"Boyfriend" II

Hey guys, its me again !

(You didn't expect someone else to write here, did you? :))

I hope you are enjoying reading this blog and find it useful.

Throughout this entire blog i've been sharing pretty powerful and insightful thoughts and realization about succeeding with women, and hopefully you have adopted them in real life and have began to notice how true they are.

You probably realized that I keep coming back and writing new stuff all the time, and I thank you guys for following up with me.

Today I want to talk, yet again, about the "I have a boyfriend" response women give.

Yeah, this annoying response they throw that gives a feeling for the interaction as if "its over".

Its a fact that many many women use the phrase "I have a boyfriend" when dealing with us.

You've probably heard this one, and probably more than once when attempting to start a conversation with a woman.

Many guys feel "shut down" when hearing this line - as if the woman rejected them right off the bat and gave them no chance to even present themselves to her.

Have you ever found yourself wondering .. why is she saying it ?

Why will she want to shut down this opportunity before she even knows what she's going to miss here?

As I already explained before, a girl saying to you that she "Has a boyfriend" is to be treated exactly the same as a guy telling you "I have a Fiat Uno 1994" when you come to sell him a Ferarri car.

When a woman says "I have a boyfriend", this basically means she's either bringing up a logistical problem, or she's bringing up resistance to your attempt to talk or even present something to her.

Doesn't matter whether its true or not - resistance is resistance, period.

You probably also make excuses such as "I dont have a wallet on me" to a gipsy's asking you for money on the street, or perhaps you even blatanlty ignore them when they are approaching your car in a high traffic junction, right ?

We are driven by feelings and emotions. Very powerfully, and in an almost hypnotic way which is totally outside of our conscious awareness.

Here's the thing - People will not resist something they enjoy !

So, if they are resisting something, it most probably could be because they aren't enjoying it at this moment.

When a gispy approaches you and you're inside your car, you could be wandering with your thoughts or simply wanting to enjoy the silence and clarity of thoughts, maybe you want to listen to the radio and maybe you just want to look at something else. A gipsy approaching you will surely "interfere" this state, so you will feel an irrestible urge to resist his approach.

Think about a little kid, for instance. (many people make the common assumptions that if someone looks mature he's also emotionally mature, its really not the case in reality. many people ARE emotionally driven just as much as if they were still little kids!)

Have you ever tried to present an idea, or ask a kid to do something, while he's playing with his toys or he has just woken up, or when he's simply in a bad mood ?

If you did, you'd most probably find that it is a pretty difficult, almost impossible task - and thats exactly the analogy here = you must realize that every "mature" or outside appearing adult person still has that "little kid" inside of his consciousness that drives his actions and decisions based on how he feels - and almost always they are not even aware of thats what they're doing !!!!

So, what does it mean for you ?

Your goal is to get the girl interested in you on the sexual level, and in order to do it you must get her attention to you so you could at least try and get her interested in you.

A chick telling you "I have a boyfriend"... pfffff, instead of interpreting it as "Its over man", you can easily interpret it as one of the following :

1. "Im currently not in the right state for you to present me what you want".

2. "I dont think you have what I want" (how can she know it before she even knows you?)

3. "Im simply not interested" (again, how can she know this if she didn't even listen to what you're offering her?)

4. "I have a logistical problem = Im seeing someone" (This should never bother you, as it can almost always be changed and rationalized by her if she gets interested in you. Of course she has to be "seen" with someone for social status, doesn't mean he's pleasing her and doesn't even mean she realy likes him. She can use it as an excuse for her to not get along with you, i.e : "Because I respect him, etc". Any kind of Boyfriend destroyer will work here)

Those are pretty much better ways to interpret it, right ?

Now .. you've seen me talk alot about states, didn't you ?

Well - You can be sure i'll repeat coming back to it because its crucial!

Like I said in my "Pickup stages" post, you must first get her out of her current state (remember the kid example) into a state that will assist you in grabbing her attention towards you so you could at least try to get her interested in you. I insist on that, and for very obvious reasons that i may explain in a later post, but for now after reading this post you're probably beginning to understand why its so important.

Don't wait for mircales to happend or wait for her to be in the "right state" to talk to you - learn how to create that "state" instantly in her.

Your ability to create a state or emotion is your biggest leverage point here.

Always remember - people are driven emotionally , not logically.

-- leedrag0n

Certainty in PU

And no ..

I don't mean certainty from your perspective about whether or not you're gonna lay this chick, but in fact - I talk about certainty from the woman's point of view about YOU and your sexual abilities !

Sounds confusing ?

I'll try to explain.

From what I found, it seems to me that alot of women don't like to take risks.

This is probably why they do not approach guys, this may be the reason why they look for promises for relationships before they enter them, and this could also be the reason why ... THEY'LL FLAKE ON YOU WHEN THEY HAVE DOUBT ABOUT YOUR SEXUAL ABILITIES AS A LOVER !!

Alot of women just don't know what to do in the area of the "unknown", they'd rather go for whats certain and assured, probably even way more than us guys.

Makes sense, right ?

GREAT, now what am I supposed to do with this knowledge ?

Simple logic here - a chick will fuck you when she's certain enough that you mean business and not just waste her time, and vice versa she will not fuck you if she has doubts about your sexual abilities.

This is why, when you always reach the fourth stage of your pickup (Seduction stage), initiate a sexual move, whether a kiss on her neck, or a kiss on one of her hands. Suggest a massage - anything sexual that WILL get her realizing that you stand behind yourself and you mean business and she can be certain about your sexuality and about having sex with you.

Again, when she's certain that you are a lover and great sex she goes for it, and when she's not - she doesn't.

-- leedrag0n

Emotions Explained #2

Hey guys !

This post is just a refresher for the good old "Humans are mostly driven by emotions, not logic!" core post that i wrote here a year ago, which I still think is the most important of them all.

Today I want to show you again why this is true, to better help you internalize this crucial and important understanding, and to also show it from a different angle using different examples, both from MY OWN life and from my friend's lives.

So lets start with BASIC first facts :

We all know that emotions are real and they exist.

We can feel them in our physiology and in the body.

I think the most obvious way to show you just how powerful they are is simply by looking at your actions. Just look at what you did this week : You are reading this blog, hence you obviously want to get laid more and meet more chicks. How many times did you go out this week to meet women ? How many women did you approach this week ? If you haven't done any, can you answer the question : Why is it, when you want something, you still dont do anything towards getting it ?

If you'll dig into that question, you'll obviously find no logical answer, because there is no logical answer here. You're obviously not thinking in a logical way here. Because the logic says : More women you approach, more women you meet, more women you lay. Simple logic.

If you still find yourself, despite that logic, not doing anything to approach more women, then obvisouly it isnt logic that drives you here, but its some kind of an emotion, fear, despair, etc, whatever.

I will bring another example now from my own.

Sometimes I masturbate, yep I admit it. I dont know if any of you ever do it, but I usually dont realy feel that great afterwards, I'd rather fuck a woman instead of masturbating. But, when the feeling of arousal grows and you reach that point where your dick is erect and you're almost about to explode, your logical thinking disappears. Even when you know that you wont feel great about it afterwards, the feeling becomes so strong that it makes it hard for you to even be able to relax your mind and calm it down around it ! The only way to calm it, is by releasing it. So then, your mind finds logical reasons why its "ok" to dump it. These "logical excuses" that the mind brings up why its "ok" to go along with what you feel, is just one example here of how the way you feel completely changes the way you act, think and believe about something, to the point where it overrides your logical thinking to support the emotion you feel and make sense of it !! (aka "rationalizing")

Another example of it - How many of you ever had these mornings where you just didnt want to wake up? Your clock rang at 8am, and you promised to yourself last night that you will wake up, and then when the clock starts to ring, and you're all tired and exhausted, your mind will immediately start in bringing up logical "excuses" as to why its "ok to continue sleeping.." , and then you just fall asleep again, wake up at 11am or even worse 12pm, and then you just feel shit that half your day just went away ?

Now I bring even another example, this time from a friend of mine :

One of my good friends just recently ended a 10 months relationship with a chick. This chick was a bastard kind of person and she was with him only because of his appartment, and even though my friend had told me that he wanted to break up from her 5 months ago, he didnt.

Why, you may ask? Well, simply because "He loved her", thats what he said at least, but truth was simply the sex with her was great for him! He was so addicted to the sex with her that he just didnt, and couldn't want to leave her. I mean, what guy will just "let go" of something like that? Even though he knew, on a logical level, that she sucks as a person, and even though she pissed him off more than once, the good feelings he got from the sex with her, which he was so addicted to, completely blinded his consciousness from the rather logical truth that I, and his family could see ! His mind kept bringing "excuses" as to why keep going with her! He still stayed with her due to the great sex they had. And now, 1 month after they broke up, even though I asked him to stop talking about her, he simply can't. He keeps bringing up her name again, and again, and again, and he just cant seem to forget her.

Im sure that last one is something you can all relate with - being so dependant on a chick's sex, that it makes you so blind to the fact she treats you like shit and actually hurts you time and time again, the common syndrome "oneitis" that is coined in the PU community is exactly this.

I could also bring here the example of people who smoke cigarettes, and the "rationalizations" they give you as to why they can't stop smoking .. or why they "don't want to stop" .. but im sure you get where im driving with this ..

So now Im asking you this again - If we, guys, can be so strongly driven by our emotions, so much that it overrides our logical thinking, it overrides our actions, it overrides our decisions and it overrides our beliefs .. to say that women don't act the same when they have strong emotional response ??

This would be totally absord.

Chicks are way more emotional than us, so if we can be this strongly driven by emotions and feelings, consider women to be just the same.

-- leedrag0n