Hey guys!
It's me again, writing to you on a sunny saturday afternoon here in Israel. The weather is great, and I'm at the moment writing to you from the beach with my laptop as I got an inspiration to share with you this powerful concept that will change your attitude towards gaming forever.
This week I saw a great speech by the Israeli prime minister Benyamin Netanyahu in the american congress.. and while he was comparing the conflict between Israel and Palestine to those in Berlin and Prague in the late 90s, suddenly a protester .. who probably got disturbed by his words.. interrupted his speech and started screaming at him for talking nonsense.
Netanyahu's reply to this was nothing but pure genius: he took her objection, and TURNED IT AROUND TO HIS FAVOUR, by framing it to the audience in a new way that made him look great: He said "I'm honoured by these protesters, because you can't see them in governments like in Teheran or Tripoli. THIS IS REAL DEMOCRACY!", and as soon as he finished this sentence ... the entire audience stood up to gave him one of the strongest and raving applaudes the entire evening!
Now .. I realy want you to think about the implication of this!
I'm willing to bet that you are many times just WITHDRAWING your approaches because you simply haven't learned how to RESPOND to people and put them in place properly!
In fact, you've probably been trained to think like a loser = that if some woman throws objections at you, or "rejects" you .. that means the sarge is over, done, and you should walk away from there with your tail between your legs..
BULLSHIT!
Realize this: ANY response a woman gives you can be LEVERAGED and USED to YOUR FAVOUR!
This is one of the BIGGEST SKILLS in communication in general, and PU by itself.
In fact, there's always a chance that a hot woman WILL THROW SHIT LIKE THIS IN YOUR FACE at some point in the sarge, whether at the start or in the middle. An amateur or inexperienced PUA or AFC will perceive it as a "rejection" and will walk away.
However, A true master communicator will capitalize her response, not be phased by it, and then he will use it to HIS leverage to turn the whole thing around.
Let me give you an EXAMPLE to illustrate this:
Yesterday I was at Rothschild street in Tel Aviv .. and I noticed a nice 5-set so I started walking up to their direction ... Now apparently they have been hit before me by some amateur PUA .. but I didn't know it ... so anyways I come up to them and I start with a simple preopener: "Hey girls .. do you know of any good places around here?" ... Now, I didn't even get a chance to finish my sentence where suddenly one of the girls go: "WHAT? YOU ALSO WANT TO KNOW WHO LIES MORE? MEN OR WOMEN?" .. (LOL I can't believe people still use this opener!) .. I tried to turn this around to my favour by answering them: "Oh no ... they asked this you also ??" , and then one of the girls go : "YES. Now FUCK OFF!" in an angry voice ..
Now .. I'm willing to bet that most of you who are reading this are already perceiving this as a rejection LOL .. do you know why? its because you FEEL REJECTED .. and remember what I told you? That emotions blind logic? If you feel rejected that's YOUR PROBLEM. Work on it! See how I responded and you'll realize exactly what I'm saying..
Anyways I wasn't phased by it, so I can think about it logically. Now think about it on a logical level: It's 5 girls. Not one. So yeah, ONE girl shouts at you. But it doesn't mean that all of them agree with her! For all you know .. one of those girls may actually LIKE YOU!
So having this in mind, I replied to her like this:
Me: Oh no, they asked this you also?
Her: YES. Now FUCK OFF!
Me: Hey .. relax.. It's ok .. you're not the ONLY GIRL that haven't had sex for a while! In fact .. there are girls who didn't get it for longer than you! It's ok .. we hear you!
And as soon as I finish saying this, ALL OF HER GIRLS JUST BURST OUT LAUGHING LOUD, and she didn't know where to hide herself out of shame!!
Now what I did here was several things:
1. I didn't get emotionally affected by her response.
2. I used her response against her, to frame the whole situation in a different, more funny way. Framing her response as a result of sexual frustration.
3. It got all the girls laughing. And women are driven by emotions, not logic. If you get them to FEEL something, they flow with it!
4. Her friends LIKED ME for doing it. So now I'm 100% IN the set, because of the power of social proof.
5. The girl got submissive and quiet after this, probably because she was scared to get hit and humiliated by me once again like this in front of her friends LOL!
So you see guys .. this example just proves once again that THERE ARE NO LIMITATIONS to what you can possible achieve in this game. All the wrong perceptions and translations of reality are all in your head.
NOW will be the best time to just LET THEM GO!
Realy think about it for a while.
-- leedrag0n
Saturday, May 28, 2011
Thursday, May 26, 2011
Your State Issues Clarified!
Hey guys!
It has been a month since I wrote here, but I'm here again :-)
First I want to update you guys that I will be recording some more video tutorial modules soon, so if you liked the last ones I did (and I have got very good reviews on my rapport & chemistry video, Thanks guys!) then you can expect those coming soon.
But today I'm here with yet another very interesting state related post.
Actually, what I'm about to share with you today is going to blow your mind away. Literally!
Because after you'll finish reading this post, you will be dazzled and blown away about just how much you have been brainwashed about "confidence" your whole life. In fact, you may (hopefully) forget anything you ever thought you know about "confidence"!
Because you see.. everything you ever learned about "lack of confidence" or "low self esteem" was WRONG. There are no such concepts. We have been told LIES!
And now.. I'm going to reveal those lies to you, in this post, so you will begin to see the matrix for yourself.. and realize just how deep the rabbit hole really goes....
Part 1: Once upon a time there was a boy ...
.. and ever since he was a little kid he had things and activies that he LIKED and ENJOYED doing and things that he DISLIKED or HATED doing. Over the years the kid became really good at doing the things that he LIKED to do ... and he also became really good at avoiding doing the things that he DIDN'T LIKE to do ... so whenever he was supposed to do that activity or something that he didn't like to do ... he would learn to make a list of excuses to avoid doing it ... but that list was a result of the way he FELT about doing that activity! So... over the years he became VERY GOOD at making those excuses ... but did he know what creates it?
OK.. back here with me folks, I guess you can all relate to that story, right? :-)
I can already hear some of you reading this saying : "Oh yeah here's that preach again about me making excuses... I HEARD THAT ALREADY ... So what's the point?" ...
I'll tell you: MOST of your state issues that are related to women are subject of procrastination, or: trying to avoid something that you simply don't want to do!
YEP, that's what is REALLY is!
There is NO SUCH THING as "Fear of approach".
There is NO SUCH THING as "Low Self Esteem".
There is NO SUCH THING as "Lack of confidence".
And hell there is NO SUCH THING as "Loss of hope".
All of those things are just our own, WRONG TRANSLATIONS, to a generally simple neurological state of mind: a state of mind where TWO OPPOSITE DESIRES CONFLICT =
1. Your logical desire - what you KNOW on a logical level that you want, for example: "I want to approach this woman", or "I want to go out to sarge" or "I want to rehearse my tonality" or hell even "I want to clean my room!" ...
-- CONFLICTING WITH: --
2. The emotional state that is associated with doing this activity - what your SUBCONSCIOUS mind is telling you that it thinks about doing this, which is often the opposite of your logical desire, for example: "I don't want to approach this woman", or "I don't want to go out to sarge" or "I don't want to rehease my tonality" or "I don't want to clean my room".
How does this translates to the states of mind that you THINK you're experiencing? Well .. lets go deeper down the rabbit hole so you'll find out ...
Part 2: The psychologist say that I have a "Low self esteem"...
BULLSHIT!
LISTEN: Procrastination is a genuine human emotion. You've learned to do it ever since you were a little kid. It's part of the survival mechanism every human being inherited - it's the emotional "alarm" system that pushes you towards things that feel good, and pushes you away from things that may have unpleasant feelings associated with them.
Even if you logically KNOW that you have to go out to meet women, if your mind thinks different you're in a problem. And then what happends .. is that you PUSH yourself to go out ... but the feeling of "not wanting to do it" is still there. And then you carry that feeling with you to the field!
What does this result in? What everyone calls "bad state". You can't figure it out, and people start labelling it under many different names .. "Fear of approaching women", "Low self esteem", "Lack of confidence".. etc..
It's all just BULLSHIT, BULLSHIT and BULLSHIT!
It's all just YET another one of those human attempts to try and make sense of an emotional state of mind (or rationalize) of conflict between your emotional drive ("I don't want to be here") to your logical desire ("I want and I need to do this!")
Now.. here's my OWN story of how I concluded this...
Part 3: Once upon a time there was ME..
.. and I have always been quite a procrastinator on things that I didn't like to do, whether it's cleaning my house.. or taking the car to fix it.. and sometimes even to go and buy food in the supermarket!
And for the last 6 months or so I have been puzzled by a riddle that I couldn't yet find an answer to regarding my self: Why is my state of mind so unstable around women when I'm out there alone by myself ... -vs- ... my state being VERY stable when I'm out there with someone??
At first I thought it was something about my "Low self esteem", so I took a paper, wrote a bunch of positive beliefs about myself.. reaffirmed them for a while... FELT GREAT.. and then I went out to the field with it... it worked quite ok for a while but after a while I was back to my instability...
OK, next shot: I learned a bunch of NLP techniques for state design. I gave it a try as well! It also worked quite well for a while.. but after a while the instability came back..
OK, next thing I learned was stuff taken from vipassana meditation (equanimity, grounding etc). Worked well for a while but required alot of work.. and .. in the end you know what happend...
So .. I was really puzzled by this for quite a while. But then one day I really wondered... "Why isn't this happening to me when I'm with my friends?????".
I began studying, and exploring, and trying to understand the differences between how I behave when I'm with my friends -vs- how I behave when I'm without them. And I realized this:
1. If I can easily approach women when I'm around with my friends, it means that I DO NOT have any "Fear of approach"!
2. If I feel very good about myself when I'm around with friends, it means that I have NO PROBLEMS with my "Self Esteem"!
3. If I feel quite confident in myself when I'm around with friends, it means that I have confidence in myself!
So if I have all of those when I'm out there with SOMEONE... Then how come they all disappear when they are not around me??
AHA!!!!!
And that led me to the inevitable conclusion: being with friends is just MORE COMFORTABLE!
Part 4: Realizing it's realy about procrastination, NOT about confidence!
I can clearly tell the difference about going out to sarge with my friends -vs- me sarging solo by one small difference: If a friend calls me out, I'm almost always saying "YES" and I feel that I want to do it!
But if I had to take myself out by myself, ALL sorts of excuses will come out!
So there you have it - it's simply PROCRASTINATION!
Not fears, not lack of confidence, nothing.
And ... once I managed to neutralize the procrastination feeling and be able to go out to the field without it sitting in my veins .. then what do you know ... I'm unstoppable with women again!!!
Grasp it, eat it, and sleep on it.
If this relates to you - GREAT, If not, feel free to ask me anything.
Until my next post..
P.S: If you'll want to know how I got over the procrastination, shoot me a comment here and I will explain. You can feel free to comment and leave your feedback on this post anyways. I love hearing your feedback!
-- leedrag0n
It has been a month since I wrote here, but I'm here again :-)
First I want to update you guys that I will be recording some more video tutorial modules soon, so if you liked the last ones I did (and I have got very good reviews on my rapport & chemistry video, Thanks guys!) then you can expect those coming soon.
But today I'm here with yet another very interesting state related post.
Actually, what I'm about to share with you today is going to blow your mind away. Literally!
Because after you'll finish reading this post, you will be dazzled and blown away about just how much you have been brainwashed about "confidence" your whole life. In fact, you may (hopefully) forget anything you ever thought you know about "confidence"!
Because you see.. everything you ever learned about "lack of confidence" or "low self esteem" was WRONG. There are no such concepts. We have been told LIES!
And now.. I'm going to reveal those lies to you, in this post, so you will begin to see the matrix for yourself.. and realize just how deep the rabbit hole really goes....
Part 1: Once upon a time there was a boy ...
.. and ever since he was a little kid he had things and activies that he LIKED and ENJOYED doing and things that he DISLIKED or HATED doing. Over the years the kid became really good at doing the things that he LIKED to do ... and he also became really good at avoiding doing the things that he DIDN'T LIKE to do ... so whenever he was supposed to do that activity or something that he didn't like to do ... he would learn to make a list of excuses to avoid doing it ... but that list was a result of the way he FELT about doing that activity! So... over the years he became VERY GOOD at making those excuses ... but did he know what creates it?
OK.. back here with me folks, I guess you can all relate to that story, right? :-)
I can already hear some of you reading this saying : "Oh yeah here's that preach again about me making excuses... I HEARD THAT ALREADY ... So what's the point?" ...
I'll tell you: MOST of your state issues that are related to women are subject of procrastination, or: trying to avoid something that you simply don't want to do!
YEP, that's what is REALLY is!
There is NO SUCH THING as "Fear of approach".
There is NO SUCH THING as "Low Self Esteem".
There is NO SUCH THING as "Lack of confidence".
And hell there is NO SUCH THING as "Loss of hope".
All of those things are just our own, WRONG TRANSLATIONS, to a generally simple neurological state of mind: a state of mind where TWO OPPOSITE DESIRES CONFLICT =
1. Your logical desire - what you KNOW on a logical level that you want, for example: "I want to approach this woman", or "I want to go out to sarge" or "I want to rehearse my tonality" or hell even "I want to clean my room!" ...
-- CONFLICTING WITH: --
2. The emotional state that is associated with doing this activity - what your SUBCONSCIOUS mind is telling you that it thinks about doing this, which is often the opposite of your logical desire, for example: "I don't want to approach this woman", or "I don't want to go out to sarge" or "I don't want to rehease my tonality" or "I don't want to clean my room".
How does this translates to the states of mind that you THINK you're experiencing? Well .. lets go deeper down the rabbit hole so you'll find out ...
Part 2: The psychologist say that I have a "Low self esteem"...
BULLSHIT!
LISTEN: Procrastination is a genuine human emotion. You've learned to do it ever since you were a little kid. It's part of the survival mechanism every human being inherited - it's the emotional "alarm" system that pushes you towards things that feel good, and pushes you away from things that may have unpleasant feelings associated with them.
Even if you logically KNOW that you have to go out to meet women, if your mind thinks different you're in a problem. And then what happends .. is that you PUSH yourself to go out ... but the feeling of "not wanting to do it" is still there. And then you carry that feeling with you to the field!
What does this result in? What everyone calls "bad state". You can't figure it out, and people start labelling it under many different names .. "Fear of approaching women", "Low self esteem", "Lack of confidence".. etc..
It's all just BULLSHIT, BULLSHIT and BULLSHIT!
It's all just YET another one of those human attempts to try and make sense of an emotional state of mind (or rationalize) of conflict between your emotional drive ("I don't want to be here") to your logical desire ("I want and I need to do this!")
Now.. here's my OWN story of how I concluded this...
Part 3: Once upon a time there was ME..
.. and I have always been quite a procrastinator on things that I didn't like to do, whether it's cleaning my house.. or taking the car to fix it.. and sometimes even to go and buy food in the supermarket!
And for the last 6 months or so I have been puzzled by a riddle that I couldn't yet find an answer to regarding my self: Why is my state of mind so unstable around women when I'm out there alone by myself ... -vs- ... my state being VERY stable when I'm out there with someone??
At first I thought it was something about my "Low self esteem", so I took a paper, wrote a bunch of positive beliefs about myself.. reaffirmed them for a while... FELT GREAT.. and then I went out to the field with it... it worked quite ok for a while but after a while I was back to my instability...
OK, next shot: I learned a bunch of NLP techniques for state design. I gave it a try as well! It also worked quite well for a while.. but after a while the instability came back..
OK, next thing I learned was stuff taken from vipassana meditation (equanimity, grounding etc). Worked well for a while but required alot of work.. and .. in the end you know what happend...
So .. I was really puzzled by this for quite a while. But then one day I really wondered... "Why isn't this happening to me when I'm with my friends?????".
I began studying, and exploring, and trying to understand the differences between how I behave when I'm with my friends -vs- how I behave when I'm without them. And I realized this:
1. If I can easily approach women when I'm around with my friends, it means that I DO NOT have any "Fear of approach"!
2. If I feel very good about myself when I'm around with friends, it means that I have NO PROBLEMS with my "Self Esteem"!
3. If I feel quite confident in myself when I'm around with friends, it means that I have confidence in myself!
So if I have all of those when I'm out there with SOMEONE... Then how come they all disappear when they are not around me??
AHA!!!!!
And that led me to the inevitable conclusion: being with friends is just MORE COMFORTABLE!
Part 4: Realizing it's realy about procrastination, NOT about confidence!
I can clearly tell the difference about going out to sarge with my friends -vs- me sarging solo by one small difference: If a friend calls me out, I'm almost always saying "YES" and I feel that I want to do it!
But if I had to take myself out by myself, ALL sorts of excuses will come out!
So there you have it - it's simply PROCRASTINATION!
Not fears, not lack of confidence, nothing.
And ... once I managed to neutralize the procrastination feeling and be able to go out to the field without it sitting in my veins .. then what do you know ... I'm unstoppable with women again!!!
Grasp it, eat it, and sleep on it.
If this relates to you - GREAT, If not, feel free to ask me anything.
Until my next post..
P.S: If you'll want to know how I got over the procrastination, shoot me a comment here and I will explain. You can feel free to comment and leave your feedback on this post anyways. I love hearing your feedback!
-- leedrag0n
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