Today I'm sharing here a few insights based on my recent outings and field experiences that I just felt like putting them here for everyone to read and learn from.
Insight #1 - Every situation has DIFFERENT game
OK. One of the mistakes alot of guys do is they try to generalize a single "method" that will work on ALL situations. It doesn't work that way!
Every situation is different. In a club or bar, for instance, you can just walk up to women, be friendly fun and cool and you can already strike conversations on almost any topic you like - because the dynamic in that place is one of a social place where people hang out to have fun, enjoy, and MEET people. On street game or coffee shop the whole process of introducing the themes WILL be different.
Insight #2 - Playing on emotional states still OWNS the game BIG TIME!
Look: the reality of women.. whether you want to accept it or not is this - they WANT us just as much as we want them. But: #1 they don't know how to make it happend and #2 they are conditioned (aka: have deeply ingrained habits of behaviour..) against making the move, or even to "escape" from the interaction. Some call it "playing hard to get" .. or "wanting you to chase them" etc. In reality its all just their conditioning against being "easy" or "sluts". I'm talking about women that are receptive to your approach.. but then all of the sudden they have to "get back to shopping.." or "get back to her friend.." etc. This is true because once she "escapes" from you, if you'll try to re-initiate the conversation with her, 90% of the time she WILL go along and continue where you both left.
The only times where she DOESN'T "escape" the interaction is when you evoke strong emotional states in her that makes her want to stay! I'm talking about when you generate strong curiousity in her, or you challenge her for being a coward, or you talk about something that is extremely interesting to them.. etc.
The only times that she DOES what you want her to do, is when an emotional drive is pushing her to do it. If its for isolating her, then it could be wanting to tell her something personal.. but then excuse it like "But not here.." , and its the curiousity that actually makes her WANT to get isolated with you. You can even challenge her maturity for achieving isolationg by saying that she's not a person that you can tell secrets to, and that she's just a party animal that always wants her friends around her. She'll want to prove you that you're wrong by actually going alone with you (= isolation) to prove you that she's not like that.
So, those elements STILL own the game big time!
Insight #3 - Themes ..
Introducing the right themes with women. OK, here we are back to what I said in the last insight - women WANT us, but they don't know how to make it happend. When you both get into a conversation, she has no idea what to talk about.. so she gets back to the BORING questions of work, school, etc. She doesn't realize that those topics are boring for her!
On the other hand.. try to talk gossip with women. They LOVE this shit. Gossip is like crack for them!
Or, try to talk with them about Indulgences.. places where you can get the best massage in the world, or restaurants with the best foods .. they fucking LOVE this. Or just talk with them about emotions, what drives them, what they enjoy doing (aka: Connections), they LOVE it.
See what I mean?
It's just good and mindful to be aware of all this when you're gaming them. Boring themes evoke BORING emotions, and BORING emotions are NOT good!
Insight #4 - Embedded commands, Embedded questions, and Embedded suggestions
Ok, I may create a seperate post on this subject on its own (because I never did one, so it may be time to do it..) but lets talk about this for a moment.
The word "embedded" means "hidden". It's a way of sneaking in commands, questions and suggestions in a way that is almost never detected by the listener because it doesn't SEEM like you are commanding, suggesting or asking a question directly.
EXAMPLE:
"Feel angry" = a direct command. If you told this to someone, it'd almost never work!
"Don't feel angry" = a direct command, brought in a negation way. This might work, but it still feels like a command.
BUT ->
"I hope you won't get angry.. but I wanted to tell you" = This sentence doesn't sound like a command to the listener. In fact, it sounds like a statement. You are stating or sharing your own thoughts: "I hope that..", but then you sneak in "you won't get angry" .. so even though it sounds to the listener like you're just stating something, it PREPARES his subconscious mind to the possibility of getting angry. It suggests him that he SHOULD get angry from what you're about to say, but in an indirect way. You don't tell him directly that he should get angry. He concludes it from the way the sentence is built!
See what I mean?
Another example: Embedded Question!
"Have you ever felt a strong attraction to someone?" = A direct question. She may choose not to answer it.
BUT ->
"I don't know if you ever felt a strong attraction to someone.. because some women never experienced this and its a real shame.."
= Again, this sentence is a statement. You are stating that you don't know something.. and then you sneak in "if you ever felt a strong attraction to someone..". You are not directly asking her if she has experienced this. But the way your sentence is built suggests that an answer to this question is required in order to understand what you're about to say. Again, you are not telling her to directly answer this question, but she concludes that the answer to this question will help her understand the rest of your sentence.. so she answers the question unconsciously and keeps the answer and then listens to the rest of your sentence to see how the answer she has is related to the story. But still though, if she answered the question and its a positive answer (Yes, I did feel a strong attraction to someone) then its very likely that she already remembered the person that she felt this way towards, AND that the state is brought back up again!
... I don't want to overload you with information here but I think you can understand what I mean...
What is this good for?
Well, duh - loads of things! From eliciting states, to get her to visualize things about you... "I don't know if you ever passionately kissed someone .. but it can be like..". Here we're doing an Embedded question that brings up imagery of kissing someone.. while YOU are sitting right in front of her! Even if she wanted to, she couldn't help but visualize herself kissing you!
And it's also realy good for giving her suggestions about her experience with YOU: "I remember listening to the radio one day.. and there was this show late at night.. where people call and try to locate people from their past.. and there was this 50 something years old lady.. that said she's trying to locate someone she met 30 years (!!!) ago.. and then she told the story of how she met him while going with the bus to Beer Sheba, and the whole area was a desert.. and at some abandoned bus stop there was this soldier that came up on the bus.. and sat next to her.. and it was a really rainy day and the bus was almost empty.. there were only the two of them and a few others.. and at some point they started talking.. and it was such a pleasant, exciting and memorable conversation that made all the hours of driving pass without even noticing ... and now, 30 years later.. she said that she still can't forget about this guy.. and that she said to herself that she must try and locate him to see if he's still alive.. and she wants to talk to him.. and that if she will not do it, she will regret it.. not mentioning that she kept regreting not staying in touch with him ever since then .. and when I told this to a friend of mine he said: 'Isn't it amazing? All our lives we chase our tails and always trying to stay in control.. but when we'll be old.. we won't remember all the chasing to feeding our egos.. we won't remember how much our bank account increased or decreased.. we won't remember work and all the duties we did.. and we won't remember all the times we felt "in control" of the situations. what we'll remember will be moments.. that took our breath away.. moments of intense fullfilment that we are delighted we did them .. and also the moments that we wanted to do something, but hesitated.. and then, when we're old, we'll regret we didn't do them when we could..' .."
Wasn't that an interesting pattern?
What did you feel when you read it?
What thoughts arose when you read it?
Did you notice the suggestions hidden inside of it?
I'll make a post on this subject later on and may analyze this pattern in depth, its a tricky one but its good to know how this stuff is done.
OK, that's all for now guys, feel free to post your comments.
-- leedrag0n
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