Pickup is very similiar to sales in alot of its aspects.
The formal definition of it is - the art of influence & seduction on women for the purpose of having sex with them.
You should know, at a core level, that ANY woman you'll EVER approach WILL eventually fuck someone. Yep, they all end up with someone. The question is : WHY YOU ?
Why would she want to have sex or get in a relationship with YOU, and not someone else ?
What can YOU give her in return ?
Think about it real hard, and answer this only to yourself.
This isn't in anyway related to your "game" skills level.
Its the product itself we are talking about here, not the marketing.
Saturday, April 26, 2008
Thursday, April 24, 2008
Pickup Stages
Welcome fellow players !
In this post im going to lay out the different stages of the game and explain them each as best as i understand and apply them.
Why do you need stages in pickup ?
Well like i already explained before, pickup is very similiar to sales in its context.
In sales, you can of course just go and approach and directly try to close your audience, but most times this strategy will not work unless the customer is already highly interested in your product before hand and was infact already about to come to you and buy your product before you even offered it to him !
You can also of course try to go and get your audience's attention and hope that they will notice your "product" themselves and buy it, but the results here will be the same as before - if you are only there to grab their attention, they will only choose to close the deal with you if they were planning to do it before you even came to them.
You have no choice but to present the product to them, get them interested in it and lead them towards closing !
How is this done ?
In general sales, you would first approach your customer to grab his attention. Then you will get him interested in your product, and then you will offer him a "test drive" on your product so he can personally experience it himself. If the product is great it will sell itself already at this stage. If not, as a final stage you may need to amplify the experience your customer had by directing his focus to how great your product is so that he's convinced and is ready to close the deal right there on the spot.
Professional sales people are trained to close deals on the spot.
Yeah they may give the company's phone number to customers who are not fully convinced at this stage and want to "go home and think about it", but they know they cant rely on it.
So a general flow of a sale will be :
1. Attention
2. Interest
3. "Test Drive"
4. Build Desire
5. Close
In pickup, as analogy, you go through an almost similiar process.
The "product" you offer her is YOURSELF, as a sexual partner.
So in essence, you need to first get her attention to you.
Then you need to get her interested in YOU, as a sexual partner.
Then you need to give her a "test drive", which is : arousing her sexually.
(This by itself will be enough sometimes, if not ...)
Then you need to amplify her arousal and focus her on how great does it feel, enough so you can ...
Close her.
So there are 5 stages in pickup too :
1. Attention
2. Sexual Interest
3. Isolation
4. Seduce
5. Close
Stage one - Attention
As you approach a given woman, she can be in one of a thousand different places in her mind.
Your first step is, as you may remember, to get her attention by any means possible. To some women, it can be a small talk about the environment that will get their attention, to others you may need to get her curious about something first then talk about something that interests her, others you may need to challenge to get their attention, etc etc.
Anything or any trick you can get up in your mind that will get her attention to you.
Thats your first elementary step, in a nutshell : the opener is meant to get her attention.
Key to remember here is that the more dominant you are in your opening, the more chance she'll get her attention at you, since dominance is one sure way to sexually excite her.
Indicator of Attention is simple to notice - you will notice her simply giving most of her attention to you, aka "flirting" with you. So that now you will have no problem moving on to the next stage.
Stage two - Sexual Interest
After you got her attention and she is flirting, you now need to get her sexually interested in you, enough so that she'll accept the "test drive" of isolation you suggest her later.
To put it short - you need to get her interested in you as a sexual partner, at a sexual level.
Sometimes when you open strong & dominant this by itself can be enough to get her sexually interested in you, if you are a handsome guy sometimes your looks can be enough to get her sexually interested.
There are many ways to do it, but most effective of course will be to SHOW her you are sexually interested in her first, and that you are a good sexual partner. I know this goes against many "act disinterested" type of conditionings, but hell if you can act disinterested and still get her sexually interested in you, i'll be the last to stop you from doing something that works for you ;)
Also another great way to show sexual interest is to touch her, so she'll begin to be aroused enough already to accept your "test drive".
I mean think about it for a second: which man will she be more sexually interested in - a man that arouses her, or a man who doesn't arouse her ?
Indicator of Sexual Interest can be spotted by this - First and foremost she is receptive to all your sexual cues and likes them. This is really hard to miss. Even better she starts asking you questions, teases you, matches your vibe, looks longer in your eyes with gazing looks, talks more sensually, giggles, plays with her hair, etc. All of those are indicators to move to the next level.
Stage three - Isolation
The next step is isolating her - getting to a point where you will be intimately alone with her so she's not only ready to take the "test drive" of you seducing her, but also ready to be closed.
If she's sexually interested and current logistics won't allow it you can ask her for a number, but remember that this is never something you can rely on.
To put it short - You MUST do this !
Why ?
Because for the same reason in sales : When you have a customer interested, you don't bring the product & signing papers to him so he can sign. Instead, you LEAD HIM towards the "test drive" spot where he can experience the product himself and then close the deal.
It also gives a first compliance from the customer he is infact interested in taking a "test drive" on your product.
The isolation itself doesn't neccessary has to be straight to your house - it can be "out of my circle of friends" if its a club and she's there with her friends, it can be a quiet street that you "walk her" home, an abandoned bus station, a wooden chair in a mall far from people, a coffeeshop, out of the club etc.
The big idea here is moving her to a place she'll be ready to take your "test drive" of sexually seducing her - getting her to feel an intimacy of just you and her IN HER MIND, so she can start imagining you and her making sex together.
Again, you can use any trick and any tool to get her to do this : stick to her until she leaves the store and you both go out together (persistence), get her curious and ask her to palm read her hand in a quieter location, challenge her for spontaneity, etc etc - any way possible.
Stage four - Seduce
Once she's alone with you, she actually acknowledged your "invitation" to give her a "test drive" of yourself as a sexual partner.
You become congruent to her as a lover, sexual tension comes into the play, and she FEEL this, hence will start to imagine you both having sex, and will also be away from judging eyes of people so she will be basically "set on a plate" for you to actually seduce her.
What you are going to do on this stage is two things : to amplify the sexual tension and get her sexually aroused, so once this has been done and she gets aroused she will most likely agree to have sex.
And second, if needed, focus her on how great this feeling that she experience right now is, and override any objections she may have.
Again you are free to use any trick, tool or thing you know here. Palm reading, thumb wrestling, touching her legs as if to "check her clothes", bedroom eyes, sensual speech etc.
You will know when she's ready to be closed when she's totally submissive to your game and smiles and giggles while doing it.
After this stage there usually is no way back ...
Stage five - Close
You got her sexually interested in you, isolated her to give her the "test drive" of seducing her, amplified her sexual arousal. once you see her reciprocating it back - you close her.
Kiss, Makeout, Get her back to your house and have sex.
Any objections at this stage are just wierd and false logic she has in her mind you may need to override by directing her focus to how she feels right now, how great this can be, and what can she miss if she dont do it.
I deliberately didn't write any specific techniques in here, feel free to build each stage in whatever way you find that works for you.
The overall structure is whats important here.
Peace & love
leedrag0n
In this post im going to lay out the different stages of the game and explain them each as best as i understand and apply them.
Why do you need stages in pickup ?
Well like i already explained before, pickup is very similiar to sales in its context.
In sales, you can of course just go and approach and directly try to close your audience, but most times this strategy will not work unless the customer is already highly interested in your product before hand and was infact already about to come to you and buy your product before you even offered it to him !
You can also of course try to go and get your audience's attention and hope that they will notice your "product" themselves and buy it, but the results here will be the same as before - if you are only there to grab their attention, they will only choose to close the deal with you if they were planning to do it before you even came to them.
You have no choice but to present the product to them, get them interested in it and lead them towards closing !
How is this done ?
In general sales, you would first approach your customer to grab his attention. Then you will get him interested in your product, and then you will offer him a "test drive" on your product so he can personally experience it himself. If the product is great it will sell itself already at this stage. If not, as a final stage you may need to amplify the experience your customer had by directing his focus to how great your product is so that he's convinced and is ready to close the deal right there on the spot.
Professional sales people are trained to close deals on the spot.
Yeah they may give the company's phone number to customers who are not fully convinced at this stage and want to "go home and think about it", but they know they cant rely on it.
So a general flow of a sale will be :
1. Attention
2. Interest
3. "Test Drive"
4. Build Desire
5. Close
In pickup, as analogy, you go through an almost similiar process.
The "product" you offer her is YOURSELF, as a sexual partner.
So in essence, you need to first get her attention to you.
Then you need to get her interested in YOU, as a sexual partner.
Then you need to give her a "test drive", which is : arousing her sexually.
(This by itself will be enough sometimes, if not ...)
Then you need to amplify her arousal and focus her on how great does it feel, enough so you can ...
Close her.
So there are 5 stages in pickup too :
1. Attention
2. Sexual Interest
3. Isolation
4. Seduce
5. Close
Stage one - Attention
As you approach a given woman, she can be in one of a thousand different places in her mind.
Your first step is, as you may remember, to get her attention by any means possible. To some women, it can be a small talk about the environment that will get their attention, to others you may need to get her curious about something first then talk about something that interests her, others you may need to challenge to get their attention, etc etc.
Anything or any trick you can get up in your mind that will get her attention to you.
Thats your first elementary step, in a nutshell : the opener is meant to get her attention.
Key to remember here is that the more dominant you are in your opening, the more chance she'll get her attention at you, since dominance is one sure way to sexually excite her.
Indicator of Attention is simple to notice - you will notice her simply giving most of her attention to you, aka "flirting" with you. So that now you will have no problem moving on to the next stage.
Stage two - Sexual Interest
After you got her attention and she is flirting, you now need to get her sexually interested in you, enough so that she'll accept the "test drive" of isolation you suggest her later.
To put it short - you need to get her interested in you as a sexual partner, at a sexual level.
Sometimes when you open strong & dominant this by itself can be enough to get her sexually interested in you, if you are a handsome guy sometimes your looks can be enough to get her sexually interested.
There are many ways to do it, but most effective of course will be to SHOW her you are sexually interested in her first, and that you are a good sexual partner. I know this goes against many "act disinterested" type of conditionings, but hell if you can act disinterested and still get her sexually interested in you, i'll be the last to stop you from doing something that works for you ;)
Also another great way to show sexual interest is to touch her, so she'll begin to be aroused enough already to accept your "test drive".
I mean think about it for a second: which man will she be more sexually interested in - a man that arouses her, or a man who doesn't arouse her ?
Indicator of Sexual Interest can be spotted by this - First and foremost she is receptive to all your sexual cues and likes them. This is really hard to miss. Even better she starts asking you questions, teases you, matches your vibe, looks longer in your eyes with gazing looks, talks more sensually, giggles, plays with her hair, etc. All of those are indicators to move to the next level.
Stage three - Isolation
The next step is isolating her - getting to a point where you will be intimately alone with her so she's not only ready to take the "test drive" of you seducing her, but also ready to be closed.
If she's sexually interested and current logistics won't allow it you can ask her for a number, but remember that this is never something you can rely on.
To put it short - You MUST do this !
Why ?
Because for the same reason in sales : When you have a customer interested, you don't bring the product & signing papers to him so he can sign. Instead, you LEAD HIM towards the "test drive" spot where he can experience the product himself and then close the deal.
It also gives a first compliance from the customer he is infact interested in taking a "test drive" on your product.
The isolation itself doesn't neccessary has to be straight to your house - it can be "out of my circle of friends" if its a club and she's there with her friends, it can be a quiet street that you "walk her" home, an abandoned bus station, a wooden chair in a mall far from people, a coffeeshop, out of the club etc.
The big idea here is moving her to a place she'll be ready to take your "test drive" of sexually seducing her - getting her to feel an intimacy of just you and her IN HER MIND, so she can start imagining you and her making sex together.
Again, you can use any trick and any tool to get her to do this : stick to her until she leaves the store and you both go out together (persistence), get her curious and ask her to palm read her hand in a quieter location, challenge her for spontaneity, etc etc - any way possible.
Stage four - Seduce
Once she's alone with you, she actually acknowledged your "invitation" to give her a "test drive" of yourself as a sexual partner.
You become congruent to her as a lover, sexual tension comes into the play, and she FEEL this, hence will start to imagine you both having sex, and will also be away from judging eyes of people so she will be basically "set on a plate" for you to actually seduce her.
What you are going to do on this stage is two things : to amplify the sexual tension and get her sexually aroused, so once this has been done and she gets aroused she will most likely agree to have sex.
And second, if needed, focus her on how great this feeling that she experience right now is, and override any objections she may have.
Again you are free to use any trick, tool or thing you know here. Palm reading, thumb wrestling, touching her legs as if to "check her clothes", bedroom eyes, sensual speech etc.
You will know when she's ready to be closed when she's totally submissive to your game and smiles and giggles while doing it.
After this stage there usually is no way back ...
Stage five - Close
You got her sexually interested in you, isolated her to give her the "test drive" of seducing her, amplified her sexual arousal. once you see her reciprocating it back - you close her.
Kiss, Makeout, Get her back to your house and have sex.
Any objections at this stage are just wierd and false logic she has in her mind you may need to override by directing her focus to how she feels right now, how great this can be, and what can she miss if she dont do it.
I deliberately didn't write any specific techniques in here, feel free to build each stage in whatever way you find that works for you.
The overall structure is whats important here.
Peace & love
leedrag0n
Wednesday, April 23, 2008
Willpower
This is our final stage in core level stuff here, after this there is no turning back LOL !
Ok im gonna ask you guys something here, and i want you to SERIOUSLY think about it for a second ...
Can you realize that RIGHT NOW ... as you are sitting at home reading this, many many men & women are having SEX as we speak ?
Can you realize, that as you are sitting here now .. fantasizing about how you will go and approach that hot woman and get her back to your house and fuck her ... MANY WOMEN are FANTASIZING about the exact same thing - about how a man will approach her and seduce her and get her all the way back to her house and fuck her !?
Some crazy and deep shit i know, and YET for most people .. both men & women .. this most of the time still remain a fantasy to fulfill !
WHY ? You may ask ...
Well i believe the answer to this question is somehow similiar to the answer to the question "Why do so many people dream about being a millionaire, and yet for most them it will always remain a dream ?" !
I mean think about THAT for a second.
Surely ANYONE, including me, would LOVE to be a millionaire !
Show me any person from BOTH genders who will say no to fancy trips & vacations, a Lambourghini car in the parking yard, a private airplane, nights in the best hotels and the most VIP clubs access , no need to ever worry about debt or mortgage again, a huge house with a golf yard in it LOL ...
But the truth is, as we know, MOST people will never fulfill this fantasy.
Yes of course they dream about living a life like that all the time, and yet they never actually DO something or anything to even get closer to it. WHY ?
Because most people today are COWARDS ! Don't be like them !!
Most people daydream all the time about a beautiful life yet they STILL keep going with society's expectations and try to please everyone around them instead of PLEASING THEMSELVES. They are more concerned about getting LIKED than getting their dreams fulfilled. They don't do it on purpose, remember like i said before "Humans are driven by EMOTIONS, not logic & will", they are actually slaved to their emotional anarchy of chaos and fear of how others will "judge" them.
And you know what ?
Everyone has fears, but the TOP DOGS, those who FULFILL THEIR DREAMS are the ones who are BRAVE enough to face them directly and TAKE ACTIONS with willpower instead of letting the emotions of others, or the thought of a mediocre life serving other's expectations from them take over them.
Those rich people, natural guys who have sex all the time, and even some celebrity people all share the same attitude - they were READY to TAKE A RISK and step out of the normal ways and do the extraordinary !
By FOCUSING instead on how hard they want their dreams to come true and not for a single second lose faith in their belief that THEY WILL MAKE IT, they actually MAKE them come true.
Women want the same dreams fulfilled, most of them lack this willpower to make them come true.
This willpower is not only your best friend, it is also your most attractive trait as a man, and women WILL LOVE YOU for trying and making their fantasies come true with you, even if you fail sometimes !
Take a fucking risk and be a man for once !
Amen.
Ok im gonna ask you guys something here, and i want you to SERIOUSLY think about it for a second ...
Can you realize that RIGHT NOW ... as you are sitting at home reading this, many many men & women are having SEX as we speak ?
Can you realize, that as you are sitting here now .. fantasizing about how you will go and approach that hot woman and get her back to your house and fuck her ... MANY WOMEN are FANTASIZING about the exact same thing - about how a man will approach her and seduce her and get her all the way back to her house and fuck her !?
Some crazy and deep shit i know, and YET for most people .. both men & women .. this most of the time still remain a fantasy to fulfill !
WHY ? You may ask ...
Well i believe the answer to this question is somehow similiar to the answer to the question "Why do so many people dream about being a millionaire, and yet for most them it will always remain a dream ?" !
I mean think about THAT for a second.
Surely ANYONE, including me, would LOVE to be a millionaire !
Show me any person from BOTH genders who will say no to fancy trips & vacations, a Lambourghini car in the parking yard, a private airplane, nights in the best hotels and the most VIP clubs access , no need to ever worry about debt or mortgage again, a huge house with a golf yard in it LOL ...
But the truth is, as we know, MOST people will never fulfill this fantasy.
Yes of course they dream about living a life like that all the time, and yet they never actually DO something or anything to even get closer to it. WHY ?
Because most people today are COWARDS ! Don't be like them !!
Most people daydream all the time about a beautiful life yet they STILL keep going with society's expectations and try to please everyone around them instead of PLEASING THEMSELVES. They are more concerned about getting LIKED than getting their dreams fulfilled. They don't do it on purpose, remember like i said before "Humans are driven by EMOTIONS, not logic & will", they are actually slaved to their emotional anarchy of chaos and fear of how others will "judge" them.
And you know what ?
Everyone has fears, but the TOP DOGS, those who FULFILL THEIR DREAMS are the ones who are BRAVE enough to face them directly and TAKE ACTIONS with willpower instead of letting the emotions of others, or the thought of a mediocre life serving other's expectations from them take over them.
Those rich people, natural guys who have sex all the time, and even some celebrity people all share the same attitude - they were READY to TAKE A RISK and step out of the normal ways and do the extraordinary !
By FOCUSING instead on how hard they want their dreams to come true and not for a single second lose faith in their belief that THEY WILL MAKE IT, they actually MAKE them come true.
Women want the same dreams fulfilled, most of them lack this willpower to make them come true.
This willpower is not only your best friend, it is also your most attractive trait as a man, and women WILL LOVE YOU for trying and making their fantasies come true with you, even if you fail sometimes !
Take a fucking risk and be a man for once !
Amen.
Tuesday, April 22, 2008
Socializing & Approaching
This is rock bottom core shit here guys, so try to stay focused with me here.
OK, lets recap :
We all know that today there are alot of TV commercials with beautiful female models. Every store in a mall has a beautiful female sales girl, every club has a hot public relations girl in the enterance and every year the advertising industry finds more and more BEAUTIFUL females for their campaigns, and they pay them loads of money too.
These female models are there for purpose: they BRING customers ! Duhh - guys see these commercials / get into these stores based on biological drives, as i already explained in previous posts.
Why , you may ask ?
Well again its because in sales there is a rule of thumb, and you can check it for yourself if you don't believe me to see that is always true : the MORE people exposed to a certain product - the MORE people buy it.
In other words : You HAVE to expose your product to the people in order to get ANY buyers. Makes some sense, isn't it ?
Think about the following for a second :
An idea suddenly pops up in your mind to write a potential book that can sell millions.
You get off bed, go to the kitchen quickly and grab a paper to write this idea down before you'll forget it.
Spend the next year enthusiastly CREATING, BUILDING, EDITING, PERFECTING, CORRECTING and MASTERING your book to commercial level, the book is ready to take off now !
After a YEAR of work, you have created the MASTERPIECE of your life.
But now ... HOW are you going to get it published ?
....
I did not bring that imaginery scenario here for nothing, it has a point !
The point here is YOUR SEX LIFE & the WOMEN in your life.
OUCH, an uncomfortable topic to talk about, right ?
I mean you surely wished to have sex with a hot chick every week, or maybe have a hot girlfriend, maybe do threesomes or fulfill sexual fantasies, but guess what ?
You obviously DO NOTHING in order to get your "product", YOURSELF, published to women !
You may have spent weeks, if not months, BUILDING & PERFECTING your looks.
You may have spent months studying and building your "game" and personality.
You may have spent hours & lots of money buying the best clothes you could wear off.
And after all these efforts put in, you didn't spend even a SINGLE EFFORT at taking yourself out to the world and EXPOSING yourself to women !
How do you ever expect to get laid this way ?
You MUST take yourself out to the world and MEET WOMEN !
Otherwise - no women are exposed to your 'product', hence - no buyers !
THIS IS THE FIRST CORE BASE OF YOUR ENTIRE SEX LIFE HERE !
...
Of course some will say it is way easier to understand it here than apply it in real life.
Im sorry to say but no - i'm not going to solve your approaching anxiety here, I CAN'T.
Im being honest here - I don't really know you and i have no idea what your issues are on this.
YOU ARE THE ONLY ONE WHO KNOWS AND CAN SOLVE IT !
The only thing i know is that as long as you keep sitting here and keep "hiding" your product from your potential "buyers", you'll see no sells.
I mean get real here man - how do you ever expect to get buyers, if they DON'T even know your product exists ??
Who knows ... maybe lots of women are actually LOOKING for a guy like you to have sex with, but they DON'T EVEN KNOW YOU EXIST !
...
If there is one thing i could do here in order to help you , its surely this advice : GO OUT OF YOUR HOUSE TO A PLACE FILLED WITH LADIES !
Start doing it daily, EXPOSE yourself out to the world first.
Go to a mall, a park, gym, department store, your street even, a bar, club, ANY PLACE with women - I mean they are all around us.
Make yourself seen, look around and realize women are checking you out just as much as you do check them out.
Get normal with this daily routine, and you'll see you'll start approaching them sooner than you think ...
Much love,
leedrag0n
OK, lets recap :
We all know that today there are alot of TV commercials with beautiful female models. Every store in a mall has a beautiful female sales girl, every club has a hot public relations girl in the enterance and every year the advertising industry finds more and more BEAUTIFUL females for their campaigns, and they pay them loads of money too.
These female models are there for purpose: they BRING customers ! Duhh - guys see these commercials / get into these stores based on biological drives, as i already explained in previous posts.
Why , you may ask ?
Well again its because in sales there is a rule of thumb, and you can check it for yourself if you don't believe me to see that is always true : the MORE people exposed to a certain product - the MORE people buy it.
In other words : You HAVE to expose your product to the people in order to get ANY buyers. Makes some sense, isn't it ?
Think about the following for a second :
An idea suddenly pops up in your mind to write a potential book that can sell millions.
You get off bed, go to the kitchen quickly and grab a paper to write this idea down before you'll forget it.
Spend the next year enthusiastly CREATING, BUILDING, EDITING, PERFECTING, CORRECTING and MASTERING your book to commercial level, the book is ready to take off now !
After a YEAR of work, you have created the MASTERPIECE of your life.
But now ... HOW are you going to get it published ?
....
I did not bring that imaginery scenario here for nothing, it has a point !
The point here is YOUR SEX LIFE & the WOMEN in your life.
OUCH, an uncomfortable topic to talk about, right ?
I mean you surely wished to have sex with a hot chick every week, or maybe have a hot girlfriend, maybe do threesomes or fulfill sexual fantasies, but guess what ?
You obviously DO NOTHING in order to get your "product", YOURSELF, published to women !
You may have spent weeks, if not months, BUILDING & PERFECTING your looks.
You may have spent months studying and building your "game" and personality.
You may have spent hours & lots of money buying the best clothes you could wear off.
And after all these efforts put in, you didn't spend even a SINGLE EFFORT at taking yourself out to the world and EXPOSING yourself to women !
How do you ever expect to get laid this way ?
You MUST take yourself out to the world and MEET WOMEN !
Otherwise - no women are exposed to your 'product', hence - no buyers !
THIS IS THE FIRST CORE BASE OF YOUR ENTIRE SEX LIFE HERE !
...
Of course some will say it is way easier to understand it here than apply it in real life.
Im sorry to say but no - i'm not going to solve your approaching anxiety here, I CAN'T.
Im being honest here - I don't really know you and i have no idea what your issues are on this.
YOU ARE THE ONLY ONE WHO KNOWS AND CAN SOLVE IT !
The only thing i know is that as long as you keep sitting here and keep "hiding" your product from your potential "buyers", you'll see no sells.
I mean get real here man - how do you ever expect to get buyers, if they DON'T even know your product exists ??
Who knows ... maybe lots of women are actually LOOKING for a guy like you to have sex with, but they DON'T EVEN KNOW YOU EXIST !
...
If there is one thing i could do here in order to help you , its surely this advice : GO OUT OF YOUR HOUSE TO A PLACE FILLED WITH LADIES !
Start doing it daily, EXPOSE yourself out to the world first.
Go to a mall, a park, gym, department store, your street even, a bar, club, ANY PLACE with women - I mean they are all around us.
Make yourself seen, look around and realize women are checking you out just as much as you do check them out.
Get normal with this daily routine, and you'll see you'll start approaching them sooner than you think ...
Much love,
leedrag0n
Monday, April 21, 2008
Emotions explained
This is probably gonna be THE most important core level realization you ever learn in this game or life, so pay close attention now.
So far we have talked about setting up a goal to get laid, and the general concept of forming a basic strategy to initiate and escalte things further down the road.
FACT: Humans are mostly driven by EMOTIONS, not logic.
I bet you could easily recall a time you DID something that afterwards you felt sorry, guilty, angry or even ashamed of and just couldn't figure out WHY you did it.
Or .. maybe you DIDN'T do something you wanted to do - as if you suddenly had a block holding you from doing something you want and you just couldn't figure out WHAT it was, that stopped you.
So far we have talked about setting up a goal to get laid, and the general concept of forming a basic strategy to initiate and escalte things further down the road.
As you read the last 2 posts, some of you may have been wondering :
"What benefits do i get from knowing my goal with a woman? I'll still have to know how to get her to move in the right direction towards my goal, how do i achieve that ?".
Well, you could simply ask her for it directly. This can sometimes work. Or, you can get her to feel in a certain emotional state where such an "action" you're trying to get out of her will simply come naturally out of her.
Makes sense, doesn't it ?
If not, then Im now going to share with you a powerful secret.
This "secret" knowledge has been known and used by the advertising industry for YEARS in order to get us to know about their products and also to buy them ...
FACT: Humans are mostly driven by EMOTIONS, not logic.
Yes - our actions and decisions can sometimes be controlled by our will & logic when we choose to, but more than often our emotions, feelings, conditionings and desires have GREATER control over us and over our decisions, EVEN IF we are not aware of it !
Ever wondered why so many people take "self help" courses, trying to figure themselves out ?
I bet you could easily recall a time you DID something that afterwards you felt sorry, guilty, angry or even ashamed of and just couldn't figure out WHY you did it.
Or .. maybe you DIDN'T do something you wanted to do - as if you suddenly had a block holding you from doing something you want and you just couldn't figure out WHAT it was, that stopped you.
These "emotions" and the ability to play and direct them at will are the core elements that build up "the game", or any form of influence, seduction, persuasion or even sales !
Advertising companies, for example, take advantage of this lots of times to get our male attention to some product they wanna sell by simply attaching a HOT and ATTRACTIVE woman model wearing revealing outfits or even underwear to it.
Say you watch TV now, some commercial for a radio station comes up. Suddenly you see this amazing georgeous attractive chick in it wearing sexy underwear, high heels and have big tits & tight body .. You WILL stay in the channel to watch it, won't you ?
If i'd watch a commercial like that , this is probably how i would react.
Will I tune-in and listen to the station ? Not quite sure, unless it has some style I really like. Advertisers dont care about this, they simply know the MORE people exposed to the product - more people buy it.
But do i think to myself "Wait. This is a trick! they put this hot underwear model there just to grab my attention" when i see this commercial ? OF COURSE NOT !
I just suddenly notice some hot chick is on my screen and for a few moments i simply STOP THINKING and completely FOCUS on the sight i see.
I may come back here later and write an article like this one and then realize what they did to me on that advertisement, but AT THE MOMENT IT HAPPEND i didnt think about it - i simply acted on my desire and got literally hypnotized by a woman's look.
...
Does this apply to Women as well ?
Do they guide themselves by emotions and desires also ?
Do they also have moments like this, where they don't think WHY they are doing something, and instead just FOCUS on the emotion or desire and act on it ?
YOU FUCKING BET , LOL !!
Further even - women are WAY more emotional and attached to their feelings, desires & emotions than we men are, obvious example for this is their crying of course, women simply LACK the willpower it takes to get over the feeling and be logical.
In this aspect, they have absolutely no logic inside of them - but PURE emotions.
Another good example is rejections - When an attractive man approaches a woman and she is either angry, tired, or under social pressure, or even FEAR she will not stop and think to herself "Wait, this guy is attractive, I MUST GET OVER THIS AND MEET HIM" , Like we, men, usually bring the willpower to get over OUR fear or anxiety to meet her.
Nope, she can't do it. She is a WOMAN. She WILL act on her feeling, even if it makes absolutely no sense to her AT THE MOMENT IT HAPPENDS, and then maybe go back home and feel sorry, or ashamed of doing it. Most women don't have the ability to get over an emotion, this is the reason why all these rejections happend in the first place.
But the GOOD NEWS here is - we can use this to OUR FAVOR if we know how to get her to feel ... ?
Here is the best example of them all - HOW WOMEN HAVE SEX !
Did you ever wonder how come women always say one thing and then do another ?
How come they always pretend that sex isn't important to them, while at the same time they KEEP FUCKING the same guys they tell everyone that they hate ?
Based on the previous , do you think you know the answer ?
Women have sex when they are SEXUALLY AROUSED !
Remember the example of the radio station's TV advertisement earlier ?
Well in same essence - When a woman is SEXUALLY AROUSED by a man, she will act on it most times without stopping to think about what she's doing or the logic behind it.
And acting on sexual arousal can only be one thing guys, and thats sex ;)
And if you have the tools to get her into ANY emotional state you desire, ESPECIALLY the sexual arousal one, based on this core level understanding you now know the way to have sex with almost any woman you desire.
Really stop here and think about it for a while,
leedrag0n
Say you watch TV now, some commercial for a radio station comes up. Suddenly you see this amazing georgeous attractive chick in it wearing sexy underwear, high heels and have big tits & tight body .. You WILL stay in the channel to watch it, won't you ?
If i'd watch a commercial like that , this is probably how i would react.
Will I tune-in and listen to the station ? Not quite sure, unless it has some style I really like. Advertisers dont care about this, they simply know the MORE people exposed to the product - more people buy it.
But do i think to myself "Wait. This is a trick! they put this hot underwear model there just to grab my attention" when i see this commercial ? OF COURSE NOT !
I just suddenly notice some hot chick is on my screen and for a few moments i simply STOP THINKING and completely FOCUS on the sight i see.
I may come back here later and write an article like this one and then realize what they did to me on that advertisement, but AT THE MOMENT IT HAPPEND i didnt think about it - i simply acted on my desire and got literally hypnotized by a woman's look.
...
Does this apply to Women as well ?
Do they guide themselves by emotions and desires also ?
Do they also have moments like this, where they don't think WHY they are doing something, and instead just FOCUS on the emotion or desire and act on it ?
YOU FUCKING BET , LOL !!
Further even - women are WAY more emotional and attached to their feelings, desires & emotions than we men are, obvious example for this is their crying of course, women simply LACK the willpower it takes to get over the feeling and be logical.
In this aspect, they have absolutely no logic inside of them - but PURE emotions.
Another good example is rejections - When an attractive man approaches a woman and she is either angry, tired, or under social pressure, or even FEAR she will not stop and think to herself "Wait, this guy is attractive, I MUST GET OVER THIS AND MEET HIM" , Like we, men, usually bring the willpower to get over OUR fear or anxiety to meet her.
Nope, she can't do it. She is a WOMAN. She WILL act on her feeling, even if it makes absolutely no sense to her AT THE MOMENT IT HAPPENDS, and then maybe go back home and feel sorry, or ashamed of doing it. Most women don't have the ability to get over an emotion, this is the reason why all these rejections happend in the first place.
But the GOOD NEWS here is - we can use this to OUR FAVOR if we know how to get her to feel ... ?
Here is the best example of them all - HOW WOMEN HAVE SEX !
Did you ever wonder how come women always say one thing and then do another ?
How come they always pretend that sex isn't important to them, while at the same time they KEEP FUCKING the same guys they tell everyone that they hate ?
Based on the previous , do you think you know the answer ?
Women have sex when they are SEXUALLY AROUSED !
Remember the example of the radio station's TV advertisement earlier ?
Well in same essence - When a woman is SEXUALLY AROUSED by a man, she will act on it most times without stopping to think about what she's doing or the logic behind it.
And acting on sexual arousal can only be one thing guys, and thats sex ;)
And if you have the tools to get her into ANY emotional state you desire, ESPECIALLY the sexual arousal one, based on this core level understanding you now know the way to have sex with almost any woman you desire.
Really stop here and think about it for a while,
leedrag0n
Saturday, April 19, 2008
Getting laid explained - part 2
GO OUT WITH A GOAL IN MIND TO GET LAID !
Sounds simple huh ?
As simple as that may seem, this is another real core level understanding.
It is realy an addition to the previous one i posted earlier.
When you see a girl that you like, and dont have a goal (or intention) in your mind about her, whether it be sex, or relationship, phone number etc. you are once again in the "getting lucky" zone. How come, you may ask ?
The mind works by setting goals up, and it knows how to achieve them intuitively.
When you're hungry, you don't think how to approach your refrigerator and how to get it interested in giving you food - you just go and take something to eat and you don't THINK about it at all.
Another great example : When you're in a need to find a job, you don't pretty much think about it that much. You just write your best possible resume (or CV) , send it to a bunch of companies, make alot of phone calls and setup job interviews, and then you just go and do your best at each one. You'll KNOW what to do when you need to find a job, and even if you don't - you WILL find a way to figure it out yourself - you'll either look it up on articles on the internet, ask a relative to help you out, etc.
The mind works by setting up goals, and if you'll do a little research on it you'll find it evident - anyone who ever achieved anything DIDN'T always know how he's gonna do it, he only set it up as a goal to achieve. And that is most times all you REALLY need.
The mind only needs you to set up a goal, and it will find ways to achieve it for you.
Well, how does all that amounts to women and setting up goals with them ?
Well, what happends many times is that you see a girl that you like and you only think about how to open her. That goes back to what i've been talking about in the previous post : you are focused around the opening itself.
A big mistake guys do alot is they simply set up the wrong goals in their mind !
"Open her" as your initial goal sets up a frame of you saying something to her, and wait for her to respond and then act accordingly, that means you DON'T know for sure how the interaction will go from there.
Imagine to yourself now, how DIFFERENT will you open her if your goal was to "get her interested in me", instead ?
For every goal you setup, your mind sets up a strategy, different mindsets and creates different thinking ways so you can achieve it. How does it do it? Nobody knows, thats part of the magic of the mind.
You will simply NOT THINK the same when your goal is to "be social and interact" as to when your goal is to "get laid tonight". When you see a woman and your goal is to "Approach her", you will not think or behave the same as to when your goal is to "Have sex with her tonight".
When you have no real intention towards a girl, you eventually will either "get lucky" with her making some (or most) of the moves for you OR lose her at some point because you either : 1. Didnt get her to feel the desired states, and she didn't feel them by herself, 2. didnt know what you should do next, 3. hesitate about your next move, which will cause to either 4. she will feel your hesitation and make things WORSE on you or either 5. you will "move next" in a miscalibrated moment or attempt to isolate her when she's not in state, because you weren't focused on the states YOU wanted to move her into, because you came with no plan.
Again another real core level understanding here, not just for getting laid but for any goal in life - if you want something, INTENT IT, SAY IT OUT LOUD TO YOURSELF.
"I WANT TO HAVE SEX WITH THIS GIRL NOW !"
I will later show you a great strategy i've come up with to achieve this.
Mean while, ponder that for a while,
leedrag0n
Sounds simple huh ?
As simple as that may seem, this is another real core level understanding.
It is realy an addition to the previous one i posted earlier.
When you see a girl that you like, and dont have a goal (or intention) in your mind about her, whether it be sex, or relationship, phone number etc. you are once again in the "getting lucky" zone. How come, you may ask ?
The mind works by setting goals up, and it knows how to achieve them intuitively.
When you're hungry, you don't think how to approach your refrigerator and how to get it interested in giving you food - you just go and take something to eat and you don't THINK about it at all.
Another great example : When you're in a need to find a job, you don't pretty much think about it that much. You just write your best possible resume (or CV) , send it to a bunch of companies, make alot of phone calls and setup job interviews, and then you just go and do your best at each one. You'll KNOW what to do when you need to find a job, and even if you don't - you WILL find a way to figure it out yourself - you'll either look it up on articles on the internet, ask a relative to help you out, etc.
The mind works by setting up goals, and if you'll do a little research on it you'll find it evident - anyone who ever achieved anything DIDN'T always know how he's gonna do it, he only set it up as a goal to achieve. And that is most times all you REALLY need.
The mind only needs you to set up a goal, and it will find ways to achieve it for you.
Well, how does all that amounts to women and setting up goals with them ?
Well, what happends many times is that you see a girl that you like and you only think about how to open her. That goes back to what i've been talking about in the previous post : you are focused around the opening itself.
A big mistake guys do alot is they simply set up the wrong goals in their mind !
"Open her" as your initial goal sets up a frame of you saying something to her, and wait for her to respond and then act accordingly, that means you DON'T know for sure how the interaction will go from there.
Imagine to yourself now, how DIFFERENT will you open her if your goal was to "get her interested in me", instead ?
For every goal you setup, your mind sets up a strategy, different mindsets and creates different thinking ways so you can achieve it. How does it do it? Nobody knows, thats part of the magic of the mind.
You will simply NOT THINK the same when your goal is to "be social and interact" as to when your goal is to "get laid tonight". When you see a woman and your goal is to "Approach her", you will not think or behave the same as to when your goal is to "Have sex with her tonight".
When you have no real intention towards a girl, you eventually will either "get lucky" with her making some (or most) of the moves for you OR lose her at some point because you either : 1. Didnt get her to feel the desired states, and she didn't feel them by herself, 2. didnt know what you should do next, 3. hesitate about your next move, which will cause to either 4. she will feel your hesitation and make things WORSE on you or either 5. you will "move next" in a miscalibrated moment or attempt to isolate her when she's not in state, because you weren't focused on the states YOU wanted to move her into, because you came with no plan.
Again another real core level understanding here, not just for getting laid but for any goal in life - if you want something, INTENT IT, SAY IT OUT LOUD TO YOURSELF.
"I WANT TO HAVE SEX WITH THIS GIRL NOW !"
I will later show you a great strategy i've come up with to achieve this.
Mean while, ponder that for a while,
leedrag0n
Getting laid explained - part 1
Hey guys !
Here im going to dive straight ahead to one of the first core level understanding i realized about how to get laid for REAL.
If you had a chance to look at some of the PU books and seminars out there, you've probably noticed that most of them are focused around the opening itself. Some of them give you advice like "You have to be DIFFERENT in your approach", some say act disinterested, some say go in strong and dominant. This is all good and cool, but its still only the opening.
You've probably even heard many guys tell you : "All i have to do is i have to know the right words to tell her when i open, after this i know everything else".
Truth is, that after the opening most guys are usually stuck in the so called "flirting" stage, because whether they are aware of it or not, THEY ARE WASTING TIME HOPING FOR SOME MIRACLE TO HAPPEND SO THAT SHE WILL SUDDENLY OFFER THEM SEX HERSELF.
You've surely seen this happening in the movies many times - A woman meets a guy, and then she "falls in love" with him, either because of the way he looks or his "personality", and during the rest of the movie she tries to lead him to a situation where they'll be alone and she will initiate the kiss with him herself.
Reality is different, and women will simply NOT INITIATE the moves for you no matter how attractive you are.
Wake up here and realize this one thing :
THINGS WONT HAPPEND IF YOU WONT MAKE THEM HAPPEND !
This is the difference between "getting lucky" and "getting laid" :
Men who get laid dont wait for women to accidently approach them, they approach themselves.
Men who get laid dont wait for her to accidently "open up" by a miracle, they lead her to the state of rapport & comfort deliberately, aka connecting.
Men who get laid dont wait for her to accidently get horny by a miracle, they lead her to the state of sexual arousal deliberately, aka escalating.
Men who get laid dont wait for her to accidently leave the club and be alone with them, they lead her to a state of curiousity or challenge or whatever state it takes to isolate her themselves.
Men who get laid, once alone with the woman, dont wait for her to accidently get turned on again and fuck them, they get her horny again and fuck her themselves.
Can you see the pattern that gets repeated here ?
All successful lays are following the same pattern no matter how you look at them: you initiate things, and you escalate them.
When you do - things happend.
When you don't - they don't !
Many guys dont get this, so now i bring it here again.
And this is a core level understanding of things, no matter what skill level you are.
Ponder that for a while,
leedrag0n
Here im going to dive straight ahead to one of the first core level understanding i realized about how to get laid for REAL.
If you had a chance to look at some of the PU books and seminars out there, you've probably noticed that most of them are focused around the opening itself. Some of them give you advice like "You have to be DIFFERENT in your approach", some say act disinterested, some say go in strong and dominant. This is all good and cool, but its still only the opening.
You've probably even heard many guys tell you : "All i have to do is i have to know the right words to tell her when i open, after this i know everything else".
Truth is, that after the opening most guys are usually stuck in the so called "flirting" stage, because whether they are aware of it or not, THEY ARE WASTING TIME HOPING FOR SOME MIRACLE TO HAPPEND SO THAT SHE WILL SUDDENLY OFFER THEM SEX HERSELF.
You've surely seen this happening in the movies many times - A woman meets a guy, and then she "falls in love" with him, either because of the way he looks or his "personality", and during the rest of the movie she tries to lead him to a situation where they'll be alone and she will initiate the kiss with him herself.
Reality is different, and women will simply NOT INITIATE the moves for you no matter how attractive you are.
Wake up here and realize this one thing :
THINGS WONT HAPPEND IF YOU WONT MAKE THEM HAPPEND !
This is the difference between "getting lucky" and "getting laid" :
Men who get laid dont wait for women to accidently approach them, they approach themselves.
Men who get laid dont wait for her to accidently "open up" by a miracle, they lead her to the state of rapport & comfort deliberately, aka connecting.
Men who get laid dont wait for her to accidently get horny by a miracle, they lead her to the state of sexual arousal deliberately, aka escalating.
Men who get laid dont wait for her to accidently leave the club and be alone with them, they lead her to a state of curiousity or challenge or whatever state it takes to isolate her themselves.
Men who get laid, once alone with the woman, dont wait for her to accidently get turned on again and fuck them, they get her horny again and fuck her themselves.
Can you see the pattern that gets repeated here ?
All successful lays are following the same pattern no matter how you look at them: you initiate things, and you escalate them.
When you do - things happend.
When you don't - they don't !
Many guys dont get this, so now i bring it here again.
And this is a core level understanding of things, no matter what skill level you are.
Ponder that for a while,
leedrag0n
Welcome to my blog guys !
Hey all, and welcome to my blog !
I'd like to tell you a bit about myself.
My name is Miki, I live in Israel and in life im a highly skilled software programmer.
Im also a musician, I like sports, I like to travel and of course like everyone else - I like to go out and have some fun and enjoy life.
I have created this blog to share you with my thoughts on women, and how to seduce them.
In order so you could better understand my point of view, I'll have to take the story back to who I am. One thing I have noticed about myself time after time again, was that I am in my nature a very down-to-the-core guy. As funny as this may seem, I realy have to understand anything I learn down to the deepest core levels, or else i either don't understand it at all, or feel as if i dont trust the knowledge i know because i don't know it down to its basic constructing core and something may be missing out of my awareness ...
When I learned software programming, for instance, I started by learning the simplest computer languages, those you can barely create a program that prints "Hello Miki !" with. But that wasn't enough for me because I am also a very creative person and my dream was always to create computer games. So I wanted to find a language that will both allow my creative powers to come to their fullest, without feeling limited in anyway, and that will also allow the creation of sophisticated graphics and animations.
Eventually finding this "language" was almost like quest for glory.
I have started to learn more and more advanced languages and my computer programs became better and better .. no doubt about that .. but I still felt kind of limited with them in a way. I felt limited because these langauges turned out to be either slow or incapable of performing certain tasks that i needed to do.
So I started to dig further and further .. down the rabbit hole of computer languages if you'd like .. until at some point I stopped. Not because i wanted to stop, but simply because i couldn't dig any further. I finally reached the basic core of all computer langauges. It was a language that other languages were written with as well .. its called "Assembly" (from the verb "to assemble") , and is also known as "Machine Code". Yep, thats sounds almost the same like the "green code" in the movie "The Matrix".
The funniest thing about this "core language" was that it was an amazingly simple language. It didn't have hunderds of different commands and structures in it. In fact, it had a very basic and small set of commands, known as "instructions". When i say a small set, im talking about that you'd find yourself writing whole programs using at most 10 different commands. thats all !
And believe it or not, they are enough to accomplish any task, as hard as it could get !
This discovery completely changed my whole beliefs about programming.
When I first started writing programs, everything looked difficult. I naturally assumed that it would get even harder the more i'll advance, but it turned out to be exactly the opposite !
Over time I started to build whole programs using this "core language" and I was finally able to accomplish any task i needed. Eventually it turned my whole programming experience into an easy and enjoyable game. I knew that any computer task can be easily accomplished. I couldn't think otherwise - once you realize that the whole programming structure is based on a core language that contains a small set of commands, the only conclusion you get is that every "complex" task is eventually a simpler, yet longer, core task.
Well fast forward to now, im a programmer. Eventually im writing programs in "higher level" languages. Not because I like them so much, but because they simply help me finishing projects in shorter time than it would take if i wrote everything in "Assembly". But forever it will stay in my mind, this belief, this knowing - that i can accomplish any task easily. And anytime i need to perform some task that would be impossible otherwise, i'll use "Assembly".
That was a nice story, wasn't it ? :)
Well, the "lesson" I learned from this story changed my point of view forever.
I also later noticed that it exists in every other aspect of life.
This "pattern" of a "core" that everything else gets extracted from it.
Even matter is made out of atoms, and atoms are made out of protons and electrons !
Whenever you get down to core levels of understandings, everything else becomes amazingly simple and easy to understand. Sometimes it looks so easy that you have to ask yourself - Why do people complicate it that much ?
Things get complicated when you don't understand the core, either because you never learned it or because you thought that you know enough already. The only times you realize that what you know isn't enough for you, is when it prevents you from achieving your goals and when you're feeling stuck and hopeless !
And when you want to achieve your goals, you'll eventually have to escape your current understandings and thinking ways and start to think in new ways. Einstein, the great innovative inventor of the "Relativity Theory" said once that "Imagination is more important than knowledge".
Sometimes you need to get answers on how to solve certain tasks (like i needed with the programming), and the answers will always come when you're focused on your goals and when you're determined to get the answers. The "rabbit hole" concept is just the way the mind works when its eager to understand something better ..
So how does all of this information about an abstract "core" and things that are made out of it fits in with the subject i opened this blog about : women & seducing them ?
Well, since you now hopefully know who I am and how my thinking ways work, you could easily understand how I got to figure everything out about women & seducing them from my history with them.
Women were always on my mind, but i never believed they'll want someone like me.
Back in school I wasn't a popular guy, my best friends were the computer, the football and the piano, and women were completely out of my reality.
Things started to change when I joined the army.
I was placed in a base filled with more than 300 girls in it (!!!) , and i had a couple of good buddies who i started going out with. Eventually one day during a night duty at the army base, I talked to this girl who was a friend of my buddy, and she was the first to ever tell me : "Miki I dont understand it. You are so good looking, how come you don't have a girlfriend ?".
This was completely mind blowing to me.
In fact i thought about it the entire week afterwards, and the more i thought about what she said the more i started to notice its true - I started to notice girls are checking me out, looking at me, trying to invite me to sit and talk with them .. and indeed a few months later i finally met my first girlfriend, who I was with for 4 months.
In later months i met more women, most of them were realy gorgeous looking ones !
Many times they even initiated the meeting themselves and approched me, Some other times i initiated a meeting myself, backed up with a good buddy that will be there with me in case i get a rejection, and after 40 minutes of planning i finally approached them. I did managed to meet and i was even in short relationships with realy attractive looking girls. But it always got to that I somehow "fucked" things up with them, and everytime this happend it got me realy upset about it. Over time, more upset I got out of those "fuck ups", more frustrated i became.
Now we come to the critical point.
Not long after i left the army, I hadn't had any woman in my life for 2 years - ages 23-25. Being so desperate and frustrated from having fucked up with good looking girls, I have given up on trying to meet them. Instead I started trying to meet less attractive girls, because i thought they will be "easier", and they actually made things even worse on me.
Eventually at one month, age 25, it finally happend - the moment of breakdown.
I dated two realy average looking girls. Things were looking so promising with them ... and then once again .. they got fucked up out of nowhere !
This was my breaking point.
Back at that moment i remember feeling a mixture of feelings.
My frustration and desperation mixed up with anger and determination, eventually i was left with the anger and the determination.
My determination was the prominent feeling.
I have decided that i will LEARN how to become good with the ladies.
I knew that i already did it with programming and music, so i saw no way in the world that i couldn't do it with women as well !
So I decided to let go of my ego, learn seduction materials and go out and approach and try to seduce women. I didn't mind if i'll get rejected, in fact i was willing to get hunderds of rejections in order to learn this stuff and become good in it !
At first I learned openers, then I started learning and applying more complex gaming structures.
I had 3 relationships and more than 30 lays in a period of 3.5 years. Worked on my bodylanguage, changed the way i talk and present myself to people, and more.
But again .. at some point i felt that something is missing. After 3.5 years doing this stuff, I felt that im still dependent on luck, or on finding women who are both attracted to me and are both in "the right mood" to flow with me. I felt limited to certain spots and certain locations to meet women .. and having remembered that before i learned all of this stuff i used to meet women anywhere and anyplace ... it got me to realize that something might be terribly wrong with the materials i have learned.
Having realized that, i immediately decided to stop reading, participating and going out with people who are related to any seduction material - and just go back and be myself.
I saw a movie called "The Secret", talking about how to achieve goals by visualizing them, and i have decided to adopt it and try their advice of visualizing your goals as if they were achieved.
So I started every day to visualize a goal of getting great results with hot women in my mind, and I totally believed that the answers will be shown to me by the universe.
Not long after this decision, at one bright day, A decision suddenly popped-up in my mind to start understanding things down to core levels. I have no idea where it came from, it simply landed to my awareness out of nowhere, but i decided to trust myself and take it and i started to figure out the basis of all of this seduction thing myself.
When I say basis, i mean - basic facts that are true and can't be put into doubt !
I suddenly remembered that I had so much experience in the field, So I decided to forget everything i learned, and instead look at the things that i did in field that produced results. The first question i asked myself was : What were the common things that repeated in every success i had ? I got an immediate answer : "The girl was into me, and i moved things forward with her". Right after this one, one by one more "smart" questions like that came out, and one by one I found the right answers to them.
When I started to look at that level of basic facts, core realizations, absolute truths, my whole perspective on seduction started to change - It started to look much easier than how they described it !
And then at one bright day it happend - I suddenly remembered something that forever changed my whole view on women & seduction.
Again, i have no idea how it came to my awareness and at what perfect timing it came, but I remembered that when I was 17 years old .. back at those days at high school where I didn't have girls and I was insecured (remember?) I was offered a job as a sales person for a computer store in an exhibition. We sold healthy mouse pads for prices of between 20$-40$, and my job as a sales person was : to walk up and approach people that were passing by, get them interested in our product, bring them to our lot and offer them to experience it them selves, and then when they show some interest - to close the deal !
The interesting thing about this job, was that on my second day of working there, i reached a level where i'd close the deal with 1 out of 7 people i approached.
And then when i remembered it, an amazing question suddenly came up to my mind : If I was able to approach people that I don't know and get them to pay me 40$ for some product they don't necessarily need ... I couldn't get women to get sex or relationship with me for free ?
Think strongly about that one.
So now, after having realized the core levels of seduction, I decided to bring them here so other guys can learn them too. The whole concept of meeting women and seducing them is completely misconcepted by too many people, because they don't understand the core of it.
Seducing women is just as easy just as selling your car or your TV to a stranger !
Thats it !
This was my introduction to you for my blog.
Read on further down the blog, and you'll understand things much better.
Thank you for reading this,
and wish you a happy read and stay in my blog !
Peace.
leedrag0n
I'd like to tell you a bit about myself.
My name is Miki, I live in Israel and in life im a highly skilled software programmer.
Im also a musician, I like sports, I like to travel and of course like everyone else - I like to go out and have some fun and enjoy life.
I have created this blog to share you with my thoughts on women, and how to seduce them.
In order so you could better understand my point of view, I'll have to take the story back to who I am. One thing I have noticed about myself time after time again, was that I am in my nature a very down-to-the-core guy. As funny as this may seem, I realy have to understand anything I learn down to the deepest core levels, or else i either don't understand it at all, or feel as if i dont trust the knowledge i know because i don't know it down to its basic constructing core and something may be missing out of my awareness ...
When I learned software programming, for instance, I started by learning the simplest computer languages, those you can barely create a program that prints "Hello Miki !" with. But that wasn't enough for me because I am also a very creative person and my dream was always to create computer games. So I wanted to find a language that will both allow my creative powers to come to their fullest, without feeling limited in anyway, and that will also allow the creation of sophisticated graphics and animations.
Eventually finding this "language" was almost like quest for glory.
I have started to learn more and more advanced languages and my computer programs became better and better .. no doubt about that .. but I still felt kind of limited with them in a way. I felt limited because these langauges turned out to be either slow or incapable of performing certain tasks that i needed to do.
So I started to dig further and further .. down the rabbit hole of computer languages if you'd like .. until at some point I stopped. Not because i wanted to stop, but simply because i couldn't dig any further. I finally reached the basic core of all computer langauges. It was a language that other languages were written with as well .. its called "Assembly" (from the verb "to assemble") , and is also known as "Machine Code". Yep, thats sounds almost the same like the "green code" in the movie "The Matrix".
The funniest thing about this "core language" was that it was an amazingly simple language. It didn't have hunderds of different commands and structures in it. In fact, it had a very basic and small set of commands, known as "instructions". When i say a small set, im talking about that you'd find yourself writing whole programs using at most 10 different commands. thats all !
And believe it or not, they are enough to accomplish any task, as hard as it could get !
This discovery completely changed my whole beliefs about programming.
When I first started writing programs, everything looked difficult. I naturally assumed that it would get even harder the more i'll advance, but it turned out to be exactly the opposite !
Over time I started to build whole programs using this "core language" and I was finally able to accomplish any task i needed. Eventually it turned my whole programming experience into an easy and enjoyable game. I knew that any computer task can be easily accomplished. I couldn't think otherwise - once you realize that the whole programming structure is based on a core language that contains a small set of commands, the only conclusion you get is that every "complex" task is eventually a simpler, yet longer, core task.
Well fast forward to now, im a programmer. Eventually im writing programs in "higher level" languages. Not because I like them so much, but because they simply help me finishing projects in shorter time than it would take if i wrote everything in "Assembly". But forever it will stay in my mind, this belief, this knowing - that i can accomplish any task easily. And anytime i need to perform some task that would be impossible otherwise, i'll use "Assembly".
That was a nice story, wasn't it ? :)
Well, the "lesson" I learned from this story changed my point of view forever.
I also later noticed that it exists in every other aspect of life.
This "pattern" of a "core" that everything else gets extracted from it.
Even matter is made out of atoms, and atoms are made out of protons and electrons !
Whenever you get down to core levels of understandings, everything else becomes amazingly simple and easy to understand. Sometimes it looks so easy that you have to ask yourself - Why do people complicate it that much ?
Things get complicated when you don't understand the core, either because you never learned it or because you thought that you know enough already. The only times you realize that what you know isn't enough for you, is when it prevents you from achieving your goals and when you're feeling stuck and hopeless !
And when you want to achieve your goals, you'll eventually have to escape your current understandings and thinking ways and start to think in new ways. Einstein, the great innovative inventor of the "Relativity Theory" said once that "Imagination is more important than knowledge".
Sometimes you need to get answers on how to solve certain tasks (like i needed with the programming), and the answers will always come when you're focused on your goals and when you're determined to get the answers. The "rabbit hole" concept is just the way the mind works when its eager to understand something better ..
So how does all of this information about an abstract "core" and things that are made out of it fits in with the subject i opened this blog about : women & seducing them ?
Well, since you now hopefully know who I am and how my thinking ways work, you could easily understand how I got to figure everything out about women & seducing them from my history with them.
Women were always on my mind, but i never believed they'll want someone like me.
Back in school I wasn't a popular guy, my best friends were the computer, the football and the piano, and women were completely out of my reality.
Things started to change when I joined the army.
I was placed in a base filled with more than 300 girls in it (!!!) , and i had a couple of good buddies who i started going out with. Eventually one day during a night duty at the army base, I talked to this girl who was a friend of my buddy, and she was the first to ever tell me : "Miki I dont understand it. You are so good looking, how come you don't have a girlfriend ?".
This was completely mind blowing to me.
In fact i thought about it the entire week afterwards, and the more i thought about what she said the more i started to notice its true - I started to notice girls are checking me out, looking at me, trying to invite me to sit and talk with them .. and indeed a few months later i finally met my first girlfriend, who I was with for 4 months.
In later months i met more women, most of them were realy gorgeous looking ones !
Many times they even initiated the meeting themselves and approched me, Some other times i initiated a meeting myself, backed up with a good buddy that will be there with me in case i get a rejection, and after 40 minutes of planning i finally approached them. I did managed to meet and i was even in short relationships with realy attractive looking girls. But it always got to that I somehow "fucked" things up with them, and everytime this happend it got me realy upset about it. Over time, more upset I got out of those "fuck ups", more frustrated i became.
Now we come to the critical point.
Not long after i left the army, I hadn't had any woman in my life for 2 years - ages 23-25. Being so desperate and frustrated from having fucked up with good looking girls, I have given up on trying to meet them. Instead I started trying to meet less attractive girls, because i thought they will be "easier", and they actually made things even worse on me.
Eventually at one month, age 25, it finally happend - the moment of breakdown.
I dated two realy average looking girls. Things were looking so promising with them ... and then once again .. they got fucked up out of nowhere !
This was my breaking point.
Back at that moment i remember feeling a mixture of feelings.
My frustration and desperation mixed up with anger and determination, eventually i was left with the anger and the determination.
My determination was the prominent feeling.
I have decided that i will LEARN how to become good with the ladies.
I knew that i already did it with programming and music, so i saw no way in the world that i couldn't do it with women as well !
So I decided to let go of my ego, learn seduction materials and go out and approach and try to seduce women. I didn't mind if i'll get rejected, in fact i was willing to get hunderds of rejections in order to learn this stuff and become good in it !
At first I learned openers, then I started learning and applying more complex gaming structures.
I had 3 relationships and more than 30 lays in a period of 3.5 years. Worked on my bodylanguage, changed the way i talk and present myself to people, and more.
But again .. at some point i felt that something is missing. After 3.5 years doing this stuff, I felt that im still dependent on luck, or on finding women who are both attracted to me and are both in "the right mood" to flow with me. I felt limited to certain spots and certain locations to meet women .. and having remembered that before i learned all of this stuff i used to meet women anywhere and anyplace ... it got me to realize that something might be terribly wrong with the materials i have learned.
Having realized that, i immediately decided to stop reading, participating and going out with people who are related to any seduction material - and just go back and be myself.
I saw a movie called "The Secret", talking about how to achieve goals by visualizing them, and i have decided to adopt it and try their advice of visualizing your goals as if they were achieved.
So I started every day to visualize a goal of getting great results with hot women in my mind, and I totally believed that the answers will be shown to me by the universe.
Not long after this decision, at one bright day, A decision suddenly popped-up in my mind to start understanding things down to core levels. I have no idea where it came from, it simply landed to my awareness out of nowhere, but i decided to trust myself and take it and i started to figure out the basis of all of this seduction thing myself.
When I say basis, i mean - basic facts that are true and can't be put into doubt !
I suddenly remembered that I had so much experience in the field, So I decided to forget everything i learned, and instead look at the things that i did in field that produced results. The first question i asked myself was : What were the common things that repeated in every success i had ? I got an immediate answer : "The girl was into me, and i moved things forward with her". Right after this one, one by one more "smart" questions like that came out, and one by one I found the right answers to them.
When I started to look at that level of basic facts, core realizations, absolute truths, my whole perspective on seduction started to change - It started to look much easier than how they described it !
And then at one bright day it happend - I suddenly remembered something that forever changed my whole view on women & seduction.
Again, i have no idea how it came to my awareness and at what perfect timing it came, but I remembered that when I was 17 years old .. back at those days at high school where I didn't have girls and I was insecured (remember?) I was offered a job as a sales person for a computer store in an exhibition. We sold healthy mouse pads for prices of between 20$-40$, and my job as a sales person was : to walk up and approach people that were passing by, get them interested in our product, bring them to our lot and offer them to experience it them selves, and then when they show some interest - to close the deal !
The interesting thing about this job, was that on my second day of working there, i reached a level where i'd close the deal with 1 out of 7 people i approached.
And then when i remembered it, an amazing question suddenly came up to my mind : If I was able to approach people that I don't know and get them to pay me 40$ for some product they don't necessarily need ... I couldn't get women to get sex or relationship with me for free ?
Think strongly about that one.
So now, after having realized the core levels of seduction, I decided to bring them here so other guys can learn them too. The whole concept of meeting women and seducing them is completely misconcepted by too many people, because they don't understand the core of it.
Seducing women is just as easy just as selling your car or your TV to a stranger !
Thats it !
This was my introduction to you for my blog.
Read on further down the blog, and you'll understand things much better.
Thank you for reading this,
and wish you a happy read and stay in my blog !
Peace.
leedrag0n
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