Switching Vibes with women..

Hey all!

Today I'm going to be sharing with you yet another powerful skill that has been field tested and efficiently approved for connecting with women. It is something that has taken my game, personally, to the next level as far as being able to connect with realy hot chicks, and that is the skill of switching the vibe you present to women.

This is something that I have learned from Ross Jeffries, so I give full credit to him.

I have also seen some of the best guys in the game use this, and I think that it is realy essential with women!

So.. what is it?

A little bit about Vibes with women:

Basically, a "vibe" is one style or flavor of communication you present when you interact with a woman. Every person has his own unique natural style of communicating: Some people are "funny" in their nature and make jokes and everyone laugh around them all the time.. other people are "powerful/dominant" type of people who are good at setting a direction .. some other people are "vulnerable" or "sharing" their thoughts in their nature.. and some people just like to ask questions and show real curiousity and interest and just listen to what people have to say!

So basically there are 4 "main" vibes:

1. Funny & Playful

2. Dominant/Commanding

3. Sincere/Vulnerable

4. Listener/Showing Deep curiousity

And if you wanna be super precise you can add in a couple of additional vibes:

5. Sexual

6. Cocky&Funny

That may play a role with women.

So, every person has his own "natural" style of communicating, or "vibe".

Now.. I talked before about being flexible in your game. Your ability to switch and play back and forth with your vibes plays major role in this.

Because you see, you may be a "Funny" guy in your nature, but the woman you're trying to talk to is a person who has a lot of things she's just looking to share with someone and she desperately looks for someone who can just listen to her! Or, you may be the "vulnerable" and sharing your thoughts kind of guy, but the girl realy doesn't know what she wants and desperately needs someone who is dominant and aggressive and can lead her to do things (I talked about it in the last post!!). Or.. you could be the dominant and aggressive kind of guy but she realy desperately needs some entertainment and fun in her life and she's looking for someone who is funny and exciting to entertain her.. You get my drift..

Switching Vibes:

Basically you want to essentialy first practice the vibes at home. If for example you've never been dominant and commanding with people, start practicing talking like this at home first. You have all the time in the world to perfect and master each of the 4 main "vibes" to be available to you at will in the real world so you can start switching back and forth between them..

Switching vibes in real world interactions with women is very powerful for several reasons:

1. When you use it in your interactions with women, and pay close attention to how the girls are responding, you will rapidly be able to "pinpoint" on exactly the vibe that she responds most strongly to and that opens her up to the most. Sometimes there's more than one vibe, so the more - the better!

2. It gives you tremendous flexibility with women! You will be amazed when you discover that you can suddenly connect with women that up until now you couldn't. I actually had some very powerful responses with a few realy hot women immediately when I switched to "dominant/commanding" vibe, that the 3 other vibes just didn't get such a strong response and openess from. With some women, who in the past I only was vulnerable and sincere, I can now strike up a conversation by being funny and playful and they love it! Seriously, using this skill alone will triple if not quadraple your success rates at connecting with women MORE THAN ANYTHING I EVER LEARNED!

3. And this is what Ross Jeffries said, and its amazingly true: When you switch vibes all the time, the woman will be very intrigued by you because she can't pinpoint down on exactly who you are, and that is very attractive. Because most guys don't have this type of flexibility in their game. They are either funny, boring.. sincere... aggressive.. etc. Not a mix of all of them. You see? :)

So, this is a realy powerful communicational skill if applied properly. I actually think its at least as powerful if not even more than rapport. I didn't have this flexibility in my game in the past, and recently since I've developed it, and I got the strong responses from the real world interactions that justified and strenghtened using this (and nailed them as "ok, this is useful. Use it more!") I was simply amazed. Some women, just wanted me to listen to their story. So I just asked them questions and showed deep curiousity about them. (and btw - you can STILL emotionally lead her this way!). Other women, only started to respond strongly once I showed dominance and commanding. Other women realy enjoyed my playfulness (while others didn't respond to it at all!) .. and other women only started to open up to me when I began revealing and sharing my thoughts with them! (Vulnerable).

And now, after I've mastered this skill, my game has improved by ten folds from what it was!

So use this, its realy useful and needed too.

And stop being bound to just "one method" that says this or that. Always remember: What works is what gets the results you want.

-- leedrag0n

Taking over the frame & Leading

Hi guys,

Throughout this blog we talked alot about all sorts of useful stuff with women: from designing your own state, all the way to how to evoke emotional states in women that will drive them to do things, all the way to using your words to create and suggest a reality, and more..

All of these subjects are needed with women. Yes, you have to approach them. Yes, they want you to approach them and they even want sex and love just as much as you do. Yes, using emotional states takes over their actions. Yes, using embedded commands & suggestions alters their reality and installs ideas in their minds.

But today I'm going to share another very important tool that you must use with women. And that is: to take over their frame AND LEAD THEM!

Now I know this sounds like imposing yourself on them, or making them do something against their will.

But there's a reason why you have to do this.. and in this post, rather than telling you "Be dominant, and lead" I want to take a while to actually explain to you WHY you must do it with women..

#1 - Taking over their frame

Look, women WANT us just as much as we do.

And yes - THEY want sex too! They actually NEED it just as much as we do.

But other than that, they have no idea how to actually make it happend. Are you familiar with the term: "Women don't know what they want"? Well it's realy true. Women will always say one thing, and do another.

What dictates their actions more than anything else?

Well.. women are submissive by their nature. They have no will of their own (other than attracting guys!). Women WILL be receptive to your game, they will be receptive when you evoke emotional states in them, they WILL be horny if you excite them, and they WILL bend their will and giggle if you try to powerfully take over their frame. THEY LOVE IT WHEN YOU DO!

Yes - Women LOVE to be submissive! It's actually their nature to be so. They don't have the capability of making decisions or taking the lead, and they HAVE to be LED!

That means that they will not initiate the approach, they will not initiate the game, they will not initiate an isolation and they will not initiate ANYTHING. It's just NOT in their nature. They don't know how to do it! Just like you remember the tango dance.. it is the man who comes, takes the woman's hand, and leads her to the dance floor... NOT VICEVERSA!

A woman can be completely into you, she can be turned on, she can be horny and all - and still she will NOT know what to do. In fact, when you take over her frame and decide things for her she will admire you and get even MORE turned on to you! THEY LOVE IT!

Woman LOVE IT when you take over their frame. Especially the hot ones, who lack the ability to make decisions for themselves - they LOVE IT when you take over and decide for them!

If you don't believe me, look at all the "rape fantasies" stories women tell when they fantasize about a guy taking over their frame and will and does what he wants with them and they obey. They CRAVE this dominance over their frame at deep levels!

THIS IS THE REALITY OF HOW THINGS REALY WORK WITH WOMEN!

It's far from the bullshit fantasy and deception they've been trying to sell us all our lives.. that we should show "empathy" and respect women's will. WOMEN HAVE NO WILLS OF THEIR OWN!

And in fact, taking over a woman's frame is a very EASY thing to do, if you choose to do it.. because we, as men, are more powerful and we can stick to a decision and a will. Women are not like this in their nature and they will always crack and give up to the person with the stronger will and intent.

This is all realy just basic core psychology about men & women here. I only bring it here so you understand it deeply. This understanding is realy needed.

#2 - LEADING them

Ok, let's talk logistics a little bit here.

Right off - taking phone numbers & facebooks just SUCK!

They sucks simply because it's just not smart logistically wise, not because you can't pull out sex from it.

Most people, in today's society, live in a realy high speed and pressured lifestyle - They wake up, they go to work, they go to school, they have commitments.. and they come back at the end of the day TIRED and EXHAUSTED. Even if they wanted to have sex, they can't pull it off.

It's not that they don't want it. They just don't have enough willpower left to make it happend or they have no idea how to make it happend! Most people are just living in a herd based mentality and they are doing what is TOLD them to be done. ESPECIALLY WOMEN!

This is why you MUST create a lead in your interaction with a woman. You are doing this because: A. She doesn't realy know what she wants and needs a strong lead and decision made for her. B. She likes to obey orders and commands at internal levels. It's her nature. When you create a lead, she'll love it. C. You MUST create the lead in order to be able to isolate her, and isolation is NEEDED for a sexual connection! D. The stronger lead you create, the easier leading her to isolation and arousing her will be for you!

When you meet a woman, and there's a "click" between you two, NEVER end it with just a phone number or a facebook. Understand the logistics I explained and CREATE a lead - a lead that will allow you to TAKE HER to be isolated with you.. even take her with you to another location.. to a coffee.. and do your BEST to create a sexual connection - this, by itself, is what's REALY needed to create a strong desire on her part to meet you again. If you have this sexual connection going, THEN.. and ONLY THEN you can take a number and leave.. not BEFORE! And if things are getting realy hot.. do your best, if you can, to end it with sex TONIGHT! This is the best choice for BOTH of you! Remember the logistics!!!

In fact, I believe most PUs fail when you don't have this lead. Even if you've created strong emotional states in her, and even if she enjoys the interaction completely.. if you haven't created a lead or taken over her frame.. she doesn't feel like she's "owned" and has to follow orders.. so its realy easy for her to find an excuse to eject from the interaction when she gets bored, or find excuses to flake on you on the phone.

Now I know.. this goes against everything that you ever learned about "respecting women" and shit. But believe me, taking over them and dominating their frame is REQUIRED for BOTH OF YOU! A. Because women have the conditioning to eject from meeting a guy, as I explained in my last post. So you HAVE to TAKE OVER this conditioning if you want to have any chance. B. Because she has no idea what she wants anyways and its her nature to be led, so appeal to her TRUE nature!

#3 - How to take over their frame and lead them?

Taking over their frame:

The most important aspect of taking over a woman's frame is eye contact, and locking eye contact until she breaks it first. This is absolute core key! This is perceived at deep internal level as something dominant in their eyes. I learned this from Gunwitch, so all credits for him. The second key to take over a woman's frame is to simply have a stronger will than hers, and this is REALY easy if you realize that women are naturally the weaker gender and they WILL go along and give up to a stronger will. Now, this is easily achieved when you're horny and haven't masturbated and your testosterone levels are high. BUT.. it is also achievable without it. Having a strong will is all about having a strong intent, strong decision. I talked about this in my 2nd post when I opened this blog.. remember? (Setting up a "goal" with women?). Now, these two keys will do enough.. but there's another key to taking over their frame and that is - not allowing them to take over the lead and/or shittest you! If a woman tries to lead you, or to "shitests" you, and you've taken the "bait".. she will feel like she is the one who is in the lead now. NOT GOOD!

Again, I'm not advocating power-plays or something with women. But the truth is that women WANT us and we want them and this is something that is required for the benefit of BOTH OF US: both men & women! Women are simply TURNED OFF when they feel they can manipulate a guy, and women CAN'T take the lead because they have no idea how to make sex happend because they have all these conditionings fucking their mind up! So.. NEVER let a woman who likes to masturbate with her right hand at nights (and if she's always trying to control guys, chances are she is LONELY and miserable..) to dictate your sex life. If she's so in demand to feel like she's in control, i give you full permission to NEXT HER. Realy! Because she will be a waste of your time otherwise..

Creating a Lead:

OK, creating a lead is REALY easy.

Basically understand that your goal is to condition the woman that you're setting up the lead, and she obeys and follows you. Remember how I talked in my recent post about "Willpower & discipline" on how to slowly develope willpower by doing small tasks at first? Well you will use the same principle here with women. It works wonders:

1. Start by creating "small leads" - This can be something as minor as asking her for the time, or asking her to turn around for a second because you want to check her shirt, or if she's in your car asking her to help you setting up the right direction for the mirrors so you can see (Yes, I've done it in the past).

2. After creating a few "small leads" increase the size of request to be a larger one. I usually like to use palm reading and telling them to "Show me your hand.." and then directing her how to put her hand. They love it, and this has almost NEVER failed me. They realy obey strongly to this one.

3. Now, after creating the "small leads" and the slightly bigger one, it already becomes naturally for her that you lead her and she follows, so now if you'll move to an even bigger request she will obey because it just starts to feel naturally for her that you give commands, and she follows. At this point, you can move her a little bit - If she's sitting in the bar, maybe you turn to her other side and make her turn around so she can't see her friends.. if it's in a store you can move her to another aisle or shelf to show her something.. if its in a club you can tell her you wanna tell her a secret and take her to the side just a little.. you get my point..

4. Ok, once you've done all of these chances are that she will now go along with even bigger requests like going outside together to breath some air (if in a club), or move to another store (if in mall) etc. This is actually already your direction to isolate her. At this point, she is already properly conditioned to be led, and when she's in this state you can almost isolate her entirely from the place. This is realy good!

See how easy it is?

It realy is easy to create a lead, and even though some frustrated control-freak type of girls who read this may be pissed off, i actually found out, in my recent field experieneces, that women LOVE IT when you TAKE OVER THEIR FRAME and when you LEAD THEM and TELL THEM WHAT TO DO! I saw the responses I got from women, and also remembered how my past successful lays happend (and in ALL of them these 2 principles of taking over their frame + leading her WERE in place!), that it all just clicked now to make sense.

And this is why I brought this post now.

It was also to remind me of those, and also to share them with you!

-- leedrag0n

Gaming insights 10.09.2011

Hey guys!

Today I'm sharing here a few insights based on my recent outings and field experiences that I just felt like putting them here for everyone to read and learn from.

Insight #1 - Every situation has DIFFERENT game

OK. One of the mistakes alot of guys do is they try to generalize a single "method" that will work on ALL situations. It doesn't work that way!

Every situation is different. In a club or bar, for instance, you can just walk up to women, be friendly fun and cool and you can already strike conversations on almost any topic you like - because the dynamic in that place is one of a social place where people hang out to have fun, enjoy, and MEET people. On street game or coffee shop the whole process of introducing the themes WILL be different.

Insight #2 - Playing on emotional states still OWNS the game BIG TIME!

Look: the reality of women.. whether you want to accept it or not is this - they WANT us just as much as we want them. But: #1 they don't know how to make it happend and #2 they are conditioned (aka: have deeply ingrained habits of behaviour..) against making the move, or even to "escape" from the interaction. Some call it "playing hard to get" .. or "wanting you to chase them" etc. In reality its all just their conditioning against being "easy" or "sluts". I'm talking about women that are receptive to your approach.. but then all of the sudden they have to "get back to shopping.." or "get back to her friend.." etc. This is true because once she "escapes" from you, if you'll try to re-initiate the conversation with her, 90% of the time she WILL go along and continue where you both left.

The only times where she DOESN'T "escape" the interaction is when you evoke strong emotional states in her that makes her want to stay! I'm talking about when you generate strong curiousity in her, or you challenge her for being a coward, or you talk about something that is extremely interesting to them.. etc.

The only times that she DOES what you want her to do, is when an emotional drive is pushing her to do it. If its for isolating her, then it could be wanting to tell her something personal.. but then excuse it like "But not here.." , and its the curiousity that actually makes her WANT to get isolated with you. You can even challenge her maturity for achieving isolationg by saying that she's not a person that you can tell secrets to, and that she's just a party animal that always wants her friends around her. She'll want to prove you that you're wrong by actually going alone with you (= isolation) to prove you that she's not like that.

So, those elements STILL own the game big time!

Insight #3 - Themes ..

Introducing the right themes with women. OK, here we are back to what I said in the last insight - women WANT us, but they don't know how to make it happend. When you both get into a conversation, she has no idea what to talk about.. so she gets back to the BORING questions of work, school, etc. She doesn't realize that those topics are boring for her!

On the other hand.. try to talk gossip with women. They LOVE this shit. Gossip is like crack for them!

Or, try to talk with them about Indulgences.. places where you can get the best massage in the world, or restaurants with the best foods .. they fucking LOVE this. Or just talk with them about emotions, what drives them, what they enjoy doing (aka: Connections), they LOVE it.

See what I mean?

It's just good and mindful to be aware of all this when you're gaming them. Boring themes evoke BORING emotions, and BORING emotions are NOT good!

Insight #4 - Embedded commands, Embedded questions, and Embedded suggestions

Ok, I may create a seperate post on this subject on its own (because I never did one, so it may be time to do it..) but lets talk about this for a moment.

The word "embedded" means "hidden". It's a way of sneaking in commands, questions and suggestions in a way that is almost never detected by the listener because it doesn't SEEM like you are commanding, suggesting or asking a question directly.

EXAMPLE:

"Feel angry" = a direct command. If you told this to someone, it'd almost never work!

"Don't feel angry" = a direct command, brought in a negation way. This might work, but it still feels like a command.

BUT ->

"I hope you won't get angry.. but I wanted to tell you" = This sentence doesn't sound like a command to the listener. In fact, it sounds like a statement. You are stating or sharing your own thoughts: "I hope that..", but then you sneak in "you won't get angry" .. so even though it sounds to the listener like you're just stating something, it PREPARES his subconscious mind to the possibility of getting angry. It suggests him that he SHOULD get angry from what you're about to say, but in an indirect way. You don't tell him directly that he should get angry. He concludes it from the way the sentence is built!

See what I mean?

Another example: Embedded Question!

"Have you ever felt a strong attraction to someone?" = A direct question. She may choose not to answer it.

BUT ->

"I don't know if you ever felt a strong attraction to someone.. because some women never experienced this and its a real shame.."

= Again, this sentence is a statement. You are stating that you don't know something.. and then you sneak in "if you ever felt a strong attraction to someone..". You are not directly asking her if she has experienced this. But the way your sentence is built suggests that an answer to this question is required in order to understand what you're about to say. Again, you are not telling her to directly answer this question, but she concludes that the answer to this question will help her understand the rest of your sentence.. so she answers the question unconsciously and keeps the answer and then listens to the rest of your sentence to see how the answer she has is related to the story. But still though, if she answered the question and its a positive answer (Yes, I did feel a strong attraction to someone) then its very likely that she already remembered the person that she felt this way towards, AND that the state is brought back up again!

... I don't want to overload you with information here but I think you can understand what I mean...

What is this good for?

Well, duh - loads of things! From eliciting states, to get her to visualize things about you... "I don't know if you ever passionately kissed someone .. but it can be like..". Here we're doing an Embedded question that brings up imagery of kissing someone.. while YOU are sitting right in front of her! Even if she wanted to, she couldn't help but visualize herself kissing you!

And it's also realy good for giving her suggestions about her experience with YOU: "I remember listening to the radio one day.. and there was this show late at night.. where people call and try to locate people from their past.. and there was this 50 something years old lady.. that said she's trying to locate someone she met 30 years (!!!) ago.. and then she told the story of how she met him while going with the bus to Beer Sheba, and the whole area was a desert.. and at some abandoned bus stop there was this soldier that came up on the bus.. and sat next to her.. and it was a really rainy day and the bus was almost empty.. there were only the two of them and a few others.. and at some point they started talking.. and it was such a pleasant, exciting and memorable conversation that made all the hours of driving pass without even noticing ... and now, 30 years later.. she said that she still can't forget about this guy.. and that she said to herself that she must try and locate him to see if he's still alive.. and she wants to talk to him.. and that if she will not do it, she will regret it.. not mentioning that she kept regreting not staying in touch with him ever since then .. and when I told this to a friend of mine he said: 'Isn't it amazing? All our lives we chase our tails and always trying to stay in control.. but when we'll be old.. we won't remember all the chasing to feeding our egos.. we won't remember how much our bank account increased or decreased.. we won't remember work and all the duties we did.. and we won't remember all the times we felt "in control" of the situations. what we'll remember will be moments.. that took our breath away.. moments of intense fullfilment that we are delighted we did them .. and also the moments that we wanted to do something, but hesitated.. and then, when we're old, we'll regret we didn't do them when we could..' .."

Wasn't that an interesting pattern?

What did you feel when you read it?

What thoughts arose when you read it?

Did you notice the suggestions hidden inside of it?

I'll make a post on this subject later on and may analyze this pattern in depth, its a tricky one but its good to know how this stuff is done.

OK, that's all for now guys, feel free to post your comments.

-- leedrag0n