Beware of the illusion of success !!

Hey all,

Today I decided that its about time that someone will finally talk about the illusion of success.

This is an underground subject, most probably dont know of, the coaching industry surely would like to keep this a secret, but since i personally have no interest in earning money by coaching people and i give away my insights on this blog free to the world, I'll mention it.

The illusion of success is simply the unreal illusion that you can become a 100% successful seducer.

Thats right guys.

It is an illusion that was created by people who sell PU material, self-help coaching programs, better sales technique seminars, and influence workshops. The illusion that they create is that you can always become a "better sales person" .. "you can triple you success rate using these techniques" .. "you can become more attractive using these techniques" etc etc.

Lets go back to the core again.

Nobody is a perfect person. Do you get it ?
If not, i'll say it again : NOBODY, not even you, is a PERFECT person !!

Thats right, we ALL have some insecurities, or things we are not sure of, or things that we know we can do better inside of us. The thing that buggles me about the coaching industry, is that they'll always try to find those insecurities in you and then AMPLIFY and MAGNIFY them to become a "PROBLEM" , that then they'll become the "CURE" for it.

BULLSHIT !

So where am I aiming with this ?

What im trying to say is this : You can't always control the outcome with a person. You just gotta accept it. Of course, you can do better with all these skills, but you can NEVER, EVER reach a 100% success rate because :

1. You can't read minds and you can't tell what is the current situation in another person's life before you get to know him. To put it short : you can NEVER know exactly what is the current situation in another woman's life BEFORE you approach her, so stop speculating and find out for yourself.

2. You can't know what kind of person you're going to interact with. To put it short : you can NEVER know exactly what kind of woman she is going to be (kind, bitch, or the middle) BEFORE you approach her, so stop speculating and find out for yourself.

3. You CAN'T know what events or circumstances occured to him/her that MAY affect the way he/she interact with you before you talk to him. To put it short : You can NEVER know what happend to this woman before you see her - maybe some drunk guy tried to rape her, maybe some salesguy insulted her, perhaps she found out her husband cheats on her today. You can NEVER know this because you are living YOUR OWN LIFE, not hers. So stop speculating, and find out for yourself.


You get my point ?

Those are the 3 big reasons why you can't always control the outcome, because you can never know on what kind of a person you're gonna drop and what are his current circumstances.

So what CAN you control ??

Well, the things that are in your control are : You CAN control the number of opportunites you create for yourself to meet women !

YEP, you can't always control the outcome, but you CAN control the number of opportunities you create, if you say to yourself : "Today i will approach 5 different women" , that is COMPLETELY IN YOUR CONTROL. You can't tell what will come out of those approaches, but at least you know that the number of opportunities you create for yourself are up to you, and the of course the more you'll approach the more you'll meet women.

Another thing that is totally in your control is : You CAN decide what YOU LEARN from each interaction with a woman !

YEP, you can't always control the outcome, but you CAN control the number of opportunities you create, and you CAN decide what YOU LEARN from them. And believe it or not, you can extract MAXIMUM FEEDBACK from even a single approach !

So this way, you're guaranteed that you will learn something from every approach that you do.

And if you go out to the world with this attitude, that You can't always control the outcome, but you CAN control the number of opportunities you create for yourself to meet women & to LEARN from them, as long as you learn something and tweak yourself according to the feedback you get, there's absolutely NO WAY in the world you can't succeed.

Besides, you don't ALWAYS have to try and extract feedback !

You can sometimes just go out and run into a stream of frigid, cold, bitch and negative women that no matter how great your game will be, it will just not go anywhere with them. On the other hand, you can sometimes just go out and with the lousy and shittiest game run into a stream of girls who are just so attracted to you that they will almost do everything instead of you !

So don't chew up on this feedback too much, and remember that its not always up to you alone.

If you have a problem with the meaning that you give to rejections or failures etc, you probably have to change the meaning you attribute into them, but thats in another post :)

Peace for now,

-- leedrag0n

There are no failures !

Hey all !

Its been a while, but im back here to write to you from somewhere in Israel.

Has any of you ever had a motivation decrease ?
Like as if you went out to the field, tried to seduce a couple of women, and it went nowhere with them .. and how the next time you thought about going out to the field, you found yourself wandering things like "Oh well, what should i go out for? Im not gonna succeed anyway. ." , or "Why talk to her? Im not gonna sleep with her anyways .." , or things of the sort ?

MANY MANY guys, including me, had moments like those.

Something that I realized, is that usually these kind of thoughts are simply a result of a wrong belief, or filter, through which you screen the world with.

When you allow yourself to generalize something which is based on very few instances, the results can be catastrophic for you.

I always like to mention the story of Thomas Edison, the man who invented the lamp.

If you know his story or not, Edison have attempted to create 9999 instances of a lamp that didn't work, and only in the 10,000 attempt it worked.

When people asked him how come that he didn't give up trying, he answered : "I didnt fail, i only found 9999 ways to build a lamp that didnt work".

Nice story, isnt it ?

I want to share a short story here now, of my own.

I was a bit of extra horny one friday night, and i decided to go out and be a bit outrageous and try to pull back home a threesome with 2 girls.

Basically I knew that in order for me to find 2 girls that are suitable for a threesome, i should look for :

1. Two girls that are attracted to me. Kinda obvious, isnt it ?
2. Two girls who like to share things between them
3. (Preferred) Two girls who are attracted to each other, aka : Bisexuals.
4. Two girls who are open minded and adventuruos, and like to try new things.

So that was basically my "screening" list, of things to look for.

Long story short - I went out alone, to a crowded area in Tel Aviv and approached 15 different sets, and in the end I didn't succeed in pulling back home 2 girls with me.

But at least I settled for a nice porn movie :)

Anyways, the point im trying to make here is, and pay close attention to this :

Does the fact, that i approached 15 different sets and didnt succeed in pulling them back home for a thresome, means that im a failure ??

Will it be true to say, that because i didnt succeed 15 times to bring back home a threesome, it generally means that i will never succeed in pulling a threesome again ??

NO !

All that it means, is that the method, the techniques, and the strategy that I used at THAT night, with THOSE girls - just didn't work.

Thats all that it means !

I can always go home and look again at what i did right and what i could have improved and then tweak this structure and go out and try it again.

But how can anyone be able to THINK like this, if he can't realize that You never fail - You only get feedback on whats working, and whats not. And later, when you look at this feedback with crystal clear mind, you'll be able to learn ALOT from it, and to tweak your way towards success !!

And that, my friends, is my free gift for you.

-- leedrag0n