Beware of the illusion of success !!

Hey all,

Today I decided that its about time that someone will finally talk about the illusion of success.

This is an underground subject, most probably dont know of, the coaching industry surely would like to keep this a secret, but since i personally have no interest in earning money by coaching people and i give away my insights on this blog free to the world, I'll mention it.

The illusion of success is simply the unreal illusion that you can become a 100% successful seducer.

Thats right guys.

It is an illusion that was created by people who sell PU material, self-help coaching programs, better sales technique seminars, and influence workshops. The illusion that they create is that you can always become a "better sales person" .. "you can triple you success rate using these techniques" .. "you can become more attractive using these techniques" etc etc.

Lets go back to the core again.

Nobody is a perfect person. Do you get it ?
If not, i'll say it again : NOBODY, not even you, is a PERFECT person !!

Thats right, we ALL have some insecurities, or things we are not sure of, or things that we know we can do better inside of us. The thing that buggles me about the coaching industry, is that they'll always try to find those insecurities in you and then AMPLIFY and MAGNIFY them to become a "PROBLEM" , that then they'll become the "CURE" for it.

BULLSHIT !

So where am I aiming with this ?

What im trying to say is this : You can't always control the outcome with a person. You just gotta accept it. Of course, you can do better with all these skills, but you can NEVER, EVER reach a 100% success rate because :

1. You can't read minds and you can't tell what is the current situation in another person's life before you get to know him. To put it short : you can NEVER know exactly what is the current situation in another woman's life BEFORE you approach her, so stop speculating and find out for yourself.

2. You can't know what kind of person you're going to interact with. To put it short : you can NEVER know exactly what kind of woman she is going to be (kind, bitch, or the middle) BEFORE you approach her, so stop speculating and find out for yourself.

3. You CAN'T know what events or circumstances occured to him/her that MAY affect the way he/she interact with you before you talk to him. To put it short : You can NEVER know what happend to this woman before you see her - maybe some drunk guy tried to rape her, maybe some salesguy insulted her, perhaps she found out her husband cheats on her today. You can NEVER know this because you are living YOUR OWN LIFE, not hers. So stop speculating, and find out for yourself.


You get my point ?

Those are the 3 big reasons why you can't always control the outcome, because you can never know on what kind of a person you're gonna drop and what are his current circumstances.

So what CAN you control ??

Well, the things that are in your control are : You CAN control the number of opportunites you create for yourself to meet women !

YEP, you can't always control the outcome, but you CAN control the number of opportunities you create, if you say to yourself : "Today i will approach 5 different women" , that is COMPLETELY IN YOUR CONTROL. You can't tell what will come out of those approaches, but at least you know that the number of opportunities you create for yourself are up to you, and the of course the more you'll approach the more you'll meet women.

Another thing that is totally in your control is : You CAN decide what YOU LEARN from each interaction with a woman !

YEP, you can't always control the outcome, but you CAN control the number of opportunities you create, and you CAN decide what YOU LEARN from them. And believe it or not, you can extract MAXIMUM FEEDBACK from even a single approach !

So this way, you're guaranteed that you will learn something from every approach that you do.

And if you go out to the world with this attitude, that You can't always control the outcome, but you CAN control the number of opportunities you create for yourself to meet women & to LEARN from them, as long as you learn something and tweak yourself according to the feedback you get, there's absolutely NO WAY in the world you can't succeed.

Besides, you don't ALWAYS have to try and extract feedback !

You can sometimes just go out and run into a stream of frigid, cold, bitch and negative women that no matter how great your game will be, it will just not go anywhere with them. On the other hand, you can sometimes just go out and with the lousy and shittiest game run into a stream of girls who are just so attracted to you that they will almost do everything instead of you !

So don't chew up on this feedback too much, and remember that its not always up to you alone.

If you have a problem with the meaning that you give to rejections or failures etc, you probably have to change the meaning you attribute into them, but thats in another post :)

Peace for now,

-- leedrag0n