Frames explained

Hey guys !

In this post im going to get back to some powerful core and practical stuff you can use in your Pickups.

If you liked my "Emotions Explained" classic post that talked about how women are mostly driven by emotions and not logic, and how we can use this in our pickups, then you will absolutely LOVE this post.

Today im going to talk about Frames and how to use them.
What is a frame ?

For the practical purposes of our use, a frame is simply an "altered reality" that automatically triggers certain feelings, actions and beliefs inside of it.

What do I mean ?

Here's an example : Think about the difference between meeting a woman when you're out jogging, to meeting a woman when you're in a nightclub, ok ?

It is quite obvious that you think, feel, act and believe differently about the idea of meeting a woman inside a nightclub, than how you think,feel,act and believe about it when you're out jogging, right ?

I mean, when you're out jogging, you may believe that you're too sweaty and not good looking enough for a woman to want and talk with you, or you may believe that you can only take her number .. while in a nightclub, you can feel that you're great looking, and that you can not only take the girls number, but even invite her to dance and maybe even makeout with her .. right ?

To put it short - your frame here defines what you can do, how you can feel, and your beliefs about what you can do or can't do, whats possible and whats not and even more .. makes sense no ?

The difference between jogging and a nightclub is an ideal example of how you feel, act and believe differently inside two different frames !

Now think about women for a second.

Most women know that when they are in a vacation or they go to nightclubs, its OKAY for them to go for one night stands, why ? Because thats how their mind is setup on the level of thoughts, rules, beliefs and actions they take in those places.

Now, if you can get a woman to imagine she's talking with you right now, in a night club .. do you think that all the automatically triggered actions, beliefs and feelings will immediately rise to the surface of her mind ?

THE HELL YOU BET !

Matter of fact is, that almost anyone in this planet, when telling stories to others, get themselves into different frames all the fucking time !!

You probably know this from your own experience as well - Have you ever noticed how whenever you tell somebody a story about something that happend to you while you were in a vacation or a nightclub, how during the talk you felt as if you are totally there , and how all the feelings, thoughts and beliefs just suddenly came back up to the surface ?

Have you ever found yourself telling a friend of yours something like "Man, she was so into me, i think i could have just done her in the toilet", as you describe to him something that happend to you while you're in a nightclub ?

Now, let me make a wild guess here, that if you told a story about how you met some girl in the mall, for instance, you'd never even think about taking her to the toilet as you would in a nightclub, no ?

And if that so, why do you think its like that ?

Its simply because a mall and a nightclub are two different frames , each comes with a different set of beliefs and actions you can do in them, thats why !!

Now check this cool thing : Suppose that during the conversation between you and this girl, in the mall, suddenly the lights go out, loud music starts to be played in the speakers, flash lights and big bars with drinks and bartenders in them pop up, the mall instantly becomes a huge nightclub .. everyone around you is dancing, buying drinks, and having a good time .. and you know the chick you talk with is totally into you .. How do you feel about it now ?

How will you behave differently now ?? Will you end this conversation with just a phone number, or instead take her to the booth and kiss with her ?

And if I can do it on you, right now, using words only, here in my blog - to put you into a different frame in your mind with different beliefs, actions and feelings about this meeting - you can do it on a woman during your conversation with her to put her into any frame you want !

This works simply because the subconscious mind can't recognize the difference between a real event and an imagined one, it processes them both the same way, so when you get a woman to imagine herself in a nightclub, if she gets to imagine that - it overrides her CURRENT reality, so all the beliefs, actions and feelings she has in a nightclub simply begin to rise up to the surface !

So yeah, the ability to alter another person's imagination is very powerful - probably one of the most powerful influence techniques there are that can save you TONS of time trying to build them up. Why build something up that probably already exist for you ?

Hell, if some woman is a virgin, you can get her to imagine what she would do if she wasn't virgin - If she can imagine it, the differences between reality and imagination can easily go away very soon !

Like I said in my post "Emotions Explained" , i wrote there "If you want a woman to do something, think of what emotion you want her to feel". This is, BTW, an idea that Ross Jeffries coined back in the day, so i give him credit for it.

So instead of thinking how do you get a woman to .. for instance, suck your dick in the toilet .. you can think of what frame of mind you can get her into in which she will feel natural and okay to do this thing, that you want her to do ?

You can think about Frames such as "Fantasy", which is btw a frame in which you can do anything LOL .. or "Nightclub" .. you can think about frames such as "Truth and Dare" .. or "Strip club" .. maybe even "Helping a friend" frame .. whatever you think can be right !

The funny thing about frames is that you can even create an imaginable frame , or create an "altered reality" that doesn't even realy exist, and get the women you talk to totally feel as if they are there, in that frame !!

Yes, frames are exteremly powerful .. here's a nice example : Imagine that you are now in an abandoned exotic island .. there are coconut trees around you .. and a blue sea ... the sun is shining .. and now you need to prepare a dinner, how do you do it ?

See how i just entered you into an imagined frame ?

Think about this powerful tool and how you use it, it is powerful.

-- leedrag0n

Beware of the illusion of success !!

Hey all,

Today I decided that its about time that someone will finally talk about the illusion of success.

This is an underground subject, most probably dont know of, the coaching industry surely would like to keep this a secret, but since i personally have no interest in earning money by coaching people and i give away my insights on this blog free to the world, I'll mention it.

The illusion of success is simply the unreal illusion that you can become a 100% successful seducer.

Thats right guys.

It is an illusion that was created by people who sell PU material, self-help coaching programs, better sales technique seminars, and influence workshops. The illusion that they create is that you can always become a "better sales person" .. "you can triple you success rate using these techniques" .. "you can become more attractive using these techniques" etc etc.

Lets go back to the core again.

Nobody is a perfect person. Do you get it ?
If not, i'll say it again : NOBODY, not even you, is a PERFECT person !!

Thats right, we ALL have some insecurities, or things we are not sure of, or things that we know we can do better inside of us. The thing that buggles me about the coaching industry, is that they'll always try to find those insecurities in you and then AMPLIFY and MAGNIFY them to become a "PROBLEM" , that then they'll become the "CURE" for it.

BULLSHIT !

So where am I aiming with this ?

What im trying to say is this : You can't always control the outcome with a person. You just gotta accept it. Of course, you can do better with all these skills, but you can NEVER, EVER reach a 100% success rate because :

1. You can't read minds and you can't tell what is the current situation in another person's life before you get to know him. To put it short : you can NEVER know exactly what is the current situation in another woman's life BEFORE you approach her, so stop speculating and find out for yourself.

2. You can't know what kind of person you're going to interact with. To put it short : you can NEVER know exactly what kind of woman she is going to be (kind, bitch, or the middle) BEFORE you approach her, so stop speculating and find out for yourself.

3. You CAN'T know what events or circumstances occured to him/her that MAY affect the way he/she interact with you before you talk to him. To put it short : You can NEVER know what happend to this woman before you see her - maybe some drunk guy tried to rape her, maybe some salesguy insulted her, perhaps she found out her husband cheats on her today. You can NEVER know this because you are living YOUR OWN LIFE, not hers. So stop speculating, and find out for yourself.


You get my point ?

Those are the 3 big reasons why you can't always control the outcome, because you can never know on what kind of a person you're gonna drop and what are his current circumstances.

So what CAN you control ??

Well, the things that are in your control are : You CAN control the number of opportunites you create for yourself to meet women !

YEP, you can't always control the outcome, but you CAN control the number of opportunities you create, if you say to yourself : "Today i will approach 5 different women" , that is COMPLETELY IN YOUR CONTROL. You can't tell what will come out of those approaches, but at least you know that the number of opportunities you create for yourself are up to you, and the of course the more you'll approach the more you'll meet women.

Another thing that is totally in your control is : You CAN decide what YOU LEARN from each interaction with a woman !

YEP, you can't always control the outcome, but you CAN control the number of opportunities you create, and you CAN decide what YOU LEARN from them. And believe it or not, you can extract MAXIMUM FEEDBACK from even a single approach !

So this way, you're guaranteed that you will learn something from every approach that you do.

And if you go out to the world with this attitude, that You can't always control the outcome, but you CAN control the number of opportunities you create for yourself to meet women & to LEARN from them, as long as you learn something and tweak yourself according to the feedback you get, there's absolutely NO WAY in the world you can't succeed.

Besides, you don't ALWAYS have to try and extract feedback !

You can sometimes just go out and run into a stream of frigid, cold, bitch and negative women that no matter how great your game will be, it will just not go anywhere with them. On the other hand, you can sometimes just go out and with the lousy and shittiest game run into a stream of girls who are just so attracted to you that they will almost do everything instead of you !

So don't chew up on this feedback too much, and remember that its not always up to you alone.

If you have a problem with the meaning that you give to rejections or failures etc, you probably have to change the meaning you attribute into them, but thats in another post :)

Peace for now,

-- leedrag0n

There are no failures !

Hey all !

Its been a while, but im back here to write to you from somewhere in Israel.

Has any of you ever had a motivation decrease ?
Like as if you went out to the field, tried to seduce a couple of women, and it went nowhere with them .. and how the next time you thought about going out to the field, you found yourself wandering things like "Oh well, what should i go out for? Im not gonna succeed anyway. ." , or "Why talk to her? Im not gonna sleep with her anyways .." , or things of the sort ?

MANY MANY guys, including me, had moments like those.

Something that I realized, is that usually these kind of thoughts are simply a result of a wrong belief, or filter, through which you screen the world with.

When you allow yourself to generalize something which is based on very few instances, the results can be catastrophic for you.

I always like to mention the story of Thomas Edison, the man who invented the lamp.

If you know his story or not, Edison have attempted to create 9999 instances of a lamp that didn't work, and only in the 10,000 attempt it worked.

When people asked him how come that he didn't give up trying, he answered : "I didnt fail, i only found 9999 ways to build a lamp that didnt work".

Nice story, isnt it ?

I want to share a short story here now, of my own.

I was a bit of extra horny one friday night, and i decided to go out and be a bit outrageous and try to pull back home a threesome with 2 girls.

Basically I knew that in order for me to find 2 girls that are suitable for a threesome, i should look for :

1. Two girls that are attracted to me. Kinda obvious, isnt it ?
2. Two girls who like to share things between them
3. (Preferred) Two girls who are attracted to each other, aka : Bisexuals.
4. Two girls who are open minded and adventuruos, and like to try new things.

So that was basically my "screening" list, of things to look for.

Long story short - I went out alone, to a crowded area in Tel Aviv and approached 15 different sets, and in the end I didn't succeed in pulling back home 2 girls with me.

But at least I settled for a nice porn movie :)

Anyways, the point im trying to make here is, and pay close attention to this :

Does the fact, that i approached 15 different sets and didnt succeed in pulling them back home for a thresome, means that im a failure ??

Will it be true to say, that because i didnt succeed 15 times to bring back home a threesome, it generally means that i will never succeed in pulling a threesome again ??

NO !

All that it means, is that the method, the techniques, and the strategy that I used at THAT night, with THOSE girls - just didn't work.

Thats all that it means !

I can always go home and look again at what i did right and what i could have improved and then tweak this structure and go out and try it again.

But how can anyone be able to THINK like this, if he can't realize that You never fail - You only get feedback on whats working, and whats not. And later, when you look at this feedback with crystal clear mind, you'll be able to learn ALOT from it, and to tweak your way towards success !!

And that, my friends, is my free gift for you.

-- leedrag0n

Why fast sex ?

Hey all !

I apologize beforehand, but the next post is intended for women only !
So, if you're not a woman, the next post is not for you.

(but i know you guys will read this anyway, so here goes ..)

P.S : I apologize if some of the words i use in here may seem offensive.
Afterall, it is my blog and i like to write using free language, so if you don't like it deal with it.


Why fast sex ?

1. Men & Women have a physical drive for sex they need to fulfill. When they dont - they remain horny and frustrated.

2. People don't always have free time - People work, study and are busy every day. Not always do they have time or powers to start setting up dates, meetings and decide where to go out to - Yesterday you couldn't because your friend had a birthday, Today you couldn't do it because the boss was angry and you had to do extra hours at work, Tommorow you can't because of your exam you need to study to - And in the end of the day you're left with your hand in your pussy instead of a dick !

3. It saves time - Its better to have sex fast and find out that the guy was a frigid stone in bed instead of finding that out after 20 dates !!

4. You're not commiting to or promise anything - With fast sex, you can just enjoy with a guy like two grown up adults without comitting to or promising anything, and this way you save yourself the inconvenience and the lies you'll have to make up trying to end a connection with a stone frigid guy, who will be mad and talk about you in the city anyways .. only because you promised him that you're looking for serious relationship !!!

5. You'll get profitable anyways - You can have fast sex with a guy, and later if he is not a relationship material, at least you know that you enjoyed yourself and got physically satisfied. Other than going out with someone without having sex with him .. because you rely on him for "relationship" .. and then when you discover he doesn't fit .. you lose twice - both a relationship, and you remain horny !!!!

6. It is fun and adventurous - When you'll reach age 70 and look back upon your life, you surely won't remember all the ordinary days where you did all the ordinary things and went through the same routines over and over again .. will you ? When you look back at your life now , what are the things you remember? Make your life something to remember, or like Elton John said - Don't live your life like a candle in the wind !

7. You are fantasizing about it all the time anyway - How many times did you see a guy and started fantisizing about him pushing you against the wall and doing it with you ? Don't you sometimes feel frustrated that you can't do it for real ? You can do it - its up to you !

8. Good sex is something that makes you happy - Its not the money he has, its not the way he looks, its not the "connection" you both have. Those are things that your parents think will make you happy .. but when you don't have sex for long time, your body will scream up to you at some point and you'll feel frustrated and not know why you feel like that, despite that you have anything you want. If you didn't realize it yet, you'll realize it someday .. i hope for you that not when you'll be old !!

...

Does it mean that any woman who agrees for fast sex is a "slut" ?
Nope , it only means that she's a smart and healthy woman who understands how the world works and pretty much enjoys her life to be honest :)

Others call her a "slut" ?
That OK ... Even the U.S President gets bullied that he is a nothing and a loser by people.
Usually the small and scared people like to curse and bully the big and successful people only in order to feel better about themselves. Mostly its because of jealousy ...

But bottom line is - The big and successful people, those who take chances and escape the boundaries are the ones who bring back the fruits and enjoy life, end of the day.

And the small people .. are the ones who remain inside their house shells and pass their life in boredom, frustration, and whining and bullying the rest of the world except themselves.


Ponder that as much as you want,

-- leedrag0n

Openers 101

What is the BEST way to open a conversation with a woman ?

Way I see it, the best way to open a conversation is to understand the purpose of your opening and what stands behind its dynamic.

Your opener, or "preopening" if you'd like, first and foremost is a short "presentation" of yourself to a strange woman, give or take right off first impression. She usually DOESNT LISTEN TO YOUR WORDS here, instead she is checking you out. This is why it is crucial to maintain eye contact AND smile here !

Recent studies of last years in the sexuality field keeps finding more and more commonalities to show that women feel and act exactly as we are sexually. This gives us a great ground to understand them as we understand ourselves, since we both want sex and we are both humans.

So think about yourself for a proof.

You are out on the street, and suddenly a hot chick passes right in front of you, and out of ALL the people in the street she decided to come straight at you .. she's smiling .. and she tells you : "Excuse me sir, do you know this area ?".

How will you feel when something like this happends ?

Give yourself a second to think about it .. and when you come back .. tell me that you didn't

think this would be a nice opportunity to meet this woman ?

Have it ever happend to you that you felt stuck with women , maybe hopeless or desperate with them .. and then you walked near a few girls and they suddenly called you and asked you if you can help them with something with a smile and friendly vibe ?

Everyone wants attention and needs attention.

If you remember that incident .. wasn't there a moment where you were thinking to yourself "Hmm .. they are cute girls .. i'd like to meet them !" ?

Now think about some hot woman in the street that you want to meet.
You don't know how her life looks like .. maybe she's alone and have no guys in her life ?
Maybe she's stuck with a bunch of nobodies and losers she can't stand and is desperate to find a real guy like she wants ?
Maybe she's horny and would like to fuck someone tonight ?

You approaching her and even asking her where is the bank in this area with a smile can make her day !

I can't tell you how many times i opened women with simple and stupid questions like "do you know where is a toy store in here ?" and it led to me meeting them, taking them out and fucking them ?

This is how random, "mutual" meetings .. "Hand of fate" .. or "He just bumped into me in the street and asked me where the cashier is .. and he was soooo cute..." type of meetings that happends day after day, all the fucking time !

Yeah .. of course this can't guarantee you that any woman you'll approach this way will immediately fall all over you. I mean , imagine to yourself a fat chick approaching you with a smile and asking you where a cashier is ? You'd probably answer her and just walk off LOL .. but doesn't matter how .. you'll think she was cute right ?

This is also a safe, non-threating way to approach a stranger that will make them feel safe around you. And believe me, no chick will shout at you or be harsh for you simply asking her something with a smile.

You don't believe me ?

Go out to the field and try THIS lame openin by itself 20 times.
Just approach women, smile at them and ask them for some direction or guidance.

You'll be surprised and dazzled by what you get in return.

-- leedrag0n

Screening explained

Most people who ever started learning influence and seduction in order to pickup women usually all had the same wish in their minds : To reach a level where they'll be able to have sex with ANY woman they want, anytime and anywhere.

Over time, as you get good mastering this stuff, you'll realize this goal becomes a reality.

Your attraction game becomes superb, your social skills become smooth, your frame and beliefs become strong and tight, and your ability to create emotions and lead women becomes a slick art.

You will eventually reach a level where you can have sex with ANY woman who is attracted to you at some point, and during that you'll realize that there is a different "key" used to open each girl for sex with you.

What I mean by this "key", is her issues regarding sex.

To some women, can be her fear of what her friends will think about her.
To others, can be fear of poor performance from their part.
Some women may have fear of you rejecting them after sex.
Others, may have issues with their looks and their body.
Some other women, just plain simply SUCK at bed and have no sexual experience.

You surely have learned ways to overcome those issues and to temporarily "fix" them in a woman in order to have sex with her, yet as you become better you'll realize that at some point you may not wish to deal with them anymore.

There are women who are simply not in the same sexual league as you are.
And you'll surely want to meet women you can enjoy with, ones who have those issues fixed already in them.

Think about yourself for as a world class musical performer, looking to form a band.
When you look around to find people to co-operate with, you can definitely find some vegtables seller in an open market and decide that you teach him how to play a guitar so he can be your band partner, but will you really do it ?

Most likely not, you will simply look for someone who already knows how to play a guitar.

You know that not every woman who wears high heels and bikini, is a model.
In same way : not every woman that LOOKS sexual, is also sexual herself.

That is the point where you have to decide what do you want -
what kind of women you are looking for ?

Making a list of qualities you are looking for in a woman is also known as "screening".
That will bring your game another level up, to a level where you not only become a better selector of women, but you also start to enjoy them much more.

During the process of screening you will eventually have to eject and cut it with a few women earlier in your interactions, this will lead to lower closing rates probably and may seem counter-productive at first, but once you'll start getting the results you will enjoy every bit of them much more than you would without it.

So bottom line is, screening is worth it.

Forget about closing rates and shit, instead focus on the results you are really looking for.

Focus explained

Welcome again guys !!

4 months since my last post in here ..

During the last 4 months i have realized a couple of new core level realizations that im going to of course share with you here in the next few posts, so im going to start with the first of them : Focus.

I saw a good movie once called "The Secret", im sure you've all heard of it.

The main subject of the movie is "The law of attraction", and in general is the idea that whatever we focus on, we get more of it in our life.

What it really means is that whatever it is you think of and believe in is what you'll get, or like Henry Ford said many years ago : "Whether you think you can, or can't - either way you're right !".

A quick example : "rejection".

Ask most guys why they don't approach a woman, and they will say : "I dont want to get rejected". So you can understand by this reply exactly what they are focused on - they are focused on "rejection".

Whether they are aware of it or not, this kind of focus not only that it doesn't help in preventing the rejection - it makes it happend even faster !

Because when you are so focused on rejection, you will both consciously and unconsciously look for any possible rejection sign from the woman in order to "prevent it", and guess what ? When you ARE looking so anxiously for a rejection sign, even a simple break of eye contact from her WILL be perceived a "rejection" in your mind, even when in reality it could be that she is simply shy and/or nervous just as you are.

That is just one example of a negative focus, or what they called in the movie "focusing on what you do not want" (or "what you want to avoid" , "what you are afraid of" etc).

When you focus on something that you do not want, you actually attract more of it into your life !

So , whats the cure for this ?

Well, during the entire movie they keep saying "Keep focusing on what you do want", also known as a positive focus. Well .. how do we start focusing on what we really want ?

There is a three-step process that i have personally tested myself and seems to work.

First, you need to ask yourself : what do you really want ?
This really is the easiest step of all, but the most powerful one - it immediately shifts your focus.

Think about it a minute and write it down in a piece of paper, be true and honest with yourself and describe exactly what it is you want to achieve, and feel free to ask for whatever it is you truely want : anything you want to achieve in your life is possible !

Infact, the evidence to this is shown every day by day throughout the world where more and more people do "the impossible" and invent new theories, create new inventions, break more world records, and literally do amazing things.

You can even put this to the test if you'd like to - Ask yourself what you want to achieve, and then start looking over videos in YouTube or search Google for people that already achieved it in their life and realize it here - if they can do it, so can you !

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The second step is to visualize your goal as if it was already achieved.
And usually this is a harder step to some people, but you would agree that it doesn't take any effort to just sit in a quiet room somewhere in your house, close your eyes, and for a couple of minutes to imagine yourself as already achieved that what you asked for ?

Hell you can even make it easier for yourself - do you remember any time in your past that you already achieved what you are asking for right now ? If so, then how much effort will it take to you to sit on your couch and just remember it ?

Now the key here is to do whatever you can do to experience this "goal achievement" as lively as you possibly can in your mind - involve all senses, try different visualizations and experiment with it in your free time until you reach a visualization that creates the emotion, the feeling of already achieving your goal.

I know it may sound silly to alot of you, but i have time after time fallen off my chair to my amazement of just how powerful this step really is and how that it totally creates the "attraction".

I have even had to try 3 different visualizing scenarios once before i finally found one that really created the feeling of already achieving the goal.


And the third step ?

The third step is to simply release and let go of what you just did, and trust "the universe" that it will manifest your wish for you.

What does all this amounts to ?

Here's my explanation for it, and please don't tell me i dont know what im saying if you haven't yet tried all of this by yourself :

Well, following these 3 steps will create a new "emotional filter" inside your consciousness.
You know what im talking about - an "emotional filter" is an emotional resonance response to something that is inside of your awareness, like a Deja vu effect. a Deja vu is an example of an "emotional filter" when you suddenly notice something that looks familiar already and you can't figure out where from.

It happends when you focus on something so strong emotionally, that you then suddenly begin to witness it everywhere you go to like a Deja vu, an effect that makes you more and more aware of that thing, hence attracting more of it into your life like a snowball effect.

The only thing to remember here is that what you focus on will attract more of into your life, so when you suddenly change your focus to something else, you will start to attract more of that "new thing", so its important to always stay focused on what you really want.

You can do this daily, once in a week, or even once in a month, how many times you like to as long as you enjoy it and it doesn't become a choir, and of course that it really creates the power of the attraction by generating the feelings of having achieved it already.

You will know when you feel it once you try it a few times.