Welcome again guys !!
4 months since my last post in here ..
During the last 4 months i have realized a couple of new core level realizations that im going to of course share with you here in the next few posts, so im going to start with the first of them : Focus.
I saw a good movie once called "The Secret", im sure you've all heard of it.
The main subject of the movie is "The law of attraction", and in general is the idea that whatever we focus on, we get more of it in our life.
What it really means is that whatever it is you think of and believe in is what you'll get, or like Henry Ford said many years ago : "Whether you think you can, or can't - either way you're right !".
A quick example : "rejection".
Ask most guys why they don't approach a woman, and they will say : "I dont want to get rejected". So you can understand by this reply exactly what they are focused on - they are focused on "rejection".
Whether they are aware of it or not, this kind of focus not only that it doesn't help in preventing the rejection - it makes it happend even faster !
Because when you are so focused on rejection, you will both consciously and unconsciously look for any possible rejection sign from the woman in order to "prevent it", and guess what ? When you ARE looking so anxiously for a rejection sign, even a simple break of eye contact from her WILL be perceived a "rejection" in your mind, even when in reality it could be that she is simply shy and/or nervous just as you are.
That is just one example of a negative focus, or what they called in the movie "focusing on what you do not want" (or "what you want to avoid" , "what you are afraid of" etc).
When you focus on something that you do not want, you actually attract more of it into your life !
So , whats the cure for this ?
Well, during the entire movie they keep saying "Keep focusing on what you do want", also known as a positive focus. Well .. how do we start focusing on what we really want ?
There is a three-step process that i have personally tested myself and seems to work.
First, you need to ask yourself : what do you really want ?
This really is the easiest step of all, but the most powerful one - it immediately shifts your focus.
Think about it a minute and write it down in a piece of paper, be true and honest with yourself and describe exactly what it is you want to achieve, and feel free to ask for whatever it is you truely want : anything you want to achieve in your life is possible !
Infact, the evidence to this is shown every day by day throughout the world where more and more people do "the impossible" and invent new theories, create new inventions, break more world records, and literally do amazing things.
You can even put this to the test if you'd like to - Ask yourself what you want to achieve, and then start looking over videos in YouTube or search Google for people that already achieved it in their life and realize it here - if they can do it, so can you !
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The second step is to visualize your goal as if it was already achieved.
And usually this is a harder step to some people, but you would agree that it doesn't take any effort to just sit in a quiet room somewhere in your house, close your eyes, and for a couple of minutes to imagine yourself as already achieved that what you asked for ?
Hell you can even make it easier for yourself - do you remember any time in your past that you already achieved what you are asking for right now ? If so, then how much effort will it take to you to sit on your couch and just remember it ?
Now the key here is to do whatever you can do to experience this "goal achievement" as lively as you possibly can in your mind - involve all senses, try different visualizations and experiment with it in your free time until you reach a visualization that creates the emotion, the feeling of already achieving your goal.
I know it may sound silly to alot of you, but i have time after time fallen off my chair to my amazement of just how powerful this step really is and how that it totally creates the "attraction".
I have even had to try 3 different visualizing scenarios once before i finally found one that really created the feeling of already achieving the goal.
And the third step ?
The third step is to simply release and let go of what you just did, and trust "the universe" that it will manifest your wish for you.
What does all this amounts to ?
Here's my explanation for it, and please don't tell me i dont know what im saying if you haven't yet tried all of this by yourself :
Well, following these 3 steps will create a new "emotional filter" inside your consciousness.
You know what im talking about - an "emotional filter" is an emotional resonance response to something that is inside of your awareness, like a Deja vu effect. a Deja vu is an example of an "emotional filter" when you suddenly notice something that looks familiar already and you can't figure out where from.
It happends when you focus on something so strong emotionally, that you then suddenly begin to witness it everywhere you go to like a Deja vu, an effect that makes you more and more aware of that thing, hence attracting more of it into your life like a snowball effect.
The only thing to remember here is that what you focus on will attract more of into your life, so when you suddenly change your focus to something else, you will start to attract more of that "new thing", so its important to always stay focused on what you really want.
You can do this daily, once in a week, or even once in a month, how many times you like to as long as you enjoy it and it doesn't become a choir, and of course that it really creates the power of the attraction by generating the feelings of having achieved it already.
You will know when you feel it once you try it a few times.
Showing posts with label Inner game. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Inner game. Show all posts
Thursday, December 4, 2008
Monday, July 7, 2008
Attraction & Persistence
One of the key factors of any successful PU is whether or not the woman is actually interested in you as a sexual partner or not, aka "attraction".
The more she is interested in finding a sexual partner or in you, the easier your game is, The less she is interested , the harder your game is.
For most guys, the perspective of picking up a girl they like is : I go out of my house, i SEE a woman of my choice, and then i just go and randomly pick her up.
But this is not a smart way to conduct a happy sex life,
You've probably heard the question im about to ask you now before.
Do think about it :
What is easier - To gain $100,000 by trying to collect $10 from 10,000 people ?
Or to gain $100,000 by trying to collect $10,000 from 10 people ?
Well the right answer here is the second way.
But what's the real difference between these two ways ?
Well, i'll tell you. The difference here is at where you put most of your efforts at.
The first way, collecting 10$ from 10,000 people requires that you put most of your efforts in trying to convince every person to give you 10$ and then run it over thousands of people randomly.
The second way, though, requires that you put most of your efforts simply in FINDING 10 people who are generous enough each to give you 10,000$, thats it.
Get to think about it for a second - in the first way, out of these 10,000 people you tried to collect 10$ from, SURELY were at least 3 or 4 people who would also generously give you 10,000$ if you asked them for, but how could you KNOW this if you were only focused on asking them for 10$ ??????
Back to our analogy now - Difference between easy gaming and hard gaming.
Chicks who are interested in you are usually easier targets game wise.
Everyday you walk out of your house, there are PLENTY of women who ARE interested in you everywhere you go to - They give you EC, stand closer to you, and in general are receptive to you gaming them. Believe it or not, SOME of these chicks are even EXACTLY your type looks wise. Going for chicks like that makes you collecting your $100,000 much easier, however more time needs to be invested in finding those chicks, hence - More efforts are put in finding those chicks, less efforts in gaming them.
Chicks who are NOT interested in you, for any reason that could be : You're not her "EXACT" type looks wise, she has no sex drive, she has no interest in sex, she has mental issues against sex, whatsoever, are harder targets game wise.
Everyday as you walk out of your house, there are plenty of women who are NOT interested in you too, you gotta accept it bro : not every chick falls over for you. These chicks usually give no EC, they stand far from you, they do whatever they can to possibly avoid any interaction with you. Going for chicks like that makes it almost impossible to collect anything from them, more of your efforts needs to be put in convincing and persuating them to be with you, so yeah - less efforts to actually find them if you just blatantly go at them cold approach, but more efforts needs to be put in trying to convince them to even give you "10$".
The analogy of the 10$ and 10,000$ is there out of purpose.
Believe it or not, just as much as there are people that giving 10,000$ is nothing for them, there are people that giving 10$ is ALOT for them.
Go out looking for those people who will give you 10,000$ happily and you'll have a great and healthy sex drive finding chicks who are interested in what you're about to ask them for.
Try instead to go out for the people who make you a hard time giving you even 10$ , and your sex life will keep running away from you, such as going for chicks who are NOT interested in you, and just waste your time and efforts trying to convince them to give you something they dont want to anyways.
-- leedrag0n
The more she is interested in finding a sexual partner or in you, the easier your game is, The less she is interested , the harder your game is.
For most guys, the perspective of picking up a girl they like is : I go out of my house, i SEE a woman of my choice, and then i just go and randomly pick her up.
But this is not a smart way to conduct a happy sex life,
You've probably heard the question im about to ask you now before.
Do think about it :
What is easier - To gain $100,000 by trying to collect $10 from 10,000 people ?
Or to gain $100,000 by trying to collect $10,000 from 10 people ?
Well the right answer here is the second way.
But what's the real difference between these two ways ?
Well, i'll tell you. The difference here is at where you put most of your efforts at.
The first way, collecting 10$ from 10,000 people requires that you put most of your efforts in trying to convince every person to give you 10$ and then run it over thousands of people randomly.
The second way, though, requires that you put most of your efforts simply in FINDING 10 people who are generous enough each to give you 10,000$, thats it.
Get to think about it for a second - in the first way, out of these 10,000 people you tried to collect 10$ from, SURELY were at least 3 or 4 people who would also generously give you 10,000$ if you asked them for, but how could you KNOW this if you were only focused on asking them for 10$ ??????
Back to our analogy now - Difference between easy gaming and hard gaming.
Chicks who are interested in you are usually easier targets game wise.
Everyday you walk out of your house, there are PLENTY of women who ARE interested in you everywhere you go to - They give you EC, stand closer to you, and in general are receptive to you gaming them. Believe it or not, SOME of these chicks are even EXACTLY your type looks wise. Going for chicks like that makes you collecting your $100,000 much easier, however more time needs to be invested in finding those chicks, hence - More efforts are put in finding those chicks, less efforts in gaming them.
Chicks who are NOT interested in you, for any reason that could be : You're not her "EXACT" type looks wise, she has no sex drive, she has no interest in sex, she has mental issues against sex, whatsoever, are harder targets game wise.
Everyday as you walk out of your house, there are plenty of women who are NOT interested in you too, you gotta accept it bro : not every chick falls over for you. These chicks usually give no EC, they stand far from you, they do whatever they can to possibly avoid any interaction with you. Going for chicks like that makes it almost impossible to collect anything from them, more of your efforts needs to be put in convincing and persuating them to be with you, so yeah - less efforts to actually find them if you just blatantly go at them cold approach, but more efforts needs to be put in trying to convince them to even give you "10$".
The analogy of the 10$ and 10,000$ is there out of purpose.
Believe it or not, just as much as there are people that giving 10,000$ is nothing for them, there are people that giving 10$ is ALOT for them.
Go out looking for those people who will give you 10,000$ happily and you'll have a great and healthy sex drive finding chicks who are interested in what you're about to ask them for.
Try instead to go out for the people who make you a hard time giving you even 10$ , and your sex life will keep running away from you, such as going for chicks who are NOT interested in you, and just waste your time and efforts trying to convince them to give you something they dont want to anyways.
-- leedrag0n
Tuesday, July 1, 2008
Horniness & Masturbation
Ok, Let's assume we managed to "fix" our entire inner game.
We now have confidence, we are relaxed around women, we can approach and initiate conversations easily and can lead things the right way towards sex. We can "just be ourselves" around women and can freely laugh, smile, tease or even feel sad and bring up all kinds of emotions from within us without having to feel bad to ashame of them.
As i've mentioned several times already in this blog, we humans are driven mostly by emotions and way less by logic, and in the case of women its even more true.
Any emotion, or STATE, that you bring out from within yourself, tends to be reciprocated by the woman you interact with and get her feeling that way too.
And now we come to the point of Horniness, aka "Sexual State" - a 'new' kind of emotion, kindly reserved for adults, and to Masturbation - an activity we do that kills Horniness.
Horniness is basically a natural feeling in a healthy and sexually functional human body, a desire to have sex with a partner of the opposite sex. Feeling horny makes one become more aggressive sexually, which is the natural role of the male in the mating game.
Alot of guys think that being sexually agressive isn't an attractive behaviour because they keep listening to women's explanations for "why they rejected that guy" saying "he was just a horny punk", and it is BECAUSE of such sayings that it later becomes a conditioning like that it is that guys depress their sexuality.
So lets make a point clear here.
When a woman is NOT attracted to a guy, she WILL find any and all reasons in the world to reject him, on the other hand if she IS attracted, she will find any and all reasons in the world to accept him.
Aside of the fact horniness is a NATURAL human emotion , it gets sexual arousal to be PROJECTED outwards, a thing that WILL cause a woman who is attracted to you to get sexually aroused back to you. Yes, a woman who is attracted to a guy will get MASSIVELY turned on if she gets a feeling the man himself is so turned on for her, he's about to lose control.
So if you used to masturbate in order to decrease your sex drive because you felt its about to "ruin your well controlled game" - STOP IT NOW. Never depress your sexuality & horniness, which are actually what MAKES you a man !
One other aspect of Horniness, other than the fact that it makes you more aggressive, it gets you thinking more about women. This is again NATURAL. Forget about all that "Dont be needy" kind of conditionings, AGAIN = they are BASED on listening to women who were NOT attracted to guys approaching them giving their "thoughts" on guys hitting on them.
Instead of masturbating next time, use the Horniness to direct your mind thinking more about how you can actually find a girl to have sex with when you're feeling like this.
-- leedrag0n
We now have confidence, we are relaxed around women, we can approach and initiate conversations easily and can lead things the right way towards sex. We can "just be ourselves" around women and can freely laugh, smile, tease or even feel sad and bring up all kinds of emotions from within us without having to feel bad to ashame of them.
As i've mentioned several times already in this blog, we humans are driven mostly by emotions and way less by logic, and in the case of women its even more true.
Any emotion, or STATE, that you bring out from within yourself, tends to be reciprocated by the woman you interact with and get her feeling that way too.
And now we come to the point of Horniness, aka "Sexual State" - a 'new' kind of emotion, kindly reserved for adults, and to Masturbation - an activity we do that kills Horniness.
Horniness is basically a natural feeling in a healthy and sexually functional human body, a desire to have sex with a partner of the opposite sex. Feeling horny makes one become more aggressive sexually, which is the natural role of the male in the mating game.
Alot of guys think that being sexually agressive isn't an attractive behaviour because they keep listening to women's explanations for "why they rejected that guy" saying "he was just a horny punk", and it is BECAUSE of such sayings that it later becomes a conditioning like that it is that guys depress their sexuality.
So lets make a point clear here.
When a woman is NOT attracted to a guy, she WILL find any and all reasons in the world to reject him, on the other hand if she IS attracted, she will find any and all reasons in the world to accept him.
Aside of the fact horniness is a NATURAL human emotion , it gets sexual arousal to be PROJECTED outwards, a thing that WILL cause a woman who is attracted to you to get sexually aroused back to you. Yes, a woman who is attracted to a guy will get MASSIVELY turned on if she gets a feeling the man himself is so turned on for her, he's about to lose control.
So if you used to masturbate in order to decrease your sex drive because you felt its about to "ruin your well controlled game" - STOP IT NOW. Never depress your sexuality & horniness, which are actually what MAKES you a man !
One other aspect of Horniness, other than the fact that it makes you more aggressive, it gets you thinking more about women. This is again NATURAL. Forget about all that "Dont be needy" kind of conditionings, AGAIN = they are BASED on listening to women who were NOT attracted to guys approaching them giving their "thoughts" on guys hitting on them.
Instead of masturbating next time, use the Horniness to direct your mind thinking more about how you can actually find a girl to have sex with when you're feeling like this.
-- leedrag0n
Friday, May 23, 2008
Ego & Insecurities
Have you ever noticed of this self-destroying mechanism inside your mind called "EGO" ?
Yeah this autopilot emotional system designed to "save" you from any embarrassing, humiliating or even damaging social reactions from others ?
Notice for a second the last thing i said above ... "autopilot emotional system designed to keep you safe from harsh social reactions".
Alot of this has been in your mind since age 4 already, and in general its not really a bad thing to have this mechanism !
You WILL get caught by the police and maybe even sent to jail if you suddenly decided to go out naked tommorow to your local mall to do shoppings or even approach women LOL.
So gotta give a credit to it though - this "EGO" mechanism is actually there to not only protect you but to also GUIDE you at which way is right way to go.
However, the real problem begins when this mechanism becomes too strong, or over the normal limits. Imagine to yourself for a second that the real purpose of the EGO mechanism was to create a transparent glass bubble shell over each individual. The person has this bubble in which inside of it he's protected and assured his security YET he can still see things through it, talk to people and even do everyday normal activities, he may still get hurt every here and there but overall he has basic protection.
The problem begins when ABOVE the normal transparent shell the mechanism created another huge dark plastic bubble shell. So now the person has TWO SHELLS - the basic transparent one, and another untransparent shell above it. This now gives the person what i call "over-protection". Sure, no way he's gonna get hurt this way, but he's also going to miss alot of life because he can't really be able to even SEE anything now, since he's over protected.
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In order to have a hot girlfriend, maybe even have the ability to date hot women here and then, hell even have a CHANCE at them by taking their phone numbers even, whatever - In other words to have any chance with any woman of YOUR desire, you will have to make a choice between taking the red pill (Letting go of your "EGO" completely, and be prepared and ready to get alot of "rejections" or harsh social reactions from people) and take your "shell" completely off and be exposed to social harshness, or take the blue pill - go back to your bed and keep living life under your protective shells and make no moves, initiate nothing, and in return - you'll get NOTHING.
How can i say so ?
Because many of the "protective" EGO autopilots are not really in your favor here.
According to your "EGO", the "right" place to meet women is in work, school, or social circles.
The "right" way to meet women is to be introduced to them by someone you both know (A girl or a guy, whatever) , and even then you STILL have to initiate some moves, initiate a phone numbers exchange, initiate a date etc, etc. Yeah, it is "safer" and more protective, but then you are dependent on "luck" or others ... and ... are the girls you meet in these meetings really are YOUR types ?
Have you ever felt stuck by an inability to go and talk to a woman YOU desire and just couldn't figure out WHY it happends like this ? I've got news for you - It WAS your "EGO" that has blocked you - your autopilot emotional system created to protect you from harsh social reactions. Great at protecting you from illusional social "pain", great also at keeping the women of your desires away from your reach. Am i the only one smelling a hidden "formula" for success here ? ;-)
Back to the basics : Society first have teached women that it is men's job to initiate the meeting.
Then it was every girl's life experiences that taught her this - The HOTTER the girl was, the more guys were approaching her / being introduced to, hence - the LESS desire she had to actually go and initiate moves by herself. Why should she ? She's good looking, yeah she may see a guy she really likes who makes no move and be disappointed by it, but she'll keep on living and she knows the other day she may still meet someone.
So you see, i just got you realizing here that this "EGO" you have, which is a great thing really as it keeps society as a well structured world of human beings, can really be a damaging thing when it comes to meeting people, and ESPECIALLY meeting women of your choice.
So what can we do here ?
A couple of important realizations.
First, wake up and realize it is OK for you to try and initiate an introduction / meeting with a woman of your choice. Other people (especially guys who are after her) may not like it, but she WILL LOVE it !!! Even if she has no guts to show it right now, Even if you really weren't her type, Even if she really wasn't prepared for it - she WILL go home and think about it in a positive light.
Second point here, important one - you have to let go of the "EGO", once again mentioned.
Sometimes you will run into strange and wierd reactions, sometimes women will be standoffish on you, sometimes women will even try to HURT you and humiliate you when your original goal was to actually get them PLEASED. All those things your "EGO" mechanism was designed to protect you from. You cant predict these reactions, but you also can't escape them or you will be back to square one and not meeting women of your desire again. A BIG thing here is to realize that these reactions are nothing personal on YOU - They are just emotional autopilot responses these women throw out, not on purpose !! Sometimes the woman is in a hurry, other times the woman is married and stuck on the guy 100%, other times the woman simply is in a bad or even depressed mood, some women even have social fears of strangers. NOTHING personal. drop the ego. you'll have to be willing to go through such reactions in order to have ANY chance of getting women of your desire, as mentioned above.
And final point number Three - These reactions will NOT kill you !
Yep, even if it was the worst rejection in the world you will walk out of there still alive, it may feel a bit harsh but it is just a feeling, and that is natural. emotions have a tendency to be transmitted from one person to another, so if she responded harshly to YOUR flattering approach, chances are that at some point in time some other guy responded exactly the same on HER, so now that you came she has a chance to transmit it to you. Again, nothing personal.
Humans are excessively stupid animals when it comes to emotions, as i already explained before.
At the end of the day its just a temporary emotion being transmitted to you by a girl, it doesnt say anything on who you are as a person because SHE DOESN'T EVEN KNOW YOU !
and with those you are now ready to let go of your ego and start enjoying life more.
A Word about insecurities
So the "ego" was the autopilot emotional system to protect you from harsh social reactions.
We now understand its bullshit and letting it go is the best choice you can ever make towards meeting the women of your desires.
Lets talk abit about insecurities.
Insecurities are another part of the "Ego" mechanism you have to let go of - the part trying to protect you from harsh social reactions towards qualities that exists inside of you.
If it ever happend to you in the past that people used to make fun of your moves, your speech, your qualities, hobbies, dreams or even goals, your ego mechanism will be there for the rescue of course by providing you protection from harsh social reactions to your inner abilities and sense of being.
And we all know this can be quite annoying at times really.
So what can be done here in order to let it all go ?
Couple of realizations again :
1. Yes you may not be an ideal person, but you are who you are and you need to appreciate it. Nobody can ever be ideal, every human being have his own faults. Those who haven't yet internalized it are real morons, and those who laugh at other's faults are real losers.
2. You can't ever become someone you are not really mentally, so don't even try to act in other ways that ain't who you genuinely are just because someone said that you "aren't masculine enough" or that you "aren't tall enough". Yeah of course things CAN be done in order to improve aspects in your life but don't ever try to adopt a behaviour that just isn't you. So if someone told you that you aren't good enough, unless it is a good friend who knows you really well - FUCK THEM. Nobody knows you the way you REALLY are.
3. Go over the "Confidence" post again and answer the question there to yourself.
4. Be genuine. The second biggest compliment you can give a woman other than the initial approach is to come and present yourself as who you genuinely really are. Honesty and authenticity are probably the two most attractive qualities you can ever present to her as a man. Forget about the bullshit "player" illusion. Being a player means knowing how to use emotions as a play tools to direct her attention and feeling, nothing else. It certainely isn't being a fake guy.
--leedrag0n
Yeah this autopilot emotional system designed to "save" you from any embarrassing, humiliating or even damaging social reactions from others ?
Notice for a second the last thing i said above ... "autopilot emotional system designed to keep you safe from harsh social reactions".
Alot of this has been in your mind since age 4 already, and in general its not really a bad thing to have this mechanism !
You WILL get caught by the police and maybe even sent to jail if you suddenly decided to go out naked tommorow to your local mall to do shoppings or even approach women LOL.
So gotta give a credit to it though - this "EGO" mechanism is actually there to not only protect you but to also GUIDE you at which way is right way to go.
However, the real problem begins when this mechanism becomes too strong, or over the normal limits. Imagine to yourself for a second that the real purpose of the EGO mechanism was to create a transparent glass bubble shell over each individual. The person has this bubble in which inside of it he's protected and assured his security YET he can still see things through it, talk to people and even do everyday normal activities, he may still get hurt every here and there but overall he has basic protection.
The problem begins when ABOVE the normal transparent shell the mechanism created another huge dark plastic bubble shell. So now the person has TWO SHELLS - the basic transparent one, and another untransparent shell above it. This now gives the person what i call "over-protection". Sure, no way he's gonna get hurt this way, but he's also going to miss alot of life because he can't really be able to even SEE anything now, since he's over protected.
....
In order to have a hot girlfriend, maybe even have the ability to date hot women here and then, hell even have a CHANCE at them by taking their phone numbers even, whatever - In other words to have any chance with any woman of YOUR desire, you will have to make a choice between taking the red pill (Letting go of your "EGO" completely, and be prepared and ready to get alot of "rejections" or harsh social reactions from people) and take your "shell" completely off and be exposed to social harshness, or take the blue pill - go back to your bed and keep living life under your protective shells and make no moves, initiate nothing, and in return - you'll get NOTHING.
How can i say so ?
Because many of the "protective" EGO autopilots are not really in your favor here.
According to your "EGO", the "right" place to meet women is in work, school, or social circles.
The "right" way to meet women is to be introduced to them by someone you both know (A girl or a guy, whatever) , and even then you STILL have to initiate some moves, initiate a phone numbers exchange, initiate a date etc, etc. Yeah, it is "safer" and more protective, but then you are dependent on "luck" or others ... and ... are the girls you meet in these meetings really are YOUR types ?
Have you ever felt stuck by an inability to go and talk to a woman YOU desire and just couldn't figure out WHY it happends like this ? I've got news for you - It WAS your "EGO" that has blocked you - your autopilot emotional system created to protect you from harsh social reactions. Great at protecting you from illusional social "pain", great also at keeping the women of your desires away from your reach. Am i the only one smelling a hidden "formula" for success here ? ;-)
Back to the basics : Society first have teached women that it is men's job to initiate the meeting.
Then it was every girl's life experiences that taught her this - The HOTTER the girl was, the more guys were approaching her / being introduced to, hence - the LESS desire she had to actually go and initiate moves by herself. Why should she ? She's good looking, yeah she may see a guy she really likes who makes no move and be disappointed by it, but she'll keep on living and she knows the other day she may still meet someone.
So you see, i just got you realizing here that this "EGO" you have, which is a great thing really as it keeps society as a well structured world of human beings, can really be a damaging thing when it comes to meeting people, and ESPECIALLY meeting women of your choice.
So what can we do here ?
A couple of important realizations.
First, wake up and realize it is OK for you to try and initiate an introduction / meeting with a woman of your choice. Other people (especially guys who are after her) may not like it, but she WILL LOVE it !!! Even if she has no guts to show it right now, Even if you really weren't her type, Even if she really wasn't prepared for it - she WILL go home and think about it in a positive light.
Second point here, important one - you have to let go of the "EGO", once again mentioned.
Sometimes you will run into strange and wierd reactions, sometimes women will be standoffish on you, sometimes women will even try to HURT you and humiliate you when your original goal was to actually get them PLEASED. All those things your "EGO" mechanism was designed to protect you from. You cant predict these reactions, but you also can't escape them or you will be back to square one and not meeting women of your desire again. A BIG thing here is to realize that these reactions are nothing personal on YOU - They are just emotional autopilot responses these women throw out, not on purpose !! Sometimes the woman is in a hurry, other times the woman is married and stuck on the guy 100%, other times the woman simply is in a bad or even depressed mood, some women even have social fears of strangers. NOTHING personal. drop the ego. you'll have to be willing to go through such reactions in order to have ANY chance of getting women of your desire, as mentioned above.
And final point number Three - These reactions will NOT kill you !
Yep, even if it was the worst rejection in the world you will walk out of there still alive, it may feel a bit harsh but it is just a feeling, and that is natural. emotions have a tendency to be transmitted from one person to another, so if she responded harshly to YOUR flattering approach, chances are that at some point in time some other guy responded exactly the same on HER, so now that you came she has a chance to transmit it to you. Again, nothing personal.
Humans are excessively stupid animals when it comes to emotions, as i already explained before.
At the end of the day its just a temporary emotion being transmitted to you by a girl, it doesnt say anything on who you are as a person because SHE DOESN'T EVEN KNOW YOU !
and with those you are now ready to let go of your ego and start enjoying life more.
A Word about insecurities
So the "ego" was the autopilot emotional system to protect you from harsh social reactions.
We now understand its bullshit and letting it go is the best choice you can ever make towards meeting the women of your desires.
Lets talk abit about insecurities.
Insecurities are another part of the "Ego" mechanism you have to let go of - the part trying to protect you from harsh social reactions towards qualities that exists inside of you.
If it ever happend to you in the past that people used to make fun of your moves, your speech, your qualities, hobbies, dreams or even goals, your ego mechanism will be there for the rescue of course by providing you protection from harsh social reactions to your inner abilities and sense of being.
And we all know this can be quite annoying at times really.
So what can be done here in order to let it all go ?
Couple of realizations again :
1. Yes you may not be an ideal person, but you are who you are and you need to appreciate it. Nobody can ever be ideal, every human being have his own faults. Those who haven't yet internalized it are real morons, and those who laugh at other's faults are real losers.
2. You can't ever become someone you are not really mentally, so don't even try to act in other ways that ain't who you genuinely are just because someone said that you "aren't masculine enough" or that you "aren't tall enough". Yeah of course things CAN be done in order to improve aspects in your life but don't ever try to adopt a behaviour that just isn't you. So if someone told you that you aren't good enough, unless it is a good friend who knows you really well - FUCK THEM. Nobody knows you the way you REALLY are.
3. Go over the "Confidence" post again and answer the question there to yourself.
4. Be genuine. The second biggest compliment you can give a woman other than the initial approach is to come and present yourself as who you genuinely really are. Honesty and authenticity are probably the two most attractive qualities you can ever present to her as a man. Forget about the bullshit "player" illusion. Being a player means knowing how to use emotions as a play tools to direct her attention and feeling, nothing else. It certainely isn't being a fake guy.
--leedrag0n
Sunday, May 11, 2008
Social Confidence
Ok lets start by asking you this simple question ..
How do most people usually hook up with sexual partners, aka "relationships" in the standard socially acceptable ways ?
Men & women meet at school, workplaces, college or through their social circles.
A woman hooks up with an available man, they go out for several dates.
She gets to "know" him first by going out with him for 4 or 5 dates, and gets to test him for compliance with money & social status first, and only once she knows him and knows he's a socially acceptable partner, she feels it is right to sleep with him.
On the other hand, women will sleep way faster with guys who are considered by many to be "players" or "naturals", so whats the catch here ?
The catch here is the difference between going along with the rules of society, and going against them.
"Players" or "Naturals" all share one unique characteristic if you get to closely examine them - they don't give a shit at social rules, or at "what others think about them" AT ALL. Some people call them jerks, others call them arrogant, others call them selfish etc etc. but the bottom line is - they get the women to sleep with them WAY FASTER than other ordinary guys would have to go out with them and pay for their dinners etc etc.
Why is this important to know ?
Because like i was explaining in the previous post you may have already realised - women DO want sex just as much as we do, and get to think about it way more than us. Every woman at some level feels like a repressed sexual animal who has to keep on pretending an act that she hates sex and that is torture for them really. That is because they have to follow social rules in order to be socially accepted, so that other people will accept them.
So whats the deal with the player / natural / jerk / arrogant dude LOL ?
The player doesn't give a fuck at the "social rules", and women can sense it in him.
Thus - it makes WOMEN feel more comfortable at breaking the "rules" themselves, it gives them a chance to break free of the social binds they have upon them and fulfill their most wanted lust and cravings for sex, without having to feel guilty about it.
Does this makes sense ?
Every woman would crave for instant sex with a man, this is their fantasy.
I goes against "social rules" - it is considered a social "crime" for a woman to act so fast on her desire for sex with an attractive man.
But talking about crimes , think about the following metaphor for a second.
Two friends of yours offer you to go to and try steal a stripper from a strip club.
One of them is a coward and is afraid of big guys (like the bouncer) and you know it.
The other one is not scared of anything, he pisses over people and makes them look like little clowns in a cartoon movie.
Which one of these two friends, you will feel more comfortable to cooperate with ?
Think about that now, as it comes to women.
On the other hand they have sex, which they want for and crave for all the time.
Two guys approach them.
One guy is a social coward, has a high status job and all but he's concerned about what others will think about him making the moves.
The other one doesnt give a fuck at the rules, does whatever he wants and makes other people look like clowns compared to him.
Which one of them she will feel more comfortable "breaking the rules" of sex with ?
.......
Do you have social confidence ?
Do you worry about the social rules or what others will think about you ?
If so , ask yourself - Why ?
Has it ever gotten you the results you wanted ?
Or did it always kept you frustrated and angry ?
If so , then it is about time for you to start breaking the rules.
Worst thing that can happend for you is you'll start getting laid.
--leedrag0n
How do most people usually hook up with sexual partners, aka "relationships" in the standard socially acceptable ways ?
Men & women meet at school, workplaces, college or through their social circles.
A woman hooks up with an available man, they go out for several dates.
She gets to "know" him first by going out with him for 4 or 5 dates, and gets to test him for compliance with money & social status first, and only once she knows him and knows he's a socially acceptable partner, she feels it is right to sleep with him.
On the other hand, women will sleep way faster with guys who are considered by many to be "players" or "naturals", so whats the catch here ?
The catch here is the difference between going along with the rules of society, and going against them.
"Players" or "Naturals" all share one unique characteristic if you get to closely examine them - they don't give a shit at social rules, or at "what others think about them" AT ALL. Some people call them jerks, others call them arrogant, others call them selfish etc etc. but the bottom line is - they get the women to sleep with them WAY FASTER than other ordinary guys would have to go out with them and pay for their dinners etc etc.
Why is this important to know ?
Because like i was explaining in the previous post you may have already realised - women DO want sex just as much as we do, and get to think about it way more than us. Every woman at some level feels like a repressed sexual animal who has to keep on pretending an act that she hates sex and that is torture for them really. That is because they have to follow social rules in order to be socially accepted, so that other people will accept them.
So whats the deal with the player / natural / jerk / arrogant dude LOL ?
The player doesn't give a fuck at the "social rules", and women can sense it in him.
Thus - it makes WOMEN feel more comfortable at breaking the "rules" themselves, it gives them a chance to break free of the social binds they have upon them and fulfill their most wanted lust and cravings for sex, without having to feel guilty about it.
Does this makes sense ?
Every woman would crave for instant sex with a man, this is their fantasy.
I goes against "social rules" - it is considered a social "crime" for a woman to act so fast on her desire for sex with an attractive man.
But talking about crimes , think about the following metaphor for a second.
Two friends of yours offer you to go to and try steal a stripper from a strip club.
One of them is a coward and is afraid of big guys (like the bouncer) and you know it.
The other one is not scared of anything, he pisses over people and makes them look like little clowns in a cartoon movie.
Which one of these two friends, you will feel more comfortable to cooperate with ?
Think about that now, as it comes to women.
On the other hand they have sex, which they want for and crave for all the time.
Two guys approach them.
One guy is a social coward, has a high status job and all but he's concerned about what others will think about him making the moves.
The other one doesnt give a fuck at the rules, does whatever he wants and makes other people look like clowns compared to him.
Which one of them she will feel more comfortable "breaking the rules" of sex with ?
.......
Do you have social confidence ?
Do you worry about the social rules or what others will think about you ?
If so , ask yourself - Why ?
Has it ever gotten you the results you wanted ?
Or did it always kept you frustrated and angry ?
If so , then it is about time for you to start breaking the rules.
Worst thing that can happend for you is you'll start getting laid.
--leedrag0n
Saturday, April 26, 2008
Confidence
Pickup is very similiar to sales in alot of its aspects.
The formal definition of it is - the art of influence & seduction on women for the purpose of having sex with them.
You should know, at a core level, that ANY woman you'll EVER approach WILL eventually fuck someone. Yep, they all end up with someone. The question is : WHY YOU ?
Why would she want to have sex or get in a relationship with YOU, and not someone else ?
What can YOU give her in return ?
Think about it real hard, and answer this only to yourself.
This isn't in anyway related to your "game" skills level.
Its the product itself we are talking about here, not the marketing.
The formal definition of it is - the art of influence & seduction on women for the purpose of having sex with them.
You should know, at a core level, that ANY woman you'll EVER approach WILL eventually fuck someone. Yep, they all end up with someone. The question is : WHY YOU ?
Why would she want to have sex or get in a relationship with YOU, and not someone else ?
What can YOU give her in return ?
Think about it real hard, and answer this only to yourself.
This isn't in anyway related to your "game" skills level.
Its the product itself we are talking about here, not the marketing.
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