Openers 101

What is the BEST way to open a conversation with a woman ?

Way I see it, the best way to open a conversation is to understand the purpose of your opening and what stands behind its dynamic.

Your opener, or "preopening" if you'd like, first and foremost is a short "presentation" of yourself to a strange woman, give or take right off first impression. She usually DOESNT LISTEN TO YOUR WORDS here, instead she is checking you out. This is why it is crucial to maintain eye contact AND smile here !

Recent studies of last years in the sexuality field keeps finding more and more commonalities to show that women feel and act exactly as we are sexually. This gives us a great ground to understand them as we understand ourselves, since we both want sex and we are both humans.

So think about yourself for a proof.

You are out on the street, and suddenly a hot chick passes right in front of you, and out of ALL the people in the street she decided to come straight at you .. she's smiling .. and she tells you : "Excuse me sir, do you know this area ?".

How will you feel when something like this happends ?

Give yourself a second to think about it .. and when you come back .. tell me that you didn't

think this would be a nice opportunity to meet this woman ?

Have it ever happend to you that you felt stuck with women , maybe hopeless or desperate with them .. and then you walked near a few girls and they suddenly called you and asked you if you can help them with something with a smile and friendly vibe ?

Everyone wants attention and needs attention.

If you remember that incident .. wasn't there a moment where you were thinking to yourself "Hmm .. they are cute girls .. i'd like to meet them !" ?

Now think about some hot woman in the street that you want to meet.
You don't know how her life looks like .. maybe she's alone and have no guys in her life ?
Maybe she's stuck with a bunch of nobodies and losers she can't stand and is desperate to find a real guy like she wants ?
Maybe she's horny and would like to fuck someone tonight ?

You approaching her and even asking her where is the bank in this area with a smile can make her day !

I can't tell you how many times i opened women with simple and stupid questions like "do you know where is a toy store in here ?" and it led to me meeting them, taking them out and fucking them ?

This is how random, "mutual" meetings .. "Hand of fate" .. or "He just bumped into me in the street and asked me where the cashier is .. and he was soooo cute..." type of meetings that happends day after day, all the fucking time !

Yeah .. of course this can't guarantee you that any woman you'll approach this way will immediately fall all over you. I mean , imagine to yourself a fat chick approaching you with a smile and asking you where a cashier is ? You'd probably answer her and just walk off LOL .. but doesn't matter how .. you'll think she was cute right ?

This is also a safe, non-threating way to approach a stranger that will make them feel safe around you. And believe me, no chick will shout at you or be harsh for you simply asking her something with a smile.

You don't believe me ?

Go out to the field and try THIS lame openin by itself 20 times.
Just approach women, smile at them and ask them for some direction or guidance.

You'll be surprised and dazzled by what you get in return.

-- leedrag0n

Screening explained

Most people who ever started learning influence and seduction in order to pickup women usually all had the same wish in their minds : To reach a level where they'll be able to have sex with ANY woman they want, anytime and anywhere.

Over time, as you get good mastering this stuff, you'll realize this goal becomes a reality.

Your attraction game becomes superb, your social skills become smooth, your frame and beliefs become strong and tight, and your ability to create emotions and lead women becomes a slick art.

You will eventually reach a level where you can have sex with ANY woman who is attracted to you at some point, and during that you'll realize that there is a different "key" used to open each girl for sex with you.

What I mean by this "key", is her issues regarding sex.

To some women, can be her fear of what her friends will think about her.
To others, can be fear of poor performance from their part.
Some women may have fear of you rejecting them after sex.
Others, may have issues with their looks and their body.
Some other women, just plain simply SUCK at bed and have no sexual experience.

You surely have learned ways to overcome those issues and to temporarily "fix" them in a woman in order to have sex with her, yet as you become better you'll realize that at some point you may not wish to deal with them anymore.

There are women who are simply not in the same sexual league as you are.
And you'll surely want to meet women you can enjoy with, ones who have those issues fixed already in them.

Think about yourself for as a world class musical performer, looking to form a band.
When you look around to find people to co-operate with, you can definitely find some vegtables seller in an open market and decide that you teach him how to play a guitar so he can be your band partner, but will you really do it ?

Most likely not, you will simply look for someone who already knows how to play a guitar.

You know that not every woman who wears high heels and bikini, is a model.
In same way : not every woman that LOOKS sexual, is also sexual herself.

That is the point where you have to decide what do you want -
what kind of women you are looking for ?

Making a list of qualities you are looking for in a woman is also known as "screening".
That will bring your game another level up, to a level where you not only become a better selector of women, but you also start to enjoy them much more.

During the process of screening you will eventually have to eject and cut it with a few women earlier in your interactions, this will lead to lower closing rates probably and may seem counter-productive at first, but once you'll start getting the results you will enjoy every bit of them much more than you would without it.

So bottom line is, screening is worth it.

Forget about closing rates and shit, instead focus on the results you are really looking for.

Focus explained

Welcome again guys !!

4 months since my last post in here ..

During the last 4 months i have realized a couple of new core level realizations that im going to of course share with you here in the next few posts, so im going to start with the first of them : Focus.

I saw a good movie once called "The Secret", im sure you've all heard of it.

The main subject of the movie is "The law of attraction", and in general is the idea that whatever we focus on, we get more of it in our life.

What it really means is that whatever it is you think of and believe in is what you'll get, or like Henry Ford said many years ago : "Whether you think you can, or can't - either way you're right !".

A quick example : "rejection".

Ask most guys why they don't approach a woman, and they will say : "I dont want to get rejected". So you can understand by this reply exactly what they are focused on - they are focused on "rejection".

Whether they are aware of it or not, this kind of focus not only that it doesn't help in preventing the rejection - it makes it happend even faster !

Because when you are so focused on rejection, you will both consciously and unconsciously look for any possible rejection sign from the woman in order to "prevent it", and guess what ? When you ARE looking so anxiously for a rejection sign, even a simple break of eye contact from her WILL be perceived a "rejection" in your mind, even when in reality it could be that she is simply shy and/or nervous just as you are.

That is just one example of a negative focus, or what they called in the movie "focusing on what you do not want" (or "what you want to avoid" , "what you are afraid of" etc).

When you focus on something that you do not want, you actually attract more of it into your life !

So , whats the cure for this ?

Well, during the entire movie they keep saying "Keep focusing on what you do want", also known as a positive focus. Well .. how do we start focusing on what we really want ?

There is a three-step process that i have personally tested myself and seems to work.

First, you need to ask yourself : what do you really want ?
This really is the easiest step of all, but the most powerful one - it immediately shifts your focus.

Think about it a minute and write it down in a piece of paper, be true and honest with yourself and describe exactly what it is you want to achieve, and feel free to ask for whatever it is you truely want : anything you want to achieve in your life is possible !

Infact, the evidence to this is shown every day by day throughout the world where more and more people do "the impossible" and invent new theories, create new inventions, break more world records, and literally do amazing things.

You can even put this to the test if you'd like to - Ask yourself what you want to achieve, and then start looking over videos in YouTube or search Google for people that already achieved it in their life and realize it here - if they can do it, so can you !

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The second step is to visualize your goal as if it was already achieved.
And usually this is a harder step to some people, but you would agree that it doesn't take any effort to just sit in a quiet room somewhere in your house, close your eyes, and for a couple of minutes to imagine yourself as already achieved that what you asked for ?

Hell you can even make it easier for yourself - do you remember any time in your past that you already achieved what you are asking for right now ? If so, then how much effort will it take to you to sit on your couch and just remember it ?

Now the key here is to do whatever you can do to experience this "goal achievement" as lively as you possibly can in your mind - involve all senses, try different visualizations and experiment with it in your free time until you reach a visualization that creates the emotion, the feeling of already achieving your goal.

I know it may sound silly to alot of you, but i have time after time fallen off my chair to my amazement of just how powerful this step really is and how that it totally creates the "attraction".

I have even had to try 3 different visualizing scenarios once before i finally found one that really created the feeling of already achieving the goal.


And the third step ?

The third step is to simply release and let go of what you just did, and trust "the universe" that it will manifest your wish for you.

What does all this amounts to ?

Here's my explanation for it, and please don't tell me i dont know what im saying if you haven't yet tried all of this by yourself :

Well, following these 3 steps will create a new "emotional filter" inside your consciousness.
You know what im talking about - an "emotional filter" is an emotional resonance response to something that is inside of your awareness, like a Deja vu effect. a Deja vu is an example of an "emotional filter" when you suddenly notice something that looks familiar already and you can't figure out where from.

It happends when you focus on something so strong emotionally, that you then suddenly begin to witness it everywhere you go to like a Deja vu, an effect that makes you more and more aware of that thing, hence attracting more of it into your life like a snowball effect.

The only thing to remember here is that what you focus on will attract more of into your life, so when you suddenly change your focus to something else, you will start to attract more of that "new thing", so its important to always stay focused on what you really want.

You can do this daily, once in a week, or even once in a month, how many times you like to as long as you enjoy it and it doesn't become a choir, and of course that it really creates the power of the attraction by generating the feelings of having achieved it already.

You will know when you feel it once you try it a few times.

Not escalating ?

If you are not approaching, or not escalating , or not progressing any of your PUs to a sexual encounter, then this post is for you !

There are basically 2 main reasons for this :

1. you dont want to
2. you do not believe the chick will want it

Lets look on those for a sec ..

Number 1 is kinda trivial here : when you dont really want something, you will not do it. Makes sense ?

Do you remember the last girl you talked to as part of a PU attempt ?
Can you remember a moment during the interaction, when you started thinking about having sex with her and how lusty and exciting that can be, perhaps to the point you started to think how to make it happend right there and that night ?

If you answered "yes" to this question, Then you obviously DID want to have sex with this chick, so point number 1 is fixed here.

Lets take a look at number 2 now ..

When you believe a chick will not want sex from you, you will not offer it to her !
and this is a tricky concept to understand, but an important one.

You see, most of the time we do things on autopilot.
If we wouldn't, and had to consicously think about EVERY single action we do, we'd go NUTS !
All the actions we take, behaviours we project, strategies and decisions are made automatically according to what we believe is right, possible, or profitable for us.

Here's an example :

Say you're in a bus, and some guy sits near you.
Will you try to sell him the air he's breathing for 20$ a kilo ?
Of course not !
Why not ?
Because you KNOW he wont buy it, and probably he'll also think you're nuts or lunatic for even trying to offer him something like that.

But lets say, for the sake of sanity, that you talked to him for several minutes during the bus ride .. and you found out he's a guitarist .. so you decide to offer him to form a band together.
Will you try that ?
Of course !
Why ?
Because you KNOW that this is a reasonable offer he may be interested in and may take in. You've got nothing to lose, yeah he may say that he's not interested because he already plays in a band .. but you know that it is OK to at least go for it and offer that for him.

So you see, what you believe in affects your actions and decisions drastically, and when you believe that a chick will not want sex from you, you definitely won't offer that for her.

Tadaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa !

And this is a big one here, so lets look at that for a moment too.

OK well first you should know that women LOVE to do things that make them feel great.
Massages, Spa's, Showers, Dress good, Shopping .. etc .. and sex is DEFINITELY something that feels wonderful for them, probably way more than it is for us infact.

To further increase this understanding, lets assume they don't want good sex.

If it was true, they won't invest so much in their looks !
they wont THINK ABOUT IT and FANTASIZE ABOUT IT all the time !
They wont write sex articles in newspapers on how to get "better sex from your partner", they wont invent "the big sex questionaire", they wont ask for advices on sexuality forums on how to have better orgasms, they wont go out with their girlfriends in packs every weekend and send AIs for good looking guys to approach them, they wont TALK about it between themselves ... further even : they won't talk about men all the time !

I mean seriously - why do WOMEN talk so much about MEN if they dont interest them ?

Also, On the biological level - sex (or: replication) is one of the TOP TWO life goals (the other one is to survive).
So a woman claiming that she "dont want to get laid", is as same as a woman saying she don't wanna live.

So as you see, women DO want to get laid just as much as we are.


Now you gotta ask yourself another question here.
Lets assume you want to get laid, and you know women want to get laid too.
But you believe that she will not want to have sex with YOU.
When you believe that she will not want the sex from YOU, guess what will happend ?
Exactly - YOU WILL NOT OFFER IT TO HER !!!

Same reasoning here.
It is a simple basic, even CORE level belief in your product !

You realized here already that women DO want to get laid just as much as we do, but if you still do not believe that she will want to have the sex with YOU, go back and read the previous post "The illusion of beauty" if you have issues with good-looking women, and go back and do the "Confidence" post again.

For your convenience, i brought the link to the last one here :

http://leedrag0n.blogspot.com/2008/04/confidence-101.html


-- leedrag0n

The illusion of beauty

Beautiful women ... our lustful desire ...

What are they ?
Are they really “bitches” as most people assume ?
Are they really “out of our reach” ?
Are they “catched by someone” already ?

No, no & no !!

On a core level - A beautiful woman, is a WOMAN, first of all.
Next, you gotta realize that a woman is a HUMAN BEING, just like you and like everyone else.

All of us human beings have 3 basic needs in our life : Desire to be loved, Desire for sex and of course Desire to be meaningful.

This escapes the realities of most guys.

Calling a hot chick a “bitch” , or claiming that she is “out of your reach” or assuming that she “has someone already” are all just conclusions & excuses that derive from the WRONG belief that “chicks that i want dont want me back”, thats it.

Is it REALLY true, that ALL chicks that you want, dont want you back too ??

Let's look at that for just a second.

Let's assume that a hot chick you want “has someone already”.
Ok, remember like i mentioned a hot chick is really just another human being thats all.

Think about yourself as a proof for a second – say you met some chick and you are going out with her and all, but you don't really enjoy your time with her. She was the only thing available for you back at the time you met and you got into relationship with her out of choice.

You don't like her, and maybe you don't even enjoying being together or even having sex with her. If a better option was be available to you, you most likely won't think twice about leaving your “current” one, because you wanted to do it all along.

And this is not because you are “hot” , or a “player” or a pimp whatever – it is because you are a HUMAN and you WANT to be happy. Yep, the biggest psychological goal that is.

Knowing that MOST guys don't really know how to make a woman feel wonderful sex wise as you do, or make her feel happy as you do, can you begin to see now just how much of a BETTER OPTION you are for most hot women ?

Great !


Now lets go to the second one – lets assume that a hot chick is “out of your reach”.

Im willing to bet you here you have seen, many times, a hot chick going out with some ugly loser or even worse hot chicks hanging out with guys who behave like little kids who didn't grow up yet. You can't even tell if they actually enjoy having sex with these guys.

Think about that for a second ..

If hot chicks go with guys like that, how can that mean they are “out of your reach” ?

Are you sure it is not YOU who push yourself out of THEIR reach ?
And by doing so you actually take away a quality option away from them, so they are left only with kids and losers who are the only thing available to them ?

Chicks can't really pickup the guys they want.
They can only choose between what comes at them.

Don't leave them for the losers !

Good ... now lets go over to the final one – lets assume hot chicks are “bitches”.

Ok i've got some news for you here !!
Im sure if you have approached girls before .. you HAVE had harsh rejections even from girls who weren't THAT hot, maybe they were average and even UGLY, maybe older, etc.

And yet – those chicks who weren't hot .. you DIDNT call them “bitches” , did you ?
And you did call the hot ones !
Why ?
Are you a fucking KID who gets insulted for not getting attention from his mommy ?

GROW UP, man !

Lets say some chick approached you ... all of a sudden ... middle of the day ... inside a clothing store ... everyone see it ... she directly comes at you smiling and flirty ... but you are not in a great mood .. you may ditch her off ... does that mean YOU are a “bitch” ?

Of course not !

It is simply a temporary reaction to a state of chaos, uncertainty, maybe shame or fear, or tireness, whatever.

Remember, hot chicks just like you are human beings – they HAVE a right to live !
They have emotions and their moods too.

Sure they don't stop to think WHY they are doing or FEELING the way they do, they simply ACT on what they feel. Many times people go back home end of the day, remember what they did during the day, and more than once even feel SORRY for doing some of the things they did or not did and most of them can't really figure out WHY they did it. Thats exactly what i've been talking on throughout this whole blog !


Excellent !


Hopefully you will now begin to see hot chicks as other human beings who are equal to you.

Realize here that hot chicks, not only that they are normal human beings like everyone else but they are also FEMALES like all other chicks. That means that just like any other female, she IS attracted to guys, and she MAY even be attracted to YOU.

Yep.

She wants to have sex with a guy just like any other chick, and she probably IS eager to meet a real quality & sexual guy like YOU, or else she won't invest so much in efforts in her LOOKS !

You gotta realize the HOTTER the chick is, or MORE she invests in her looks, more likely she is eager to meet real guy, because chicks KNOW the only way guys will approach them is the better they look.

And as a final note for this post, im going to give you this following exercise to breakdown any chance of you having the wrong belief that “chicks that i want, dont want me back” :

Start remembering and bringing up on paper ANY chick you ever met, that YOU desired, and she reciprocated back with you too. I can bet you a dime, you HAVE had in the past many hot chicks that you wanted who wanted you back too, and you were simply too blind to realize it.

Because afterall, doesn't matter if she's hot or not – She is a FEMALE human being , and she has her needs and desires too.

Think about that for a while.

-- leedrag0n

Basic Availability

Imagine to yourself that playing the mating game was as easy as opening "Minesweeper" on your desktop .. You'd play it all day long , right ?

I mean think about the differences between those two.

Minesweeper is a fun game, you just click on it and it popups on your screen, you can play it, if you win cool, if not you just press F2 and play a new game, no emotional involvement is required, piece of cake.

Now compare that to playing the mating game, you need to go out and start approaching tons of women, and have emotional & ego involvement , and persist, and .... right ?

WRONG !

If there is ONE concept that really FUCKS UP alot of guy's sex life is the wrong belief that gaming chicks requires alot of efforts. Its NOT !

75% of all you need is simply Basic Availability - Go OUTSIDE !

Think about the following for a second :

A well known clothing store in a mall that sells brand products.
They don't do THAT much effort out of the ordinary to sell their products, right ?
They are simply located somewhere in the mall, and they are OPEN from 10:00 in the morning till 22:00 in the evening. 12 Hours available every day. People that come into the mall simply see the store from a distance, and if it has something that may interest them they simply go inside the store and start checking the products. If the store contains quality products or has a good reputation they WILL sell clothes without hardly any efforts.

Basic Availability, as an analogy, is exactly the same idea about YOU & Women that you see throughout your day. As you GO OUT of your house, you pass by many women. These women SEE YOU, and in a matter of short seconds they already make a quick decision whether you ATTRACT them or not.

These women, as an analogy, are exactly the same as the kind of people that went inside the clothing store - If they are ATTRACTED to you, they WILL give small signals of interest, such as short eye contact here and then, physical proximity, change their walking direction so it will collide with yours, turn their body to your direction, etc etc ..

And out of these women who are attracted to you, you ALWAYS have the option to choose for which women you give a "presentation" of your "product" ;)

So you see, you don't need THAT much efforts to be put in order to get chicks.
75% of all you need is to simply to go out of your house.

There are enough women who are interested in you just the way you are, open your eyes !

-- leedrag0n

Attraction & Persistence

One of the key factors of any successful PU is whether or not the woman is actually interested in you as a sexual partner or not, aka "attraction".

The more she is interested in finding a sexual partner or in you, the easier your game is, The less she is interested , the harder your game is.

For most guys, the perspective of picking up a girl they like is : I go out of my house, i SEE a woman of my choice, and then i just go and randomly pick her up.
But this is not a smart way to conduct a happy sex life,

You've probably heard the question im about to ask you now before.
Do think about it :

What is easier - To gain $100,000 by trying to collect $10 from 10,000 people ?
Or to gain $100,000 by trying to collect $10,000 from 10 people ?

Well the right answer here is the second way.
But what's the real difference between these two ways ?

Well, i'll tell you. The difference here is at where you put most of your efforts at.

The first way, collecting 10$ from 10,000 people requires that you put most of your efforts in trying to convince every person to give you 10$ and then run it over thousands of people randomly.

The second way, though, requires that you put most of your efforts simply in FINDING 10 people who are generous enough each to give you 10,000$, thats it.

Get to think about it for a second - in the first way, out of these 10,000 people you tried to collect 10$ from, SURELY were at least 3 or 4 people who would also generously give you 10,000$ if you asked them for, but how could you KNOW this if you were only focused on asking them for 10$ ??????

Back to our analogy now - Difference between easy gaming and hard gaming.

Chicks who are interested in you are usually easier targets game wise.
Everyday you walk out of your house, there are PLENTY of women who ARE interested in you everywhere you go to - They give you EC, stand closer to you, and in general are receptive to you gaming them. Believe it or not, SOME of these chicks are even EXACTLY your type looks wise. Going for chicks like that makes you collecting your $100,000 much easier, however more time needs to be invested in finding those chicks, hence - More efforts are put in finding those chicks, less efforts in gaming them.

Chicks who are NOT interested in you, for any reason that could be : You're not her "EXACT" type looks wise, she has no sex drive, she has no interest in sex, she has mental issues against sex, whatsoever, are harder targets game wise.
Everyday as you walk out of your house, there are plenty of women who are NOT interested in you too, you gotta accept it bro : not every chick falls over for you. These chicks usually give no EC, they stand far from you, they do whatever they can to possibly avoid any interaction with you. Going for chicks like that makes it almost impossible to collect anything from them, more of your efforts needs to be put in convincing and persuating them to be with you, so yeah - less efforts to actually find them if you just blatantly go at them cold approach, but more efforts needs to be put in trying to convince them to even give you "10$".

The analogy of the 10$ and 10,000$ is there out of purpose.

Believe it or not, just as much as there are people that giving 10,000$ is nothing for them, there are people that giving 10$ is ALOT for them.

Go out looking for those people who will give you 10,000$ happily and you'll have a great and healthy sex drive finding chicks who are interested in what you're about to ask them for.

Try instead to go out for the people who make you a hard time giving you even 10$ , and your sex life will keep running away from you, such as going for chicks who are NOT interested in you, and just waste your time and efforts trying to convince them to give you something they dont want to anyways.

-- leedrag0n