Pickup Stages

Welcome fellow players !

In this post im going to lay out the different stages of the game and explain them each as best as i understand and apply them.

Why do you need stages in pickup ?

Well like i already explained before, pickup is very similiar to sales in its context.
In sales, you can of course just go and approach and directly try to close your audience, but most times this strategy will not work unless the customer is already highly interested in your product before hand and was infact already about to come to you and buy your product before you even offered it to him !

You can also of course try to go and get your audience's attention and hope that they will notice your "product" themselves and buy it, but the results here will be the same as before - if you are only there to grab their attention, they will only choose to close the deal with you if they were planning to do it before you even came to them.

You have no choice but to present the product to them, get them interested in it and lead them towards closing !

How is this done ?

In general sales, you would first approach your customer to grab his attention. Then you will get him interested in your product, and then you will offer him a "test drive" on your product so he can personally experience it himself. If the product is great it will sell itself already at this stage. If not, as a final stage you may need to amplify the experience your customer had by directing his focus to how great your product is so that he's convinced and is ready to close the deal right there on the spot.

Professional sales people are trained to close deals on the spot.
Yeah they may give the company's phone number to customers who are not fully convinced at this stage and want to "go home and think about it", but they know they cant rely on it.

So a general flow of a sale will be :

1. Attention
2. Interest
3. "Test Drive"
4. Build Desire
5. Close

In pickup, as analogy, you go through an almost similiar process.
The "product" you offer her is YOURSELF, as a sexual partner.
So in essence, you need to first get her attention to you.
Then you need to get her interested in YOU, as a sexual partner.
Then you need to give her a "test drive", which is : arousing her sexually.
(This by itself will be enough sometimes, if not ...)
Then you need to amplify her arousal and focus her on how great does it feel, enough so you can ...
Close her.

So there are 5 stages in pickup too :

1. Attention
2. Sexual Interest
3. Isolation
4. Seduce
5. Close





Stage one - Attention

As you approach a given woman, she can be in one of a thousand different places in her mind.

Your first step is, as you may remember, to get her attention by any means possible. To some women, it can be a small talk about the environment that will get their attention, to others you may need to get her curious about something first then talk about something that interests her, others you may need to challenge to get their attention, etc etc.

Anything or any trick you can get up in your mind that will get her attention to you.
Thats your first elementary step, in a nutshell : the opener is meant to get her attention.

Key to remember here is that the more dominant you are in your opening, the more chance she'll get her attention at you, since dominance is one sure way to sexually excite her.

Indicator of Attention is simple to notice - you will notice her simply giving most of her attention to you, aka "flirting" with you. So that now you will have no problem moving on to the next stage.




Stage two - Sexual Interest

After you got her attention and she is flirting, you now need to get her sexually interested in you, enough so that she'll accept the "test drive" of isolation you suggest her later.

To put it short - you need to get her interested in you as a sexual partner, at a sexual level.

Sometimes when you open strong & dominant this by itself can be enough to get her sexually interested in you, if you are a handsome guy sometimes your looks can be enough to get her sexually interested.

There are many ways to do it, but most effective of course will be to SHOW her you are sexually interested in her first, and that you are a good sexual partner. I know this goes against many "act disinterested" type of conditionings, but hell if you can act disinterested and still get her sexually interested in you, i'll be the last to stop you from doing something that works for you ;)

Also another great way to show sexual interest is to touch her, so she'll begin to be aroused enough already to accept your "test drive".

I mean think about it for a second: which man will she be more sexually interested in - a man that arouses her, or a man who doesn't arouse her ?


Indicator of Sexual Interest can be spotted by this - First and foremost she is receptive to all your sexual cues and likes them. This is really hard to miss. Even better she starts asking you questions, teases you, matches your vibe, looks longer in your eyes with gazing looks, talks more sensually, giggles, plays with her hair, etc. All of those are indicators to move to the next level.






Stage three - Isolation

The next step is isolating her - getting to a point where you will be intimately alone with her so she's not only ready to take the "test drive" of you seducing her, but also ready to be closed.
If she's sexually interested and current logistics won't allow it you can ask her for a number, but remember that this is never something you can rely on.

To put it short - You MUST do this !

Why ?
Because for the same reason in sales : When you have a customer interested, you don't bring the product & signing papers to him so he can sign. Instead, you LEAD HIM towards the "test drive" spot where he can experience the product himself and then close the deal.

It also gives a first compliance from the customer he is infact interested in taking a "test drive" on your product.

The isolation itself doesn't neccessary has to be straight to your house - it can be "out of my circle of friends" if its a club and she's there with her friends, it can be a quiet street that you "walk her" home, an abandoned bus station, a wooden chair in a mall far from people, a coffeeshop, out of the club etc.
The big idea here is moving her to a place she'll be ready to take your "test drive" of sexually seducing her - getting her to feel an intimacy of just you and her IN HER MIND, so she can start imagining you and her making sex together.

Again, you can use any trick and any tool to get her to do this : stick to her until she leaves the store and you both go out together (persistence), get her curious and ask her to palm read her hand in a quieter location, challenge her for spontaneity, etc etc - any way possible.





Stage four - Seduce

Once she's alone with you, she actually acknowledged your "invitation" to give her a "test drive" of yourself as a sexual partner.
You become congruent to her as a lover, sexual tension comes into the play, and she FEEL this, hence will start to imagine you both having sex, and will also be away from judging eyes of people so she will be basically "set on a plate" for you to actually seduce her.

What you are going to do on this stage is two things : to amplify the sexual tension and get her sexually aroused, so once this has been done and she gets aroused she will most likely agree to have sex.
And second, if needed, focus her on how great this feeling that she experience right now is, and override any objections she may have.

Again you are free to use any trick, tool or thing you know here. Palm reading, thumb wrestling, touching her legs as if to "check her clothes", bedroom eyes, sensual speech etc.

You will know when she's ready to be closed when she's totally submissive to your game and smiles and giggles while doing it.

After this stage there usually is no way back ...







Stage five - Close

You got her sexually interested in you, isolated her to give her the "test drive" of seducing her, amplified her sexual arousal. once you see her reciprocating it back - you close her.

Kiss, Makeout, Get her back to your house and have sex.

Any objections at this stage are just wierd and false logic she has in her mind you may need to override by directing her focus to how she feels right now, how great this can be, and what can she miss if she dont do it.



I deliberately didn't write any specific techniques in here, feel free to build each stage in whatever way you find that works for you.

The overall structure is whats important here.


Peace & love

leedrag0n