If you are not approaching, or not escalating , or not progressing any of your PUs to a sexual encounter, then this post is for you !
There are basically 2 main reasons for this :
1. you dont want to
2. you do not believe the chick will want it
Lets look on those for a sec ..
Number 1 is kinda trivial here : when you dont really want something, you will not do it. Makes sense ?
Do you remember the last girl you talked to as part of a PU attempt ?
Can you remember a moment during the interaction, when you started thinking about having sex with her and how lusty and exciting that can be, perhaps to the point you started to think how to make it happend right there and that night ?
If you answered "yes" to this question, Then you obviously DID want to have sex with this chick, so point number 1 is fixed here.
Lets take a look at number 2 now ..
When you believe a chick will not want sex from you, you will not offer it to her !
and this is a tricky concept to understand, but an important one.
You see, most of the time we do things on autopilot.
If we wouldn't, and had to consicously think about EVERY single action we do, we'd go NUTS !
All the actions we take, behaviours we project, strategies and decisions are made automatically according to what we believe is right, possible, or profitable for us.
Here's an example :
Say you're in a bus, and some guy sits near you.
Will you try to sell him the air he's breathing for 20$ a kilo ?
Of course not !
Why not ?
Because you KNOW he wont buy it, and probably he'll also think you're nuts or lunatic for even trying to offer him something like that.
But lets say, for the sake of sanity, that you talked to him for several minutes during the bus ride .. and you found out he's a guitarist .. so you decide to offer him to form a band together.
Will you try that ?
Of course !
Why ?
Because you KNOW that this is a reasonable offer he may be interested in and may take in. You've got nothing to lose, yeah he may say that he's not interested because he already plays in a band .. but you know that it is OK to at least go for it and offer that for him.
So you see, what you believe in affects your actions and decisions drastically, and when you believe that a chick will not want sex from you, you definitely won't offer that for her.
Tadaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa !
And this is a big one here, so lets look at that for a moment too.
OK well first you should know that women LOVE to do things that make them feel great.
Massages, Spa's, Showers, Dress good, Shopping .. etc .. and sex is DEFINITELY something that feels wonderful for them, probably way more than it is for us infact.
To further increase this understanding, lets assume they don't want good sex.
If it was true, they won't invest so much in their looks !
they wont THINK ABOUT IT and FANTASIZE ABOUT IT all the time !
They wont write sex articles in newspapers on how to get "better sex from your partner", they wont invent "the big sex questionaire", they wont ask for advices on sexuality forums on how to have better orgasms, they wont go out with their girlfriends in packs every weekend and send AIs for good looking guys to approach them, they wont TALK about it between themselves ... further even : they won't talk about men all the time !
I mean seriously - why do WOMEN talk so much about MEN if they dont interest them ?
Also, On the biological level - sex (or: replication) is one of the TOP TWO life goals (the other one is to survive).
So a woman claiming that she "dont want to get laid", is as same as a woman saying she don't wanna live.
So as you see, women DO want to get laid just as much as we are.
Now you gotta ask yourself another question here.
Lets assume you want to get laid, and you know women want to get laid too.
But you believe that she will not want to have sex with YOU.
When you believe that she will not want the sex from YOU, guess what will happend ?
Exactly - YOU WILL NOT OFFER IT TO HER !!!
Same reasoning here.
It is a simple basic, even CORE level belief in your product !
You realized here already that women DO want to get laid just as much as we do, but if you still do not believe that she will want to have the sex with YOU, go back and read the previous post "The illusion of beauty" if you have issues with good-looking women, and go back and do the "Confidence" post again.
For your convenience, i brought the link to the last one here :
http://leedrag0n.blogspot.com/2008/04/confidence-101.html
-- leedrag0n
Friday, August 8, 2008
Thursday, August 7, 2008
The illusion of beauty
Beautiful women ... our lustful desire ...
What are they ?
Are they really “bitches” as most people assume ?
Are they really “out of our reach” ?
Are they “catched by someone” already ?
No, no & no !!
On a core level - A beautiful woman, is a WOMAN, first of all.
Next, you gotta realize that a woman is a HUMAN BEING, just like you and like everyone else.
All of us human beings have 3 basic needs in our life : Desire to be loved, Desire for sex and of course Desire to be meaningful.
This escapes the realities of most guys.
Calling a hot chick a “bitch” , or claiming that she is “out of your reach” or assuming that she “has someone already” are all just conclusions & excuses that derive from the WRONG belief that “chicks that i want dont want me back”, thats it.
Is it REALLY true, that ALL chicks that you want, dont want you back too ??
Let's look at that for just a second.
Let's assume that a hot chick you want “has someone already”.
Ok, remember like i mentioned a hot chick is really just another human being thats all.
Think about yourself as a proof for a second – say you met some chick and you are going out with her and all, but you don't really enjoy your time with her. She was the only thing available for you back at the time you met and you got into relationship with her out of choice.
You don't like her, and maybe you don't even enjoying being together or even having sex with her. If a better option was be available to you, you most likely won't think twice about leaving your “current” one, because you wanted to do it all along.
And this is not because you are “hot” , or a “player” or a pimp whatever – it is because you are a HUMAN and you WANT to be happy. Yep, the biggest psychological goal that is.
Knowing that MOST guys don't really know how to make a woman feel wonderful sex wise as you do, or make her feel happy as you do, can you begin to see now just how much of a BETTER OPTION you are for most hot women ?
Great !
Now lets go to the second one – lets assume that a hot chick is “out of your reach”.
Im willing to bet you here you have seen, many times, a hot chick going out with some ugly loser or even worse hot chicks hanging out with guys who behave like little kids who didn't grow up yet. You can't even tell if they actually enjoy having sex with these guys.
Think about that for a second ..
If hot chicks go with guys like that, how can that mean they are “out of your reach” ?
Are you sure it is not YOU who push yourself out of THEIR reach ?
And by doing so you actually take away a quality option away from them, so they are left only with kids and losers who are the only thing available to them ?
Chicks can't really pickup the guys they want.
They can only choose between what comes at them.
Don't leave them for the losers !
Good ... now lets go over to the final one – lets assume hot chicks are “bitches”.
Ok i've got some news for you here !!
Im sure if you have approached girls before .. you HAVE had harsh rejections even from girls who weren't THAT hot, maybe they were average and even UGLY, maybe older, etc.
And yet – those chicks who weren't hot .. you DIDNT call them “bitches” , did you ?
And you did call the hot ones !
Why ?
Are you a fucking KID who gets insulted for not getting attention from his mommy ?
GROW UP, man !
Lets say some chick approached you ... all of a sudden ... middle of the day ... inside a clothing store ... everyone see it ... she directly comes at you smiling and flirty ... but you are not in a great mood .. you may ditch her off ... does that mean YOU are a “bitch” ?
Of course not !
It is simply a temporary reaction to a state of chaos, uncertainty, maybe shame or fear, or tireness, whatever.
Remember, hot chicks just like you are human beings – they HAVE a right to live !
They have emotions and their moods too.
Sure they don't stop to think WHY they are doing or FEELING the way they do, they simply ACT on what they feel. Many times people go back home end of the day, remember what they did during the day, and more than once even feel SORRY for doing some of the things they did or not did and most of them can't really figure out WHY they did it. Thats exactly what i've been talking on throughout this whole blog !
Excellent !
Hopefully you will now begin to see hot chicks as other human beings who are equal to you.
Realize here that hot chicks, not only that they are normal human beings like everyone else but they are also FEMALES like all other chicks. That means that just like any other female, she IS attracted to guys, and she MAY even be attracted to YOU.
Yep.
She wants to have sex with a guy just like any other chick, and she probably IS eager to meet a real quality & sexual guy like YOU, or else she won't invest so much in efforts in her LOOKS !
You gotta realize the HOTTER the chick is, or MORE she invests in her looks, more likely she is eager to meet real guy, because chicks KNOW the only way guys will approach them is the better they look.
And as a final note for this post, im going to give you this following exercise to breakdown any chance of you having the wrong belief that “chicks that i want, dont want me back” :
Start remembering and bringing up on paper ANY chick you ever met, that YOU desired, and she reciprocated back with you too. I can bet you a dime, you HAVE had in the past many hot chicks that you wanted who wanted you back too, and you were simply too blind to realize it.
Because afterall, doesn't matter if she's hot or not – She is a FEMALE human being , and she has her needs and desires too.
Think about that for a while.
-- leedrag0n
What are they ?
Are they really “bitches” as most people assume ?
Are they really “out of our reach” ?
Are they “catched by someone” already ?
No, no & no !!
On a core level - A beautiful woman, is a WOMAN, first of all.
Next, you gotta realize that a woman is a HUMAN BEING, just like you and like everyone else.
All of us human beings have 3 basic needs in our life : Desire to be loved, Desire for sex and of course Desire to be meaningful.
This escapes the realities of most guys.
Calling a hot chick a “bitch” , or claiming that she is “out of your reach” or assuming that she “has someone already” are all just conclusions & excuses that derive from the WRONG belief that “chicks that i want dont want me back”, thats it.
Is it REALLY true, that ALL chicks that you want, dont want you back too ??
Let's look at that for just a second.
Let's assume that a hot chick you want “has someone already”.
Ok, remember like i mentioned a hot chick is really just another human being thats all.
Think about yourself as a proof for a second – say you met some chick and you are going out with her and all, but you don't really enjoy your time with her. She was the only thing available for you back at the time you met and you got into relationship with her out of choice.
You don't like her, and maybe you don't even enjoying being together or even having sex with her. If a better option was be available to you, you most likely won't think twice about leaving your “current” one, because you wanted to do it all along.
And this is not because you are “hot” , or a “player” or a pimp whatever – it is because you are a HUMAN and you WANT to be happy. Yep, the biggest psychological goal that is.
Knowing that MOST guys don't really know how to make a woman feel wonderful sex wise as you do, or make her feel happy as you do, can you begin to see now just how much of a BETTER OPTION you are for most hot women ?
Great !
Now lets go to the second one – lets assume that a hot chick is “out of your reach”.
Im willing to bet you here you have seen, many times, a hot chick going out with some ugly loser or even worse hot chicks hanging out with guys who behave like little kids who didn't grow up yet. You can't even tell if they actually enjoy having sex with these guys.
Think about that for a second ..
If hot chicks go with guys like that, how can that mean they are “out of your reach” ?
Are you sure it is not YOU who push yourself out of THEIR reach ?
And by doing so you actually take away a quality option away from them, so they are left only with kids and losers who are the only thing available to them ?
Chicks can't really pickup the guys they want.
They can only choose between what comes at them.
Don't leave them for the losers !
Good ... now lets go over to the final one – lets assume hot chicks are “bitches”.
Ok i've got some news for you here !!
Im sure if you have approached girls before .. you HAVE had harsh rejections even from girls who weren't THAT hot, maybe they were average and even UGLY, maybe older, etc.
And yet – those chicks who weren't hot .. you DIDNT call them “bitches” , did you ?
And you did call the hot ones !
Why ?
Are you a fucking KID who gets insulted for not getting attention from his mommy ?
GROW UP, man !
Lets say some chick approached you ... all of a sudden ... middle of the day ... inside a clothing store ... everyone see it ... she directly comes at you smiling and flirty ... but you are not in a great mood .. you may ditch her off ... does that mean YOU are a “bitch” ?
Of course not !
It is simply a temporary reaction to a state of chaos, uncertainty, maybe shame or fear, or tireness, whatever.
Remember, hot chicks just like you are human beings – they HAVE a right to live !
They have emotions and their moods too.
Sure they don't stop to think WHY they are doing or FEELING the way they do, they simply ACT on what they feel. Many times people go back home end of the day, remember what they did during the day, and more than once even feel SORRY for doing some of the things they did or not did and most of them can't really figure out WHY they did it. Thats exactly what i've been talking on throughout this whole blog !
Excellent !
Hopefully you will now begin to see hot chicks as other human beings who are equal to you.
Realize here that hot chicks, not only that they are normal human beings like everyone else but they are also FEMALES like all other chicks. That means that just like any other female, she IS attracted to guys, and she MAY even be attracted to YOU.
Yep.
She wants to have sex with a guy just like any other chick, and she probably IS eager to meet a real quality & sexual guy like YOU, or else she won't invest so much in efforts in her LOOKS !
You gotta realize the HOTTER the chick is, or MORE she invests in her looks, more likely she is eager to meet real guy, because chicks KNOW the only way guys will approach them is the better they look.
And as a final note for this post, im going to give you this following exercise to breakdown any chance of you having the wrong belief that “chicks that i want, dont want me back” :
Start remembering and bringing up on paper ANY chick you ever met, that YOU desired, and she reciprocated back with you too. I can bet you a dime, you HAVE had in the past many hot chicks that you wanted who wanted you back too, and you were simply too blind to realize it.
Because afterall, doesn't matter if she's hot or not – She is a FEMALE human being , and she has her needs and desires too.
Think about that for a while.
-- leedrag0n
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