Be flexible enough!

Hey guys, hows it going ?

Today's post is about flexibility in your game.

It is generally an enhancement, or should i say a correction for my old post "Pickup Stages" where I talked about the 5 general stages of the pickup, which are:

1. Getting her Attention
2. Getting her interested sexually.
3. Isolating
4. Seducing her
5. Closing

You see, most of the PU materials talk about a "structure" from A-Z to follow, and even my old "Pickup stages" talked about it, but infact its a mistake to think this way.

Why ?

Yes it is good to know that women are emotionally driven, and to focus on the emotional states you want them to be in. Yes it is good to know a basic structure that you can follow (like the one i presented in my "Pickup stages" post).

But you should also know that women are differently wired than us, and their emotional states can jump back and forth very quickly between one state to another unexpectedly, a phenomenon that not only makes us unable to properly understand them (because we are not operating that way), but it also makes thinking in terms of a "structure" a terrible idea.

You can start talking with some girl, and while you expect her to open up in a "structured way", she can infact suddenly get so interested in you that she will be ready to kiss you right off the start!

So what i'd like to suggest you to do instead, is what my NLP mentor taught us: never take anything for granted - always test!

In terms of your game, this simply means that you should always test to see if she's physically ready. Its ok to have a basic "structure", but instead of waiting for the "close", you should totally forget about "close" and instead focus on the woman and see if she's ready.

So when it comes to the structure I presented to you, do it this way:

1. Get her attention
1t. Test to see if she's physically ready
2. Interest her in you sexually
2t. Test to see if she's physically ready
3. Isolate
3t. Test to see if she's physically ready
4. Seduce her
4t. Test to see if she's physically ready
..

Im sure you get what I mean now.

Basically, this structure is more similiar to the NLP therapy model of T.O.T.E , which means "Test, Operate, Test, Exit".

In NLP, when we work with a client, we generally put an outcome in mind = the desired change we want to achieve in him. And then, we simply start working in a TOTE model, which means: We start by testing his current state, then we perform our "magic", and then we test to see if the changed has worked by trying to put him back into the original state. If the change isn't complete, we go back and perform another "magic" and then test again. We repeat this as many times as needed, until we believe the change has been completed, and only then do we exit.

So when it comes to women, you should think in a similiar way: You put an outcome = sex with her, and then you start by testing her current state, and you start performing your "magic" over her, and then you test her state again to see if she's ready. If not, you continue and so on until you believe she's ready, and then you do your physical move towards sex.

If you'll start thinking this way, your game will become much more flexible, and much more efficient.

If you want to practice this using my techniques from the previous "Reprogramming your mind" post, use this attitude (credit, again, to Ross Jeffries): "Forget about 'closing' as something to be done at the end of an evening, and instead constantly test her to see if she's ready, because she may show you within the first minute she's ready to kiss you".

Feel free to leave your comments and questions.

-- leedrag0n