Making an effort ..

Today i want to talk a little bit about efforts.

You're probably familiar with the following situation : You drive in your car, or walk down the street, maybe you're in a work building or simply on your way to lunch .. and suddenly .. you notice a really hot looking chick .. walking .. or passing near you ..

And as you see her .. you begin to wonder .. to approach her? or to not approach her?

And while you're wondering that .. you start making a list of reasons why you should approach, and on the other hand you start making a list of reasons why not.

Some of the reasons why you should may include :

1. She's realy hot and sexy
2. She's exactly my type
3. She's got something that realy turns me on
4. I've never been with a girl like that
5. She's alone, no one is with her
etc ..

Some of the reasons why you shouldn't may include :

1. What if it doesn't work ?
2. Am i realy gonna stop my car / cross the street for her ?
3. Is it a waste of time ?
4. What if she rejects me ?
etc ..

As you recall all the times in the past this has happend to you .. and i know for sure it did .. can you remember what claims usually won this debate? Did you approach her in the end? Or did you give it up before even trying?

OK, So now I'M here to tell you why I personally think you should always go for the effort :

1. There is never a 100% success guarantee on any approach. Even when you are 100% sure about things, you may find its just not going the way you expected. You can never know for sure whats going to happend .. And you can never get a guarantee for it to work - so just accept and release it. Come to the women without expectations.

2. However, real success with women comes from consistently creating opportunities to meet them, not as a one time or rare event. The "once in a lifetime girl I approach now" attitude is realy not the right way to go at things in this area - consistency is key. So yeah - you might or might not "win" over this girl , but as long as you're trying - no matter whether it works or not - you always succeed in creating an effort. And after you do it once and realize its not such a big deal - its just walking up and talking to a girl - you will be able to do it again , and slowly you will get used to approach women on random situations, and the more you operate this way - you will create alot more opportunities to meet women of your choice. And when you begin to live like that, you will be meeting women of you choice on a consistent basis, not as a one time or rare event. And this way, there's absolutely no way you won't get results with kind of women you truely desire.

3. Related to #2 above - The funniest thing about this is that deciding to make an effort is something that is 100% and totally under your own choice and control! You can't know whats going to happend with the women, and you can't always control her behaviour, but you can totally decide and control how many women you are approaching. Leaving it to the "hands of fate" or approaching a chick once in a month is completely your own decision. And guaranteed it is your own decision and your own choice, that means you have the resources and the ability to change it at will.

4. And this is a realy crucial one many many guys don't get - all those "wasted" opportunities are hot chicks who are alone by themselves!!! there are no "guy friends" , no "girl friends", no "co workers" and no "mother and father" with them who may interfere and cockblock your seduction attempt. Its just you and them. Those kind of opportunities are actually golden opportunities that you are missing. Realize this!

5. Any effort brings experience and every experience collects feedback inside of it you can learn from. You may not believe it, but you can learn tons about how to improve your game even after a single approach you make. So, even if you don't get the girl you're always going to collect something from it that can benefit you.

So there you have it - 5 reasons why you should always go for the effort.

Ponder that for a while,

-- leedrag0n

"Boyfriend" II

Hey guys, its me again !

(You didn't expect someone else to write here, did you? :))

I hope you are enjoying reading this blog and find it useful.

Throughout this entire blog i've been sharing pretty powerful and insightful thoughts and realization about succeeding with women, and hopefully you have adopted them in real life and have began to notice how true they are.

You probably realized that I keep coming back and writing new stuff all the time, and I thank you guys for following up with me.

Today I want to talk, yet again, about the "I have a boyfriend" response women give.

Yeah, this annoying response they throw that gives a feeling for the interaction as if "its over".

Its a fact that many many women use the phrase "I have a boyfriend" when dealing with us.

You've probably heard this one, and probably more than once when attempting to start a conversation with a woman.

Many guys feel "shut down" when hearing this line - as if the woman rejected them right off the bat and gave them no chance to even present themselves to her.

Have you ever found yourself wondering .. why is she saying it ?

Why will she want to shut down this opportunity before she even knows what she's going to miss here?

As I already explained before, a girl saying to you that she "Has a boyfriend" is to be treated exactly the same as a guy telling you "I have a Fiat Uno 1994" when you come to sell him a Ferarri car.

When a woman says "I have a boyfriend", this basically means she's either bringing up a logistical problem, or she's bringing up resistance to your attempt to talk or even present something to her.

Doesn't matter whether its true or not - resistance is resistance, period.

You probably also make excuses such as "I dont have a wallet on me" to a gipsy's asking you for money on the street, or perhaps you even blatanlty ignore them when they are approaching your car in a high traffic junction, right ?

We are driven by feelings and emotions. Very powerfully, and in an almost hypnotic way which is totally outside of our conscious awareness.

Here's the thing - People will not resist something they enjoy !

So, if they are resisting something, it most probably could be because they aren't enjoying it at this moment.

When a gispy approaches you and you're inside your car, you could be wandering with your thoughts or simply wanting to enjoy the silence and clarity of thoughts, maybe you want to listen to the radio and maybe you just want to look at something else. A gipsy approaching you will surely "interfere" this state, so you will feel an irrestible urge to resist his approach.

Think about a little kid, for instance. (many people make the common assumptions that if someone looks mature he's also emotionally mature, its really not the case in reality. many people ARE emotionally driven just as much as if they were still little kids!)

Have you ever tried to present an idea, or ask a kid to do something, while he's playing with his toys or he has just woken up, or when he's simply in a bad mood ?

If you did, you'd most probably find that it is a pretty difficult, almost impossible task - and thats exactly the analogy here = you must realize that every "mature" or outside appearing adult person still has that "little kid" inside of his consciousness that drives his actions and decisions based on how he feels - and almost always they are not even aware of thats what they're doing !!!!

So, what does it mean for you ?

Your goal is to get the girl interested in you on the sexual level, and in order to do it you must get her attention to you so you could at least try and get her interested in you.

A chick telling you "I have a boyfriend"... pfffff, instead of interpreting it as "Its over man", you can easily interpret it as one of the following :

1. "Im currently not in the right state for you to present me what you want".

2. "I dont think you have what I want" (how can she know it before she even knows you?)

3. "Im simply not interested" (again, how can she know this if she didn't even listen to what you're offering her?)

4. "I have a logistical problem = Im seeing someone" (This should never bother you, as it can almost always be changed and rationalized by her if she gets interested in you. Of course she has to be "seen" with someone for social status, doesn't mean he's pleasing her and doesn't even mean she realy likes him. She can use it as an excuse for her to not get along with you, i.e : "Because I respect him, etc". Any kind of Boyfriend destroyer will work here)

Those are pretty much better ways to interpret it, right ?

Now .. you've seen me talk alot about states, didn't you ?

Well - You can be sure i'll repeat coming back to it because its crucial!

Like I said in my "Pickup stages" post, you must first get her out of her current state (remember the kid example) into a state that will assist you in grabbing her attention towards you so you could at least try to get her interested in you. I insist on that, and for very obvious reasons that i may explain in a later post, but for now after reading this post you're probably beginning to understand why its so important.

Don't wait for mircales to happend or wait for her to be in the "right state" to talk to you - learn how to create that "state" instantly in her.

Your ability to create a state or emotion is your biggest leverage point here.

Always remember - people are driven emotionally , not logically.

-- leedrag0n

Certainty in PU

And no ..

I don't mean certainty from your perspective about whether or not you're gonna lay this chick, but in fact - I talk about certainty from the woman's point of view about YOU and your sexual abilities !

Sounds confusing ?

I'll try to explain.

From what I found, it seems to me that alot of women don't like to take risks.

This is probably why they do not approach guys, this may be the reason why they look for promises for relationships before they enter them, and this could also be the reason why ... THEY'LL FLAKE ON YOU WHEN THEY HAVE DOUBT ABOUT YOUR SEXUAL ABILITIES AS A LOVER !!

Alot of women just don't know what to do in the area of the "unknown", they'd rather go for whats certain and assured, probably even way more than us guys.

Makes sense, right ?

GREAT, now what am I supposed to do with this knowledge ?

Simple logic here - a chick will fuck you when she's certain enough that you mean business and not just waste her time, and vice versa she will not fuck you if she has doubts about your sexual abilities.

This is why, when you always reach the fourth stage of your pickup (Seduction stage), initiate a sexual move, whether a kiss on her neck, or a kiss on one of her hands. Suggest a massage - anything sexual that WILL get her realizing that you stand behind yourself and you mean business and she can be certain about your sexuality and about having sex with you.

Again, when she's certain that you are a lover and great sex she goes for it, and when she's not - she doesn't.

-- leedrag0n

Emotions Explained #2

Hey guys !

This post is just a refresher for the good old "Humans are mostly driven by emotions, not logic!" core post that i wrote here a year ago, which I still think is the most important of them all.

Today I want to show you again why this is true, to better help you internalize this crucial and important understanding, and to also show it from a different angle using different examples, both from MY OWN life and from my friend's lives.

So lets start with BASIC first facts :

We all know that emotions are real and they exist.

We can feel them in our physiology and in the body.

I think the most obvious way to show you just how powerful they are is simply by looking at your actions. Just look at what you did this week : You are reading this blog, hence you obviously want to get laid more and meet more chicks. How many times did you go out this week to meet women ? How many women did you approach this week ? If you haven't done any, can you answer the question : Why is it, when you want something, you still dont do anything towards getting it ?

If you'll dig into that question, you'll obviously find no logical answer, because there is no logical answer here. You're obviously not thinking in a logical way here. Because the logic says : More women you approach, more women you meet, more women you lay. Simple logic.

If you still find yourself, despite that logic, not doing anything to approach more women, then obvisouly it isnt logic that drives you here, but its some kind of an emotion, fear, despair, etc, whatever.

I will bring another example now from my own.

Sometimes I masturbate, yep I admit it. I dont know if any of you ever do it, but I usually dont realy feel that great afterwards, I'd rather fuck a woman instead of masturbating. But, when the feeling of arousal grows and you reach that point where your dick is erect and you're almost about to explode, your logical thinking disappears. Even when you know that you wont feel great about it afterwards, the feeling becomes so strong that it makes it hard for you to even be able to relax your mind and calm it down around it ! The only way to calm it, is by releasing it. So then, your mind finds logical reasons why its "ok" to dump it. These "logical excuses" that the mind brings up why its "ok" to go along with what you feel, is just one example here of how the way you feel completely changes the way you act, think and believe about something, to the point where it overrides your logical thinking to support the emotion you feel and make sense of it !! (aka "rationalizing")

Another example of it - How many of you ever had these mornings where you just didnt want to wake up? Your clock rang at 8am, and you promised to yourself last night that you will wake up, and then when the clock starts to ring, and you're all tired and exhausted, your mind will immediately start in bringing up logical "excuses" as to why its "ok to continue sleeping.." , and then you just fall asleep again, wake up at 11am or even worse 12pm, and then you just feel shit that half your day just went away ?

Now I bring even another example, this time from a friend of mine :

One of my good friends just recently ended a 10 months relationship with a chick. This chick was a bastard kind of person and she was with him only because of his appartment, and even though my friend had told me that he wanted to break up from her 5 months ago, he didnt.

Why, you may ask? Well, simply because "He loved her", thats what he said at least, but truth was simply the sex with her was great for him! He was so addicted to the sex with her that he just didnt, and couldn't want to leave her. I mean, what guy will just "let go" of something like that? Even though he knew, on a logical level, that she sucks as a person, and even though she pissed him off more than once, the good feelings he got from the sex with her, which he was so addicted to, completely blinded his consciousness from the rather logical truth that I, and his family could see ! His mind kept bringing "excuses" as to why keep going with her! He still stayed with her due to the great sex they had. And now, 1 month after they broke up, even though I asked him to stop talking about her, he simply can't. He keeps bringing up her name again, and again, and again, and he just cant seem to forget her.

Im sure that last one is something you can all relate with - being so dependant on a chick's sex, that it makes you so blind to the fact she treats you like shit and actually hurts you time and time again, the common syndrome "oneitis" that is coined in the PU community is exactly this.

I could also bring here the example of people who smoke cigarettes, and the "rationalizations" they give you as to why they can't stop smoking .. or why they "don't want to stop" .. but im sure you get where im driving with this ..

So now Im asking you this again - If we, guys, can be so strongly driven by our emotions, so much that it overrides our logical thinking, it overrides our actions, it overrides our decisions and it overrides our beliefs .. to say that women don't act the same when they have strong emotional response ??

This would be totally absord.

Chicks are way more emotional than us, so if we can be this strongly driven by emotions and feelings, consider women to be just the same.

-- leedrag0n

Frames explained

Hey guys !

In this post im going to get back to some powerful core and practical stuff you can use in your Pickups.

If you liked my "Emotions Explained" classic post that talked about how women are mostly driven by emotions and not logic, and how we can use this in our pickups, then you will absolutely LOVE this post.

Today im going to talk about Frames and how to use them.
What is a frame ?

For the practical purposes of our use, a frame is simply an "altered reality" that automatically triggers certain feelings, actions and beliefs inside of it.

What do I mean ?

Here's an example : Think about the difference between meeting a woman when you're out jogging, to meeting a woman when you're in a nightclub, ok ?

It is quite obvious that you think, feel, act and believe differently about the idea of meeting a woman inside a nightclub, than how you think,feel,act and believe about it when you're out jogging, right ?

I mean, when you're out jogging, you may believe that you're too sweaty and not good looking enough for a woman to want and talk with you, or you may believe that you can only take her number .. while in a nightclub, you can feel that you're great looking, and that you can not only take the girls number, but even invite her to dance and maybe even makeout with her .. right ?

To put it short - your frame here defines what you can do, how you can feel, and your beliefs about what you can do or can't do, whats possible and whats not and even more .. makes sense no ?

The difference between jogging and a nightclub is an ideal example of how you feel, act and believe differently inside two different frames !

Now think about women for a second.

Most women know that when they are in a vacation or they go to nightclubs, its OKAY for them to go for one night stands, why ? Because thats how their mind is setup on the level of thoughts, rules, beliefs and actions they take in those places.

Now, if you can get a woman to imagine she's talking with you right now, in a night club .. do you think that all the automatically triggered actions, beliefs and feelings will immediately rise to the surface of her mind ?

THE HELL YOU BET !

Matter of fact is, that almost anyone in this planet, when telling stories to others, get themselves into different frames all the fucking time !!

You probably know this from your own experience as well - Have you ever noticed how whenever you tell somebody a story about something that happend to you while you were in a vacation or a nightclub, how during the talk you felt as if you are totally there , and how all the feelings, thoughts and beliefs just suddenly came back up to the surface ?

Have you ever found yourself telling a friend of yours something like "Man, she was so into me, i think i could have just done her in the toilet", as you describe to him something that happend to you while you're in a nightclub ?

Now, let me make a wild guess here, that if you told a story about how you met some girl in the mall, for instance, you'd never even think about taking her to the toilet as you would in a nightclub, no ?

And if that so, why do you think its like that ?

Its simply because a mall and a nightclub are two different frames , each comes with a different set of beliefs and actions you can do in them, thats why !!

Now check this cool thing : Suppose that during the conversation between you and this girl, in the mall, suddenly the lights go out, loud music starts to be played in the speakers, flash lights and big bars with drinks and bartenders in them pop up, the mall instantly becomes a huge nightclub .. everyone around you is dancing, buying drinks, and having a good time .. and you know the chick you talk with is totally into you .. How do you feel about it now ?

How will you behave differently now ?? Will you end this conversation with just a phone number, or instead take her to the booth and kiss with her ?

And if I can do it on you, right now, using words only, here in my blog - to put you into a different frame in your mind with different beliefs, actions and feelings about this meeting - you can do it on a woman during your conversation with her to put her into any frame you want !

This works simply because the subconscious mind can't recognize the difference between a real event and an imagined one, it processes them both the same way, so when you get a woman to imagine herself in a nightclub, if she gets to imagine that - it overrides her CURRENT reality, so all the beliefs, actions and feelings she has in a nightclub simply begin to rise up to the surface !

So yeah, the ability to alter another person's imagination is very powerful - probably one of the most powerful influence techniques there are that can save you TONS of time trying to build them up. Why build something up that probably already exist for you ?

Hell, if some woman is a virgin, you can get her to imagine what she would do if she wasn't virgin - If she can imagine it, the differences between reality and imagination can easily go away very soon !

Like I said in my post "Emotions Explained" , i wrote there "If you want a woman to do something, think of what emotion you want her to feel". This is, BTW, an idea that Ross Jeffries coined back in the day, so i give him credit for it.

So instead of thinking how do you get a woman to .. for instance, suck your dick in the toilet .. you can think of what frame of mind you can get her into in which she will feel natural and okay to do this thing, that you want her to do ?

You can think about Frames such as "Fantasy", which is btw a frame in which you can do anything LOL .. or "Nightclub" .. you can think about frames such as "Truth and Dare" .. or "Strip club" .. maybe even "Helping a friend" frame .. whatever you think can be right !

The funny thing about frames is that you can even create an imaginable frame , or create an "altered reality" that doesn't even realy exist, and get the women you talk to totally feel as if they are there, in that frame !!

Yes, frames are exteremly powerful .. here's a nice example : Imagine that you are now in an abandoned exotic island .. there are coconut trees around you .. and a blue sea ... the sun is shining .. and now you need to prepare a dinner, how do you do it ?

See how i just entered you into an imagined frame ?

Think about this powerful tool and how you use it, it is powerful.

-- leedrag0n

Beware of the illusion of success !!

Hey all,

Today I decided that its about time that someone will finally talk about the illusion of success.

This is an underground subject, most probably dont know of, the coaching industry surely would like to keep this a secret, but since i personally have no interest in earning money by coaching people and i give away my insights on this blog free to the world, I'll mention it.

The illusion of success is simply the unreal illusion that you can become a 100% successful seducer.

Thats right guys.

It is an illusion that was created by people who sell PU material, self-help coaching programs, better sales technique seminars, and influence workshops. The illusion that they create is that you can always become a "better sales person" .. "you can triple you success rate using these techniques" .. "you can become more attractive using these techniques" etc etc.

Lets go back to the core again.

Nobody is a perfect person. Do you get it ?
If not, i'll say it again : NOBODY, not even you, is a PERFECT person !!

Thats right, we ALL have some insecurities, or things we are not sure of, or things that we know we can do better inside of us. The thing that buggles me about the coaching industry, is that they'll always try to find those insecurities in you and then AMPLIFY and MAGNIFY them to become a "PROBLEM" , that then they'll become the "CURE" for it.

BULLSHIT !

So where am I aiming with this ?

What im trying to say is this : You can't always control the outcome with a person. You just gotta accept it. Of course, you can do better with all these skills, but you can NEVER, EVER reach a 100% success rate because :

1. You can't read minds and you can't tell what is the current situation in another person's life before you get to know him. To put it short : you can NEVER know exactly what is the current situation in another woman's life BEFORE you approach her, so stop speculating and find out for yourself.

2. You can't know what kind of person you're going to interact with. To put it short : you can NEVER know exactly what kind of woman she is going to be (kind, bitch, or the middle) BEFORE you approach her, so stop speculating and find out for yourself.

3. You CAN'T know what events or circumstances occured to him/her that MAY affect the way he/she interact with you before you talk to him. To put it short : You can NEVER know what happend to this woman before you see her - maybe some drunk guy tried to rape her, maybe some salesguy insulted her, perhaps she found out her husband cheats on her today. You can NEVER know this because you are living YOUR OWN LIFE, not hers. So stop speculating, and find out for yourself.


You get my point ?

Those are the 3 big reasons why you can't always control the outcome, because you can never know on what kind of a person you're gonna drop and what are his current circumstances.

So what CAN you control ??

Well, the things that are in your control are : You CAN control the number of opportunites you create for yourself to meet women !

YEP, you can't always control the outcome, but you CAN control the number of opportunities you create, if you say to yourself : "Today i will approach 5 different women" , that is COMPLETELY IN YOUR CONTROL. You can't tell what will come out of those approaches, but at least you know that the number of opportunities you create for yourself are up to you, and the of course the more you'll approach the more you'll meet women.

Another thing that is totally in your control is : You CAN decide what YOU LEARN from each interaction with a woman !

YEP, you can't always control the outcome, but you CAN control the number of opportunities you create, and you CAN decide what YOU LEARN from them. And believe it or not, you can extract MAXIMUM FEEDBACK from even a single approach !

So this way, you're guaranteed that you will learn something from every approach that you do.

And if you go out to the world with this attitude, that You can't always control the outcome, but you CAN control the number of opportunities you create for yourself to meet women & to LEARN from them, as long as you learn something and tweak yourself according to the feedback you get, there's absolutely NO WAY in the world you can't succeed.

Besides, you don't ALWAYS have to try and extract feedback !

You can sometimes just go out and run into a stream of frigid, cold, bitch and negative women that no matter how great your game will be, it will just not go anywhere with them. On the other hand, you can sometimes just go out and with the lousy and shittiest game run into a stream of girls who are just so attracted to you that they will almost do everything instead of you !

So don't chew up on this feedback too much, and remember that its not always up to you alone.

If you have a problem with the meaning that you give to rejections or failures etc, you probably have to change the meaning you attribute into them, but thats in another post :)

Peace for now,

-- leedrag0n

There are no failures !

Hey all !

Its been a while, but im back here to write to you from somewhere in Israel.

Has any of you ever had a motivation decrease ?
Like as if you went out to the field, tried to seduce a couple of women, and it went nowhere with them .. and how the next time you thought about going out to the field, you found yourself wandering things like "Oh well, what should i go out for? Im not gonna succeed anyway. ." , or "Why talk to her? Im not gonna sleep with her anyways .." , or things of the sort ?

MANY MANY guys, including me, had moments like those.

Something that I realized, is that usually these kind of thoughts are simply a result of a wrong belief, or filter, through which you screen the world with.

When you allow yourself to generalize something which is based on very few instances, the results can be catastrophic for you.

I always like to mention the story of Thomas Edison, the man who invented the lamp.

If you know his story or not, Edison have attempted to create 9999 instances of a lamp that didn't work, and only in the 10,000 attempt it worked.

When people asked him how come that he didn't give up trying, he answered : "I didnt fail, i only found 9999 ways to build a lamp that didnt work".

Nice story, isnt it ?

I want to share a short story here now, of my own.

I was a bit of extra horny one friday night, and i decided to go out and be a bit outrageous and try to pull back home a threesome with 2 girls.

Basically I knew that in order for me to find 2 girls that are suitable for a threesome, i should look for :

1. Two girls that are attracted to me. Kinda obvious, isnt it ?
2. Two girls who like to share things between them
3. (Preferred) Two girls who are attracted to each other, aka : Bisexuals.
4. Two girls who are open minded and adventuruos, and like to try new things.

So that was basically my "screening" list, of things to look for.

Long story short - I went out alone, to a crowded area in Tel Aviv and approached 15 different sets, and in the end I didn't succeed in pulling back home 2 girls with me.

But at least I settled for a nice porn movie :)

Anyways, the point im trying to make here is, and pay close attention to this :

Does the fact, that i approached 15 different sets and didnt succeed in pulling them back home for a thresome, means that im a failure ??

Will it be true to say, that because i didnt succeed 15 times to bring back home a threesome, it generally means that i will never succeed in pulling a threesome again ??

NO !

All that it means, is that the method, the techniques, and the strategy that I used at THAT night, with THOSE girls - just didn't work.

Thats all that it means !

I can always go home and look again at what i did right and what i could have improved and then tweak this structure and go out and try it again.

But how can anyone be able to THINK like this, if he can't realize that You never fail - You only get feedback on whats working, and whats not. And later, when you look at this feedback with crystal clear mind, you'll be able to learn ALOT from it, and to tweak your way towards success !!

And that, my friends, is my free gift for you.

-- leedrag0n