Understanding Attitude & Technique: Technique (2 of 2)

Hi everyone,  (or: anyone out there who still follows this..)

I know it's been quite a while and I kinda disappeared.
In my last post I kind of covered and unvealed the TRUE knowledge one should know about approaching and opening conversations with women, and I kind of left it unfinished, so here I am to finish this series of posts.

Before I continue, there is something I want to say here.

I have no idea who is still following my blog posts, because A. I haven't written here for a while and B. I removed any links to this blog from any forums I post on.  The reason I removed my blog is because there are alot of people in the so called "seduction community" that even though they try to create an image that they care about helping people, what they realy are in reality are scammers who do nothing but steal materials form others and sell it for money.  And exactly because of people like those I stopped posting and stopped sharing almost ANY knowledge I have on the internet, except for here.

This blog is more about being my own place that I have built for myself and for the purpose of keeping these notes for myself.  So if you are one of the people who still follow what I write, I admire you and welcome you and I'm definitely sure you are going to get alot of benefits from reading what I share here.

OK, so now once I've cleared this out, here we go with the last part about knowing the techniques to seduce (or actually get results) with women.

Although I know this post is entitled "Techniques", actually alot of this post is going to be about mindsets and understandings.  I may include some techniques and may not.  So, enjoy!



So here we are with the question we left last time: WHAT DO YOU DO AFTER THE APPROACH/OPENER?




OK.   Let's do a brief review about the approach and the opener's purposes are: The approach is meant to create an opportunity for an interaction, the opener is meant to start a conversation AND see how the woman responds to it.   This is a realy crucial part.   How she responds to it will determine EVERYTHING.

Actually there are signs you can look for even before you approach the woman that may indicated she's interested in meeting you:

1. Most evident - She turns her entire bodylanguage towards your direction.  This is an obvious IOI.  An important understanding: DON'T WAIT FOR HER EYE CONTACT.   Eye contact is just ONE of the many interest signs women give.  I know you may see it like this in movies, but in reality alot of women DON'T HAVE THE BALLS IT TAKES to look a man in the eyes, so they give alot of other signs that are just as equally strong.   Remember: People are driven by emotions.  When an emotion takes over them (In this case: An intrigue/interest to meet a guy..) she can't entirely fake it that she's not interested.  AT SOME LEVEL HER INTEREST TOWARDS YOU WILL COME OUT.  I'm giving you here more than one way to notice it :-)

2. She sits and-or positions herselfs CLOSE to you.   Again, obvious IOI.  If you don't understand why, maybe the next will clear this up for you..

3. She glanced at your direction MORE than once.  Again, I know these may be small signs but there's an important psychological understanding to realize behind them - Women at some level KNOW that guys want to approach them (Especially the hotter they are!) and may even want it themselves as well.  I don't know how it is abroad but I know for certain that alot of women in Israel, had experiences of very uncomfortable interactions with guys.   This is reality.   I'm sure EVERY WOMAN experienced this in her life LOL, so obvious.  So anyway - when women give these small signs they KNOW that a guy may approach them, so they will be VERY CAREFUL about not giving those signs to the wrong people (Or: someone they DON'T want to approach them).  So if they DO GIVE YOU THESE SIGNS, You are 100% -IN-.    If she realy didn't want you to approach her she would never give those signs.


OK, That's as far as the approaching.  Now, once you opened again it's almost the same psychological understanding here - women KNOW they can be stalked.   So if she:

1. Gives you a lengthy and invested response
2. Smiles when she talks to you
3. Initiates a continuation for the interaction  (Even if it's a small one..)

That means she is IN.  SHE WANTS YOU TO CONTINUE.   Again, for the same understanding.

So now comes the part of the HOW/WHAT to do AFTER the opener.
I will assume, for this part, that you have opened the woman and she gave you a good response and basically appears to be interested and enjoying the interaction.

Here's what to do in order to get a result or "seduction" with the woman:



PART ONE - WHAT YOU ARE AIMING AT


Basically, if you want to get a result, you have to aim at three main things in the interaction:

1. Comfort - very important!
2. Interest
3. Heat   (Or: sexual arousal)

Here's the thing: If you only give her "Comfort", you are nothing but a "Nice guy" to her.  She may take you for a long term relationship if you have alot of money (LOL) but most of the times she'll just forget about you if you don't combine at least being interesting to her (Which is the next part).  Always remember: Comfort is just the bread and butter for the seduction.   It only serves as a base ground to be able to start seducing her from.  It's quite logical - she must feel comfortable about the whole thing.  This is why I covered approaching & opening in detail in the LAST POST.

What creates comfort?  Well laughter, Being non-threatning of course, taking her to a place she enjoys and finding the right vibe & format she responds best to.  More on this in a few moments.

What about "Interest"?  Well if you only give her interest, aka: She enjoys her time with YOU, she likes talking to you, she likes the things you two do together, well that's really cool and great... for a "FRIEND"!!   Remember: Women have guy friends.   They never sleep with them, though.  But they do hang out with them, talk to them for hours on the phone.  What is a "friend"?  Well it's the combination of Comfort & Interest.  Of course - they REALY ENJOY the time with those guy friends.   Some of those guy friends may even be MORE INTERESTING to them than their current lover.   But in the end of the day, again, they don't fuck the guy friend UNLESS he creates Heat & Desire.... and that is the next and last part of the equation:

"Heat".  Heat is the real deal with women if you want to sleep with them.   This is realy what seduces them to the bedroom.  When there's Heat (combined with Comfort usually..) there's SEX.   And if there's no sex, then at least there is an anticipation FOR sex.   And when there is an anticipation for sex, you become something that is WORTH her time.   And when you meet again, just focus on arousing her sexually.   THIS IS WHAT THEY REALY WANT.   Look back at the equation!   There's a wrong conception about women being less horny than guys and not wanting sex the same.  It's BULLSHIT.  If you check the facts, and look at women who are sexually satisfied - they want the sex ALL THE TIME, Sometimes more than we do!   Women are highly addicted creatures especially as far as body pleasures go.  Sex, for women is a complete body sensational experience and pleasure just as much as (and usually ALOT MORE than..) massages, oils and pedicure.  Women LOVE their body and women LOVE how they feel in their body.   And women will HIGHLY VALUE any man that can AROUSE them and/or make them feel GREAT in their BODY.   This is how MOST of them get actually aroused.   It's NOT A FUCKING CRIME to try and seduce a woman.   I mean think about it - women are not ashamed of seducing us, guys, sexually.   They dress hot and they invest in their looks on purpose to turn us, guys, ON.  So you have every right to seduce women and in fact you MUST, if you ever want to get sex and or love.

Heat is what realy makes all the difference towards sex.  And you can become a MASTER at arousing women sexually... you know why?    Because 99% of the guys just DON'T EVEN TRY.    Guys are so focused about just "talking" and/or "flirting" with women.   I don't say that women don't like being flirted or talked to.   But when you start touching them and/or BRINGING UP topics of sex and arousal, then you realy become someone "interesting" to her more than just a friend.   I mean think about it - most "friends" are guys they know for ages, since school etc.  When you meet a woman in cold approach, you don't have years to become her "friend" so don't even try.  Focus on becoming her most amazing lover she ever had.  Yes, that may sound like you have to become a kind of a "whore".  Well, I didn't say provide your services for free or to any woman.  MANY WOMEN DON'T DESERVE IT.   But.. if she's open, receptive, interested and looks eager at the interaction - you CAN give her the gift of becoming the most amazing lover she ever had, and she wants it!

Whew... that was alot, but that's realy the basic of what you should do.
Now let's move over and unpack each and one of those in detail..



The right way (or mindset) to look at how the interaction builds up AFTER the opener:

An interaction with a woman is NEVER a fixed or linear thing.  Yes there can be roadmaps or basic "goals" to achieve, like the ones I laid out in the previous section.   But in reality, ANY INTERACTION with ANY WOMAN is realy an EXPERIMENTATION.   You never know what kind of a person she is, what she best responds to, what intrigues her and how she becomes aroused BEFORE YOU INTERACT with her.   So you can NEVER make assumptions.  EVEN if she looks interested in you, you still have to go and find out.   So you can already write down this first attitude when you approach to open an interaction with a woman:

"Let's experiment and see how it goes.."

Now, there are 3 main "areas" you can experiment with once you opened her (big credits to Ross Jeffries here!):

1. Vibe - Your vibe, that is.  Any woman responds best and most strongly to a certain vibe (or vibes).  Some women are funny people so they will hardly ever respond well to a "serious" (or more dominant) vibe.  Other women get turned off by a funny guy and gets more turned on by a dominant (and "serious") guy.   Some women realy can't stand a dominant person and want an honest and vulnerable guy.  Some women even respond best to a WEAK and sensitive (even shy) guy.   Some women are so filled with life and so sick of all the guys trying to dominate or tell stories to them that they feel they have alot they want to share and they want someone who can just LISTEN to them talking!   So you see it's realy dynamic, there's NO ONE FIXED VIBE THAT FITS ALL.   What's the best way to know?  Well, experiment and find out!!!   (It's the only way realy)   How will you find out?   Try playing with your vibes a little.   (BTW: If you don't have a dominant character in your tool box.. start developing one!   Stand in front of the mirror in your house and practice.  Believe me guys - you CAN become ANY person you want.  And it's not that big deal, all it takes is just some basic rehearsing and the mind has a wonderful mechanism of muscle memory to remember everything you rehearsed to come out naturally in the field.).  When you start playing and shifting your vibes, you WILL NOTICE, at some point, that the woman suddenly locks her eyes into you, doesn't look away, and seem to hang on every word you say and/or give you the eyescan.   That's usually very obvious and noticable sign that tells you you're on the right track.

2. Formats - A format is basically a communication structure.  It can be a question, a story, a joke, a cocky/funny comment, a game, a quiz, a demonstration, etc.   Some women are realy intrigued from a guy who shows genuine interest in them so they LOVE questions.  Some women realy like to be shared stories with.  Some women are into funny stuff / jokes.  Some women are realy into demos, quizes and finding out new stuff they didn't know before.   Again, there's no one fixed thing here, and usually any "normal" interaction between people combines more than one format: I mean you can't just sit there all evening and ask her questions.  That's realy bizzare and feels like an interrogation :-)  You must share some stuff sometimes too, but if you see she responds MOST STRONGLY to questions, then you can structure MOST of your seduction to be based on questions.  If you see she responds best to jokes, structure MOST of your interaction around jokes.   If you see she responds best to you sharing stuff with her, do that.   Get my point?

3. Themes/Topics - The themes (or topics) of conversations you choose are another aspect you can play and experiment with.  My own personal belief is that any woman (or person) RESPONDS to something.  Even if she looks like a shallow person, somewhere inside of her there is a strong desire and responds to something.   There are some common themes you can usually talk to women and most of them will respond to them - things like indulgence of all sorts (food, body, pleasures..), connections and-or understanding people and their actions (they talk about this ALOT between themselves!), trips to abroad, television shows, live performers (or bands/music) etc.  There's a broad range of themes and topics you can choose, the best ones will be the ones she responds most strongly to and is eager to talk alot about.   If she feels compelled to talk alot about some subject - UNLESS it's her boyfriend or some guy she wants, which you must avoid at all costs.. but if she likes talking about shopping?   Talk with her about shopping!   It makes sense to her.   Shopping may not be something that you are highly interested in, true.  You may be more into writing music or reading books.. but while this may be interesting to you, to HER it may be BORING and uncomfortable.   But if she gets all passionate about shopping... then avoiding this subject will be nothing but a stupidity.  TALK TO HER AS MUCH AS YOU WANT ABOUT SHOPPING!    This way, she gets all excited about the interaction with you and it becomes something she enjoys and remember - how she feels is the most important thing to you! So again, themes and topics are another aspect you can experiment with and when you find one she enjoys talking about you will almost surely notice her starting to open up and talk more.


Things to notice that let's you know you're in the right track or wrong track:


1. Body language - Open or Close?    If she closes her body language (like - holds her hands in a position that closes her chest) that's a sign you're on the WRONG track.  If you see her, however, losening up and especially if her body language opens up entirely - that means you're on the RIGHT track.

2. Investment on her part - Is she participating alot?   If yes, you're on the right track.  If not, then you're on the wrong track.   Switch the vibe, format or theme and try again.


Basically the general model of operation is the same like in NLP's T.O.T.E - Test, Operate, Test, Exit.
With women, you always test her responses.   A general attitude and rule here is this:

Her responses are the most important thing and guide to your seduction.  Her responses will guide you to what are the right vibes, formats and themes that will open up and seduce her.




So you always try something, and see how she responds.  If you don't get a good response, you just change the tools and try again.   NEVER make assumptions that a woman doesn't want to talk you or isn't interested.   If she's still there, and not giving you any bad responses but neutral or "weak" responses, that just means that what you tried now just didn't create a response in her.  THAT'S ALL.  It doesn't mean NOTHING else.   If she gets up and leaves or asks you to stop or gives you realy bad vibe or sign to leave, then you can leave and "exit".   But my experience has taught me that 99% of the times women NEVER give you bad responses.   They either just don't respond to something you do, respond in a neutral/weak way, respond in a good way, or respond in a great way!

So as you can see, an interaction is alot about experimenting and trying different things and noticing how she responds to it and adapting according to it until you find the "good" and "correct" path that she starts opening up the most to.   This is the real game and the real skill guys.   The more flexible you are here, the more vibes you can introduce, the more formats you can induce, and the more themes and topics of conversations you can introduce, the better you are and you could eventually be able to open and connect with any woman and seduce any woman.   It's all about your flexibility here.   Guys who are not as flexible or who are not as tuned in to how the woman responds and adapt accordignly WILL get shut down by alot of women that YOU WILL SUCCEED WITH, simply because you can adapt to them better than those guys.    And feel good about any challenge!    Any woman that you meet who may be difficult to connect at first is a golden opportunity for you to increase your skill by trying more tools.   This is kind of like an "advanced" level in a computer game.   Believe me, When you reach the point that you can approach a woman that at first sits with her entire body language closed to you and doesn't participate.. and turn her around so that she suddenly opens up and is all into you - THEN, my friend, you'll know that you have advanced to masters level in the game :-)



Also, there is another very important rule here you must internalize:

When you see she's ready, STOP seducing and start CLOSING!!!!!


Yes, this assumes she in fact MIGHT be ready at any moment.  This is realy how it is with women.  Women can get turned on and actually be ready for you to close them (physically!!) even after a minute into approaching.   How do you notice that she's ready?

1. She starts playing with her hair.   Most obvious sign there is.  She leans forward, plays with her hair and becomes all feminine.

2. She starts touching you.

3. Her entire body language is open, towars you, and she keeps looking at you alot.


When you see any of these signs, EVEN if it's after a minute into approach, stop seducing and start closing.  Women have these moments when they feel ready - when their interest level, or "buying temperture" how they like to call it in the seduction community, is IN THE ROOF.   THESE ARE THE MOMENTS SHE IS MOST READY AND MOST LIKELY TO FLOW WITH A "CLOSE".   So just look carefully and notice those moments.   Think about it like selling ice cream to a kid, when is he more likely to buy?   If he is totally eager and wants it NOW?   Or if he just had a meal?    You see, when you miss those moments when the girl is ready (although i HATE to use the word "miss" because you generally speaking never miss anything.   In every 5-10 minutes you can meet a new woman who is just as hot and pretty!), but in terms of timing.. women have a tendency to have these "spikes" moments of high readiness for closure, and after them they "fractionate" out of it back to "normal" mode (and especially if you bring up a boring subject... LOL.  See how bad it is?   It's alot better to try and fucking KISS HER when she's ready than to keep talking cause it will just cool her off and bring down her excitement and then when you try to close she "won't feel like it".. as they always say.   You KNOW they "go with how they feel" right?   So close them, or even propose a venue change.. ANYTHING - when you see THEY ARE READY, and they will 99% of the times agree because this is just HOW WOMEN ARE - they are EMOTIONALLY DRIVEN.  They feel it?  They do it!   So when they feel excited and ready - START CLOSING!!).




Is that all?


No, but that's definitely enough for alot of women.   You see, My  belief is that many women, if they are already attracted to you, just need to "feel right" about doing it.   And getting them to feel right is just through using everything I just explained above - experimenting with your vibes, formats and themes to get an ongoing, enjoyable, exciting interaction.  For many women that is all they need, and once you get it they'll start showing you they are ready to be closed.   They will start playing with their hair, lean forward, and everything I just said.  THAT IS ENOUGH my friends.   When you see them go this way, CLOSE, and you it will most likely succeed.

Although still everything I just explained above is related to creating Comfort and (mainly) Interest.  You see, you may not have years to become her "friend".  But if you can instantly find what she responds best to, she will definitely enjoy every moment with you , may even get turned on .. and all of this EVEN if it's not a sexual thing.

However, now I want to finish this post with talking about the last but not least and probably most important of all, how to create Heat, Arousal and Desire!



HEAT:

Ok, so like I said you can do all the above and alot of women will get to a point when they start sending you this "I'm ready" signals.  Then you can propose isolation, and even close them physically (if the logistics allow it,  if not - propose isolation).

Then in the isolation, or even before, or even at any moment of the interaction ONCE you've got her feeling comfortable with you and enjoying her time with you, you must start moving things to a sexual direction in order to become a lover.

How do you do it?

1. Kino and Touch.  One of the strongest arousing things to women, as they are very sensitive in their body and they respond very strongly to body sensations.  To say it short - when you become a great toucher that women enjoy your touch, it starts activating those arousal circuits.  To some women a good touch is all she needs to conclude that you may be a wonderful lover.   I believe that almost any woman out there LIKES and enjoys a good touch, although it may or may not arouse some and others not.

2. A Kiss.   This is again related to kino and touch, but a good kiss can be one of the most turning on things to a woman.   Learn how to kiss properly, so that when the time comes (or: she shows you "she's ready") and you're in isolation, you kiss her so passionately she'll drip her pants off!   A golden tip here: always go for kissing her on the neck first before the lips.   The neck is one of the most erotic spots in a woman's body, and when kissed properly in this spot alone, you can get a woman dripping wet in less than a minute.   A good kiss on the neck is, in my opinion, the best tool you can use to get her all heated up and ready for sex.

3. Sexual themes.   Women can get unbelievably turned on from talking about sex alone just like we do.  The guys in the community who say "women don't get turned on from words, just touch" is nothing but BULLSHIT.  Women get turned on from talking about sex JUST AS MUCH as we are.  It all depends how you introduce it and when.   If you do it after comfort and interest is there, it will work.   If you try to do it as your first move it will almost always look wierd and creepy although even that CAN work sometimes LOL...  Anyways, I usually like to start by talking about what a wonderful massage feels like.  Women realy tend to visualize almost anything you say very vividly.  And if you can describe a perfect massage to her, and preferably do it in a VAGUE language that she can fill in with her own most desired way of massaging (thanks Ross Jeffries again for this!), she will almost likely get VERY TURNED ON FROM IT and want it right now!    Never underestimate the power of words.   Again - how she responds will tell you.   Maybe she just wants to get physical, and maybe she needs to be turned on verbally first.   Only your experimentation and testing will reveal the answer to this!

4. Sexual Ambiguity.   OK, Sometimes the situation doesn't allow any physical move, and talking to her directly about a sexual theme may scare her or completely alarm her.   That doesn't mean she doesn't want it, it just means you have to use a more "sneaky" way to get her turned on, and that's where sexual ambiguities come in.   For example: "One of my best friends, Dick, has a very long.. and thick.. hair, that he always keeps talking about"  (Slightly emphasizing the marked words, not blatantly so she notices it, but in a way that A. Makes these word stand out a little, B. Make the whole thing feel as if you say it naturally so it is not noticed consciously by her).   See what I did?   You put in the word "Dick", "Very long" and "Thick".. and even though the sentence itself talks about your friend, Dick, it contains words in it that CAN BE INTERPRETED in the other "meaning" they have :-)  (Which is sexual).  This "injects" sexual ideas and images to the mind of a woman in a way that feels, to her, as if it came from within herself - as if SHE'S the one who thought about it.  And the good thing about it is that you can include it in any theme or conversation.   Although a small tip here - they will usually be more noticed (or interpreted sexually) if you brought up any sexual topic BEFORE them, even in a way that doesn't feel like YOU said it (maybe quote someone..).   Anyways, it still doesn't change the fact that it makes her THINK about a LONG AND THICK DICK (LOL!).  And .. do you think that if she thinks about it.. it doesn't turn her on?    Think again my friend.   Boy oh boy do they get turned on from it, and yes it may even go all around in her mind so that she starts thinking about whether or not YOUR DICK is long and thick.. and if she starts thinking THAT.. the way from here to sex, or to her to start giving you the "I'm ready" signals is VERY short.


So you see?   Even as fast as the heat goes, there's more than one way to use, and again I can't realy tell you which way would work best although usually once a woman feels comfortable and interested you can just start touching her and see how she responds.  In my experience, MOST WOMEN responds VERY GOOD to touching that I just assume that touch and kino, as well as a good kiss on the neck, are my top 2 ways to get women turned on, which is why I listed them both here.   In my experience, almost ANY TIME I managed to start kissing a girl on the neck in a passionate way it ALWAYS led to sex and the bedroom.   They just get so dripping wet from it it's as powerful, on them, the effect just as much as when you have an erection for a woman.

And again remember, I get back to Heat: just doing Comfort and Interest, while they speed up your process tremendously and lay out the best and ideal base ground to seduce her, I see them only as another step before actually starting to heat the girl up sexually which is what you TRUELY want from the interaction.

ALWAYS AIM AT HEATING THEM!
ALWAYS AIM AT HEATING THEM!
ALWAYS AIM AT HEATING THEM!
ALWAYS AIM AT HEATING THEM!
ALWAYS AIM AT HEATING THEM!
ALWAYS AIM AT HEATING THEM!
ALWAYS AIM AT HEATING THEM!
ALWAYS AIM AT HEATING THEM!
ALWAYS AIM AT HEATING THEM!
ALWAYS AIM AT HEATING THEM!
ALWAYS AIM AT HEATING THEM!
ALWAYS AIM AT HEATING THEM!
ALWAYS AIM AT HEATING THEM!


OK.

And that's it for this post.


-- leedrag0n.

Understanding Attitude & Technique: Technique (1 of 2)

Hey guys!

In the last post I unpacked the first part in the equation of attitude & technique where I talked about the right attitude to have with women: a screening attitude.

Both in the last post and in the post before it ("Finding the balance between Attitude & Technique") I emphasized that in order to get results with women simply having the right attitude ISN'T ENOUGH. You must also know the right techniques for how to approach, open a conversation, talk and move things with women.

That's what I'm going to talk about in this post.

Because of the length of this post I decided to split it to 2 parts. The first part will describe the opening part, the second will talk about what to do after the opening.

I explained in detail in the last 2 posts why just learning attitude, without learning the right techniques, is a sabotage to your game. I see so many guys who desperately look for "the short path to success" and fall a victim to "gurus" who sell them materials that talk about "Attitude", and then these guys go out to the field without any knowledge on how to socialize, talk and open conversations with people properly and then they go out with their kick-ass "Attitude" and just scare people off because they try to talk to them in a NON-SOCIAL, non-calibrated, sometimes even terrifying way. These people usually sooner or later abandon the game because they see no results, and that's quite reasonable. YOU CAN'T GET RESULTS WITH JUST "ATTITUDE"! YOU MUST LEARN HOW TO BEHAVE AND CALIBRATE TO OTHER PEOPLE CORRECTLY!

That just makes sense, doesn't it?

So let's start with the Techniques. As I said before, Attitude & Technique realy go hand in hand together, therefore I figure that in order to fully understand these techniques, one must also understand the driving principles and thinking behind them so they will make full sense to him.

So, there are 3 KEYS that drive EVERYTHING I'm going to talk about in this post, and they are:

1. Emotions - As I talked about before in great detail, human beings are driven by how they FEEL. If they feel good, safe, and fun about an activity, they'll KEEP doing it and they'll move TOWARDS it. If they feel bad, threatened or discomfort about it, they'll RUN AWAY from it. This just makes sense. Plus: always remember that emotions drive actions and by triggering the right emotions you can trigger the right actions you want from women. More on this later.

2. Dynamics - In the last post I mentioned that the dynamics between you and a woman are crucial for your success with her. The WORST dynamics (and some women will constantly try to put you in it..) is one where you are chasing after her. This is realy all about investment. The ideal dynamic to create is one where SHE is investing more than you in the conversation, because the more she is "investing" the more she actually wants it. A dynamic where BOTH OF YOU invest the same amount back at each other is ok too, but NEVER one where YOU make all the moves. So in every move you make, be alert and aware to the Dynamics that such move creates. Sometimes you may have to deliberately take a step back from the interaction to see if she is taking a step forward and invests in it. This is also related to the next point..

3. Screening - I'll talk in depth about this one. OK Listen: Although naturally you'll want to make your moves focus around creating the right emotional states, they also have to screen the woman in someway. This is realy crucial. There are many reasons for this: Main one being the dynamics that are created as I explained in the last point. You always want to make sure the woman is investing in the interaction at least as much as you do, and ideally MORE than you, and in order to condition this you have to sometimes make moves that are deliberately designed to not only "screen" the woman but to also create an investment (or compliancy) on her part. The whole "chasing her" dynamics, as being presented in the movies, in reality not only that it doesn't "seduce" or "excite" women in anyway, it also gives them a golden opportunity to categorize you as a "chaser/orbiter", which makes you LESS interesting in her eyes. This is also related to the emotions it creates. When something is too obvious and taken for granted to a woman, it just feels boring and expected, and that's when they use it to take over the dynamics and make you chase them, because they realy don't "feel" any desire towards you. "Boring" doesn't motivate or seduce her in anyway, "Challenging" or "Interesting" does. Another reason why you want to screen women is to check for personality traits in her you are looking for and of course to avoid wasting your time on women who do not fit game wise. Example: Goldiggers. Even more than this, when women feel they are being screened, it creates a challenge for her to "prove" you that she's not like that. "Challenge" is a good motivator as it creates a desire in a woman to prove you otherwise AND it also creates investment and compliancy. I'll talk more about this later in this post.

So behind every move you make with a woman, whether its Approaching, Opening, Talking or Closing, you want to ideally think in terms of both Emotions (what emotions is this designed to arise in her), Screening (what can I screen for with this move..), and Dynamics (how do I create an investment from her? what dynamics does this move create?).

I'll get back to these 3 letters, E.S.D - Emotions, Screening, Dynamics, throughout the rest of this post. If you can remember and master these 3 letters in your head, you WILL be alot better than almost ANY GUY out there who fucks it up in one or more of those.

So after I laid out the basic understandings, let's get the basic techniques now..

Approaching:

By "Approaching" I mean the non-verbal act of physically walking up and/or positioning yourself near a woman you want BEFORE you open your mouth.

The psychology that you have to understand here is that most people (if not all) are usually going to feel scared of a stranger that suddenly walks up to them and starts talking to them. If you don't believe it, imagine yourself for a moment walking down the street when you suddenly see some guy passing the street and walks up directly at you. You don't know this guy.. what's your FIRST reaction going to be? How will you FEEL in that moment? Exactly! So it goes the same for WOMEN as well.

The right way to do this step is to structure your approach to appear as if "it just happend" accidently or naturally that you stood near her and started talking, which is also perceived as a safe and non-threatening encounter. As I just demonstrated to you with the example above, this section of the game is perceived and played non-verbally, therefore one must understand the basic rules of non-verbal communications done here.

Remember the basic attitude for the Approach!

Yes, we go back to the attitude that drives it all. This is what "drives" you internally in your actions, remember, as always: You are there to screen for women who are friendly, open, and fun. If you still apply all of the following principles and run into women who respond negatively to them, just LET THEM GO! They are not useful targets.

So let's unpack approaching a little further..

Eye Contact:

Eye Contact plays a big role here. Ideally, you want to NEVER be seen to be looking at her when she FIRST see's you - this automatically removes the "This guy wants to talk to me" perception of you, and it just feels way more safe to her, which is what you aim at.

There is one exception to this though: What happends if she DID see you looking at her? Well, if she did "catch" you looking at her, the question is how far you are from each other at that moment. If you are both very close to each other then the ideal move here would be to immediately throw a preopener at her. A preopener is just a neutral question of sorts: Asking for directions, asking for the time etc. If you do this, you again create a good perception about you of "OK, this guy is safe he just wanted to ask me something.." and appear to be a guy who was just looking for some help, and you can also transition very easily to a conversation from it. (I'll get to it later in the section about preopeners.. for now this is all related to Eye Contact).

If you are far from each other, though, and she did catch you looking at her, it's again no big deal either. Just break eye contact and continue as usual. You may occasionally check her out briefly, or even decide to walk up and use a preopener. The important thing to remember here is to NEVER stare at her - staring at people just scares them off and appears to be threatening = VERY bad!

So as long as you don't stare in her, then the Eye Contact game can actually be a good screening tool: If you catched her looking at you more than once, or if you both looked at each other and she didn't get scared from it, that means good things about her = it can mean she likes you, it can mean she is a friendly person who doesn't run off from interactions. It's great.

Positioning:

OK, now after we talked about Eye Contact, let's move to talk about positioning yourself near her to talk. Key rule here is to NEVER walk directly at her - again, this is threatening and may scare her off, which you never want!

If she's in a static position (aka: not moving), think of a good "excuse" in your head to walk near her, almost as if you direct a scene from a movie that makes it appear accidental. Yeah this requires some gaming skills. Now I know some guys will scream: "Never excuse, bla bla bla".. No, this is BULLSHIT guys! The whole "Never excuse yourself" attitude just turns people into arrogant and tactless guys who scare women off. If you really wanna be a master at approaching, forget that crap and Listen to what I say here: Think of some "excuse", just for yourself, why you walked near her, and then walk over there slowly and elegantly in a way that "fits" your scene and appears as if "it just happend". For example: She is in the bar, and you wanted to get a drink OR put your jacket in her chair. This makes the approach seem "accidental" in her eyes, which is what you want. When you do it, combine it with the Eye Contact thing and DO NOT LOOK AT HER until you catch her looking at you first, and only THEN you can open and it's going to open her up. If it's in a store, and she stands near an aisle, you can just walk up to that aisle to check for some product and then "accidentally" bump into her, without looking at her at first, again..

If she's on the move, again think "accidental" and spontaneous: you just walk at each other, without looking at her of course (as this will CREEP her out..) and in the "last moment" you stop her with a preopener of sorts because she was the closest person who accidentaly passed near you and you wanted to ask her something.

I will sometimes even "direct" a scene where I'm talking on the phone with someone as she passes near me, which makes this seem totally spontaneous to her. Yeah I know it sounds like a play from a movie, but this is exactly why they call us "Players", and why seduction is an art.. don't you think? :-)

Another great tactic I started to use recently is that I will see a woman standing near a seller, and I will actually deliberately walk up to the seller and ignore the woman I want completely and talk to the seller. This is perceived, again, by the woman, as being random and safe, and also it gives her a "glimpse" of the way an interaction with me would go.. and because the sellers are usually friendly and nice with me, that's an even better setup for the approach because it creates some level of jealousy in the woman.. and alot of times, believe it or not, it makes the woman open me herself first.. by listening to what I talk about with the seller and then "sharing" her opinion.. and even if she didn't open me, well at least she now saw me and perceives me as a friendly, non-threatening and safe person.. so from here I can just move on to "bump into her" accidentally again, and start as normal.

Inducing an "Approach Invite":

This is an advanced concept I have learned from Gunwitch, but it is genius and works like magic based on psychology alone. You can use this principle on stationary women and EVEN on women who are on the move and it works the same in both cases when applied right.

Basically before you start talking to her, you can make her feel as if she is the one who actually invited you to talk herself. I won't go into the psychology behind it here, if you want you can get Gunwitch's "Way Of Gun" course to learn it. But basically this is done by appearing to be looking at something in her general direction (but NOT on her!). This way you can see her in your peripheral vision and notice when she is looking at you. When she see's you she of course notices that you are not looking at her.. which by itself already makes it feel alot more safe to her. But there's something else that is realy clever here - When you wait for HER to "notice" you first.. and SHE WILL of course at some point.. and only THEN you initiate a talk with her.. it feels to HER, at core levels, not only more safe and "accepted" but also it feels to her like something she has invited you to.

To her, at internal level, it feels as if SHE gave you "The Vibe" to start talking to her, so therefore it can NEVER resisted by her and just goes to work like clockwork. This is extremely powerful.

Now, the best thing about it is that you can even apply it when a chick is walking near you or at your direction - You basically look at something in her general area (but NOT her, of course).. then again at some point she WILL look at you, of course, and then when you spot this "artificial vibe" you induced, only then you talk to her.

Try it in the real world. You won't believe how effective this approach is.

Screening:

At the approach phase, you can also screen the woman very quickly: If you position yourself near her in a way that is safe and accidental, and she still keeps moving away from you more than once, that basically SCREENS HER OUT immediately, so it saves you time already right there.

Also at the preopener phase, you can see how well she responds to it - if she seems friendly and open and ideally if she STAYS there and gives you a long and invested response, that's a realy good indicator. On the other hand, if she doesn't stop and throws a one word answer just to run away from the interaction, she is immediately SCREENED OUT.

Guys - DO NOT be afraid to SCREEN WOMEN OUT! Actually, if you can let women go at the same ease as you can let them in (or: Approach them and give them an opportunity), then your life with women will be VERY easy and enjoyable. I know that alot of guys just can't let women go easily and that's the reason for ALL their problems with women. Consider this deeply..

So to sum Approaching up: The Approach is realy all about creating an "accidental", safe, non-threatening and/or even spontaneous encounter that feels relaxed, pleasant and comfortable for the woman (and you too, of course). The Approach is also designed to screen out women who are non-friendly or non-receptive right off before even opening them.

Mastering the art of Approaching is all about mastering how you manage your Eye Contact, your Positioning, and your creativity in creating random and/or "accidental" or spontaneous encounters with or without preopeners.

So now, once I shared with you how to approach women properly, let's move to how to open them properly..

Opening:

As I explained in the last section in detail, the "approach" is realy the setup for the opening. If your setup for the opening is safe, spontaneous and accidental, then opening is alot easier and will be received WAY better. Also, it will be easier to transition to a conversation from it.

Sometimes though, there are situations where it's difficult to create a good approach and you just have to open her. This is where the preopener gets into play..

Preopener:

A preopener is generally something that I always use, even with a good approach, and EVEN if the woman has gave me indicators of interest first, as a setup for the opening itself.

A preopener is just a neutral comment or question in nature that is designed to "break the ice" with a stranger and create responsiveness in her. it can be anything from "What time is it?", to "Can you take a picture of us?" (in a club) all the way to "Excuse me, are you the sister of X by chance?" (X = Some name..) or even "That's a nice purse". It's not designed to create a full-on conversation yet, but it's a really useful setup for it.. for several reasons:

1. It breaks the ice and creates some rapport - Because you are no longer "a stranger" in their eyes after the preopener. Now, you are someone they "know" at some level, and because the preopener is perceived as something neutral, you are also a safe and non-threatening person now, which gives you a great start.

2. It creates a response - People are naturally conditioned to response to preopeners anytime, anywhere. If you don't believe me, walk up to 100 georgous women and ask them what time is it. You'll get an almost 100% response rate, I guarantee you.

3. It creates responsiveness - Or "response potential". Once they responsed the first time, it's going to be extremely difficult for them to not response to another question you ask because you just conditioned them to response and rapport with you.

4. Can be used anytime, anywhere - And you don't always have to create an approach setup for it.

5. Helps you screen them out VERY quickly - Basically how they answer to your preopener can show you ALOT about their openess and friendliness right off the bat, so you can already here make a decision whether you want to talk to them more, or not.

6. Sometimes, a preopener is all that is required to open them - Yes, believe it or not, some women respond SO good to a preopener that you can instantly transition them to a conversation from it alone.

So basically a preopener is realy just another approaching tool, that's why it's called a preopener, not an opener, but it helps you setup a realy good opening.

Here's a useful tip: When you deliver your preopener, be aware to the state she is in and match it accordingly. You don't have to do it precisely, just be aware to it and adapt your preopener. This can realy make a difference, as people are naturally more open and receptive to others who are "like them" or "at their level" in an unconscious level.

Opening Sequence:

Now let's talk about structuring a good and effective sequence to open a conversation with any woman, and this sequence can also be used to strike up a conversation with virtually anyone.

Once the approach, once the preopener, it's time to actually strike a conversation with the other person. A key thinking to remember is this: Women are emotional creatures. My strategy is that I want to create good and/or intriguing emotions in them first - that way, the interaction is going to become something pleasurable that she enjoys or something intriguing that she's drawn to and will naturally want more of, thus making me more interesting, intriguing, and enjoying in their eyes, so her enjoyment and intrigue will make her open up and start to invest in the interaction, which is exactly what I want!

How is this done?

Well post approaching, post the preopener, I usually prefer to start with a basic and simple Comment/Question/Observation sequence that is designed to create responsiveness from the woman. I learned this from Ross Jeffries, so full credits to him. This sequence is VERY useful because it creates responsiveness (aka: "response potential") and an ongoing communication with the woman in a way that is NEVER detected and is also perceived as something that "just happends" between you naturally and effortlessly.

The cleverness of the C/Q/O sequence is that each piece in it sets up the piece that follows: Your comment ("Nice shoes..") gets a response from her and sets her up to your question that follows ("Where did you buy them?") that once again gets a response from her and sets her up to your observation ("I have a friend who has exactly the same kind.. this is such a coincidence..") and because all of the parts are supporting and connected to each other, it realy goes like clockwork and feels, to her, like something that "just happends" in a natural and flowing way.

When you combine this sequence with a preopener and a good approach, this all merges smoothly to an ongoing/flowing conversation that you can then take to any direction you want - you can start talking about the weather, or the place you're both at, or bring any topic you'd like easily. This structure creates rapport and opens a flowing communication between you that you can then use to start evoking positive emotional states in her such as intrigue, fun, laughter and enjoyment BEFORE you move on to actually meeting her (By asking her "Are you from the area?" or "Where are you from?" and going on from there..), and by doing all of this together, you set up the framework for a very pleasant conversation that you can then start seducing her in!

I'm telling you: If you will use and apply the structure as I showed it in here, you WILL increase your response rate from women BIG TIME!

As you can see, this is all based on influence and psychology, nothing random or accidental. Yes, it IS structured in a way that is perceived to other people "as if" it just happend accidentally and feels pleasant and effortless to them (which is GREAT) but it is actually a system that you can remember easily and is flexible enough to adopt to any situation.

Then once I get a nice opening I will usually, within the first minute of the interaction, try to create some intrigue, enjoyment and/or curiousity and interest in the woman. This is what can realy make all the difference. Why do I do this? Again because women are emotional creatures. So if she enjoys or gets a thrill from the interaction with me.. she'll naturally WANT to stay there and get more.. and she will view me through a way different light as someone more interesting! (Think about it..)

How do I do this? Sometimes it can be throwing a small joke to make them laugh (which is ideally the first emotion I want, because of the enjoyment it creates..), sometimes it can be throwing something that gets them curious (like: how do we know each other already? :)) in rare cases I may throw a small challenge. Nonetheless, evoking these small "emotions" right at the start make the interaction with you into something pleasurable, interesting and intriguing - which makes them naturally want to stay and enjoy more of it, which is what you want!

What to do after this will be covered in the next part.

So that was it for part 1 guys, feel free to post your feedback, questions, etc.

-- leedrag0n