her area, but is still not looking at her, and he is placing himself near her so he can start a "casual" conversation so he doesn't come off as "excusing" himself. (But he already did by his behaviour and intention!) Guy then starts casual convo with girl.

What's the difference between the two cases?

In Case A - The guy was definitely not excusing himself by his behaviour and attitude, and the girl (and everyone else) can get this message very powerfully through the non-verbal communications. He was polite, though, accepting the fact that she may be busy and acknowleding into her comfort space. The perfect approach!

Case B - The guy was excusing himself through his behaviour and attitude, and the girl (and everyone else) gets this message very powerfully as well. Because the girl knows the guy saw her and is interested, but he creating an "excuse" to start talking with her, rather than going for it. The guy's approach was ok verbally, but it still doesn't matter.

Conclusion:

There is nothing wrong about being polite with women. A woman will not think "Oh this guy is not attractive" because you are being polite as you start talking to her. Attraction has nothing to do about your words anyway (More on this in the next post..) and in many times its already there before you even open your mouth.

Being polite and learning how to be polite with people and express yourself with manners and empathy with others can, however, allow you to approach and meet women in situations that up until now you thought were impossible for you.

Realy grasp this.

-- leedrag0n

Un-learn everything you've learned!

2011-01-02T17:11:00.000-08:00

OK,

So this is my first blog post for the new year 2011.

It's 3:12AM in the morning as I'm writing this post, and well.. since I haven't written here for like a month or so it would be best if i can get you up to speed with what I've been doing recently..

Part 1: Going for women that I most desire

Recently I started approaching and going only for women that I most desire - that are realy attractive to me, that I don't find so often, and that I don't run into them so frequently.

When you start gaming women that you most desire, you have to forget about all the PU "rules". They don't work in this league. And further even, they will produce alot more damage than benefit to you.

How come?

Because alot of the PU rules are about "nexting" girls that don't go along with the flow. Alot of them are about teasing and being playful with girls (which may not work on some girls..), or about things like GFTOW (Go-Fuck-Ten-Other-Women) and setting up the lead, or setting the tone and if the girl doesn't follow then you should "next" her and move to the next girl..

These rules don't work when you game women that you realy want. Why?

Because let's assume you approached a girl who is realy attractive to you, and she's showing interest back. You want to get a result here. And when you see that being an asshole who tries to take the lead (that doesn't work well on some women..) or that you try to be a tease (that doesn't work on some women..) or that you try to go and "close the deal" as soon as possible (that doesn't work on some women..) you get into a conclusion that it takes more flexibility here, and that's a whole new level of gaming. You want to get to this level, because you're approaching women you most desire in order to get results. Duh!

Part 2 - No more rules

One example of such a flexibility, is the whole notion of "trying to close the deal as soon as possible".

Most of the "PU" methods are based on building a structure that will lead you from approach-to-lay and if the girl doesn't fit in, you "next" her.

Some girls just don't feel ready yet to close the deal, and if you don't want to just "next" them (which I certainly don't) then you need to be more flexible and sometimes you have to give up on the idea of trying to close them as soon as possible. give them more time.

Some girls need to open up and feel comfortable with you before they move any further.

Do not forget - when you're into cold-approaching game, even though some girls will find you attractive, they still don't know you well enough, and this may play an issue for some of them, and trying to push them to a quick close will just freak them out and draw them away from you and You don't want this to happend, especially if it's a girl you realy want.

When you are gaming a realy attractive women of your choice, you want a result.

You want to be safer and neutral, and that's perfectly fine. I believe that if a girl is realy attracted to you (and attraction is way different than what they teach in the community, and I may enhance about it in another post..) then you asking her if it's ok to take her phone number will not, in anyway, reduce her attraction to you. That's probably one of the stupidest ideas I ever heard of!

So forget about these stupid rules of "Tell her what to do, don't ask for permission" type of crap out there, because that is realy bullshit and has nothing to do with attraction. It's even perfectly fine to let her take the lead at some point too. Actually, in any natural interaction between two people, the lead always replaces sides.

Part 3 - Be completely focused on the other person

You're in this game to get results with women you desire.

When you realy want to get a result, you're going to play it safer and make less mistakes. This is obvious.

How can you know what to do?

Well the answer is important here: You have to realy show genuine interest in the other person.

And this is not only for the sake of getting liked, but it's also, and more important - to get an understanding of the other person (girl) world. Find out what he likes, what motivates him, what drives him. This does not only creates a connection between people, but it also gives you the real information you need to know about how to create a connection with her, trust, and maybe later to even have sex with her!

And you cant EVER do it if you're in the "asshole" mode of not listening and always commanding.

I'll say that again: You can't know anything about the other person if you're into "asshole" mode.

People love to answer questions, this creates connection, and this provides you with information that let's you know what should be done next.

Part 4 - Flexibility

You need flexibility with women that you most desire because you want them. Duh.

It's like when you're aiming at getting accepted into a realy high class company - You want it, they may like you, but they could have demands too. If you want to get accepted, you may have to lower your ego and get ready to give up on a few points too, no?

Same goes with women.

When you're gaming the women you realy want, all the rules collapse, and you'll do better if you just play it safer, ask the other person questions, show genuine interest, work on creating a connection, and forgetting about the need to close it right now.

-- leedrag0n

Happy new year all!

2011-01-01T15:37:00.000-08:00

Hey all!

The new year has just started, and I already have a couple of realy good stuff coming up in the next following weeks.

I know I haven't written here in a long time, but believe me when I say that I have alot of stuff to share pretty soon that is going to BLOW YOUR MIND!

So stay tuned, it will be worth it.

-- leedrag0n

Knowing the "right" thing to do..

2010-10-03T06:06:00.001-07:00

Sometimes you meet a new woman, and she is very attractive to you so that you want her.

You begin to interact and she's with you - she shows interest back in you by asking you questions and showing understanding of YOUR world, she invests in the conversation and talks back as well, and she is receptive and smiling and flirtatious with you all the way.. and then you make some kind of a move.. maybe you suggest something and she doesn't reply back to you.. and that makes you begin to worry about whether what you did was right or wrong.. Are you familiar with this?

This is unquestionably an unpleasant feeling: feelings of doubt in yourself, worrying about the outcome, etc. It's never something pleasant!

What can you do to get rid of it?

Learn about the power of EVALUATING things on YOURSELF !

Ask yourself this:

How would YOU react & think, if a GIRL that you are "slightly" interested in, did THAT thing on you?

This will greately help you evaluate your actions and know if they are right or wrong. And If you already did something "wrong", at least you've NOW learned a new tool that will help you avoid making the same mistakes in the future.

Remember, there's never failure - you ALWAYS learn something. And even a "failure" contains a lesson in it, that will help you get even better results in the future, so you at least EARNED something new, that you didn't have before - and that will surely assist you in the future.

-- leedrag0n

Socializing and Approaching II

2010-09-23T04:39:00.000-07:00

This is a refresher for an old post of mine back from 2008.

I'd like to begin this post by shredding a few "myths" about pickup & influence first.

Alot of people focus too much on perfecting their game, and I think it's an absord! Why?

Because if you'll just open your eyes and LOOK around you at the guys who are getting results with women, you won't find anything "superior" or special in MOST of them that you don't have - they may be uglier than you, more insecured than you, less focused than you, more BORING than you, etc. And yet - THEY still GET results, while you don't!

I think this principle applies not only to women but life in general - the most successful people in their area, are NOT ALWAYS the best in their area!

In the end.. it all comes down to how well you promote yourself.

Think about it for a second.
It is highly probable that there are ALOT of women out there, right now, who REALY WANT to meet someone - even if they have a "boyfriend" already! (Who said that she is pleased with him?)

Now.. as you sit there at home trying to "perfect" your "skills", nobody even knows you exist!
And the only thing these girls actually know of.. are the guys who approach them and introduce themselves to them!!

You may think it's NOT FAIR that all these lousy guys are the only thing women know of and fuck with.. you may also think that it's not fair that alot of realy talented and gifted people in this world never get a chance.. but that's just the way LIFE is - the people who push themselves into other people's realities and are NOT AFRAID to show what they've got and are actually trying to get others interested in them = are the ones who GETS results. The others.. never get their chance for obvious reasons!

Now, let's get off the "fair/unfair" ethical discussion and talk about facts for a second.

It is a FACT that you can take a SHITTY product, promote it very well to ENOUGH people, and you WILL get buyers! In fact, the most succeeding products are also the ones that are being promoted the most!

In every area of life this is true, whether you are aware of it or not, it is simply a rule of thumb whenever it comes to sales and promoting something: The more people are exposed and become aware of a certain product or idea = the more people take it or buy it!

It just makes sense, doesn't it?
But in order to clarify my point, I'll bring you now.. what I think is the perfect example of what I mean: Windows -vs- Linux

So.. I'm a programmer and I've been using Windows for years. I heard about Linux before and even saw it many many years ago at an old friend of mine, but back at the time it seemed so difficult and hard to learn and too complicated for me.. so I prefered to stay with Windows.

Now, Windows is probably the most popular operating system in the world, and for me personally it has always been quite a default option. I had no idea that Linux exists in a graphical user-interface form (Windows' style desktop), that it is easy to install, and that it is easy to use as well. Take note of this, this is crucial - I had NO IDEA it existed!!!!!!!!

The idea of Linux wasn't even in my AWARENESS at all.. until one day.. I visited a friend of mine, and I saw his brother, who is a programmer as well, using this flashy, fast, and very well organized desktop operating system on his computer that did not look familiar to me.. At a first glance I thought it was Macintosh with MacOSX (Guess why? Maybe because Apple's MacOSX is the second most well promoted operating system in the industry after Windows??) .. so being realy curious I asked my friend's brother what is that .. and he said: It's LINUX!

At first I was quite in a shock.. because it looked way different from how i imagined Linux to be.. but then it realy got me interested and intrigued, and it got my attention so strongly that I have began asking him questions about it, and the more he revealed me his answers the more the idea of installing this system on my home computer became real.. but it was only after he told me the following two sentences that I was totally convinced that I should try it: 1. You can download the operating system for FREE , 2. You can TRY IT before you install it, directly from the CD!

Can you imagine to yourself.. such a superb operating system for FREE ??

So anyways.. I decided to download the CD and try it for myself.. and after that first time I tried it - I simply fell in love with it! (Literally) And I felt like such a moron for never knowing that it existed, and using crappy Windows instead ..

.........

Now that may have been a nice story, but it has a POINT.

I think that this was probably the perfect example to show that It's not always the BEST who brings the fruit - but the ONE who PROMOTES HIMSELF the most!!!!

Now.. think about the implications of this story on your sex life..

I mean.. you could be HUNDRED TIMES better than alot of your "competitors" out there in almost EVERY aspect! And.. it could be that you are the ideal guy for MANY women.. and yet.. THESE WOMEN DON'T EVEN KNOW YOU EXIST!

Think about it..

And BTW This is true for ANYTHING you want to sell or promote - you can have the most amazing, unbelievable piece of innovation the world has ever seen .. but if it keeps sitting at home and no one knows about it - you will NEVER = NEVER EVER GET ANY BUYERS!!!!!!!!

NEVER!

Now.. after all of the ideas that I just presented to you here, and since this post is coming to an end soon.. i'll use this opportunity to explain to you the "mechanics" of how to use everything you learned in this post to your advantage:

First, realize that when you approach a new girl - she knows NOTHING about you, NOTHING about your qualities, NOTHING about how much you could benefit her life - NOTHING AT ALL! You don't even exist in her world and all she knows of is just your physical appearance, your looks, the vibe you project, and the way you talk. THAT'S IT!

Even if she rejects you right off the bat, it still doesnt change the fact that she STILL knows NOTHING about you!! She has no ideas, yet, in her mind about you.. NOTHING!! Her reality just stayed the same as it was before you even talked to her..

Now, your job is to introduce yourself, and introduce the idea of being with you. Before you do it, both you and the idea of being with you DO NOT EXIST IN HER AWARENESS, and it is only after you present the idea to her and get her become AWARE to the fact that you exist and how much she could benefit from you, that it can become something she'd like to fulfill and try for herself.

Before you establish that, she knows NOTHING at all about you!
And yes, that also means that if you are just "fluff talking" with her she STILL knows NOTHING about you!

Think about everything I wrote here..

-- leedrag0n

OIR and Success Consciousness

2010-09-09T08:27:00.000-07:00

Most of the PU material out there focuses around techniques and mindsets that will make you more successful or more attractive with women.

This is all good and fine and all these techniques and mindsets will work for you if you do them right, however some people may find that even though they know alot of techniques, alot of mindsets, and maybe they even have great game already, they still don't get results!

How could this be ?

Well, here's how I believe it happends, and you can feel free to leave me your comments about it below and let me know if you agree with this.. and BTW: Guys who are new to all PU concepts usualy don't have this problem, and you will soon understand why. This is an ADVANCED concept post.

So you see.. in order to master these tools, techniques and mindsets you have to sometimes suspend your expectation for results in order for you to try new stuff out. Thing is when you get used to NOT getting results with women for long periods of time, your unconscious mind slowly gets used to this condition, and you get so used to not getting results that you don't even expect them to happend, and therefore your behaviour, the actions you take, the decisions you make, and the things you can look for and notice, all become CONGRUENT with this condition of not having results.

What do I mean ?

I mean that when you get used to not getting results, it will be out of your map to look for attraction signs from her, for example. Your choice of behaviour and actions will be ones that will make it fail for you, because this is what must be done in order to stay congruent with this condition of "unsuccessness", so much that even if the girl will show you that she's attracted to you and she's even READY TO GO FOR IT RIGHT NOW, you won't see it or even think about taking action on it, because you already got used to something else!

And if you stay in this condition for too long, it will make you literally PARALISED on your ability to notice success and act on it!

Is this making sense?

I think that it is THIS "UNSUCCESS" CONDITION that is what TRUELY fucks up guys in the community, and I've heard it many times before that guys who decided to "quit" the scene and "forget everything" they learned - suddenly began getting results!

Is this coincidence, or is there something that people are missing in here ?

No, it just makes sense if you think about how the mind operates - beliefs and world views tend to affect behaviour, actions, decisions, thinking ways and what you can observe and notice unconsciously. I mean, if you got used to not getting results .. how can you notice that some girls actually WANT you??

If this is making sense to you, I guess that the question to be asked now is - So, how can we change this condition? Do we have to "forget everything" and let go completely?

I don't think so, and I'll explain - Many people have difficulties with controlling their thoughts and focus because they are not trained in meditation or never have been. Those kind of people are the obsessive thinkers, and because they CAN'T control their thinking - THEY MUST forget about all the "material" they learned and they actually MUST go and completely change their habits and the things they do on a regular basis so they could distract their mind from this obsessive thinking. This is what actually "works" for them to help them get over the "failing thinking" or "analytical thinking" that the community has forced them to start apply, and this is the only thing that realy "works" to get their mind blank and ready to ingrain new and more useful thinking ways.

However, if you are trained in meditation and focus that means that you can control your thoughts deliberately, and therefore you don't have "obsessive thinking" of any sort and you can always just re-train your mind to think in new ways.

So what you realy have to do in order to get over this condition is two things:

1. Start training your mind in visualizing success! Yep, it's that simple!

2. Change old "failure" scenarios into "success" scenarios - Just remember an old approach that didn't go anywhere, and literally rewrite it with different things you do so that it will become a success.

Now when I'm saying visualize a success - I mean visualize a scenario of you approaching the girl and she's receptive and responsive and with her you get it all the way into the bedroom and have sex. You can even refer to my last post of "how to visualize" in order to do it properly.

Do this, and you won't believe the stuff you get in return from life.

-- leedrag0n

A word about Flexibility ..

2010-09-05T09:11:00.001-07:00

Every human being is a different person, that enjoys different things, flows with different things, and responds to different things.

Alot of advices that are given about success with women, are usually in one or another of the forms of "If you do this, she'll responds that..", or "If you use this structure, then..", etc.

This is the kind of thinking that we, as men, are champions at - serial thinking. Given any goal or outcome, we will be able to create steps to achieve it - and if you'll follow all the steps exactly in the order they are written, you'll get that goal ..

It is our blessing on one side, but also our curse on the other - because this kind of thinking is NOT USEFUL for success with women!

Why?

Because women are random - every woman is a different person that responds differently to different things. Some women will respond very good to displays of honesty and vulnerability and "sharing your thoughts" with them, while other women will not give a damn shit about it, but will instead responds VERY GOOD to displays of dominance and aggression and not giving a fuck.. other women will not respond to dominance and aggression good at all, because they feel that they want to share their thoughts with someone, and will respond very good to you just shutting your mouth and listening to them.. Some women are smart-asses and like to tease and flirt, and they will respond very strongly to being a tease and flirtatious with them .. and so on .. you get it?

This is exactly the reason why you have to develope a sense of flexibility in your game, if you REALY want to increase your game and success rates.

Now, when I'm talking about flexibility, listen: I am NOT talking about giving up your will just to please and satisfy a woman. That is NOT flexibility, that is being a pussy - and it is a big turn off for almost every woman out there!

What I'm talking about is stay strong with your will to get a result with her, but at the same time having a versatile set of choices for behaviours, vibes, and themes that you can switch between them, while at the same time staying completely focused on her so you could notice how she responds to each, paying attention to what will trigger the strongest responses in her!

This is a realy crucial, even core level understanding - because in the end what really matters in your communication with her is the responses that you get from her - is she turned on? is she turned off? does she feel connected? does she feel fascinated? aroused? etc..

Because her responses are the indicators for you to know whether you're going on track or off track, and if she's giving you strong and powerful responses that means that you're on the right track, and that probably she's ready!

Remember, there is no failure - only feedback, and you are constantly getting feedback all the time about what works and what doesn't work.

Is this making sense?

-- leedrag0n

Outcome oriented -VS- Outcome targeted

2010-08-21T09:42:00.000-07:00

Hey all!

I hope you'll like this post, as these are thoughts that have been running in my head lately and I realized I have to write them down in order to organize them.

So: Outcome orientation -vs- Outcome targeted.

What's your outcome ?

First of all, I think that knowing what is your desired outcome from every interaction with a woman is an incredibly important determinent for your entire game. I have written an old post on this subject when I first opened my blog.

Let's talk sales for a bit.

FACT is, that most sales people you'll ever meet on a regular daily basis are pretty shitty sales people. They have no real influence skills at all - but you could see in their eyes that they have an outcome in their mind and they direct all their will to get that outcome with you.

Another FACT is that most guys that get results with women don't have any kind of "superior" game or "alpha male" type game or even natural game. These are all MYTHS. The reality is, that these guys are probably just more outcome directed than you are, they know what they want and they go and try and get it with their currently available resources.

Ask any woman out there what is she looking for in a guy, and MOST of them will probably say something like: A guy who knows what he wants. Think about that.

And now, recall some hot girl you approached recently.
Now imagine how different your entire interaction with her could have been have you had set an outcome with her. ANY outcome. Do you notice how profoundly different it is?

Are you Outcome Oriented, or Outcome Targeted ?

Now after you realized how important setting an outcome is, let's discuss a little bit the difference between outcome "orientation" to being outcome "targeted" and try to answer the question that I've presented here.

Most guys have been taught through either massive social programming coming from almost any media: TV, movies, music .. or by some wierd and amateur gaming "gurus" out there that I won't mention their names here, that you they are the ones who needs to invest and put efforts if they want to get into a woman's heart and pants.

In this game, I don't think that women should get rewards or "free gifts" without giving anything back in return. In fact, any good negotiator or persuader is never going to give away something without getting something back in return. This just makes sense. However, the media is bombarding us with ideas that contradict this.

You set the frame with the woman you interact with right at the beginning of the interaction. If you're going to present a "giver" frame - I.e, you are the only one who supplies the entertainment, you're the only one that invests, she's the one that screens you and you have to live up to her expectations - she will get used to live by that frame, and this will profoundly affect the rest of your interaction with her. She invested nothing in the interaction - so she has no problem to just walk off at any given moment without giving you nothing back in return. It won't feel like a loss for her - after all, she didn't put any efforts! You've set a frame where you're the one trying to please her, not vice versa .. so why should she please you when you get in bed with her? It's incongruent with the frame you presented!

So setting up the right frame, among with knowing what your outcome, is realy crucial here!
But now there's a paradox: How can one set a strong willed outcome with a woman, without turning into a beggar or a free giver?

I'd like to give the following metaphor as my way to answer that question: Think about going to find a house to rent. When you go out trying to find a house to live in, say in rent - YES You are going to put some efforts, no doubt on that. You'll have to make a list of houses, and then you'll have to call them and set appointments and go and meet their house owners. When you do get there, you are going to first take a look at the house and see if it even makes you feel like a house you'd want to live in. If that fails, you have nothing more to do there, just move on. If it does, you will then try and talk a little bit with the house owner and see if he's a person you'd want to sign a contract with. Now, there could be situations where you will like the house, but not the house owner, and even if that does happend - you will most likely disagree to live up to some wierd and unacceptable expectations from the house owner. What if he tells you that you must deposit $50,000 before hand if you want the house, or sign a 30 pages contract that is completely against you? You'll most likely say NO THANKS and move on. There are enough houses to see! However, if both the house and the owner seems to be what you're looking for, then and only then will you start and try to get the house owner interested in taking you as his renter, and when you both sit and start to talk about the contract - there may be some places where you will disagree with some of the house owner's demands and try to change them. That is negotiation. Maybe if you have some influence skills, you will be able to influence the house owner to even give you a DISCOUNT by convincing him that his house is not as expensive as he thinks, and end up taking an amazing duplex house while paying a price that is lower than what the rest of the market pay leaving your house owner happy and satisfied from the choice he made thinking he did the right choice. That is persuasion.

I think this is a good metaphor about setting up a strong will and outcome - while remaining true to your values, your standards, YOUR expectations, and even getting some side "bonuses" for yourself.

This is what I define as being "outcome targeted".

As an analogy, when you think about some girl you realy want - same as in going to find a house: Yes when you see an attractive house you will probably have your outcome automatically set to "live in this house", but you won't do EVERYTHING just to live there. if the demands are unacceptable to you, you'll just say NO!

And another fine analogy is: whenever you go to see a house, your parents will always advice you to not show too much interest right off the start. Why do you think this advice is so solid whenever you go to buy a house? It's OK to show some interest, but if you show too much interest - the house owner will pick that up and as a result he will demand more money from you and/or put more high demands from you for this house. If you show some interest, but don't get overly excited, then the house owner, who is willing to sell the house, and will probably have no problem compensating for a lower price, won't try to raise the price because he thinks you are an "easy customer" who will do anything to get his house!

Think about that!

Outcome targeted means being a negotiator, or a persuader. And I think that is a crucially important mindset to have with women, because with all the respect .. georgeous and beautiful as that woman might be ... if she doesn't have the right personality - you can't do anything with that beauty!

So in order to set up the frame the right way:

Show some interest - but not too much so they don't get too excited about themselves, and immediately do anything you can to setup the frame that you're screening them for compatibility before you even get to the negotiation stage.

-- leedrag0n

How to Visualize

2010-07-26T13:34:00.001-07:00

Hey guys!

In today's post I'm glad and happy to share with you my wisdom and experience with Visualization - the one, probably the only, and definitely the most powerful programming skill there is.

I've heard of, over the years, many people who have failed to utilize this amazing tool for themselves, whether it was because of lack of knowledge on how to do it properly and the setups required, or whether it was simply because of lack of belief that it can actually work for them.

If you are regulars on my blog you have the luck and honor to be the only people who will get the following tips and knowledge, which are based on my 5 years experience using visualization for my own self developement. I don't like to brag, but when I compare my own self developement to other people, then I know for sure that it is because of my visualization skills that I am where I'm at.

There are too many articles on the internet on visualizing that I'm gonna bet my balls that their authors have 0% experience using them, and they just copied some ideas they heard from someone else.

I'm going to tell you here what realy works to make your visualizations powerful and real as much as possible, based on my experience, so give this a go.
This is probably going to be the most important post you'll ever read by someone.

Does Visualization realy work ?

YES.
Everybody uses visualization in some areas of their lives, whether they are aware of it or not.

Many people unconsciously create vividly imagined scenarios in their mind whenever they come to block themselves from doing something that scares them. They begin to imagine how it'll look, how it'll sound, and how it'll feel, and they do it so vividly that the imagined scenario feels just as real as if it already happend. Those people will then come to me and tell me "I can't visualize" which makes me literally laugh my ass off.

Visualization works simply because the mind cannot tell the difference between a real experience and a vividly imagined one. So if you can vividly imagine or remember a very pleasant experience, you will literally live that experience as if it was as real as a real experience, and you'll feel all the emotional states associated with it as if they were happening for real. YES, this is powerful! This means that you can feel successful and confident even today!

Pay close attention, though, to my languaging. I said "a vividly imagined experience", which means a full experience, with colors, details and sound.

If you haven't been able, up until now, to use visualization deliberately and intentionally to design the future you want for yourself, then the next part of this post may solve that problem for you once and for all.

KEYS TO POWERFUL & SUCCESSFUL VISUALIZATIONS:

1. Your state of mind - When you come to do the visualization is of super importance. You should do your visualizations when your mind is quiet and relaxed, your body is relaxed and released, and you are surrounded with silence. Anything that is relaxed, quiet, and clean. I recommend you get practiced at daily meditation to quiet and relax your mind, and then do the visualizations after your meditation.

2. Remove distractions - Close TV, close music, and close your room door as well if needed.

3. Allow as much time as needed to perform the visualization - Alot of people try to do the visualizations too quick. Whether its because of lack of patience, or lack of understanding just how delicate and gentle the mental work they are about to do realy is, or simply laziness and trying to imagine just the "end result", instead of the entire story that led to it, and then they wonder why it's not working for them. This is usually done because of time constraints. So, If you have a time constraint or you're just too anxious to finish your visualization asap, DO NOT VISUALIZE AT ALL! Go do something else, because you're obviously not taking it seriously, when you should. If you realy want your visualizations to work, Give as much time as needed. You are doing very sensitive and yet VERY POWERFUL work on your mind and subconscious here man, so give it as much time as it needs. Relax ,take as long as you need to remember everything you can as lively and as vividly as possible. When you take the time to visualize you can enter the visualized "world" much more deeply and strongly than you could in just a 3 minutes attempt. a 30 minutes "one experience" visualization is much more powerful than 5 times a "3 minute" scenario. This is KEY.

4. Visualize from an ASSOCIATED point of view - I'm not going to explain whats the difference between associated and dissociated here. Search Google for an explanation on this. This is another very important KEY. Associated imagery brings back all the emotions, resources, beliefs and attitudes, Dissociated does not.

How will I know if my Visualization worked?

You will FEEL it, dummy. And very powerfully too!
A successful visualization ends up with you feeling as if what you just imaged has actually happend for real, and this is a sign that you did it right.

You will immediately feel the effects of the visualization on your perception of reality, on the way you feel, your confidence, your attitude, your actions and behaviour. Everything will be immediately affected by it.

A successul Visualization will also affect your world in levels I don't realy want to get into in this post, because they are far beyond my understanding as well, but you may begin to experience wierd events in your life that are somehow "related" (or: "resonating") with your visualization, the right people will show up at the right times, you will be intuitively "redirected" to the right books .. you may suddenly have life-breaking realizations you never thought about before .. some realy crazy shit I'm telling you !!

This is based on my real experience with it, and based on many other's experiences as well.

Just follow the tips I layed in this post, and you will soon realize just how powerful visualization realy is.

And as a final note to close this post:
Use this knowledge at your own risk, it is very powerful.

-- leedrag0n

P.S: If I got you curious about the "realm of experience" that could not be understood and want to know more about this, as well as hear explanations by quantum physicists, you might want to check the movies "The Secret" and "What The Bleep Do We Know - Down The Rabbit Hole", I'm warning: These movies will blow your mind away, don't say I didn't warn you! :-)

Anchors (real experience!)

2010-07-19T12:52:00.000-07:00

Hey guys !

In today's post I'm going to talk once again about anchors, and more specific about self created anchors - like the ones I explained in details in my State Design - Anchors Part 1 post from May.

What I want to share today is a real experience that I've had that will demonstrate just how powerful anchors are.

I think its good because in any area of life when you learn something new , or have an idea about something .. its almost always the actual exprience of that something that realy "drops the coin" in your mind about its effectiveness and makes you want to use it more.

So anyways .. a little background first:

Everytime before I go out to sarge I usually "prepare" myself with some ritual - To install the state I want to be in when I go out, bring back old memories of past successes, rehearse the things I want to work on, etc.

During the rituals I usually create anchors of the states that I go into, for instance: If I go into some sort of relaxed state (just as I explained in my State Design post) I'll anchor that state to a pressing of my left hand's thumb and index finger , or if I remember past successes and I get into a good state of confidence - I'll anchor that state to pressing my right hand's thumb and index finger, if I laugh (laughter) I'll anchor that to other fingers, etc ..

What happends is that I end my rituals and I go out to sarge (with the state I designed, of course) but I also end it with a stack of anchors on both my hands that I barely use (because I get myself into such a good state that I don't need it).

Anyways .. I took a few days off sarging - that means I have NOT done any ritual for the last 2 or 3 days .. and today I went to do an evening "sports" walk for about an hour.

During my walk a couple (guy and girl) came infront of me, and the girl was good looking and she looked at me, and as she did the guy did to. Now for some reason it brought up a realy unpleasant state .. that I later realized that returned everytime I saw a hot girl passing near me .. this unpleasant state was .. I don't know exactly how to describe it .. tension, fear .. whatever ..

And then I remembered that I had all these stack of anchors that I created on my hand.

Now.. a very useful technique that we learned in NLP is a technique called collapsing anchors, which essentialy is about associating a positive anchor with a currently installed negative one - that causes the negative one to "collapse" -or- to become associated with the good one.

So what I began to do is I began to pay attention to whenever the unpleasant state was coming, and as it was just beginning to arise - I immediately fired off one of my "positive anchors" that I've had in my right hand.

And guess what? After doing that for like 2 or 3 times I just tested it - I passed near a hottie, looked at her, and was paying attention to my state.. and I was relaxed and the old feeling has gone!

So far so good .. but I didn't stop there. At some part of my walk I happend to notice a plastic ball just laying on the street .. and if you guys know me personally you'd know that I just love football .. and whenever I get an opportunity to play football I get into a realy fun state. So I took that ball and started to play with it .. and as I realized I'm beginning to feel all fun and excited ... guess what I did? I ANCHORED IT to a new fingers combination on my left hand!!

So now I had created, on the fly, a new anchor. So now I had both the positive one from before on my right hand, and the new one now on my left hand.

I kept using both anchors whenever I even sensed just a little slight change in my state .. and to keep long story short - I reached a point that I went across a bus station filled with hotties .. and I was just so relaxed, so outwardly focused, so at ease .. that I could actually observe everything about them and talk to them freely without feeling a thing.

Now this completely blew my mind up - I was able to completely change and redesign my state, on the fly, without any ritual and without doing any mental work at all - it was all 100% pure anchors work!

The last 15 minutes of my walk I was just relaxed, focused, and at ease and I didn't have to do anything more - the new state has been completely replaced now .. and before I was about to return to my home ... I was thinking about what I just did here ... and it was an amazing realization to me - because I didn't do any ritual today, I just walked out the house "as is" ... the only thing I had with me ... was my anchors ..

Just think about the endless possibilities that can open up to you when you use this ..

-- leedrag0n

Interesting topics coming up soon!

2010-07-04T10:30:00.000-07:00

Hey guys !

I'm working on a few realy interesting topics for discussion and presentation, and they will be up and ready when I finish working them .. as I also am less sitting near the computer as of lately.

In the meanwhile, here's something cool to kinda break the ice and the atmosphere.

Enjoy ;)

-- leedrag0n

Back from russia!

2010-06-22T02:26:00.000-07:00

Hey guys!

I know I haven't written in the blog for a couple of weeks.
That's because I was in a trip to russia with my father for 2-weeks.

I'm going to get more stuff soon on the blog as I'm working on a couple of more videos on pretty interesting topics too, some of which I tried even in Russia!

Stay tuned, will keep you informed.

If anyone want to know things about Russia, feel free to ask here.

-- leedrag0n

Rapport, Friendship, Pacing & Leading

2010-05-31T09:33:00.000-07:00

Hey guys!

So .. as I promised, here's the long awaited fourth video clip, discussing the interesting topic of rapport & chemistry, friendship, pacing & leading - and why it is one of the most important skills there are for success with women, and people in general.

Because of the length of the clip (17 minutes) it will be divided into two parts. The first (top) video box is the second part, and the second (bottom) video box is the first part, so you should start by watching the bottom video box first!

This is also combined with an OpenOffice Impress presentation, I realy put some efforts in producing this so I hope you will enjoy it. And again, feel free to leave me your comments !

-- leedrag0n

State Design - Anchors (Part 1)

2010-05-22T15:54:00.001-07:00

Hey guys!

As I promised.. here is the third video clip that I recorded and decided to load to the blog.

I've had a hard time deciding what subject should I choose to record a video on .. and after some debates with myself.. I chose to record the first clip (out of several that will follow) on state design and control .. a niche that is highly crucial for your success with women, because its directly related to the vibe you project, the way you behave, and the access you have to resources that may be important for your success!

Once again I remind you, feel free to pass this around!
And .. feel free to leave your comments and feedback.

-- leedrag0n

Again! Why rehearsals are SO important?

2010-05-21T04:18:00.000-07:00

Hey guys !

This is a follow-up post to the last video clip I loaded in this blog of me explaining the importance of rehearsals to your pickup success, and it is realy .. such an important issue .. that I realized if I hadn't wrote a follow-up to better explain it .. some folks may never get just how important it is .. so here I'm again ! :-)

Listen .. I know that sometimes rehearsing in your house can feel realy boring and useless .. and since rehearsing doesn't involve real women, but imagined ones .. it may sometimes feel like a waste of time .. But YOU HAVE TO DO IT !

Rehearsing is the only way to realy train your mind in new ways of responding, that will be there for you in the real life situation !

And you want to do it in your house, because when you are in your house, you are usually in a neutral and relaxed state .. that allows you to see things more clearly, think on your feet .. feel more relaxed, and your overall mind is less distracted and more open to give the right meanings and interpretations ..

On the other hand .. when you're in the field .. especially in a situation where you're about to meet a realy attractive woman .. you will not be in a neutral state. That's for sure. You are most likely to go into an altered state of consciousness .. that sometimes has a hypnotic effect on your awareness .. so much that you can't even think AT ALL .. not to mention remembering what you even wanted to practice and focus on in the first place !

So if you want to have better ways of acting, responding and meanings available to you when this happends - You must REHEARSE them in your house!

Its just more clever to practice something in a neutral state where you can actually think on your feet .. and have it there available for you when you get hypnotized and can't think , rather than trying to think about what you should do when you're hypnotized and your mind is blocked ... that just makes sense, no ? :-)

But there's actually more to it - in real life interactions (unlike MSN or FACEBOOK or any of that stuff) you usually don't have alot of time to prepare your responses, or to think clearly on the spot about the right meaning and interpretation for the situation .. or do you have time to "get yourself into the right state" .. you have to respond fast !

And whenever you need to respond quickly, you'll always use whats familiar. Why ?

Because you have habitual ways of responding, that have been ingrained through your past experiences .. and in any given moment .. where you have to act, respond, think OR make a decision very quickly .. you are more than likely to act, respond, feel, think and intellecually interpret the situation based on how you've used to be doing up until now!

Sometimes.. it's not even about responding based on what's familiar but responding based on what feels most comfortable TO YOU! Think about the following metaphor - when you go out fishing ... do you put a Pizza Slice or a Hamburger as your bait .. just because YOU like it? OF COURSE NOT! You put worms ... because that's what the fish likes !

So what I'm trying to say here is that, you sometimes have to act, respond, and interpret situations in ways that may feel a bit discomforting to adjust to .. but that will produce results for you in the long run.

Makes sense, no ?

So .. maybe there are better ways of responding ?
Maybe there are better ways to interpret and think about a situation ?
Maybe there are better meanings you can attach to the situation ?
Maybe .. just maybe .. you can even feel better in the situation ?

Just a quick example of what I mean: You approached 2 girls, and they started laughing at you. You completely ignored the fact that they stayed 2 minutes and talked to you, and instead you colored the whole thing as "shit-testing" or "attempt to take over my frame".

Here's a better way to interpret this: You could have created an anchor for their laughter, so you could have a trigger for it each time you want. They stayed 2 minutes that means that they enjoyed the interaction. Nobody stays in a place he doesn't enjoy in. And .. they were just wanting to participate in the conversation .. because your interaction with them was actually one of the more fun things that happend to them that evening.

See what I mean ?

But the thing is this - If you want to be able to see this opportunity next time, and be able to interpret it the same, and feel different, you must rehearse it !

Remember, the mind always responds based to what is most familiar !
So make the new ways of responding, acting, and thinking your new nature.

-- leedrag0n

Remembering past successes

2010-05-10T10:21:00.000-07:00

Hey guys,

I can't tell you how glad I was from the good responses received to the videos I posted in the last 2 posts, you guys gave me alot of motivation to create more exciting videos, and more are coming on the way! (The next video will talk about rapport)

In the mean while, as I'm working on the next video, I want to talk in today's post about an inner game issue that I don't think is addressed enough to guys, and it is one that can make the big difference between moving up the learning curve and continuing to go out in the field, and between completely stopping everything and feel doomed and stuck.

Why remember your past successes with women ?

Sometimes .. you go out trying to meet women .. and you just get nowhere with any of them!
It can feel somewhat discouraging at first .. but later it may translate to you beginning to self-doubt your ability to attract or even meet women ..

The reason why this happends is because your mind has an unconscious process called generalization, which is used throughout your life to help you learn new things quickly and be able to adjust to the environment quickly.

This process can also work in a different direction when you begin to experience successes !
You go out .. trying to meet women .. and then you succeed with all of them! .. or maybe you end the night with a hot-looking chick back in your place. This, then, translates to you feeling like you are a super attractive dude .. and that women everywhere are drawn to you!

This should already give you a big hint on where I'm heading with this .. ;)

Didn't guess yet ?

OK, I'll help you.. guess what?
Confidence is built upon successes !

YEP - In any area of life, when you first start ... you are likely to have very little confidence in your abilities .. that is because you haven't yet learned, from experience, that you will be successful.

But .. once you have that first success .. even if its a small one .. like taking a phone number from some hottie .. if you can reflect back to it often .. it will give you the confidence and motivation to keep going forward and moving up the learning curve !

Remember: the mind is stupid !
It will do anything you train it to do.

So when you are at those times where you just get nowhere with the ladies .. and you begin to self doubt yourself .. no matter what anyone tells you .. just stop .. take 10 deep breaths to relax and calm yourself .. and then just close your eyes .. and remember your past successes !

Do it for anywhere between 10 minutes to 20 minutes.

Remember your past successes from your own eyes .. live them again ... feel them again ... remember: your mind can't tell the difference between real and and memory ... get back to those successful situations .. and if you'll do it .. you won't believe how drastically your state, your feeling, your entire confidence, and your entire perception of yourself and whats possible for you completely shifts up !

Once you've finished .. tell yourself in a confident tonality: "I've been successful before, therefore I can do it again!".

So, how do you feel about the idea of going out and meeting women now?

Would love to hear your feedback ..

-- leedrag0n

P.S: If you realy want to, you can do what I do when I perform this ritual. On every past success I remember, when the feeling reaches to its highest peak, I create an anchor by pressing by thumb and my index finger. Then I break pattern, and remember the next success. When the feeling gets stronger this time, I anchor it again to strengthen the anchor. This is realy useful when I'm out in the field as I have a trigger to fire off the confidence feeling instantly when I need to :) Man, being an NLP Practitioner truely helps in this field I gotta tell you ..

P.P.S: Here's another realy good article I found on the net on remembering past successes, taken from the sales area, which was basically the inspiration for this post (enjoy!) :

http://leadingexample.com/blog/remember-your-past-successes/

Importance of rehearsing

2010-05-01T09:27:00.001-07:00

Hey guys,

This is the second video i'm loading here, which i have recorded just the next day from the last one.

In this video i'll discuss the importance of rehearsing, especially in your house, before you go out to meet women.

One of the biggest and fatal mistakes so many guys are doing is that they only base their improvement and practice on the field itself. THIS IS A BIG MISTAKE. First of all, because it forces you to approach ugly women you don't realy want. And second of all because most of the skills you just can't apply them in the field itself because its a too chaotic place to practice in. Just like professional basketall or football players don't use the game itself to practice.

So give this a watch, and would love to hear your comments and feedback on this one ..

-- leedrag0n

Can other people affect you negatively?

2010-04-30T07:19:00.001-07:00

Hey guys,

This is the first video that I'm uploading to my blog so feel free to leave me your comments and feedback at the end of this video.

I have decided to record it after a conversation I had with a female friend of mine, who I've noticed that is thinking in a very limiting and self-destructive way, and how I've noticed that answering her questions directly would mean I'll have to accept her own limiting and self-destructive thinking patterns, and how .. sometimes ... the people who you love the most just have destructive thinking patterns and beliefs.. that if you'll accept them they will fuck up your progress !

So .. I'll hope you'll enjoy the video, and feel free to leave me your comments ..

-- leedrag0n

Avoid desperation !

2010-03-11T15:17:00.000-08:00

This post goes out to all you guys out there !

You know .. we all have those times where we just wish we had a girl with us. Sometimes we go out of our house, and we see a hot chick hanging with a guy ... and she looks so good , so hot .. and the guy looks so happy with her ... sometimes we can talk to our friends and they tell us how happy they are with their girlfriends ... sometimes it seems like everyone around us have hot girls in their lives and we do not ... and those are the times where we feel like we want to get a hot girl into our life too !

However, you should know that Desperation is probably the worst place to go and meet women from. If you've ever heard the phrase "All the girls I want - Don't want me" , or "People want what runs from them", then I hope this post will explain it better.

You see, Desperation is terrible for the following reasons :

1. You're putting pressure on yourself - "I gotta get a girl", "I gotta make this work". This will eventually affect you both physiologically, both energetically, and both mentally. People can't think straight when they are under pressure, pressure is realy exhausting and you are more than likely to make mistakes in such a state.

2. Your state is always reflected by your physiology - In other words, how you feel is what you project, or "The mind and body are interconnected to each other and affect each other". I personally don't believe in the "fake it till you make it" theory. Your body has more than 600 muscles in it, some of which are completely out of your conscious control. Any state you feel gets reflected by your physiology. I realy can't believe anyone can control 600 muscles simultaneously at will .... at some level your fake will always be projeted ... and you realy don't want to be in this place with women .. because ...

3. Women are *very* sensitive to your vibe - This is not a bad thing at all. Its simply part of how women are wired. Women take care of babies and know how to read their vibes to know if its time to feed them or get them to sleep, and they can do the same with you. When you come from a place of desperation and pressure where your system is full of inner noise, you're simply going to project a vibe that is realy turning women off !!! (Unless you're incredibly handsome that they don't care)

Now .. those are realy only the starting symptoms for a much bigger problem that may come afterwards: You will go out to the world with alot of pressure and expectations from yourself of "I've gotta find a girl" so you will get exhausted realy quick and your mind won't be quiet. It will be difficult for you to behave in a natural way because you're so desperate to get a result, that you will either think twice before any move you do, or wait for the "perfect" moment or "the perfect answer" , that guess what? never exists .. the vibe you'll present will be an unattractive one because its not clean and filled with alot of inner noise that it will turn and scare women off you, so you will have a difficult time getting results and soon you will start feeling that the whole process of meeting women becomes realy hard ... and this becomes a cycle that will go on and on ... until at some point you'll simply feel stuck and doomed and will stop everything and give up !

Is this realy the place you want to end at ?

Im sure not, but you see .. the problem is that the attitude of being desperate to meet women is infectious among men ... sometimes it seems like men teach each other how to be desperate !

Here's a nice story to illustrate what I mean: One day I was in the mall and I happend to meet a girl who happend to be exactly my type looks wise. An 8-9 on the scale of 1-10 easily. I took her number, and called her after 2 days and we had a great conversation going and I asked her if she wanted to meet .. in the beginning she said they had plans with her sister ... and she'll let me know if it changes. End of the story she told me she's not meeting her sister, but I then couldn't meet her because I finished working realy late ... so we decided to meet another day.

I told this story to a friend of mine, and guess what was the first thing he said?

"Why didn't you meet her????? You gotta strike while the iron is hot !!!!"

Now .. this is not the first time I hear such comments from people I know. Most of the people I ever met in the seduction community have this kind of thinking in their minds. I remember that I had my MSN filled with people from the seduction community. Every single time I told them I went out to sarge, the first question they almost instinctively always asked me was: "Did you get any results?". The questions you ask reflect the way you think.

Now, as you read the above .. tell me that this is not coming from a place of "I've gotta make this work" ... "I've gotta get something out of this" etc. ?

Again, desperation is a bad place to come from and especially meet women from.
The best place to come from is a place of not giving a fuck about whether or not you get something out of this !

But I mean realy not caring ... not trying to "fake it" that you don't care about the results .. while in the back of your mind you're still thinking ".. If i'll act as if I dont care about the result, I'll get a result" .. because that is still focusing on wanting to get a result !

Some of you may think "But this is counter productive! If you want a result, you've got to try and get a result, no ?". YES, but why do so with much pressure on yourself ?????

Look, let me give you an illustration to explain my point: Think about a computer game you like. I personally realy like Minesweeper, here's a screenshot:

The purpose of this game is simple: You have empty cells that contain mines in them in random spots, and every time you click an empty cell it either opens up like in the image: every number shows the number of mines around that cell, or you open a mine and game over.

Now, this game is fun ! I can play it for hours. When I first started playing this game, I've had a hard time finishing even a simple 10x10 cells game :) But i've kept playing and kept practicing ... and today I'm at a level where I can finish the above screen in less than 2 minutes !

But thats the thing - when you play something, or do something without a pressure, from a place of fun - there's absolutely no way you can't succeed ! Most guys think about meeting a woman as some dangerous and important task they must finish successfully, because their entire ego is standing on the line ... And I'm telling you that this is a realy fucked up mindframe!
Why not turn meeting women into a game as well?

Think about the 3 points I gave you in the beginning of this post .. and think about all the benefits you could have if you change your orientation this way. Think just just how much more brain powers, energy and especially freely available mind thoughts and resources you can get at your disposal to meet women with when you come from this place !

YOUR GAME WILL EVEN BECOME BETTER AND SMOOTHER !

On the other hand ... imagine to yourself a wierd scenario : Some kidnappers take both of a kid's parents to hostage, and in order for the kid to get them back they give him a single opportunity to get them back : They give him to play Minesweeper. and he has never played this game before .. and now they tell him : You have 5 minutes to finish the advanced level. If you succeed, you get your parents back ... and if not, you will not see them again forever !

Do you realy think the kid will be able to even learn how to play the game with so much pressure being put on the line ?

Thats almost the same level of pressure guys put over themselves when it comes to women !!!

For some guys, meeting a hottie is considered a "one time opportunity" ... I think I've heard the phrase "Its now or never" more than I can even count LOL ....

So whats the solution ?

Change your orientation !

What if instead of seeing a woman as a "once in a lifetime opportunity" , "I've gotta make this work" , "I must get something out of this" ... you could think about it as an opportunity to have fun and find out what she's like ? (credits Ross Jeffries again!)

Here are some more nice realizations to help you:

1. She is not the only girl in the world that looks like that.

2. You don't even know what kind of a person she is ..

3. You never signed a contract that says that you must get something from her. I realy mean it. Your friends laugh at you because you have no girls? Your mother and father ask you why you don't have a girlfriend? You think that you're a loser because you have no chicks? This is all an ego issue. And its fucked up. Trust me, if you realy want to have a good girlfriend .. one that you will both enjoy your time with & will want to stay in a relationship with her .. you must SCREEN WOMEN. Not every beautiful woman has a personality you'd wanna mess with. The people who do not understand this concept are clowns. I've talked about this before.

Stay away from the desperation frame. I gave you enough reasons why in this post. Almost all the people I ever met who were desperate to meet women ended up with fucked up chicks they weren't even attracted to. I don't know whats the case with you and what are your standards, but I know that I aim high. I don't think anyone should compensate for a chick he's not even attracted to and is with her only for the sake of pleasing other people in his life. FUCK IT!

I realy wish that alot of people will get a chance to read this post.

-- leedrag0n

My opinion on lairs

2010-03-06T03:22:00.000-08:00

Hey guys,

I assume that some of you who read this blog came from Alpha, which is the main place where I used to write and share most of my knowledge in the past.

At some point I stopped writing there, and in this post I'm going to explain why I chose to do so and also my big opinion on lairs these days.

Before I start talking about lairs, let me warn you against what is common in society today.

What is common, and is taught, and you can also just open your eyes and SEE it all around you, is: scared and ashamed people who have no ambition in life, who obey according to what society expects them, who are too dependent on other's opinions and acceptance, and who lack their own willpower and instead go through life based on someone else's willpower.

This may seem a bit controversial, but realy I don't believe that aiming for a "3rd degree in math" is someone's real goal. There has to be something below that, maybe such as "Getting accepted socially" or "Making alot of money" or hell even "Living an easier life".

But you see, thats exactly the problem - people these days are looking for ways to make their lives easier, so much that they have forgotten what "willpower" realy means.

This gets me back to the lairs. First and foremost, the biggest problem with "lairs" is that they don't have any screening mechanisms to filter out the people who join them. Most of them allow everyone to join in, and because of that the lair (or forums) most of the times gets filled with guys who inflict others with the wrong, loserish, bad attitudes that society inflicted on them.

The way I see it, most lairs have 2 basic attitude problems that will fuck up every one in them:

1. Lack of willpower to change - Many guys will join a lair because they "want to change", but they will look for easy solutions. The first moment they have to face something that is challenging their own comfort zones, they give up. The reason for this is simple - lack of willpower to change. Willpower is the power within that is greater than anything in life. Believe me, if some murderer ran at you in the street with a knife about to slice your throat, you will find amazing power within you to run away. that is willpower. Do you have the same level of power when it comes to changing yourself? What are you realy willing to do in order to change? If you don't have this, just leave the lairs and go live your life man. You are not ready yet to change yourself.

2. Caring too much about how others perceive it - People join the lair because they "want" to change (I just showed you in the previous paragraph how this "wanting" is not real), but the moment they have to face how others will think about their change they freak out. So I'm asking this again - How much do you realy want to change? If some murderer with a knife ran at you at the street, would you care about how others think about you when you run away from him? If so, you're probably already dead man!

Great!

So now here comes the big "reason" why I decided to stop writing in those lairs ..

You see, when I joined the community it was after years of frustration with women .. I was determined to change .. I had the inner power that was driving me that said that I'm willing to change and that no one could stop me ..

In the beginning I thought that it was something that was just the result of years of frustration, but I later discovered that it was simply my attitude - I am a winner!

This is how I am in sports, this is how I am in life.

This attitude realy has brought me to where I am, but it was realy just a decision shift. It is amazingly difficult for me to be able to relate with people who have no willpower, who have no ambition, and who care too much about what others think about them.

I used to think for a long time that maybe I can influence those people and show them an inspiration of myself so that they will want to become like me, but then I see that the lairs keeps filling up with loserish kind of people who keep dragging those folks back down the drain of improvement!!

This is realy infectious, and at some point I also felt it on myself - after having conversations with those kind of newcomers, it realy infects you with their frustrated / no hope / loserish attitude. And the moment I felt that, I knew it was time for me to take a step away from these people and to just live my life the way I want them to.

Thing is this - I don't think that going out and meeting women is that hard. In fact, its very easy to me. It only becomes difficult the moment I allow average frustrated chumps infect me with their bad attitudes and bad thinking ways.

So, this post goes out to all of you, I hope someone will understand the message I tried presenting here.

Yeah I know some people will say "Maybe you don't explain yourself good enough so people can understand you", well fuck it. I don't get paid for writing this, and this is my own blog so I can freely write whatever I want here, If you don't like this place - feel free to leave.

The choice is yours, I've made my decision.

-- leedrag0n

Be flexible enough!

2010-02-21T12:04:00.000-08:00

Hey guys, hows it going ?

Today's post is about flexibility in your game.

It is generally an enhancement, or should i say a correction for my old post "Pickup Stages" where I talked about the 5 general stages of the pickup, which are:

1. Getting her Attention
2. Getting her interested sexually.
3. Isolating
4. Seducing her
5. Closing

You see, most of the PU materials talk about a "structure" from A-Z to follow, and even my old "Pickup stages" talked about it, but infact its a mistake to think this way.

Why ?

Yes it is good to know that women are emotionally driven, and to focus on the emotional states you want them to be in. Yes it is good to know a basic structure that you can follow (like the one i presented in my "Pickup stages" post).

But you should also know that women are differently wired than us, and their emotional states can jump back and forth very quickly between one state to another unexpectedly, a phenomenon that not only makes us unable to properly understand them (because we are not operating that way), but it also makes thinking in terms of a "structure" a terrible idea.

You can start talking with some girl, and while you expect her to open up in a "structured way", she can infact suddenly get so interested in you that she will be ready to kiss you right off the start!

So what i'd like to suggest you to do instead, is what my NLP mentor taught us: never take anything for granted - always test!

In terms of your game, this simply means that you should always test to see if she's physically ready. Its ok to have a basic "structure", but instead of waiting for the "close", you should totally forget about "close" and instead focus on the woman and see if she's ready.

So when it comes to the structure I presented to you, do it this way:

1. Get her attention
1t. Test to see if she's physically ready
2. Interest her in you sexually
2t. Test to see if she's physically ready
3. Isolate
3t. Test to see if she's physically ready
4. Seduce her
4t. Test to see if she's physically ready
..

Im sure you get what I mean now.

Basically, this structure is more similiar to the NLP therapy model of T.O.T.E , which means "Test, Operate, Test, Exit".

In NLP, when we work with a client, we generally put an outcome in mind = the desired change we want to achieve in him. And then, we simply start working in a TOTE model, which means: We start by testing his current state, then we perform our "magic", and then we test to see if the changed has worked by trying to put him back into the original state. If the change isn't complete, we go back and perform another "magic" and then test again. We repeat this as many times as needed, until we believe the change has been completed, and only then do we exit.

So when it comes to women, you should think in a similiar way: You put an outcome = sex with her, and then you start by testing her current state, and you start performing your "magic" over her, and then you test her state again to see if she's ready. If not, you continue and so on until you believe she's ready, and then you do your physical move towards sex.

If you'll start thinking this way, your game will become much more flexible, and much more efficient.

If you want to practice this using my techniques from the previous "Reprogramming your mind" post, use this attitude (credit, again, to Ross Jeffries): "Forget about 'closing' as something to be done at the end of an evening, and instead constantly test her to see if she's ready, because she may show you within the first minute she's ready to kiss you".

Feel free to leave your comments and questions.

-- leedrag0n

How to reprogram your mind

2010-02-03T13:32:00.001-08:00

Hey all !

Today's post is a most exciting one for me - It's about how to reprogram your mind, a skill that is unquestionably the most important skill of your success.

Why is it important to reprogram your mind ?

In any given situation in the real world, your mind will usually automatically respond based on your habitual ways of responding that are familiar to it up until that moment. Not always do these "habitual ways of responding" are good choice, or even something you'd logically do. Maybe there's a better way of responding that can lead to more positive results ?

Sure there is .. but more than often it happends that guys who "logically" know a certain attitude ... or a certain belief .. will go out and still get their old ways of responding coming back again time after time. And as you probably already know ... the fact that you know something on the logical level , doesn't mean your mind understands it ... because the mind doesn't understand logic!

So what does the mind know and responds with ?
The mind knows and can respond based on what's familiar to it !

So in order to have a better way of responding , you have to make it something that will be familiar to your brain. You'll have to sort of "train" in your new way of responding ... so that next time when you're out ... it will just feel naturally for your mind to use the new way of responding instead of the old one !

And this is done only by reprogramming and training your mind ..

In order to help you understand how to do it properly, let's start (as always) with a basic core understanding first that will make this whole post way easier for you to understand ..

Core understanding - You are NOT born with fears, wrong attitudes or beliefs. ALL of those are things that YOU LEARN, ADOPT, PERSUADED INTO or maybe even FORCED INTO during your life, and because of that - you can UNLEARN THEM!

Yep, this is a fact here. I'm sure that if you'll ever ask your mom how you were back in the day when you were 4 years old kid, she will probably tell you that you were wayyy different than how you are today. You are not born with fears, fears are simply strategies you develope over time. same goes for beliefs, attitudes and habits.

Now, since I don't want this post to turn into a phylosophical / theoretical discussion and instead I realy want you to grasp the actually practical side here so you can realy understand this, I want you to do this: Remember, as best as you possibly can, the last time you were realy scared to approach a girl. If you can't or don't have any such situation ... try to remember the last time you wanted to meet a girl but didn't.

Now, as you recall that situation ... can you notice any feelings arisen ?

I'm willing to bet you do.

And if you do .. here's the other second understanding you should know ..

Basic understanding - the mind doesn't recognize the difference between a real event and a remembered/imagined event. It processes them BOTH the same!

If you have successfully recalled the situation I asked you to recall, you probably realized that those feelings came up to the surface, at some level. In terms of your mind, it can't tell the difference between a real event and a remember one, it processes them both the same, and thats why you were feeling those feelings again.

This is actually good news, because guess what?

Final understanding - If you can CHANGE the way you FEEL, THINK & ACT on your remembered / imagined event - the change will take affect in the real life event !

One of the things that any good NLP practitioner does when he starts working with a client, is to recall the scenario that contains the undesired response so he could have something to measure against when doing the changework (aka: "reprogramming"). When I asked you to recall the situation here, you have surely felt the undesired response at some level coming up, although it may not have been in the same magnitude as if it was realy happening. Many people mistakenly think thats because "Real life events are stronger than imagination", but in fact its not true. Some people can infact remember scenarios in very vivid details, as if they were actually happening again, some people can actually start to shake just from thinking about something.

The reason for this change in emotional level, is because usually most people don't remember situations exactly as they occured - they eliminate (aka: "delete") undesired details. This is a natural process of the brain. This is what is sometimes known as "selective memory", and we all have it. We remember what we want to remember, and forget what we want to forget.

However, those eliminated details can (and usually do) have an impact over the emotional response level that is received. For instance: if you recall some situation that happend to you, and you see yourself from the side (aka "disassociated"), you can find that if you try to recall the situation again as if it was happening from your own eyes (aka "associated") it has a MUCH more powerful emotional impact on the event. Or: If you recall some situation and can't hear any voices inside of it, try adding the sounds that were in that situation and you will see that it affects the emotional impact.

Many people do not know this knowledge, and make wrong conclusions about whats possible to be done with the mind, and fuck themselves up big time by this. don't follow them!

When you recall a scenario, and the response that pops up is an undesired one, thats only beacuse this is what your mind has learned to do in such scenarios up until now. Change the response on your imagined scenario, so the old response is no longer there, and instead you attach a new reponse that is much more desirable. Test it - try to recall the scenario again and see if the new, desired response comes up. If it does - You can repeat this process several times in order to "train" your mind with the new way of responding, and it is most likely that the new way of reponding will be there for you in the real world event.

So, you want to learn how to reprogram yourself?

If so - Go on ...

How to do it properly?

So much has been written on the internet about how to do reprogramming for your mind, I'm going to present my angle & tips here. Those are things that i have tested and has worked for me, and I'm going to give explanation as best as I can to each and one of them.

I think the most important thing to understand when you're about to do any sort of reprogramming is the next core understanding:

Core "reprogramming" understanding: ANY mind reprogramming can only be done using VISUALIZATION !!

I'm sure you've heard alot about visualization already and heard so many changework "gurus" talk about the importance of visualization, yet I'm willing to bet that you haven't realy done any visualizing yourself.

Many people don't do visualization because they do not believe visualization can actually work in changing them. What alot of people fail to realize is that they are actually all the time reprogramming back old limiting beliefs, past failures, and fears by constantly thinking and visualizing them in the present, and thus contantly reinforcing them.

You must understand this: Your brain is a neurological network of neurons. Neural pathways are created and changed by events that happend to you. The more you experience something - the more your mind gets trained in it. The more your mind gets trained in it - the more the neural pathways related to this event are triggered. The more the neural pathways of this event are triggered - The bigger and stronger they become. The bigger and stronger they become - The more "automatic" you do it. The more "automatic" you do it - it becomes part of who you are, so you don't have to think about it anymore !

Visualization is the creative part of your brain, and any form of "reprogramming", or even "programming" must involve visualization since it is a creative process - something that you create and change.

Cognitive understandings are not enough, because the mind doesn't understand logic - it almost always does what is familiar, or what it was "trained" to do, its just that simple!

You have realized that your mind can't differentiate between a real event and an imagined one, it processes them both the same. So when you start using visualization, you begin to construct events that will eventually change neural associations in your mind.

You must realy understand this, if you can't understand just how important visualization is for reprogramming your mind, please stop reading this post now - it will be completely useless for you.

If you understand it, then move on ..

Attitude change process using Visualization

In this post, I'm going to explain how to reprogram your mind for an attitude change, but this process can also work great for beliefs change, habits change etc.

Step One: Open a blank document and write a caption with your new, desired, attitude, marked with bold and underline!

There's a magical / hard to explain power about writing. I can assure you that. Many of the posts you read here in my blog, were deeply burned into my mind almost immediately after I wrote them that I could feel changes happening instantly in my thinking ways after writing them.

Why is it so powerful I cannot explain, but I do know that when you write things they get burned into your mind way more powerfully than if you simply say them to yourself, and as a proof .. why do you think that business schedules are written into calendars? :)

So now, after you opened the document and wrote your new desired attitude as a bold caption, it will give your mind a nice new direction ..

Step Two: Below the caption you wrote, write the following instruction: "Remember a situation, not long ago, where you had an opportunity to meet a very attractive woman.. and now imagine how you'd look, act, sound, feel if you had the new attitude .."

Again, You use the power of writing to give your mind directions - you can verbally give yourself a command to remember something, but when you visually write it - the message gets more strongly into your mind.

Great, now after you remember the situation ..

Step Three: Below the instruction , write: "The situation I just remembered:" and then describe the situation.

Yep, simply start describing the situation as you remember it. You don't have to go into full details here, just write enough to bring back the associated image (the way the situation looked from your own eyes). When you're writing to describe events that happend to you, something in the power of writing connects strongly to your memory and allows you to bring back the memory very strongly and vividly to your mind. That's all that is required here.

Step Four: Below the description you just wrote, write: "Now .. how would you act, think, feel and behave differently in the same situation, with the new attitude?"

Now that you have the vividly rememberd scenario playing in your head, it is time for you to start imagining the new response.

It is possible that when you remember the old scenario, old feelings (such as pressure, anxiety) etc will rise up. Because again like I said, the mind can't tell the difference between imagination and real events. That's not a bad sign, infact - its a good sign. Because if you can change the way you respond to it in your imagination, the real life response will be the same.

But, if any feelings like pressure, anxiety etc come up - melt them using a technique called "Equanimity" that is best explained by Ross Jeffriess, in this video:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y-v2cHfHERU

And then, once you melt the feelings and you are clean and relaxed, go on to the next step ..

Step Five: Imagine what you look like from another person's point of view. From the eyes of a stranger that looks from sideways on you and the woman.

And write how it looks.

This is called disassociated imagery, and it will give your mind a great new direction for the new programming.

Step Six: Fly into your own eyes, and see the new scenario from your own eyes

And write it, this is called associated imagery.

Step Seven: Fly into the woman's eyes, and see how you look from her eyes

And write it as well, big credits to Ross Jeffries again for this tip, it is laid out in his entire "Seduction Mastery Series" in the Youtube link i just gave you.

Step Eight: Physically step up, with your eyes closed, and fly again into your own eyes, and now both see the new scenario from your own eyes and involve (act) yourself physically and verbally as if it was realy happening

This is the final step here, and now after you have "programmed" yourself into the new situation from 3 different perspective, this final step will be so easily done and yet so powerfully programmed into you.

Step Nine: Repeat 2 more times

You can bring up 2 more scenarios and run the whole thing again .. or even more if you like.

Just make sure after it to ..

Final step: Forget it and let it go!

And this is because things that you forget tend to get burried better in your subconscious mind and be ready for you at the real world situation. If you want a proof for it - Have you ever noticed how stuff that you thought about yesterday, or this morning, suddenly arises today and you find it more useful and have new answers to it ?

That was it, it was a long post but I hope that some of you will find this useful.

And of course, feel free to give me your comments.

-- leedrag0n

Get Motivated !

2010-02-01T09:21:00.000-08:00

Hey all !

Its been some time, I have no idea if you keep following but anyways this post is going to be a realy important one - its about how to get motivation to go out and meet women !

Sometimes you run into times where you have no motivation to go out and meet women - it can be because you work too much, maybe you just ended a relationship, maybe you got rejected a few times and it turned you down, perhaps you feel its too much work to get out there and approach women, etc.

So whatever reason it shall be - this post is for you!

Here are 4 main points that will help you getting back to the field :

1. If sales people can approach & sell (for money paid!!!) amazingly stupid and unuseful products - there's no reason in the world for you to not be able to sell love or sex for women for free. Read this one 100 times until you get it. THIS IS A BASIC CORE UNDERSTANDING!

2. Presenting an idea (or anything else) is way easier (and in some cases even only possible) when there's rapport - so if you get rejected or some girl don't flow with you, instead of taking it personally as an insult or as an indication of your attractiveness, simply realize most chances are there was a lack of rapport between you two.

3. Most of the time, people buy things (or take decisions) based on an impulse, aka emotion. If it just looks or sounds logically good or right for them its still not going to be enough to drive them. You must focus and create the emotional states that will drive their behaviour and decisions.

4. Any fear you may have - Fear of rejection, Fear of approaching, Fear of getting laughed on, Fear of failure, etc - any fear can be removed by proper reprogramming of your mind ! Thats what NLP was created for.

Ponder those for a while ..

-- leedrag0n

P.S: You are welcome to give me your feedback on this post if you find it useful or need more info.

Making an effort ..

2009-10-22T00:56:00.001-07:00

Today i want to talk a little bit about efforts.

You're probably familiar with the following situation : You drive in your car, or walk down the street, maybe you're in a work building or simply on your way to lunch .. and suddenly .. you notice a really hot looking chick .. walking .. or passing near you ..

And as you see her .. you begin to wonder .. to approach her? or to not approach her?

And while you're wondering that .. you start making a list of reasons why you should approach, and on the other hand you start making a list of reasons why not.

Some of the reasons why you should may include :

1. She's realy hot and sexy
2. She's exactly my type
3. She's got something that realy turns me on
4. I've never been with a girl like that
5. She's alone, no one is with her
etc ..

Some of the reasons why you shouldn't may include :

1. What if it doesn't work ?
2. Am i realy gonna stop my car / cross the street for her ?
3. Is it a waste of time ?
4. What if she rejects me ?
etc ..

As you recall all the times in the past this has happend to you .. and i know for sure it did .. can you remember what claims usually won this debate? Did you approach her in the end? Or did you give it up before even trying?

OK, So now I'M here to tell you why I personally think you should always go for the effort :

1. There is never a 100% success guarantee on any approach. Even when you are 100% sure about things, you may find its just not going the way you expected. You can never know for sure whats going to happend .. And you can never get a guarantee for it to work - so just accept and release it. Come to the women without expectations.

2. However, real success with women comes from consistently creating opportunities to meet them, not as a one time or rare event. The "once in a lifetime girl I approach now" attitude is realy not the right way to go at things in this area - consistency is key. So yeah - you might or might not "win" over this girl , but as long as you're trying - no matter whether it works or not - you always succeed in creating an effort. And after you do it once and realize its not such a big deal - its just walking up and talking to a girl - you will be able to do it again , and slowly you will get used to approach women on random situations, and the more you operate this way - you will create alot more opportunities to meet women of your choice. And when you begin to live like that, you will be meeting women of you choice on a consistent basis, not as a one time or rare event. And this way, there's absolutely no way you won't get results with kind of women you truely desire.

3. Related to #2 above - The funniest thing about this is that deciding to make an effort is something that is 100% and totally under your own choice and control! You can't know whats going to happend with the women, and you can't always control her behaviour, but you can totally decide and control how many women you are approaching. Leaving it to the "hands of fate" or approaching a chick once in a month is completely your own decision. And guaranteed it is your own decision and your own choice, that means you have the resources and the ability to change it at will.

4. And this is a realy crucial one many many guys don't get - all those "wasted" opportunities are hot chicks who are alone by themselves!!! there are no "guy friends" , no "girl friends", no "co workers" and no "mother and father" with them who may interfere and cockblock your seduction attempt. Its just you and them. Those kind of opportunities are actually golden opportunities that you are missing. Realize this!

5. Any effort brings experience and every experience collects feedback inside of it you can learn from. You may not believe it, but you can learn tons about how to improve your game even after a single approach you make. So, even if you don't get the girl you're always going to collect something from it that can benefit you.

So there you have it - 5 reasons why you should always go for the effort.

Ponder that for a while,

-- leedrag0n

"Boyfriend" II

2009-09-26T09:58:00.000-07:00

Hey guys, its me again !

(You didn't expect someone else to write here, did you? :))

I hope you are enjoying reading this blog and find it useful.

Throughout this entire blog i've been sharing pretty powerful and insightful thoughts and realization about succeeding with women, and hopefully you have adopted them in real life and have began to notice how true they are.

You probably realized that I keep coming back and writing new stuff all the time, and I thank you guys for following up with me.

Today I want to talk, yet again, about the "I have a boyfriend" response women give.

Yeah, this annoying response they throw that gives a feeling for the interaction as if "its over".

Its a fact that many many women use the phrase "I have a boyfriend" when dealing with us.

You've probably heard this one, and probably more than once when attempting to start a conversation with a woman.

Many guys feel "shut down" when hearing this line - as if the woman rejected them right off the bat and gave them no chance to even present themselves to her.

Have you ever found yourself wondering .. why is she saying it ?

Why will she want to shut down this opportunity before she even knows what she's going to miss here?

As I already explained before, a girl saying to you that she "Has a boyfriend" is to be treated exactly the same as a guy telling you "I have a Fiat Uno 1994" when you come to sell him a Ferarri car.

When a woman says "I have a boyfriend", this basically means she's either bringing up a logistical problem, or she's bringing up resistance to your attempt to talk or even present something to her.

Doesn't matter whether its true or not - resistance is resistance, period.

You probably also make excuses such as "I dont have a wallet on me" to a gipsy's asking you for money on the street, or perhaps you even blatanlty ignore them when they are approaching your car in a high traffic junction, right ?

We are driven by feelings and emotions. Very powerfully, and in an almost hypnotic way which is totally outside of our conscious awareness.

Here's the thing - People will not resist something they enjoy !

So, if they are resisting something, it most probably could be because they aren't enjoying it at this moment.

When a gispy approaches you and you're inside your car, you could be wandering with your thoughts or simply wanting to enjoy the silence and clarity of thoughts, maybe you want to listen to the radio and maybe you just want to look at something else. A gipsy approaching you will surely "interfere" this state, so you will feel an irrestible urge to resist his approach.

Think about a little kid, for instance. (many people make the common assumptions that if someone looks mature he's also emotionally mature, its really not the case in reality. many people ARE emotionally driven just as much as if they were still little kids!)

Have you ever tried to present an idea, or ask a kid to do something, while he's playing with his toys or he has just woken up, or when he's simply in a bad mood ?

If you did, you'd most probably find that it is a pretty difficult, almost impossible task - and thats exactly the analogy here = you must realize that every "mature" or outside appearing adult person still has that "little kid" inside of his consciousness that drives his actions and decisions based on how he feels - and almost always they are not even aware of thats what they're doing !!!!

So, what does it mean for you ?

Your goal is to get the girl interested in you on the sexual level, and in order to do it you must get her attention to you so you could at least try and get her interested in you.

A chick telling you "I have a boyfriend"... pfffff, instead of interpreting it as "Its over man", you can easily interpret it as one of the following :

1. "Im currently not in the right state for you to present me what you want".

2. "I dont think you have what I want" (how can she know it before she even knows you?)

3. "Im simply not interested" (again, how can she know this if she didn't even listen to what you're offering her?)

4. "I have a logistical problem = Im seeing someone" (This should never bother you, as it can almost always be changed and rationalized by her if she gets interested in you. Of course she has to be "seen" with someone for social status, doesn't mean he's pleasing her and doesn't even mean she realy likes him. She can use it as an excuse for her to not get along with you, i.e : "Because I respect him, etc". Any kind of Boyfriend destroyer will work here)

Those are pretty much better ways to interpret it, right ?

Now .. you've seen me talk alot about states, didn't you ?

Well - You can be sure i'll repeat coming back to it because its crucial!

Like I said in my "Pickup stages" post, you must first get her out of her current state (remember the kid example) into a state that will assist you in grabbing her attention towards you so you could at least try to get her interested in you. I insist on that, and for very obvious reasons that i may explain in a later post, but for now after reading this post you're probably beginning to understand why its so important.

Don't wait for mircales to happend or wait for her to be in the "right state" to talk to you - learn how to create that "state" instantly in her.

Your ability to create a state or emotion is your biggest leverage point here.

Always remember - people are driven emotionally , not logically.

-- leedrag0n

Certainty in PU

2009-09-12T08:48:00.000-07:00

And no ..

I don't mean certainty from your perspective about whether or not you're gonna lay this chick, but in fact - I talk about certainty from the woman's point of view about YOU and your sexual abilities !

Sounds confusing ?

I'll try to explain.

From what I found, it seems to me that alot of women don't like to take risks.

This is probably why they do not approach guys, this may be the reason why they look for promises for relationships before they enter them, and this could also be the reason why ... THEY'LL FLAKE ON YOU WHEN THEY HAVE DOUBT ABOUT YOUR SEXUAL ABILITIES AS A LOVER !!

Alot of women just don't know what to do in the area of the "unknown", they'd rather go for whats certain and assured, probably even way more than us guys.

Makes sense, right ?

GREAT, now what am I supposed to do with this knowledge ?

Simple logic here - a chick will fuck you when she's certain enough that you mean business and not just waste her time, and vice versa she will not fuck you if she has doubts about your sexual abilities.

This is why, when you always reach the fourth stage of your pickup (Seduction stage), initiate a sexual move, whether a kiss on her neck, or a kiss on one of her hands. Suggest a massage - anything sexual that WILL get her realizing that you stand behind yourself and you mean business and she can be certain about your sexuality and about having sex with you.

Again, when she's certain that you are a lover and great sex she goes for it, and when she's not - she doesn't.

-- leedrag0n

Emotions Explained #2

2009-09-04T06:20:00.000-07:00

Hey guys !

This post is just a refresher for the good old "Humans are mostly driven by emotions, not logic!" core post that i wrote here a year ago, which I still think is the most important of them all.

Today I want to show you again why this is true, to better help you internalize this crucial and important understanding, and to also show it from a different angle using different examples, both from MY OWN life and from my friend's lives.

So lets start with BASIC first facts :

We all know that emotions are real and they exist.

We can feel them in our physiology and in the body.

I think the most obvious way to show you just how powerful they are is simply by looking at your actions. Just look at what you did this week : You are reading this blog, hence you obviously want to get laid more and meet more chicks. How many times did you go out this week to meet women ? How many women did you approach this week ? If you haven't done any, can you answer the question : Why is it, when you want something, you still dont do anything towards getting it ?

If you'll dig into that question, you'll obviously find no logical answer, because there is no logical answer here. You're obviously not thinking in a logical way here. Because the logic says : More women you approach, more women you meet, more women you lay. Simple logic.

If you still find yourself, despite that logic, not doing anything to approach more women, then obvisouly it isnt logic that drives you here, but its some kind of an emotion, fear, despair, etc, whatever.

I will bring another example now from my own.

Sometimes I masturbate, yep I admit it. I dont know if any of you ever do it, but I usually dont realy feel that great afterwards, I'd rather fuck a woman instead of masturbating. But, when the feeling of arousal grows and you reach that point where your dick is erect and you're almost about to explode, your logical thinking disappears. Even when you know that you wont feel great about it afterwards, the feeling becomes so strong that it makes it hard for you to even be able to relax your mind and calm it down around it ! The only way to calm it, is by releasing it. So then, your mind finds logical reasons why its "ok" to dump it. These "logical excuses" that the mind brings up why its "ok" to go along with what you feel, is just one example here of how the way you feel completely changes the way you act, think and believe about something, to the point where it overrides your logical thinking to support the emotion you feel and make sense of it !! (aka "rationalizing")

Another example of it - How many of you ever had these mornings where you just didnt want to wake up? Your clock rang at 8am, and you promised to yourself last night that you will wake up, and then when the clock starts to ring, and you're all tired and exhausted, your mind will immediately start in bringing up logical "excuses" as to why its "ok to continue sleeping.." , and then you just fall asleep again, wake up at 11am or even worse 12pm, and then you just feel shit that half your day just went away ?

Now I bring even another example, this time from a friend of mine :

One of my good friends just recently ended a 10 months relationship with a chick. This chick was a bastard kind of person and she was with him only because of his appartment, and even though my friend had told me that he wanted to break up from her 5 months ago, he didnt.

Why, you may ask? Well, simply because "He loved her", thats what he said at least, but truth was simply the sex with her was great for him! He was so addicted to the sex with her that he just didnt, and couldn't want to leave her. I mean, what guy will just "let go" of something like that? Even though he knew, on a logical level, that she sucks as a person, and even though she pissed him off more than once, the good feelings he got from the sex with her, which he was so addicted to, completely blinded his consciousness from the rather logical truth that I, and his family could see ! His mind kept bringing "excuses" as to why keep going with her! He still stayed with her due to the great sex they had. And now, 1 month after they broke up, even though I asked him to stop talking about her, he simply can't. He keeps bringing up her name again, and again, and again, and he just cant seem to forget her.

Im sure that last one is something you can all relate with - being so dependant on a chick's sex, that it makes you so blind to the fact she treats you like shit and actually hurts you time and time again, the common syndrome "oneitis" that is coined in the PU community is exactly this.

I could also bring here the example of people who smoke cigarettes, and the "rationalizations" they give you as to why they can't stop smoking .. or why they "don't want to stop" .. but im sure you get where im driving with this ..

So now Im asking you this again - If we, guys, can be so strongly driven by our emotions, so much that it overrides our logical thinking, it overrides our actions, it overrides our decisions and it overrides our beliefs .. to say that women don't act the same when they have strong emotional response ??

This would be totally absord.

Chicks are way more emotional than us, so if we can be this strongly driven by emotions and feelings, consider women to be just the same.

-- leedrag0n

Frames explained

2009-08-12T15:56:00.000-07:00

Hey guys !

In this post im going to get back to some powerful core and practical stuff you can use in your Pickups.

If you liked my "Emotions Explained" classic post that talked about how women are mostly driven by emotions and not logic, and how we can use this in our pickups, then you will absolutely LOVE this post.

Today im going to talk about Frames and how to use them.
What is a frame ?

For the practical purposes of our use, a frame is simply an "altered reality" that automatically triggers certain feelings, actions and beliefs inside of it.

What do I mean ?

Here's an example : Think about the difference between meeting a woman when you're out jogging, to meeting a woman when you're in a nightclub, ok ?

It is quite obvious that you think, feel, act and believe differently about the idea of meeting a woman inside a nightclub, than how you think,feel,act and believe about it when you're out jogging, right ?

I mean, when you're out jogging, you may believe that you're too sweaty and not good looking enough for a woman to want and talk with you, or you may believe that you can only take her number .. while in a nightclub, you can feel that you're great looking, and that you can not only take the girls number, but even invite her to dance and maybe even makeout with her .. right ?

To put it short - your frame here defines what you can do, how you can feel, and your beliefs about what you can do or can't do, whats possible and whats not and even more .. makes sense no ?

The difference between jogging and a nightclub is an ideal example of how you feel, act and believe differently inside two different frames !

Now think about women for a second.

Most women know that when they are in a vacation or they go to nightclubs, its OKAY for them to go for one night stands, why ? Because thats how their mind is setup on the level of thoughts, rules, beliefs and actions they take in those places.

Now, if you can get a woman to imagine she's talking with you right now, in a night club .. do you think that all the automatically triggered actions, beliefs and feelings will immediately rise to the surface of her mind ?

THE HELL YOU BET !

Matter of fact is, that almost anyone in this planet, when telling stories to others, get themselves into different frames all the fucking time !!

You probably know this from your own experience as well - Have you ever noticed how whenever you tell somebody a story about something that happend to you while you were in a vacation or a nightclub, how during the talk you felt as if you are totally there , and how all the feelings, thoughts and beliefs just suddenly came back up to the surface ?

Have you ever found yourself telling a friend of yours something like "Man, she was so into me, i think i could have just done her in the toilet", as you describe to him something that happend to you while you're in a nightclub ?

Now, let me make a wild guess here, that if you told a story about how you met some girl in the mall, for instance, you'd never even think about taking her to the toilet as you would in a nightclub, no ?

And if that so, why do you think its like that ?

Its simply because a mall and a nightclub are two different frames , each comes with a different set of beliefs and actions you can do in them, thats why !!

Now check this cool thing : Suppose that during the conversation between you and this girl, in the mall, suddenly the lights go out, loud music starts to be played in the speakers, flash lights and big bars with drinks and bartenders in them pop up, the mall instantly becomes a huge nightclub .. everyone around you is dancing, buying drinks, and having a good time .. and you know the chick you talk with is totally into you .. How do you feel about it now ?

How will you behave differently now ?? Will you end this conversation with just a phone number, or instead take her to the booth and kiss with her ?

And if I can do it on you, right now, using words only, here in my blog - to put you into a different frame in your mind with different beliefs, actions and feelings about this meeting - you can do it on a woman during your conversation with her to put her into any frame you want !

This works simply because the subconscious mind can't recognize the difference between a real event and an imagined one, it processes them both the same way, so when you get a woman to imagine herself in a nightclub, if she gets to imagine that - it overrides her CURRENT reality, so all the beliefs, actions and feelings she has in a nightclub simply begin to rise up to the surface !

So yeah, the ability to alter another person's imagination is very powerful - probably one of the most powerful influence techniques there are that can save you TONS of time trying to build them up. Why build something up that probably already exist for you ?

Hell, if some woman is a virgin, you can get her to imagine what she would do if she wasn't virgin - If she can imagine it, the differences between reality and imagination can easily go away very soon !

Like I said in my post "Emotions Explained" , i wrote there "If you want a woman to do something, think of what emotion you want her to feel". This is, BTW, an idea that Ross Jeffries coined back in the day, so i give him credit for it.

So instead of thinking how do you get a woman to .. for instance, suck your dick in the toilet .. you can think of what frame of mind you can get her into in which she will feel natural and okay to do this thing, that you want her to do ?

You can think about Frames such as "Fantasy", which is btw a frame in which you can do anything LOL .. or "Nightclub" .. you can think about frames such as "Truth and Dare" .. or "Strip club" .. maybe even "Helping a friend" frame .. whatever you think can be right !

The funny thing about frames is that you can even create an imaginable frame , or create an "altered reality" that doesn't even realy exist, and get the women you talk to totally feel as if they are there, in that frame !!

Yes, frames are exteremly powerful .. here's a nice example : Imagine that you are now in an abandoned exotic island .. there are coconut trees around you .. and a blue sea ... the sun is shining .. and now you need to prepare a dinner, how do you do it ?

See how i just entered you into an imagined frame ?

Think about this powerful tool and how you use it, it is powerful.

-- leedrag0n

Beware of the illusion of success !!

2009-07-30T09:08:00.001-07:00

Hey all,

Today I decided that its about time that someone will finally talk about the illusion of success.

This is an underground subject, most probably dont know of, the coaching industry surely would like to keep this a secret, but since i personally have no interest in earning money by coaching people and i give away my insights on this blog free to the world, I'll mention it.

The illusion of success is simply the unreal illusion that you can become a 100% successful seducer.

Thats right guys.

It is an illusion that was created by people who sell PU material, self-help coaching programs, better sales technique seminars, and influence workshops. The illusion that they create is that you can always become a "better sales person" .. "you can triple you success rate using these techniques" .. "you can become more attractive using these techniques" etc etc.

Lets go back to the core again.

Nobody is a perfect person. Do you get it ?
If not, i'll say it again : NOBODY, not even you, is a PERFECT person !!

Thats right, we ALL have some insecurities, or things we are not sure of, or things that we know we can do better inside of us. The thing that buggles me about the coaching industry, is that they'll always try to find those insecurities in you and then AMPLIFY and MAGNIFY them to become a "PROBLEM" , that then they'll become the "CURE" for it.

BULLSHIT !

So where am I aiming with this ?

What im trying to say is this : You can't always control the outcome with a person. You just gotta accept it. Of course, you can do better with all these skills, but you can NEVER, EVER reach a 100% success rate because :

1. You can't read minds and you can't tell what is the current situation in another person's life before you get to know him. To put it short : you can NEVER know exactly what is the current situation in another woman's life BEFORE you approach her, so stop speculating and find out for yourself.

2. You can't know what kind of person you're going to interact with. To put it short : you can NEVER know exactly what kind of woman she is going to be (kind, bitch, or the middle) BEFORE you approach her, so stop speculating and find out for yourself.

3. You CAN'T know what events or circumstances occured to him/her that MAY affect the way he/she interact with you before you talk to him. To put it short : You can NEVER know what happend to this woman before you see her - maybe some drunk guy tried to rape her, maybe some salesguy insulted her, perhaps she found out her husband cheats on her today. You can NEVER know this because you are living YOUR OWN LIFE, not hers. So stop speculating, and find out for yourself.

You get my point ?

Those are the 3 big reasons why you can't always control the outcome, because you can never know on what kind of a person you're gonna drop and what are his current circumstances.

So what CAN you control ??

Well, the things that are in your control are : You CAN control the number of opportunites you create for yourself to meet women !

YEP, you can't always control the outcome, but you CAN control the number of opportunities you create, if you say to yourself : "Today i will approach 5 different women" , that is COMPLETELY IN YOUR CONTROL. You can't tell what will come out of those approaches, but at least you know that the number of opportunities you create for yourself are up to you, and the of course the more you'll approach the more you'll meet women.

Another thing that is totally in your control is : You CAN decide what YOU LEARN from each interaction with a woman !

YEP, you can't always control the outcome, but you CAN control the number of opportunities you create, and you CAN decide what YOU LEARN from them. And believe it or not, you can extract MAXIMUM FEEDBACK from even a single approach !

So this way, you're guaranteed that you will learn something from every approach that you do.

And if you go out to the world with this attitude, that You can't always control the outcome, but you CAN control the number of opportunities you create for yourself to meet women & to LEARN from them, as long as you learn something and tweak yourself according to the feedback you get, there's absolutely NO WAY in the world you can't succeed.

Besides, you don't ALWAYS have to try and extract feedback !

You can sometimes just go out and run into a stream of frigid, cold, bitch and negative women that no matter how great your game will be, it will just not go anywhere with them. On the other hand, you can sometimes just go out and with the lousy and shittiest game run into a stream of girls who are just so attracted to you that they will almost do everything instead of you !

So don't chew up on this feedback too much, and remember that its not always up to you alone.

If you have a problem with the meaning that you give to rejections or failures etc, you probably have to change the meaning you attribute into them, but thats in another post :)

Peace for now,

-- leedrag0n

There are no failures !

2009-07-15T14:29:00.000-07:00

Hey all !

Its been a while, but im back here to write to you from somewhere in Israel.

Has any of you ever had a motivation decrease ?
Like as if you went out to the field, tried to seduce a couple of women, and it went nowhere with them .. and how the next time you thought about going out to the field, you found yourself wandering things like "Oh well, what should i go out for? Im not gonna succeed anyway. ." , or "Why talk to her? Im not gonna sleep with her anyways .." , or things of the sort ?

MANY MANY guys, including me, had moments like those.

Something that I realized, is that usually these kind of thoughts are simply a result of a wrong belief, or filter, through which you screen the world with.

When you allow yourself to generalize something which is based on very few instances, the results can be catastrophic for you.

I always like to mention the story of Thomas Edison, the man who invented the lamp.

If you know his story or not, Edison have attempted to create 9999 instances of a lamp that didn't work, and only in the 10,000 attempt it worked.

When people asked him how come that he didn't give up trying, he answered : "I didnt fail, i only found 9999 ways to build a lamp that didnt work".

Nice story, isnt it ?

I want to share a short story here now, of my own.

I was a bit of extra horny one friday night, and i decided to go out and be a bit outrageous and try to pull back home a threesome with 2 girls.

Basically I knew that in order for me to find 2 girls that are suitable for a threesome, i should look for :

1. Two girls that are attracted to me. Kinda obvious, isnt it ?
2. Two girls who like to share things between them
3. (Preferred) Two girls who are attracted to each other, aka : Bisexuals.
4. Two girls who are open minded and adventuruos, and like to try new things.

So that was basically my "screening" list, of things to look for.

Long story short - I went out alone, to a crowded area in Tel Aviv and approached 15 different sets, and in the end I didn't succeed in pulling back home 2 girls with me.

But at least I settled for a nice porn movie :)

Anyways, the point im trying to make here is, and pay close attention to this :

Does the fact, that i approached 15 different sets and didnt succeed in pulling them back home for a thresome, means that im a failure ??

Will it be true to say, that because i didnt succeed 15 times to bring back home a threesome, it generally means that i will never succeed in pulling a threesome again ??

NO !

All that it means, is that the method, the techniques, and the strategy that I used at THAT night, with THOSE girls - just didn't work.

Thats all that it means !

I can always go home and look again at what i did right and what i could have improved and then tweak this structure and go out and try it again.

But how can anyone be able to THINK like this, if he can't realize that You never fail - You only get feedback on whats working, and whats not. And later, when you look at this feedback with crystal clear mind, you'll be able to learn ALOT from it, and to tweak your way towards success !!

And that, my friends, is my free gift for you.

-- leedrag0n

Why fast sex ?

2009-06-04T03:36:00.000-07:00

Hey all !

I apologize beforehand, but the next post is intended for women only !
So, if you're not a woman, the next post is not for you.

(but i know you guys will read this anyway, so here goes ..)

P.S : I apologize if some of the words i use in here may seem offensive.
Afterall, it is my blog and i like to write using free language, so if you don't like it deal with it.

Why fast sex ?

1. Men & Women have a physical drive for sex they need to fulfill. When they dont - they remain horny and frustrated.

2. People don't always have free time - People work, study and are busy every day. Not always do they have time or powers to start setting up dates, meetings and decide where to go out to - Yesterday you couldn't because your friend had a birthday, Today you couldn't do it because the boss was angry and you had to do extra hours at work, Tommorow you can't because of your exam you need to study to - And in the end of the day you're left with your hand in your pussy instead of a dick !

3. It saves time - Its better to have sex fast and find out that the guy was a frigid stone in bed instead of finding that out after 20 dates !!

4. You're not commiting to or promise anything - With fast sex, you can just enjoy with a guy like two grown up adults without comitting to or promising anything, and this way you save yourself the inconvenience and the lies you'll have to make up trying to end a connection with a stone frigid guy, who will be mad and talk about you in the city anyways .. only because you promised him that you're looking for serious relationship !!!

5. You'll get profitable anyways - You can have fast sex with a guy, and later if he is not a relationship material, at least you know that you enjoyed yourself and got physically satisfied. Other than going out with someone without having sex with him .. because you rely on him for "relationship" .. and then when you discover he doesn't fit .. you lose twice - both a relationship, and you remain horny !!!!

6. It is fun and adventurous - When you'll reach age 70 and look back upon your life, you surely won't remember all the ordinary days where you did all the ordinary things and went through the same routines over and over again .. will you ? When you look back at your life now , what are the things you remember? Make your life something to remember, or like Elton John said - Don't live your life like a candle in the wind !

7. You are fantasizing about it all the time anyway - How many times did you see a guy and started fantisizing about him pushing you against the wall and doing it with you ? Don't you sometimes feel frustrated that you can't do it for real ? You can do it - its up to you !

8. Good sex is something that makes you happy - Its not the money he has, its not the way he looks, its not the "connection" you both have. Those are things that your parents think will make you happy .. but when you don't have sex for long time, your body will scream up to you at some point and you'll feel frustrated and not know why you feel like that, despite that you have anything you want. If you didn't realize it yet, you'll realize it someday .. i hope for you that not when you'll be old !!

...

Does it mean that any woman who agrees for fast sex is a "slut" ?
Nope , it only means that she's a smart and healthy woman who understands how the world works and pretty much enjoys her life to be honest :)

Others call her a "slut" ?
That OK ... Even the U.S President gets bullied that he is a nothing and a loser by people.
Usually the small and scared people like to curse and bully the big and successful people only in order to feel better about themselves. Mostly its because of jealousy ...

But bottom line is - The big and successful people, those who take chances and escape the boundaries are the ones who bring back the fruits and enjoy life, end of the day.

And the small people .. are the ones who remain inside their house shells and pass their life in boredom, frustration, and whining and bullying the rest of the world except themselves.

Ponder that as much as you want,

-- leedrag0n

Openers 101

2009-05-30T15:14:00.001-07:00

What is the BEST way to open a conversation with a woman ?

Way I see it, the best way to open a conversation is to understand the purpose of your opening and what stands behind its dynamic.

Your opener, or "preopening" if you'd like, first and foremost is a short "presentation" of yourself to a strange woman, give or take right off first impression. She usually DOESNT LISTEN TO YOUR WORDS here, instead she is checking you out. This is why it is crucial to maintain eye contact AND smile here !

Recent studies of last years in the sexuality field keeps finding more and more commonalities to show that women feel and act exactly as we are sexually. This gives us a great ground to understand them as we understand ourselves, since we both want sex and we are both humans.

So think about yourself for a proof.

You are out on the street, and suddenly a hot chick passes right in front of you, and out of ALL the people in the street she decided to come straight at you .. she's smiling .. and she tells you : "Excuse me sir, do you know this area ?".

How will you feel when something like this happends ?

Give yourself a second to think about it .. and when you come back .. tell me that you didn't

think this would be a nice opportunity to meet this woman ?

Have it ever happend to you that you felt stuck with women , maybe hopeless or desperate with them .. and then you walked near a few girls and they suddenly called you and asked you if you can help them with something with a smile and friendly vibe ?

Everyone wants attention and needs attention.

If you remember that incident .. wasn't there a moment where you were thinking to yourself "Hmm .. they are cute girls .. i'd like to meet them !" ?

Now think about some hot woman in the street that you want to meet.
You don't know how her life looks like .. maybe she's alone and have no guys in her life ?
Maybe she's stuck with a bunch of nobodies and losers she can't stand and is desperate to find a real guy like she wants ?
Maybe she's horny and would like to fuck someone tonight ?

You approaching her and even asking her where is the bank in this area with a smile can make her day !

I can't tell you how many times i opened women with simple and stupid questions like "do you know where is a toy store in here ?" and it led to me meeting them, taking them out and fucking them ?

This is how random, "mutual" meetings .. "Hand of fate" .. or "He just bumped into me in the street and asked me where the cashier is .. and he was soooo cute..." type of meetings that happends day after day, all the fucking time !

Yeah .. of course this can't guarantee you that any woman you'll approach this way will immediately fall all over you. I mean , imagine to yourself a fat chick approaching you with a smile and asking you where a cashier is ? You'd probably answer her and just walk off LOL .. but doesn't matter how .. you'll think she was cute right ?

This is also a safe, non-threating way to approach a stranger that will make them feel safe around you. And believe me, no chick will shout at you or be harsh for you simply asking her something with a smile.

You don't believe me ?

Go out to the field and try THIS lame openin by itself 20 times.
Just approach women, smile at them and ask them for some direction or guidance.

You'll be surprised and dazzled by what you get in return.

-- leedrag0n

Screening explained

2009-01-31T06:20:00.000-08:00

Most people who ever started learning influence and seduction in order to pickup women usually all had the same wish in their minds : To reach a level where they'll be able to have sex with ANY woman they want, anytime and anywhere.

Over time, as you get good mastering this stuff, you'll realize this goal becomes a reality.

Your attraction game becomes superb, your social skills become smooth, your frame and beliefs become strong and tight, and your ability to create emotions and lead women becomes a slick art.

You will eventually reach a level where you can have sex with ANY woman who is attracted to you at some point, and during that you'll realize that there is a different "key" used to open each girl for sex with you.

What I mean by this "key", is her issues regarding sex.

To some women, can be her fear of what her friends will think about her.
To others, can be fear of poor performance from their part.
Some women may have fear of you rejecting them after sex.
Others, may have issues with their looks and their body.
Some other women, just plain simply SUCK at bed and have no sexual experience.

You surely have learned ways to overcome those issues and to temporarily "fix" them in a woman in order to have sex with her, yet as you become better you'll realize that at some point you may not wish to deal with them anymore.

There are women who are simply not in the same sexual league as you are.
And you'll surely want to meet women you can enjoy with, ones who have those issues fixed already in them.

Think about yourself for as a world class musical performer, looking to form a band.
When you look around to find people to co-operate with, you can definitely find some vegtables seller in an open market and decide that you teach him how to play a guitar so he can be your band partner, but will you really do it ?

Most likely not, you will simply look for someone who already knows how to play a guitar.

You know that not every woman who wears high heels and bikini, is a model.
In same way : not every woman that LOOKS sexual, is also sexual herself.

That is the point where you have to decide what do you want -
what kind of women you are looking for ?

Making a list of qualities you are looking for in a woman is also known as "screening".
That will bring your game another level up, to a level where you not only become a better selector of women, but you also start to enjoy them much more.

During the process of screening you will eventually have to eject and cut it with a few women earlier in your interactions, this will lead to lower closing rates probably and may seem counter-productive at first, but once you'll start getting the results you will enjoy every bit of them much more than you would without it.

So bottom line is, screening is worth it.

Forget about closing rates and shit, instead focus on the results you are really looking for.

Focus explained

2008-12-04T15:50:00.000-08:00

Welcome again guys !!

4 months since my last post in here ..

During the last 4 months i have realized a couple of new core level realizations that im going to of course share with you here in the next few posts, so im going to start with the first of them : Focus.

I saw a good movie once called "The Secret", im sure you've all heard of it.

The main subject of the movie is "The law of attraction", and in general is the idea that whatever we focus on, we get more of it in our life.

What it really means is that whatever it is you think of and believe in is what you'll get, or like Henry Ford said many years ago : "Whether you think you can, or can't - either way you're right !".

A quick example : "rejection".

Ask most guys why they don't approach a woman, and they will say : "I dont want to get rejected". So you can understand by this reply exactly what they are focused on - they are focused on "rejection".

Whether they are aware of it or not, this kind of focus not only that it doesn't help in preventing the rejection - it makes it happend even faster !

Because when you are so focused on rejection, you will both consciously and unconsciously look for any possible rejection sign from the woman in order to "prevent it", and guess what ? When you ARE looking so anxiously for a rejection sign, even a simple break of eye contact from her WILL be perceived a "rejection" in your mind, even when in reality it could be that she is simply shy and/or nervous just as you are.

That is just one example of a negative focus, or what they called in the movie "focusing on what you do not want" (or "what you want to avoid" , "what you are afraid of" etc).

When you focus on something that you do not want, you actually attract more of it into your life !

So , whats the cure for this ?

Well, during the entire movie they keep saying "Keep focusing on what you do want", also known as a positive focus. Well .. how do we start focusing on what we really want ?

There is a three-step process that i have personally tested myself and seems to work.

First, you need to ask yourself : what do you really want ?
This really is the easiest step of all, but the most powerful one - it immediately shifts your focus.

Think about it a minute and write it down in a piece of paper, be true and honest with yourself and describe exactly what it is you want to achieve, and feel free to ask for whatever it is you truely want : anything you want to achieve in your life is possible !

Infact, the evidence to this is shown every day by day throughout the world where more and more people do "the impossible" and invent new theories, create new inventions, break more world records, and literally do amazing things.

You can even put this to the test if you'd like to - Ask yourself what you want to achieve, and then start looking over videos in YouTube or search Google for people that already achieved it in their life and realize it here - if they can do it, so can you !

..

The second step is to visualize your goal as if it was already achieved.
And usually this is a harder step to some people, but you would agree that it doesn't take any effort to just sit in a quiet room somewhere in your house, close your eyes, and for a couple of minutes to imagine yourself as already achieved that what you asked for ?

Hell you can even make it easier for yourself - do you remember any time in your past that you already achieved what you are asking for right now ? If so, then how much effort will it take to you to sit on your couch and just remember it ?

Now the key here is to do whatever you can do to experience this "goal achievement" as lively as you possibly can in your mind - involve all senses, try different visualizations and experiment with it in your free time until you reach a visualization that creates the emotion, the feeling of already achieving your goal.

I know it may sound silly to alot of you, but i have time after time fallen off my chair to my amazement of just how powerful this step really is and how that it totally creates the "attraction".

I have even had to try 3 different visualizing scenarios once before i finally found one that really created the feeling of already achieving the goal.

And the third step ?

The third step is to simply release and let go of what you just did, and trust "the universe" that it will manifest your wish for you.

What does all this amounts to ?

Here's my explanation for it, and please don't tell me i dont know what im saying if you haven't yet tried all of this by yourself :

Well, following these 3 steps will create a new "emotional filter" inside your consciousness.
You know what im talking about - an "emotional filter" is an emotional resonance response to something that is inside of your awareness, like a Deja vu effect. a Deja vu is an example of an "emotional filter" when you suddenly notice something that looks familiar already and you can't figure out where from.

It happends when you focus on something so strong emotionally, that you then suddenly begin to witness it everywhere you go to like a Deja vu, an effect that makes you more and more aware of that thing, hence attracting more of it into your life like a snowball effect.

The only thing to remember here is that what you focus on will attract more of into your life, so when you suddenly change your focus to something else, you will start to attract more of that "new thing", so its important to always stay focused on what you really want.

You can do this daily, once in a week, or even once in a month, how many times you like to as long as you enjoy it and it doesn't become a choir, and of course that it really creates the power of the attraction by generating the feelings of having achieved it already.

You will know when you feel it once you try it a few times.

Not escalating ?

2008-08-08T09:06:00.000-07:00

If you are not approaching, or not escalating , or not progressing any of your PUs to a sexual encounter, then this post is for you !

There are basically 2 main reasons for this :

1. you dont want to
2. you do not believe the chick will want it

Lets look on those for a sec ..

Number 1 is kinda trivial here : when you dont really want something, you will not do it. Makes sense ?

Do you remember the last girl you talked to as part of a PU attempt ?
Can you remember a moment during the interaction, when you started thinking about having sex with her and how lusty and exciting that can be, perhaps to the point you started to think how to make it happend right there and that night ?

If you answered "yes" to this question, Then you obviously DID want to have sex with this chick, so point number 1 is fixed here.

Lets take a look at number 2 now ..

When you believe a chick will not want sex from you, you will not offer it to her !
and this is a tricky concept to understand, but an important one.

You see, most of the time we do things on autopilot.
If we wouldn't, and had to consicously think about EVERY single action we do, we'd go NUTS !
All the actions we take, behaviours we project, strategies and decisions are made automatically according to what we believe is right, possible, or profitable for us.

Here's an example :

Say you're in a bus, and some guy sits near you.
Will you try to sell him the air he's breathing for 20$ a kilo ?
Of course not !
Why not ?
Because you KNOW he wont buy it, and probably he'll also think you're nuts or lunatic for even trying to offer him something like that.

But lets say, for the sake of sanity, that you talked to him for several minutes during the bus ride .. and you found out he's a guitarist .. so you decide to offer him to form a band together.
Will you try that ?
Of course !
Why ?
Because you KNOW that this is a reasonable offer he may be interested in and may take in. You've got nothing to lose, yeah he may say that he's not interested because he already plays in a band .. but you know that it is OK to at least go for it and offer that for him.

So you see, what you believe in affects your actions and decisions drastically, and when you believe that a chick will not want sex from you, you definitely won't offer that for her.

Tadaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa !

And this is a big one here, so lets look at that for a moment too.

OK well first you should know that women LOVE to do things that make them feel great.
Massages, Spa's, Showers, Dress good, Shopping .. etc .. and sex is DEFINITELY something that feels wonderful for them, probably way more than it is for us infact.

To further increase this understanding, lets assume they don't want good sex.

If it was true, they won't invest so much in their looks !
they wont THINK ABOUT IT and FANTASIZE ABOUT IT all the time !
They wont write sex articles in newspapers on how to get "better sex from your partner", they wont invent "the big sex questionaire", they wont ask for advices on sexuality forums on how to have better orgasms, they wont go out with their girlfriends in packs every weekend and send AIs for good looking guys to approach them, they wont TALK about it between themselves ... further even : they won't talk about men all the time !

I mean seriously - why do WOMEN talk so much about MEN if they dont interest them ?

Also, On the biological level - sex (or: replication) is one of the TOP TWO life goals (the other one is to survive).
So a woman claiming that she "dont want to get laid", is as same as a woman saying she don't wanna live.

So as you see, women DO want to get laid just as much as we are.

Now you gotta ask yourself another question here.
Lets assume you want to get laid, and you know women want to get laid too.
But you believe that she will not want to have sex with YOU.
When you believe that she will not want the sex from YOU, guess what will happend ?
Exactly - YOU WILL NOT OFFER IT TO HER !!!

Same reasoning here.
It is a simple basic, even CORE level belief in your product !

You realized here already that women DO want to get laid just as much as we do, but if you still do not believe that she will want to have the sex with YOU, go back and read the previous post "The illusion of beauty" if you have issues with good-looking women, and go back and do the "Confidence" post again.

For your convenience, i brought the link to the last one here :

http://leedrag0n.blogspot.com/2008/04/confidence-101.html

-- leedrag0n

The illusion of beauty

2008-08-07T11:27:00.000-07:00

Beautiful women ... our lustful desire ...

What are they ?
Are they really “bitches” as most people assume ?
Are they really “out of our reach” ?
Are they “catched by someone” already ?

No, no & no !!

On a core level - A beautiful woman, is a WOMAN, first of all.
Next, you gotta realize that a woman is a HUMAN BEING, just like you and like everyone else.

All of us human beings have 3 basic needs in our life : Desire to be loved, Desire for sex and of course Desire to be meaningful.

This escapes the realities of most guys.

Calling a hot chick a “bitch” , or claiming that she is “out of your reach” or assuming that she “has someone already” are all just conclusions & excuses that derive from the WRONG belief that “chicks that i want dont want me back”, thats it.

Is it REALLY true, that ALL chicks that you want, dont want you back too ??

Let's look at that for just a second.

Let's assume that a hot chick you want “has someone already”.
Ok, remember like i mentioned a hot chick is really just another human being thats all.

Think about yourself as a proof for a second – say you met some chick and you are going out with her and all, but you don't really enjoy your time with her. She was the only thing available for you back at the time you met and you got into relationship with her out of choice.

You don't like her, and maybe you don't even enjoying being together or even having sex with her. If a better option was be available to you, you most likely won't think twice about leaving your “current” one, because you wanted to do it all along.

And this is not because you are “hot” , or a “player” or a pimp whatever – it is because you are a HUMAN and you WANT to be happy. Yep, the biggest psychological goal that is.

Knowing that MOST guys don't really know how to make a woman feel wonderful sex wise as you do, or make her feel happy as you do, can you begin to see now just how much of a BETTER OPTION you are for most hot women ?

Great !

Now lets go to the second one – lets assume that a hot chick is “out of your reach”.

Im willing to bet you here you have seen, many times, a hot chick going out with some ugly loser or even worse hot chicks hanging out with guys who behave like little kids who didn't grow up yet. You can't even tell if they actually enjoy having sex with these guys.

Think about that for a second ..

If hot chicks go with guys like that, how can that mean they are “out of your reach” ?

Are you sure it is not YOU who push yourself out of THEIR reach ?
And by doing so you actually take away a quality option away from them, so they are left only with kids and losers who are the only thing available to them ?

Chicks can't really pickup the guys they want.
They can only choose between what comes at them.

Don't leave them for the losers !

Good ... now lets go over to the final one – lets assume hot chicks are “bitches”.

Ok i've got some news for you here !!
Im sure if you have approached girls before .. you HAVE had harsh rejections even from girls who weren't THAT hot, maybe they were average and even UGLY, maybe older, etc.

And yet – those chicks who weren't hot .. you DIDNT call them “bitches” , did you ?
And you did call the hot ones !
Why ?
Are you a fucking KID who gets insulted for not getting attention from his mommy ?

GROW UP, man !

Lets say some chick approached you ... all of a sudden ... middle of the day ... inside a clothing store ... everyone see it ... she directly comes at you smiling and flirty ... but you are not in a great mood .. you may ditch her off ... does that mean YOU are a “bitch” ?

Of course not !

It is simply a temporary reaction to a state of chaos, uncertainty, maybe shame or fear, or tireness, whatever.

Remember, hot chicks just like you are human beings – they HAVE a right to live !
They have emotions and their moods too.

Sure they don't stop to think WHY they are doing or FEELING the way they do, they simply ACT on what they feel. Many times people go back home end of the day, remember what they did during the day, and more than once even feel SORRY for doing some of the things they did or not did and most of them can't really figure out WHY they did it. Thats exactly what i've been talking on throughout this whole blog !

Excellent !

Hopefully you will now begin to see hot chicks as other human beings who are equal to you.

Realize here that hot chicks, not only that they are normal human beings like everyone else but they are also FEMALES like all other chicks. That means that just like any other female, she IS attracted to guys, and she MAY even be attracted to YOU.

Yep.

She wants to have sex with a guy just like any other chick, and she probably IS eager to meet a real quality & sexual guy like YOU, or else she won't invest so much in efforts in her LOOKS !

You gotta realize the HOTTER the chick is, or MORE she invests in her looks, more likely she is eager to meet real guy, because chicks KNOW the only way guys will approach them is the better they look.

And as a final note for this post, im going to give you this following exercise to breakdown any chance of you having the wrong belief that “chicks that i want, dont want me back” :

Start remembering and bringing up on paper ANY chick you ever met, that YOU desired, and she reciprocated back with you too. I can bet you a dime, you HAVE had in the past many hot chicks that you wanted who wanted you back too, and you were simply too blind to realize it.

Because afterall, doesn't matter if she's hot or not – She is a FEMALE human being , and she has her needs and desires too.

Think about that for a while.

-- leedrag0n

Basic Availability

2008-07-15T13:21:00.000-07:00

Imagine to yourself that playing the mating game was as easy as opening "Minesweeper" on your desktop .. You'd play it all day long , right ?

I mean think about the differences between those two.

Minesweeper is a fun game, you just click on it and it popups on your screen, you can play it, if you win cool, if not you just press F2 and play a new game, no emotional involvement is required, piece of cake.

Now compare that to playing the mating game, you need to go out and start approaching tons of women, and have emotional & ego involvement , and persist, and .... right ?

WRONG !

If there is ONE concept that really FUCKS UP alot of guy's sex life is the wrong belief that gaming chicks requires alot of efforts. Its NOT !

75% of all you need is simply Basic Availability - Go OUTSIDE !

Think about the following for a second :

A well known clothing store in a mall that sells brand products.
They don't do THAT much effort out of the ordinary to sell their products, right ?
They are simply located somewhere in the mall, and they are OPEN from 10:00 in the morning till 22:00 in the evening. 12 Hours available every day. People that come into the mall simply see the store from a distance, and if it has something that may interest them they simply go inside the store and start checking the products. If the store contains quality products or has a good reputation they WILL sell clothes without hardly any efforts.

Basic Availability, as an analogy, is exactly the same idea about YOU & Women that you see throughout your day. As you GO OUT of your house, you pass by many women. These women SEE YOU, and in a matter of short seconds they already make a quick decision whether you ATTRACT them or not.

These women, as an analogy, are exactly the same as the kind of people that went inside the clothing store - If they are ATTRACTED to you, they WILL give small signals of interest, such as short eye contact here and then, physical proximity, change their walking direction so it will collide with yours, turn their body to your direction, etc etc ..

And out of these women who are attracted to you, you ALWAYS have the option to choose for which women you give a "presentation" of your "product" ;)

So you see, you don't need THAT much efforts to be put in order to get chicks.
75% of all you need is to simply to go out of your house.

There are enough women who are interested in you just the way you are, open your eyes !

-- leedrag0n

Attraction & Persistence

2008-07-07T01:45:00.000-07:00

One of the key factors of any successful PU is whether or not the woman is actually interested in you as a sexual partner or not, aka "attraction".

The more she is interested in finding a sexual partner or in you, the easier your game is, The less she is interested , the harder your game is.

For most guys, the perspective of picking up a girl they like is : I go out of my house, i SEE a woman of my choice, and then i just go and randomly pick her up.
But this is not a smart way to conduct a happy sex life,

You've probably heard the question im about to ask you now before.
Do think about it :

What is easier - To gain $100,000 by trying to collect $10 from 10,000 people ?
Or to gain $100,000 by trying to collect $10,000 from 10 people ?

Well the right answer here is the second way.
But what's the real difference between these two ways ?

Well, i'll tell you. The difference here is at where you put most of your efforts at.

The first way, collecting 10$ from 10,000 people requires that you put most of your efforts in trying to convince every person to give you 10$ and then run it over thousands of people randomly.

The second way, though, requires that you put most of your efforts simply in FINDING 10 people who are generous enough each to give you 10,000$, thats it.

Get to think about it for a second - in the first way, out of these 10,000 people you tried to collect 10$ from, SURELY were at least 3 or 4 people who would also generously give you 10,000$ if you asked them for, but how could you KNOW this if you were only focused on asking them for 10$ ??????

Back to our analogy now - Difference between easy gaming and hard gaming.

Chicks who are interested in you are usually easier targets game wise.
Everyday you walk out of your house, there are PLENTY of women who ARE interested in you everywhere you go to - They give you EC, stand closer to you, and in general are receptive to you gaming them. Believe it or not, SOME of these chicks are even EXACTLY your type looks wise. Going for chicks like that makes you collecting your $100,000 much easier, however more time needs to be invested in finding those chicks, hence - More efforts are put in finding those chicks, less efforts in gaming them.

Chicks who are NOT interested in you, for any reason that could be : You're not her "EXACT" type looks wise, she has no sex drive, she has no interest in sex, she has mental issues against sex, whatsoever, are harder targets game wise.
Everyday as you walk out of your house, there are plenty of women who are NOT interested in you too, you gotta accept it bro : not every chick falls over for you. These chicks usually give no EC, they stand far from you, they do whatever they can to possibly avoid any interaction with you. Going for chicks like that makes it almost impossible to collect anything from them, more of your efforts needs to be put in convincing and persuating them to be with you, so yeah - less efforts to actually find them if you just blatantly go at them cold approach, but more efforts needs to be put in trying to convince them to even give you "10$".

The analogy of the 10$ and 10,000$ is there out of purpose.

Believe it or not, just as much as there are people that giving 10,000$ is nothing for them, there are people that giving 10$ is ALOT for them.

Go out looking for those people who will give you 10,000$ happily and you'll have a great and healthy sex drive finding chicks who are interested in what you're about to ask them for.

Try instead to go out for the people who make you a hard time giving you even 10$ , and your sex life will keep running away from you, such as going for chicks who are NOT interested in you, and just waste your time and efforts trying to convince them to give you something they dont want to anyways.

-- leedrag0n

Horniness & Masturbation

2008-07-01T14:51:00.000-07:00

Ok, Let's assume we managed to "fix" our entire inner game.

We now have confidence, we are relaxed around women, we can approach and initiate conversations easily and can lead things the right way towards sex. We can "just be ourselves" around women and can freely laugh, smile, tease or even feel sad and bring up all kinds of emotions from within us without having to feel bad to ashame of them.

As i've mentioned several times already in this blog, we humans are driven mostly by emotions and way less by logic, and in the case of women its even more true.

Any emotion, or STATE, that you bring out from within yourself, tends to be reciprocated by the woman you interact with and get her feeling that way too.

And now we come to the point of Horniness, aka "Sexual State" - a 'new' kind of emotion, kindly reserved for adults, and to Masturbation - an activity we do that kills Horniness.

Horniness is basically a natural feeling in a healthy and sexually functional human body, a desire to have sex with a partner of the opposite sex. Feeling horny makes one become more aggressive sexually, which is the natural role of the male in the mating game.

Alot of guys think that being sexually agressive isn't an attractive behaviour because they keep listening to women's explanations for "why they rejected that guy" saying "he was just a horny punk", and it is BECAUSE of such sayings that it later becomes a conditioning like that it is that guys depress their sexuality.

So lets make a point clear here.

When a woman is NOT attracted to a guy, she WILL find any and all reasons in the world to reject him, on the other hand if she IS attracted, she will find any and all reasons in the world to accept him.

Aside of the fact horniness is a NATURAL human emotion , it gets sexual arousal to be PROJECTED outwards, a thing that WILL cause a woman who is attracted to you to get sexually aroused back to you. Yes, a woman who is attracted to a guy will get MASSIVELY turned on if she gets a feeling the man himself is so turned on for her, he's about to lose control.

So if you used to masturbate in order to decrease your sex drive because you felt its about to "ruin your well controlled game" - STOP IT NOW. Never depress your sexuality & horniness, which are actually what MAKES you a man !

One other aspect of Horniness, other than the fact that it makes you more aggressive, it gets you thinking more about women. This is again NATURAL. Forget about all that "Dont be needy" kind of conditionings, AGAIN = they are BASED on listening to women who were NOT attracted to guys approaching them giving their "thoughts" on guys hitting on them.

Instead of masturbating next time, use the Horniness to direct your mind thinking more about how you can actually find a girl to have sex with when you're feeling like this.

-- leedrag0n

Ego & Insecurities

2008-05-23T11:04:00.000-07:00

Have you ever noticed of this self-destroying mechanism inside your mind called "EGO" ?

Yeah this autopilot emotional system designed to "save" you from any embarrassing, humiliating or even damaging social reactions from others ?

Notice for a second the last thing i said above ... "autopilot emotional system designed to keep you safe from harsh social reactions".

Alot of this has been in your mind since age 4 already, and in general its not really a bad thing to have this mechanism !

You WILL get caught by the police and maybe even sent to jail if you suddenly decided to go out naked tommorow to your local mall to do shoppings or even approach women LOL.

So gotta give a credit to it though - this "EGO" mechanism is actually there to not only protect you but to also GUIDE you at which way is right way to go.

However, the real problem begins when this mechanism becomes too strong, or over the normal limits. Imagine to yourself for a second that the real purpose of the EGO mechanism was to create a transparent glass bubble shell over each individual. The person has this bubble in which inside of it he's protected and assured his security YET he can still see things through it, talk to people and even do everyday normal activities, he may still get hurt every here and there but overall he has basic protection.

The problem begins when ABOVE the normal transparent shell the mechanism created another huge dark plastic bubble shell. So now the person has TWO SHELLS - the basic transparent one, and another untransparent shell above it. This now gives the person what i call "over-protection". Sure, no way he's gonna get hurt this way, but he's also going to miss alot of life because he can't really be able to even SEE anything now, since he's over protected.

....

In order to have a hot girlfriend, maybe even have the ability to date hot women here and then, hell even have a CHANCE at them by taking their phone numbers even, whatever - In other words to have any chance with any woman of YOUR desire, you will have to make a choice between taking the red pill (Letting go of your "EGO" completely, and be prepared and ready to get alot of "rejections" or harsh social reactions from people) and take your "shell" completely off and be exposed to social harshness, or take the blue pill - go back to your bed and keep living life under your protective shells and make no moves, initiate nothing, and in return - you'll get NOTHING.

How can i say so ?

Because many of the "protective" EGO autopilots are not really in your favor here.
According to your "EGO", the "right" place to meet women is in work, school, or social circles.
The "right" way to meet women is to be introduced to them by someone you both know (A girl or a guy, whatever) , and even then you STILL have to initiate some moves, initiate a phone numbers exchange, initiate a date etc, etc. Yeah, it is "safer" and more protective, but then you are dependent on "luck" or others ... and ... are the girls you meet in these meetings really are YOUR types ?

Have you ever felt stuck by an inability to go and talk to a woman YOU desire and just couldn't figure out WHY it happends like this ? I've got news for you - It WAS your "EGO" that has blocked you - your autopilot emotional system created to protect you from harsh social reactions. Great at protecting you from illusional social "pain", great also at keeping the women of your desires away from your reach. Am i the only one smelling a hidden "formula" for success here ? ;-)

Back to the basics : Society first have teached women that it is men's job to initiate the meeting.
Then it was every girl's life experiences that taught her this - The HOTTER the girl was, the more guys were approaching her / being introduced to, hence - the LESS desire she had to actually go and initiate moves by herself. Why should she ? She's good looking, yeah she may see a guy she really likes who makes no move and be disappointed by it, but she'll keep on living and she knows the other day she may still meet someone.

So you see, i just got you realizing here that this "EGO" you have, which is a great thing really as it keeps society as a well structured world of human beings, can really be a damaging thing when it comes to meeting people, and ESPECIALLY meeting women of your choice.

So what can we do here ?

A couple of important realizations.

First, wake up and realize it is OK for you to try and initiate an introduction / meeting with a woman of your choice. Other people (especially guys who are after her) may not like it, but she WILL LOVE it !!! Even if she has no guts to show it right now, Even if you really weren't her type, Even if she really wasn't prepared for it - she WILL go home and think about it in a positive light.

Second point here, important one - you have to let go of the "EGO", once again mentioned.
Sometimes you will run into strange and wierd reactions, sometimes women will be standoffish on you, sometimes women will even try to HURT you and humiliate you when your original goal was to actually get them PLEASED. All those things your "EGO" mechanism was designed to protect you from. You cant predict these reactions, but you also can't escape them or you will be back to square one and not meeting women of your desire again. A BIG thing here is to realize that these reactions are nothing personal on YOU - They are just emotional autopilot responses these women throw out, not on purpose !! Sometimes the woman is in a hurry, other times the woman is married and stuck on the guy 100%, other times the woman simply is in a bad or even depressed mood, some women even have social fears of strangers. NOTHING personal. drop the ego. you'll have to be willing to go through such reactions in order to have ANY chance of getting women of your desire, as mentioned above.

And final point number Three - These reactions will NOT kill you !
Yep, even if it was the worst rejection in the world you will walk out of there still alive, it may feel a bit harsh but it is just a feeling, and that is natural. emotions have a tendency to be transmitted from one person to another, so if she responded harshly to YOUR flattering approach, chances are that at some point in time some other guy responded exactly the same on HER, so now that you came she has a chance to transmit it to you. Again, nothing personal.
Humans are excessively stupid animals when it comes to emotions, as i already explained before.
At the end of the day its just a temporary emotion being transmitted to you by a girl, it doesnt say anything on who you are as a person because SHE DOESN'T EVEN KNOW YOU !

and with those you are now ready to let go of your ego and start enjoying life more.

A Word about insecurities

So the "ego" was the autopilot emotional system to protect you from harsh social reactions.
We now understand its bullshit and letting it go is the best choice you can ever make towards meeting the women of your desires.

Lets talk abit about insecurities.

Insecurities are another part of the "Ego" mechanism you have to let go of - the part trying to protect you from harsh social reactions towards qualities that exists inside of you.

If it ever happend to you in the past that people used to make fun of your moves, your speech, your qualities, hobbies, dreams or even goals, your ego mechanism will be there for the rescue of course by providing you protection from harsh social reactions to your inner abilities and sense of being.

And we all know this can be quite annoying at times really.

So what can be done here in order to let it all go ?

Couple of realizations again :

1. Yes you may not be an ideal person, but you are who you are and you need to appreciate it. Nobody can ever be ideal, every human being have his own faults. Those who haven't yet internalized it are real morons, and those who laugh at other's faults are real losers.

2. You can't ever become someone you are not really mentally, so don't even try to act in other ways that ain't who you genuinely are just because someone said that you "aren't masculine enough" or that you "aren't tall enough". Yeah of course things CAN be done in order to improve aspects in your life but don't ever try to adopt a behaviour that just isn't you. So if someone told you that you aren't good enough, unless it is a good friend who knows you really well - FUCK THEM. Nobody knows you the way you REALLY are.

3. Go over the "Confidence" post again and answer the question there to yourself.

4. Be genuine. The second biggest compliment you can give a woman other than the initial approach is to come and present yourself as who you genuinely really are. Honesty and authenticity are probably the two most attractive qualities you can ever present to her as a man. Forget about the bullshit "player" illusion. Being a player means knowing how to use emotions as a play tools to direct her attention and feeling, nothing else. It certainely isn't being a fake guy.

--leedrag0n

Social Confidence

2008-05-11T05:36:00.000-07:00

Ok lets start by asking you this simple question ..

How do most people usually hook up with sexual partners, aka "relationships" in the standard socially acceptable ways ?

Men & women meet at school, workplaces, college or through their social circles.

A woman hooks up with an available man, they go out for several dates.

She gets to "know" him first by going out with him for 4 or 5 dates, and gets to test him for compliance with money & social status first, and only once she knows him and knows he's a socially acceptable partner, she feels it is right to sleep with him.

On the other hand, women will sleep way faster with guys who are considered by many to be "players" or "naturals", so whats the catch here ?

The catch here is the difference between going along with the rules of society, and going against them.

"Players" or "Naturals" all share one unique characteristic if you get to closely examine them - they don't give a shit at social rules, or at "what others think about them" AT ALL. Some people call them jerks, others call them arrogant, others call them selfish etc etc. but the bottom line is - they get the women to sleep with them WAY FASTER than other ordinary guys would have to go out with them and pay for their dinners etc etc.

Why is this important to know ?

Because like i was explaining in the previous post you may have already realised - women DO want sex just as much as we do, and get to think about it way more than us. Every woman at some level feels like a repressed sexual animal who has to keep on pretending an act that she hates sex and that is torture for them really. That is because they have to follow social rules in order to be socially accepted, so that other people will accept them.

So whats the deal with the player / natural / jerk / arrogant dude LOL ?

The player doesn't give a fuck at the "social rules", and women can sense it in him.

Thus - it makes WOMEN feel more comfortable at breaking the "rules" themselves, it gives them a chance to break free of the social binds they have upon them and fulfill their most wanted lust and cravings for sex, without having to feel guilty about it.

Does this makes sense ?

Every woman would crave for instant sex with a man, this is their fantasy.

I goes against "social rules" - it is considered a social "crime" for a woman to act so fast on her desire for sex with an attractive man.

But talking about crimes , think about the following metaphor for a second.

Two friends of yours offer you to go to and try steal a stripper from a strip club.

One of them is a coward and is afraid of big guys (like the bouncer) and you know it.
The other one is not scared of anything, he pisses over people and makes them look like little clowns in a cartoon movie.

Which one of these two friends, you will feel more comfortable to cooperate with ?

Think about that now, as it comes to women.

On the other hand they have sex, which they want for and crave for all the time.
Two guys approach them.

One guy is a social coward, has a high status job and all but he's concerned about what others will think about him making the moves.
The other one doesnt give a fuck at the rules, does whatever he wants and makes other people look like clowns compared to him.

Which one of them she will feel more comfortable "breaking the rules" of sex with ?

.......

Do you have social confidence ?
Do you worry about the social rules or what others will think about you ?

If so , ask yourself - Why ?
Has it ever gotten you the results you wanted ?
Or did it always kept you frustrated and angry ?

If so , then it is about time for you to start breaking the rules.

Worst thing that can happend for you is you'll start getting laid.

--leedrag0n

Sexuality explained

2008-05-05T09:12:00.000-07:00

Back to the core stuff here, but more advanced this time.

Warning here : If you are still novice in the game and haven't actually had SEX or even relationship with women, then this article will probably make no sense to you and even scare you, so i really don't recommend you to read it and instead get experienced in sexuality first before you could read on. Otherwise if you are novice and still keep reading though, do not blaim me if you don't understand something later on as you read it.

Ok lets start basic core and go up the ladder.

Why did nature provide 2 genders for every animal type = Male & Female ?
What is the first foremost biological need male and female has from each other ?

Its replication & survival.
Attraction between males & females is a biological drive to bring babies at its CORE level.

Lets talk a bit about relationships for a moment.
It is now more and more known that GOOD SEX is a crucial part of successful and happy relationship.
Nonetheless it is also known today that sex is a physical drive that exists in women too.

Why do i say all this ?
It is because you have to realize that the bottom line : what women NEED from us the most is sex and good sex. To be FUCKED, to say short. Not the rich salary, not the good-looking figure, not "love" etc. - all of those are just societal induced EXCUSES people believe in.

How do i know all of this ?

Well im a good looking guy, like you read in my profile im a highly skilled software programmer, you can conclude from that i have a respected job. Im not a boring person you might have figured it out already from reading all my previous posts. Im quite open and social. I have absolutely no problem with "paying" for women on dates.

You would probably think i have all it takes to be successful with the ladies.
Well maybe i do have it now, but in the past i used to give women a wonderful time together and in 90% or even more of the times, dates stopped after the first one if i didn't at least have a good makeout with the girl. Something was missing and i couldn't figure out what.

In all the times in the past where i did get sexually intimate with women - kiss, makeout or even sex, they wanted to stay in touch, and even more - they would more than often INITIATE MEETS THEMSELVES !

This by itself led me to a personal conclusion about what is it that women REALLY look for in us.

I finally realized the point exactly when i got exposed to female sexuality articles and female fantasies forums. I then realized that women are not only SEXUAL just like us, they are even way more aggressive than us even !

While men usually think they should talk & charm the girl first and be "good" to her and then try to go intimate with her, women themselves have a completely different view of sex in their own eyes. Women's fantasies are straight to the point - no bullshitting talk. A stranger guy approaches her middle of the day and he just bends her down and fuck her in the ass.
Not something i would suggest you to try though, as it will be considered rape.

Many men think women are holy angels, the truth is deep inside even the cutest of women are way more slutty and perverted than we are even. They only act it outside to the world because this is how they were "taught" from an early age. In reality though, this is torture for them.

Women masturbate just as much if not even more than we are.
They use dildos, candles, cucumbers and lots of other stuff, yet they know very well that there is nothing that can be compared to the REAL thing.

Women can LIKE you and maybe even ADMIRE you if you operate by society's expectations.
But women will not FUCK you if you don't try to fuck them yourself.
Women will never see you as a potential lover if you don't actually TRY to fuck them, what they fantasize, what they mostly lust for and desire - a guy who actually comes and fuck them. A sexual partner to share sex with, a replacement for their hands & dildos - The REAL thing.

This is what they FANTASIZE of and lust for the most !

Come and give them what they really want from you.
If she doesn't see you as a potential sexual partner, she has nothing to do with you really.

All the rest, is just society induced excuses you shouldn't even bother with.

"Boyfriend"

2008-05-01T18:12:00.000-07:00

You : "Hey youre a really fun person, lets hang out sometime !"
Her : "I have a boyfriend"

Ahhh , not that BOYFRIEND again !!

The so familiar phrase women often use that immediately puts us down, gets all the air out of the baloon, and makes us outright want to give it up.

If you are intimidated or let down by the boyfriend excuse, hopefully your ways of thinking will change once you've done reading this post.

Lets first talk a little bit about the way women think & feel sexually.

It is now more than ever known that women think and operate sexually EXACTLY like us men, if not more even. Women have lust and desire for sex, masturbate, have sexual fantasies and desire for multiple sexual partners as well.

They are TAUGHT, however, since an early age that this is wrong though - that it is "perverted" or "slutty" to not only act on their sexual desires but sometimes to even THINK about them.

Some women will often catch themselves fantasizing about a dick of a stranger going down their throat middle of the day and immediately have an inner voice pop up that tells them to STOP it because its "dirty".

Those sexual thoughts never leave them though and keep coming back because they are PART of a normal human's sexuality. Which makes the problem even WORSE when you think about it - makes them actually feel even WORSE about themselves, as dirty little whores who have been "infected by satans curse".

The only thing that is considered "right" or "ok" sexually for them is to be commited in a long term relationship with one guy.

Even worse - Many women even LIE and say they have a boyfriend when they dont really have one, just because of fear they will be considered "sluts" or "unfaithful" when they have no guy.

This is the society conditioning though, but in reality as we already know people are DRIVEN BY EMOTIONS not logic (again), and if a woman is in a "relationship" with a guy who doesn't fill her sexual desires she WILL look for better options, yet always have that inner voice pop up in her mind and tell her it is wrong though.

What can we do about it ?
First are a couple of crucial things to have in your mind next time this happends to you in field.

The first and most important thing you MUST realize here is that IT IS OK FOR A WOMAN TO BE HAPPY AND SEXUALLY SATISFIED !
And it is not right for her to keep staying in a terrible sexual relationship she doesn't even enjoy. She is a human afterall, and if she isnt happy in her relationship she has every right to end it.

The second and most important thing you MUST realize here is that it is NO ONE'S RIGHT TO JUDGE A WOMAN'S SEX LIFE !
Because today they judge her for this guy, tommorow they judge her for that date she went out with, the other day they judge her for the guy in the disco she sent eye contact to, and not only that she isn't loyal to herself, nor loyal to the poor guy himself - she keeps staying loyal to OTHER PEOPLE'S EXPECTATIONS FROM HER ! How will she feel tommorow if all those other people get married and she stays on her own ? Will they stop judging her ? Of course not.
Who's sex life is she here to fulfill - her own or others ?

The third thing to realize is that SHE IS ADULT ENOUGH TO LISTEN TO HERSELF AND MAKE HER OWN DECISIONS ! No one knows herself way she does and no one feels what she feels. Many times the advices she got from her parents or her "girlfriends" are advices that those people will never do themselves if they were in a similiar situation like her. And women KNOW that other women have no word, so fuck it.

I brought these realizations in here to not only shed a light on better understanding it from her point of view, but more so to shed a light over YOUR POINT OF VIEW on the whole "boyfriend" bullshit.

It is a social definition, thats all.

In reality it is simply the first sexually available guy she got introduced with and stays with him simply because there are no better options presented, and to fulfill others expectations from her. It is not even marriage, just a comfortable and available sexual partner in the mask of a "boyfriend" to look good in others eyes, thats all.

Just ignore the "boyfriend" bullshit and realize that all she's really trying to do is show you she is a good girl and that she is "ok" socially.

Always assume you are better than him and she only stays with him because she has no other options, or otherwise all of them creep out as soon as they hear her "boyfriend" excuse, and dont realize she may be terribly sexually frustrated or even more she's not even AWARE about how bad her sex life really is, yet keep saying that she has a boyfriend because of her inner society voice coming in her mind that tells her to say it whenever she is TURNED ON, actually.

Also as an analogy in sales, when you come to offer a customer a Ferrari, and he GOT the money to allow it, yet tells you that he already have a Fiat Uno 94 model currently, you will not tell him "Oh ok thanks" and leave off, you will tell him "Wow man you will really want to get rid of it once you see our car !" to get him curious enough to take a "test drive" in it and be convinced himself.

In the case of a woman and a boyfriend, its almost the same case : You will want to tell her "You will want to get rid of him once you see me in action !", but you can also get her to imagine how great you are & feel curious about finding it out in other ways so she will then be likely to think : "Hmmm this guy really sounds promising, makes me feel curious about him, i want to find out more about him !".

Hope this helped.

leedrag0n

Confidence

2008-04-26T23:20:00.000-07:00

Pickup is very similiar to sales in alot of its aspects.

The formal definition of it is - the art of influence & seduction on women for the purpose of having sex with them.

You should know, at a core level, that ANY woman you'll EVER approach WILL eventually fuck someone. Yep, they all end up with someone. The question is : WHY YOU ?

Why would she want to have sex or get in a relationship with YOU, and not someone else ?
What can YOU give her in return ?

Think about it real hard, and answer this only to yourself.

This isn't in anyway related to your "game" skills level.

Its the product itself we are talking about here, not the marketing.