Making an effort ..

Today i want to talk a little bit about efforts.

You're probably familiar with the following situation : You drive in your car, or walk down the street, maybe you're in a work building or simply on your way to lunch .. and suddenly .. you notice a really hot looking chick .. walking .. or passing near you ..

And as you see her .. you begin to wonder .. to approach her? or to not approach her?

And while you're wondering that .. you start making a list of reasons why you should approach, and on the other hand you start making a list of reasons why not.

Some of the reasons why you should may include :

1. She's realy hot and sexy
2. She's exactly my type
3. She's got something that realy turns me on
4. I've never been with a girl like that
5. She's alone, no one is with her
etc ..

Some of the reasons why you shouldn't may include :

1. What if it doesn't work ?
2. Am i realy gonna stop my car / cross the street for her ?
3. Is it a waste of time ?
4. What if she rejects me ?
etc ..

As you recall all the times in the past this has happend to you .. and i know for sure it did .. can you remember what claims usually won this debate? Did you approach her in the end? Or did you give it up before even trying?

OK, So now I'M here to tell you why I personally think you should always go for the effort :

1. There is never a 100% success guarantee on any approach. Even when you are 100% sure about things, you may find its just not going the way you expected. You can never know for sure whats going to happend .. And you can never get a guarantee for it to work - so just accept and release it. Come to the women without expectations.

2. However, real success with women comes from consistently creating opportunities to meet them, not as a one time or rare event. The "once in a lifetime girl I approach now" attitude is realy not the right way to go at things in this area - consistency is key. So yeah - you might or might not "win" over this girl , but as long as you're trying - no matter whether it works or not - you always succeed in creating an effort. And after you do it once and realize its not such a big deal - its just walking up and talking to a girl - you will be able to do it again , and slowly you will get used to approach women on random situations, and the more you operate this way - you will create alot more opportunities to meet women of your choice. And when you begin to live like that, you will be meeting women of you choice on a consistent basis, not as a one time or rare event. And this way, there's absolutely no way you won't get results with kind of women you truely desire.

3. Related to #2 above - The funniest thing about this is that deciding to make an effort is something that is 100% and totally under your own choice and control! You can't know whats going to happend with the women, and you can't always control her behaviour, but you can totally decide and control how many women you are approaching. Leaving it to the "hands of fate" or approaching a chick once in a month is completely your own decision. And guaranteed it is your own decision and your own choice, that means you have the resources and the ability to change it at will.

4. And this is a realy crucial one many many guys don't get - all those "wasted" opportunities are hot chicks who are alone by themselves!!! there are no "guy friends" , no "girl friends", no "co workers" and no "mother and father" with them who may interfere and cockblock your seduction attempt. Its just you and them. Those kind of opportunities are actually golden opportunities that you are missing. Realize this!

5. Any effort brings experience and every experience collects feedback inside of it you can learn from. You may not believe it, but you can learn tons about how to improve your game even after a single approach you make. So, even if you don't get the girl you're always going to collect something from it that can benefit you.

So there you have it - 5 reasons why you should always go for the effort.

Ponder that for a while,

-- leedrag0n